just some insight

I love my crabby very much. He is very loving and warm and he is the best thing that happen to me in a while. This past weekend we had an amazing time but he stops and tells me that he likes how everything is at this moment and would be happy if things just remain how it is. I was a bit confused on what he meant so he says that he doesn't think we would go any farther that where we are now. He says that it maybe because he is having a hard time getting over the situation with his ex 6yrs ago. (she lied to him about having a miscarriage but she really had an abortion) This did upset me only because at the beginning of our relationship we talk about long term goals (marriage). I felt like there was no need to continue a relationship if he just wants to just stay in one spot and not work towards a future. I am starting to regret breaking up with him because I have fallen in love with him. I cant get his expression out of my head. I could see how crush he was and he was trying not to cry. Do you think I was being a little too insensitive or mad a bad decision? I really want to be back with him but I think it would be still purposeless. 😢

Nothing much that i can share but just popped in to empathze with you. I have been through something similar and when i decided to give it another shot, he kept sitting on a high horse! Thats when you feel stupid for putting yourself in the same situation yet again! I should have known better!

Leo sun capricorn moon here... 6 years is a long time for someone. Some people can take even longer to get over stuff but I feel 6 years is enough time to heal. Can you provide some context on how long you two were together and what brought up the conversation?

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Leo sun capricorn moon here... 6 years is a long time for someone. Some people can take even longer to get over stuff but I feel 6 years is enough time to heal. Can you provide some context on how long you two were together and what brought up the conversation?

I thought so too. He still have nightmares about it. I thought he may have been joking about it until I witness him having one and sleep talking. We only been together for almost 4 months. It's not a long time at all. He is always expressive and starts random conversations. We always have open conservations about life. We were talking about how much fun we had once we return to his house and that is how the conversation started.

@starry and missgemini thank you for your views. I'm in reflective stage lol

@ magic... you did say a lot but you also help me see a different POV. I have a lot to think about.

Magic is right...cancers have a really hard time moving on..they need to process a lot, it may not hurt just to wait and see..

You definitely did the right thing. Cancers can hold onto things for a very long time. If he started going back in his little crab shell already, more than likely getting him out of there is going to be a pain in the ass and any little sign of problems will get him scattering right back in there.