is he testing?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by pixielove on Monday, November 7, 2016 and has 5 replies.

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@pixielove
9 Years

Hi guys,

So I'd like to share with you all my story and ask for your advice. I have been dating my cancer man for the last three years. He has a great man who has helped me come a long ways. I was in a very bad relationship before him and getting together with him has made me realize that I had many unresolved issues from the past.To keep the story short- we broke one time a year ago but he waited for me while I took care of myself during the time we were not together. So recently we broke up again due to repeating the same things of my past.I pushed him and he said i really needed to heal and take care of me before anything else. He said when im ready I can contact him. After five months I finally called but he didnt answer and im sure he saw my call then i texted him after a week he still did not answer though i saw he had seen my msg.

I am also known for reacting, for getting all panicky and calling million times if he does not answer so I am wondering if this is what he is doing.Testing to see if i will react and start bomb calling and messaging him.

I also know him being blunt. I know for a fact that hed tell me to move on if he does not want to be with me.

Help please.

I really dont want to push him again to lose even the slimmest chance I might have.

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@pixielove
9 Years

no if he does not answer right away I freak out very easily but he has always been a great communicator so this is why all my friends and i bummed for what has happened? is he really testing to see I have changed and how i would react if he does not get back with me right away or he is silently telling me to move on.thanks

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@Montgomery
13 Years10,000+ Posts

Yeah.

Sounds like you're being punished. .. happens

a lot around here.

Stop trying to contact him-- he's enjoying the

control immensely.