Posted by lightupflipflops
No one ever responds to my posts..
Posted by Luxhc
Yeah, I think the fact that we are clingy is a lie. We have to feel something for you first. When you are establishing a relationship and everything is new and fun, you really don't want to have too many expectations of the other person. It really kills the mood. I get really turned off by this as a Cancer woman. I'd rather just go have a fun time and if we keep it great, awesome. If not, oh well and I move on. If someone did this to be it would feel overwhelming. Honestly, he could have stood you up for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, I am not in the mood to socialize, and I need me time - anyone who doesn't understand that, doesn't need to be in my life. I hate drama, I have too much going on, and if you bring it into my life, I will cut you out so fast. It sounds like this is what happened with you two. You overwhelmed him, he was being honest when he said you scared him off. His response is not so hard to navigate, he basically told you exactly how he is feeling.
Posted by lightupflipflops
No one ever responds to my posts.. I know rhat people aren't psychic on here but a little feedback would be nice.
To get over the pain of of the ghosting of the Taurus, I went back on okcupid. I looked through matches and a guy caught my eye. he is a few years older than me. Im.early 30s, he's late 30s. I love rhat he is also an artist too and geeky. and he finally responded to me. We didn't even chat very long before he gave me his number.
We just.. from the minute that I wrote him until our date, he would talk to me non stop. It seemed as though he wanted to meet the day we started to chat but he was hanging wirh a guy friend. he is in the process of moving down here. Somerhing rubs me the wrong way about his friend. His friend is very childish. His friend is against relationships due to his mother's messy divorces. The Cancer rold.me rhey were at a bar and I said oh, well, the manager and I had a thing, rhat would be awkward. his friend caught wind of rhis. at 8l9 o clock he said they were heading in. when they got to the house he called. his friend called my ex.. that bartender and then played his musoc.. music that the guy had made from the bar. I really should have hung up then. I was mad as a honet. How dare him let his friend act that way.. to call.my ex and then play his music. the cancer went into another room alone and talked to me. his friend kind of had a tantrum. we decided that we woulf.meet the next night after my plans. he had a birthday to attend. I had xlass. I was a. it was about not only what his friend did.. but it seemed the questions he asked me were money related. I'm broke right now and am super sensitive about it. I probably could have answers thoughtfully. such rhat he told me an ex had cheated on him.and he still.met up with her to get closure. he refused to buy her breakfast. I don't think that he should have had to but when he said that he always had to buy her stuff.. I got mad.. there is a difference between being a gold digger and a man investing in a girl, picking up the tab. our bras are like 60 a pop.. hair, birth control.. I did push him away and I didn't hear from his by midnight. I think it's butterty and I let him have it because as a single mom, I only get 4 days a months where I am free I don't have my son. I was upset that he's stand me up. btw, in this time I learned that he had a gf of five years but she committed suicide. his mom had also died of cancer in 2014. he said after her death he didn't date for 5 years. we began to talk again. we had planned to try again on Friday the 13th since we both love horror. e spoke on the phone for 6 hours each night on sunday and monday. I suggested that we meet on Wed for a bit. So Weds rolls arou d when he was comung back from Chicago to downstate where i live. he kept giving me updates. the last that i hewrd from him was 4:30. then nothing. I text him to tell him that I was at a bar til 8.. to take the guesswork out of selecting a place. I got a text saying that he wasn't going to make it. I called him crying. he couldn't believe that I was at a bar by myself. we didn't have concrete plans bit it was understood that we wouod.mewt. I understand that he got busy but being blown off again wasn't going to fly. he showed up. he hadn't showered and complained about his stained shirt. he spoke the entire night. mostly about his life in LA and all the celebrities he met as he lived with someone in a famous band. when 8 hit, time I had to go, he gave me a fake hug. outside we stood looking at the river. I wrapped my arms around his. he didn't really.. he didn't try to touch me or kiss me. I was 45 mins later getting my kid than I wanted. I didn't let him walk me to my car cuz I was embatassed. he's got a new prius and.my car is 13 years old. never not had a guy not kiss me.
you'd think at 8 he would have bolted if he hated me.
by 4 pm I hadn't heard from him. atypical.. he's text all day. I got buzzed rhat night and forgot his present. I had bought him a book and a card. the card wasn't too gushy.. it said.. in Breakfast at tiffanys, Paul gave Holly a book. Let's be weird together. the book was caled "weird Illinois." I dropped it off at his friends buisness. he is an insurwnce agent. the same friend who called my ez. i wasnt rude. i just said could ypu please give it to him.
I also promised that is neber disturb him at his work again.
he still won't talk to me.. I had text him to let him know I enjoyed meeting him and apologized for being crabby. he has completely ghosted me. I wasn't rude on our date. I don't get it