How to know when a Cancer Woman wants something

I'm a Scorpio and in love with a Cancer-leo. As a Scorpio I want to figure my Cancer out... I want to know what makes her tick even if she is hiding it from me... I want to understand her very deeply... lately i'm having trouble knowing if she wants something esp. on dates and meet ups and if there is something that she wants me to do. we're not together yet but our connection is psychic. i'm very direct so when i want to see her i text her "i want to see you today where should i go? 🙂 " (with smiley) but she doesn't reply. But when we have conversations over the phone i can tell that she is expecting me to be somewhere (like for me to be present at an event she will be in) but she doesn't really say directly that she wants me to be there/that she is inviting me... when the day of the event comes, I always hesitate to go because she doesn't say clearly to me that she wants me there... when i decided one time to go to an event she was in without her inviting me, i was told that she was expecting me to be there (even if she didn't invited me)... i don't want to come off as stalker-ish because my intentions are pure with her so i am always looking/waiting for her to tell me directly and clearly that she wants me to be somewhere with her, but i think that is hard for a cancer woman to do? any cancer women out there? your thoughts?

How long have you been dating ? This is just what happens get used to it...evasive..ignoring blah blah..its my life.

Posted by TachiMichiko
if the connect is psychic,
then why do you not know
what she wants you to do?

the headache with this pairing.
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Don't trouble about small things.

I can feel what she wants me to do and that she do wants me to be there... but that is all i have (what i feel). without her telling me clearly that she wants me there even if i feel that she does, i have nothing... i don't have any solid proof that she does... there were times before when i noticed she was talking to me indirectly (using other people's phones and facebook accounts to talk to me) but I literally feel and tell that it's her and i've also read that cancer women are indeed indirect and shy with the person they like so i started talking to her using her indirect medium and i was able to set up a meet up with her indirectly and she agreed to the meet up (time, date and place)... and then at the time of the meet up (i was already there at the place) she suddenly told me (indirectly) that something came up and that she was super busy... I got confused because i know she wants to see me but then at the very last minute she cancelled... from past experience with her i know that if she really wants to she can make it happen. it felt like when i go to her directly (straight), she goes sideways... and right now it feels like she is testing me... she is doing things/saying things to know how i react to it... do any of you guys happen to know what cancer woman are testing their potential lovers for? is she testing me if i'm worthy or something?

Posted by BlackMamba
Ask her directly

do you mean, directly in person? (just making sure)

Posted by BlackMamba
Ask her directly

I read his post earlier and didn't know what to say, then as I was about to come and tell him this I saw you did already.

Yep, that's a crab thing, but specifically it's an immature crab thing. I used to do this, too. It took a long time before I got better at being direct about asking or stating what I wanted.

although it's confusing for me, is it a good thing that she's doing this? because she is showing me a side of herself that i've never seen before... she was not like this before...just recently... what should i do when she is like this? will she change or will it always be like this? thanks

That depends. If you want to impress her with how well you pay attention to her hidden wants (there are clues, you just have to be good at observing), stop second guessing what you think she wants and just go with your gut. If you're as in tune as you say you are this will be a breeze and she'll love it.

Posted by MoonArtist
That depends. If you want to impress her with how well you pay attention to her hidden wants (there are clues, you just have to be good at observing), stop second guessing what you think she wants and just go with your gut. If you're as in tune as you say you are this will be a breeze and she'll love it.

yes there are subtle clues. at first i was not able to respond to them until the time i notice that she was giving clues... the one time i can tell that what i was feeling about her/what she wants was right is when she started being passive aggressive about it... then i would know (oh...so That really was what she wants) and then i go do it... i was hoping there are other ways to know before hand aside from these... i also noticed she uses negative emotions to "motivate" people to do what she wants... like she would do something that she thinks would make me jealous if she wants me to do something about it. but i'm already an evolved scorpio. i'm no longer possessive, jealous and vindictive...

i think i should mention that i've never had close friends or relatives with a cancer sun sign before her, so this is literally the first time that i am experiencing a cancer woman... i've never met anybody like her...

How long have you known her? Using negative emotions to manipulate people isn't a great character trait.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh.......you're the one seeing the married cancer! For fucks sake, she's old enough to be married, has teen kids and hasn't gotten mature enough at her age to decide to get a divorce if she's so unhappy in her marriage, AND she manipulates people with negative emotions.

WHY is this an attractive personality to you? That says more about where you are in your growth than you'd like to be known, me thinks.

What does Cancer Leo mean?

What does Cancer Leo mean?

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Posted by 037
What does Cancer Leo mean?

she's a cancer/leo cusp

born on the cusp

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Thx! Moonartist has given us a good summary though.

