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Cancers are just like the crabs on the beach...if threatened we go into our shells....walk sideways very quickly always reaching our goals...I observed this on the beach recently...seems none of us want to be hurt...we are sensitive. I was born on the 4th of July and I see we all have the tendency to protect ourselves. Too bad we can't just open up.

That great. I was born on same day

I am a cancer female and I disagree that we aren't open. I am very open, especially if I'm comfortable with my surroundings. I'm a
good listener and advice giver, I use a lot of examples, taken from my life experiences. The point being is I am very open with close friends and relatives, people I feel close too.
I don't open up to stranger too quickly, because as a cancer I have to figure out what your intentions are first, But all and all I am a relatively open person.

i was born on july 3rd. i'm a very quiet guy, so i suppose i follow the cancer trend to keep to myself and hide in my shell. to my experience, i wasn't always this way. i thought i was very open- at least, to people whom i'm considered good friends and good people. so what the heck happened?! well, cupid's arrows stabbed me in the back a few times. after a bad relationship, my trust is way beyond the reach of anyone, save for a few choice friends. everytime i hear something i want to here, it's *always* too good to be true. my "shell" has thickened 10-fold, almost to the point that it damages many of my potential personal relationships. so why am i telling you all this? that's just my second point: look how easy it is to open up sometimes. i don't know; maybe it's the anonymity of the internet or just some excess frustration. sometimes i just want and need to open up to someone, and it makes me feel 100-times betters. simultaneously, there is that issue of trust that hangs in the corner of my mind, and it makes me uncomfortable (again, recalling upon my old past experiences). well isn't that a paradox, an irony, an oxymoron - anyway, whatever word you use it's all the same. so i agree and disagree - i have a hard time opening up, and yet sometimes i find it so easy to open up. bla.... i suppose i'm just wierd like that.

I can identify with all of you above. OK, now is anyone out there born July 1?

I can relate 100% percent to your situation. wanna know what happened? you lost your confidence. Cancers are excellent at focusing on things, too many bad experiences in a row and your only focusing on the negatives. I usually care alot about the people around me, as for myself, well whatever. but thats the problem. When you make your world based on other people. People change, its a proven fact. I dont think most cancers adjust very well to the world changing. So we very unhappily withdraw. Most of us know the killer qualities we have, but its not enough to know, you've got to believe that you are worthy of everything you want. If anyone is spending time alone and very unhappy, try to focus on yourself for a change. meet your actual needs. Alot of the people I anguished over really never filled my needs. I just wanted it, badly. Dont let other peoples bad decisions mold your view of your self. At least thats the conclusion i've come to in my own life recently. Thats all ive got to say about that.