Need some Answers please about a Lying Cancer man

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piscesgrl
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19 Years

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Okay, my cancer friend..(whom I'll admit, secretly really like), but we were talking romantically for awhile until it just dwindled away...now a year later..he has lied so much...

Back in July he told me he had a girlfriend while we were talking causually, Im like okay I can deal with that, girlfriend..not a wife, right? well then 1 week later I asked him if he wanted to go tubing on a river with me and some friends.. He then tells me he's engaged...Im like whoa,,,where the hell did this come from...and hes getting married next May...Next 2 weeks, him and I got into an argument..well not a big one, but kind of...I refer to the girl as his gf still and he says "No, she's my wife, I can say wife b/c its JUST LIKE, we're married"....and Im thinking, tho not saying this, "you're either married or your not, jeez!"

But anyhow, this argument occurred the begginning of Sept..I just found out he married this girl in the beginning of AUG...by a court/civil ceremony..Im not that familiar with those but their the kind where its just you, significant other, a witness, and a judge performing the wedding!
Why has this guy been lying and calling her his fiance, when they were married?and why in the world would anyone do a court wedding like that? He is ex military and she is active duty army...is this common for two military people to do this? ANd then..He was single in Jan!! This is not like him or cancers right to rush and get married 6 months later...and have it be so impersonal?? Does anyone agree with me here?? or what could be his motivations for keeping it a secret? He also has a myspace account where he is just saying he is in a relationship not married...so no congrats at all on his page..it just boggles my mind b/c he is the romantic person Ive ever met! Im so confused..I think he deserves so much more!....(well, me of course, but that's another topic!)