Posted by MoonArtist
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh.......you're the one seeing the married cancer! For fucks sake, she's old enough to be married, has teen kids and hasn't gotten mature enough at her age to decide to get a divorce if she's so unhappy in her marriage, AND she manipulates people with negative emotions.

WHY is this an attractive personality to you? That says more about where you are in your growth than you'd like to be known, me thinks.

umm.. because I'm a Scorpio? 🙂 she's like a lost dark trapped soul that is waiting to be saved? 🙂 i do think she wants to get a divorce but she doesn't have the initiative to do it. I think she's waiting for somebody else to do it for her, but she doesn't want to do it herself. that is also one of the things i noticed about her... she doesn't do things herself... what she decides to do are based from what she picks up from other people (what other people are doing/saying to her/deciding)... like for once she told me she like to collect pink fountain pens and wanted me to help out.. i was expecting her to just go buy one (because that is what i do, when i want something i go get it. i don't expect anybody to do it for me) but when i was helping her out i noticed that i was more passionate with her fountain pen thing than her... i ended up buying her first fountain pen myself... and i later learned that she got the "idea" to collect fountain pens from her cousin (the real fountain pen collector) then, she decided to do bodybuilding because her mother-in-law gave her a comment about her being fat. i told her even if she had flabs or abs i still love her... i guess she's fascinating to me... she's like a conundrum... i want to figure her out... and i already told her i love her and i was serious when i said that... if i leave her, then i would be lying to her (which i'm not) i don't want to break her heart especially when she has already fallen for me... i've never had a girlfriend... and i've never pursued a girl before in my life...girls court me and i told her some of my experiences when girls courting me. i told her i reject them politely...

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Posted by MoonArtist
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh.......you're the one seeing the married cancer! For fucks sake, she's old enough to be married, has teen kids and hasn't gotten mature enough at her age to decide to get a divorce if she's so unhappy in her marriage, AND she manipulates people with negative emotions.

WHY is this an attractive personality to you? That says more about where you are in your growth than you'd like to be known, me thinks.

umm.. because I'm a Scorpio? 🙂 she's like a lost dark trapped soul that is waiting to be saved? 🙂 i do think she wants to get a divorce but she doesn't have the initiative to do it. I think she's waiting for somebody else to do it for her, but she doesn't want to do it herself. that is also one of the things i noticed about her... she doesn't do things herself... what she decides to do are based from what she picks up from other people (what other people are doing/saying to her/deciding)... like for once she told me she like to collect pink fountain pens and wanted me to help out.. i was expecting her to just go buy one (because that is what i do, when i want something i go get it. i don't expect anybody to do it for me) but when i was helping her out i noticed that i was more passionate with her fountain pen thing than her... i ended up buying her first fountain pen myself... and i later learned that she got the "idea" to collect fountain pens from her cousin (the real fountain pen collector) then, she decided to do bodybuilding because her mother-in-law gave her a comment about her being fat. i told her even if she had flabs or abs i still love her... i guess she's fascinating to me... she's like a conundrum... i want to figure her out... and i already told her i love her and i was serious when i said that... if i leave her, then i would be lying to her (which i'm not) i don't want to break her heart especially when she has already fallen for me... i've never had a girlfriend... and i've never pursued a girl before in my life...girls court me and i told her some of my experiences when girls courting me. i told her i reject them politely...

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How old are you? Serious question. It's not healthy, to want to "save" someone for them. It never works. EVER. Add that she doesn't have her own interests, that she borrows them from others, but they aren't her real passion, and you're looking at a person who is incredibly stunted in personality and character. She's not a conundrum at all! She's a narcissistic user of others! And don't forget her being emotionally manipulative! Why would a grown man want a person like that unless he's so lacking in himself that someone like that is actually a boost to his own ego, and a possible source of validation? This isn't to say you don't have anything in your

How old are you? Serious question. It's not healthy, to want to "save" someone for them. It never works. EVER. Add that she doesn't have her own interests, that she borrows them from others, but they aren't her real passion, and you're looking at a person who is incredibly stunted in personality and character. She's not a conundrum at all! She's a narcissistic user of others! And don't forget her being emotionally manipulative! Why would a grown man want a person like that unless he's so lacking in himself that someone like that is actually a boost to his own ego, and a possible source of validation? This isn't to say you don't have anything in yourself, it's to say that you don't THINK you do. Apparently she doesn't think she does, either.

Why can't a grown woman with kids (or any adult!) make their own decision to leave a relationship if it's not good? I managed to do it. I didn't like the abuse, I couldn't get him to work with me as a team to save the relationship, so I made the decision to end it. Was it agonizing and painful? FUCK YES!!! But I still did it!

