I need help understanding this man! Cancer horse.

You're moving too fast. He needs more time to deal with what he needs to deal with.

and why did you call him cancer horse ?

I think its obvious that he has too much on his plate.

And I think that he didn't jump into a relationship with you is also indicative of him knowing he's not done with his past.

He likes spending time with you because he likes spending time with you. Sorry, it's just the way it is.

How do you know he is interested in you romantically though ?

I'm a Cancer, and like your guy I'm interested in older women as well. I've been in 4 relationships, two of which were great with women older than me (by 5 and 7 years respectively) and two of which were horrible with women younger than me (by 1-2 years). I also had a major crush on a work friend who was in her 40's (still absolutely gorgeous, but in a confusing marriage situation she never talks about) and fell in love with a woman 6 years older than me but we never got together.

I can't tell you that a relationship will work with this guy, 15+ years is a lot. The 40's woman and I never got together; she's married as best I can tell, but she never calls him her husband but rather "the father of my kids" or just by name. I realized after a while that I was in no position to provide anything for her fiscally, and it's good nothing happened because I need the freedom to pursue my own goals and live my own life before settling down.

Still, don't give up on it just because of what some random people say on an internet forum. You're the only one with enough information to make a legitimate judgement on your situation, and as an older woman you have the maturity necessary to make your own decisions. If you both want it, and you're both in a position to support the relationship, then don't let your age difference stand in the way. As many people say, it's just a number.

I guess I have some cancerian traits too. I went and hid my previous posts because I felt kind of exposed. I know that's a little ridiculous since I did come here to ask for help understanding cancer males. I do continue to read the posts here and have learned quite a bit, can't say it scares me as much as it intrigues me the way cancers behave. One thing I did notice people mention a lot is how they are so slow to respond to text messages. Why is that?

By the way, who's Duncan?