Oh man this stuff again lol

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by sagatastic on Sunday, March 17, 2019 and has 15 replies.

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@sagatastic
11 Years

Ok so I made a friend who happens to be Cancer ( sun AND moon) , venus Leo, mars Capricorn.

Anyway I'm pretty sure we both have seemed to clearly communicate the fact that neither of us is really looking for anything outside of friendship.

One day we were texting some stuff and in the middle of like a deep life conversation and he stopped responding and didn't respond the next morning. So I was like hey is this that give me space cancer thing?

Long story short he told me I didn't say anything to piss him off but he did need space, which is cool.

But now I have all these questions like, will he get pissed if I actually just leave him alone? Is this like a cancer test? Do they even do that for friendships instead of relationships? Is this a "leave me alone but you better not effing leave me alone you b**** how could you abandon me?!" thing? Like I dunno.

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

I assume you're a Sag by your user name. What's your moon sign? Is it fixed?

He didn't abandon you after texting with you and then getting busy doing something else.

Why are you gonna try to leave him alone? Maybe whatever you guys were talking about got too deep for him and he didn't want to deal with it, so he took a break and continued the next day.

Maybe in the middle of you're texting he put his phone on the charger and went to go get food and fell into food coma

Maybe he hopped on the toilet and took a crap and forgot to text back.

People have everyday lives, He might not have a talkative Mercury either and got tired of texting.

I don't think this is a test. If he does it on a consistent basis and then starts ignoring you, then that is one thing but what happened seems normal.

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@LibraSupreme
8 Years1,000+ Posts

No, I believe your over thinking this. He may be true about the friendship but without benefits his time may be spent with the many other girls. Just being friends can drop leverage for his time in comparison.

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@sagatastic
11 Years

Mercury is in Leo. He has asked me to give him space and I have no problem doing so however Ive been told many times that cancers tell people to leave them alone but is sad and hurt when they actually leave them alone.

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@besarlalluvia
12 Years500+ Posts

why do sags always do this? you like a guy but he isn’t doing what you want. so you ask... how do i act so that this sun sign likes me? you can’t just wear a mask... be yourself and face that not every man is compatible with you

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@sagatastic
11 Years

Probably for the same reason there is always that one person who needs to invent some alternate narrative of the question, instead of just taking it for what it is.

Also a sag would never care enough to change themself to make someone like them. There's a difference between trying to understand someone and trying to be someone else for another person.

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@Elissar18
7 Years500+ Posts

It doesn't seem like a test. Cancer men side step rather than come at you directly. So they will use hypothetical questions and scenarios to gauge your response. Or they will tell you about a past situation or event to make a subtle suggestion or drop hints. So if he always tells you he needs to "remind them that they weren’t in a relationship after they had sex" and he's asked you for space... could it be, he's trying to create distance to avoid you thinking you're in a relationship with him? He was straight with his intentions in the beginning but your expectations seem to have changed and he probably sensed it so he's pulling back. I think you're going to get hurt by pursuing this. Just guard your heart because it doesn't sound like you're on the same page.

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@sagatastic
11 Years

Dude you know what is like so wtf about this... just before he did his disappearing act he said he was gonna help me organize this shit. Now I gotta do it by myself lol