How to be there for a cancer guy who lost a dad

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by chantal3147 on Sunday, January 11, 2015 and has 4 replies.

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@chantal3147
11 Years

We are kind of dating. As cancers what do you need from the people around you? what would make you feel better? I know talking isnt your thing so I just want to be there in silence.

What are your tips and recommendations, I feel so bad for him, he was so close to his dad what can I do?

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@chantal3147
11 Years

Yeah nothing serious yet. That's why I am trying to give him some space but at the same time I want him to know that I am there whenever he needs me

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@roaringkitten
11 Years

check up on him from time to time but don't overdo with the concern. let him know you'll be around if he needs to talk. once he starts opening up, listen to him and maybe cook him a nice warm meal. cancers tend to need some alone time when they are consumed with sadness (it can go on for days or weeks, so dont take it personally. its just how they process such tragic events).

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@crabRiot
11 Years1,000+ Posts

Just let him know that you're there for him if ever he need to talk about anything or cry but whatever you do don't get overwhelmed by his emotions you are there to be HIS ROCK.Cause there is a chance he might go in the direction of depression.Check to see if he ate and if he hasn't and you can offer some type of nourishment go right ahead.He will remember your efforts.But if its nothing serious yet be supportive but dont get consumed by his grief.