irrationally jealous

i started becoming friendlier with this cancer guy within the past couple of months. very slowly though. he wanted to hang out with me last week and i agreed but i did mention that i would be with my best friend all day (who happens to be male). i told him he was more than welcome to join and he still seemed to be up for spending time together. so he meets up with my best friend and i at a restaurant that evening and as he sits down he looks kinda... disappointed. even my best friend noticed this but didn't tell me til the next day. so we're eating and talking and cancer guy seems to be avoiding my best friend as much as possible. only staring at me and talking to me.

after we pay the tab we head on up to my best friend's place. we played several rounds on a video game (we're all gamer geeks). during this time he is acting rather sulky and is quiet. my best friend then retires to his room to read and ends up passing out. this leaves cancer and i alone on the couch. i pop in a movie. of course this didn't last too long. we were all cuddled up together and it led to caressing, then heavy petting, then full on making out. he seemed to pick up on the fact that i like it a little rougher so he was biting my neck a lot. which left many a mark. when we spoke to each other the next evening i told him of these marks. he immediately asked if my best friend saw them and said anything. i told him he did but he could care less. his response,"but he DID see them, right?" i re-confirmed it but thought this probing of info was weird.

couldn't he tell my best friend was obviously gay? he's no flamer but u can definitely tell in his demeanor and voice. he carries an effeminate flair. even if a cancer knows something like this would he still be so jealous? would he envy the closeness? he's got another thing coming to him if he thinks i would drop my best friend for him. i wouldn't for anyone! maybe if i bring him up in discussion sometimes and let cancer know that my best friend is pretty much family to me then he would be more understanding? hmph.

lol I like the "hmph" part at the end. Um yeah they can be pretty insecure. He let his insecurity hang out when he should of kept his cool. So if you feel the need to explain to him then do it. If not stick a bottle in his mouth and send him back home to his mama where he belongs.

I was involved with a cancer who was jealous of my female friends. So I don't think it's necessarily a matter of your friend being male and being gay may not make a difference. It could just be a matter of who is most important to you.