The things I'm passionate about are things I've always been passionate about, all my life! I love horses, always have, I love creating/art, always have, I love nature and the outdoors, always have! I don't rely on others to help me decide if I love those things or not. Those interests and pursuits are independent of my children, my spouse, my family, etc. Even if no one in my life enjoyed those things I would still pursue them. Even things that catch my interest as I get older are things that interest ME, that aren't dependent on others. Also, I don't manipulate people like that. It's destructive, it's selfish.

Hey FantasyShell. thanks. yeah... i think that when she says something/asks something to me she is already expecting/has an answer in mind that she wants me to say. If i don't say what she is expecting me to say i think she gets disappointed... i'm a scorpio born on november 4. i have an independent mind so i would most definitely have unconventional answers to her questions and i am very direct about it. i'm still working on figuring out what answer she is expecting from me and then say that answer and doing what she wants me to do. i haven't have the chance to get to know her because we've never been close friends. i just courted her directly...just what p.diddy (born on nov. 4 also) did with jennifer lopez 😉

Posted by MoonArtist
How old are you? Serious question. It's not healthy, to want to "save" someone for them. It never works. EVER. Add that she doesn't have her own interests, that she borrows them from others, but they aren't her real passion, and you're looking at a person who is incredibly stunted in personality and character. She's not a conundrum at all! She's a narcissistic user of others! And don't forget her being emotionally manipulative! Why would a grown man want a person like that unless he's so lacking in himself that someone like that is actually a boost to his own ego, and a possible source of validation? This isn't to say you don't have anything in yourself, it's to say that you don't THINK you do. Apparently she doesn't think she does, either.

Why can't a grown woman with kids (or any adult!) make their own decision to leave a relationship if it's not good? I managed to do it. I didn't like the abuse, I couldn't get him to work with me as a team to save the relationship, so I made the decision to end it. Was it agonizing and painful? FUCK YES!!! But I still did it!

The things I'm passionate about are things I've always been passionate about, all my life! I love horses, always have, I love creating/art, always have, I love nature and the outdoors, always have! I don't rely on others to help me decide if I love those things or not. Those interests and pursuits are independent of my children, my spouse, my family, etc. Even if no one in my life enjoyed those things I would still pursue them. Even things that catch my interest as I get older are things that interest ME, that aren't dependent on others. Also, I don't manipulate people like that. It's destructive, it's selfish.

I understand how emotional you are about this... good for you! you did it. my cancer is apparently different. i'm just stating my observations about her to date... maybe the husband have/controls all their finances and blackmailed her so she can't leave him yet. (i haven't asked her yet about it and i will ask her when we see each other and then we'll figure it out.) She maybe also has nowhere to go... everybody in her family and friends know him and all this time she has been acting as if everything's okay with them (she is a cancer-leo born on July 20, and from what i've read, they are optimists always looking at the bright side of things)

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Posted by scorpio04
I'm a Scorpio and in love with a Cancer-leo. As a Scorpio I want to figure my Cancer out... I want to know what makes her tick even if she is hiding it from me... I want to understand her very deeply... lately i'm having trouble knowing if she wants something esp. on dates and meet ups and if there is something that she wants me to do. we're not together yet but our connection is psychic. i'm very direct so when i want to see her i text her "i want to see you today where should i go? 🙂 " (with smiley) but she doesn't reply. But when we have conversations over the phone i can tell that she is expecting me to be somewhere (like for me to be present at an event she will be in) but she doesn't really say directly that she wants me to be there/that she is inviting me... when the day of the event comes, I always hesitate to go because she doesn't say clearly to me that she wants me there... when i decided one time to go to an event she was in without her inviting me, i was told that she was expecting me to be there (even if she didn't invited me)... i don't want to come off as stalker-ish because my intentions are pure with her so i am always looking/waiting for her to tell me directly and clearly that she wants me to be somewhere with her, but i think that is hard for a cancer woman to do? any cancer women out there? your thoughts?

I want to know why Cancer's attract fucking crazies like this? I don't understand. You're not psychic. The end.

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oh ok. maybe i used the wrong word... let me describe it. i can feel her. And i told her that before. when the emotion from her is strong (when we're apart) and esp. when we're in the same room, i can feel it too. (i haven't check this last one with her yet but i'll say it anyway) when we're talking (long distance and just chat) when she cries, i cry too...suddenly for no reason. When we're in the same room/place she can call me (without even saying a word) and i look and go to her. I think that is why she loves me. she doesn't have the same connection with her husband (a cappie) and i'm very loyal to her and honest with her and caring to her.... her husband cheats behind her back, lies at her face and i think deep down inside she is aware of it but she is trying to stay positive about it. sorry for the misunderstanding. thanks