My Cancer Toddler

As an Aquarius w/ a Scorpio rising I am not known for my patience or cuddly nature. My little guy will be 2 on the 4th of July and I still don't understand my son at all.
I have never had a close Cancer friend so I did a little research when I found out I'd be living with one. I expected the mood swings and the attachment, but it still came as quite a shock just HOW moody and attached he tends to be. I don't sit still often and I don't mind him following me all the time, but he often wants me just to SIT and hold him, doing nothing else. What is this about?
And he tends to be very, how shall I put this...grumpy. I feel so bad that I get frustrated with his moods, but it can be a little embarrassing. I am extremely social and always have people around. Usually family comes to visit or we go see others and my little Cancer will rarely interact with others, unless he knows them well AND is in an extremely good mood. But those good moods are not very common.
I feel sometimes like there is something wrong. I don't know if it's with him or with me or with the way his dad and I interact with him or maybe he's just a typical toddler. I get so frustrated sometimes and think, "Why can't you just be happy?!" I am very happy by nature and it seems my sweet and kind Cancer is a little grumpy by nature.

What can I do to bring out his more positive nature? He is such a sweet soul. He is so sensitive and amazing and his smile can light up the world. I would like it if the other people in his life could see more of his smile and delight in his laughter.
What should I do to encourage more of his happy side?

we cancers tend to be grumpy then not grumpy then grumpy again..you have to learn to just take the waves as they come. the one thing i found interesting reading your post is that you refer everything back to you and how you would react. you need to remember he has his own feelings and thoughts which might be nothing like yours. he is his own individual. as for following you around he is doing that cause being with you makes him feel secure. we cancers love security and do what we have to in order to gain it. also try to maintain patience with him cause i will tell you it is going to get worse lol..my mom is an aqua but she was very loving toward me and my brother. i remember as a child she would rub my back till i fell asleep. i used to love that and it made me feel special, loved and secure. he is still little so you are going to have time to understand him and give him what he needs. at least you have one my mom had to deal with 2 cancer boys and just like lou said don't beat yourself up..being a mom is hard work but you will manage..

Music, music, music. He wants a little world to live in. Help him build his own little house with his favorite toys, come and go as he does it. Hug him then tell him how long to expect before you are back. Set a timer for him if you can. Stick to what you say you will do and your kiddo will learn trust and freedom. Kiss a stuffed animal and let him take it from your hands. Let the animal stay with him for a short time and tell him that kiss is a show of your love for his place in your heart.

Let him be moody. I do not remember being moody, more silent and wanting to watch. Let him move around with you and have a place in each room where he learns he can retire to. Tell him how great he is when he and you can be in seperate rooms and still feel love for each other. (Use that timer).

Relax. This is a hard age for any child. Cancer's are not all that needy if provided with assurance of what is next to come. Hugs.

i work with 1-4y/o children. but my classroom consists mainly two and half y/os. at that age, they are developing and learning waaay much! its hilarious to me that when i find out their birthdays as they come and go, i've definitely been more in-tuned with the way they are after learning their signs. especially cancer children. i never realized how much it could apply to every single human being at any age. it really helps to know what pushes their buttons.

i find july cancers to be very different (my older brother and someone i've dated was one) i don't believe anyone who works with me are in tuned with their traits but i certainly am. i have a june cancer in my classroom. she is one moody girl. but i know for sure that if you give her the attention that she needs, hugs, kisses, and listen to her, get her to eat her lunch and snack, get her to sleep EVEN.. she is an angel. i always remember to focus on her special interests and hobbies and ask her to share those with her peers.. it really helps. its also so funny to me that she is the biggest helper of them all in the classroom. everyone always calls her the "secretary" and i think she has motherly qualities (weird to say about a two year old i know) that is mainly what we focus on in our programming though. special interest and independency! like dignlfe says.. "use a timer!" don't try too hard! it will all fall into place if you keep your tot active and always happy!

i know that from a teachers POV is not the same as a mother, but i spent nearly 40 hours a week with 17 children in a classroom. i think i qualify 🙂

be easy katy!