CalmCrab22
@CalmCrab22
10 YearsCancer
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No commitment but FB or FWB?!?!
Been "together" 2yrs
Maid?
Do you have a source of income of your own, or are you dependent on him?
Posted by DMVI don't do anything like that
Maid?
Posted by KoniuchaaI can talk to him if I want to however we have no privacy.
I don't get it. He wants you around but you can't talk? To him?
What people of his are you taking care of and how?
No sex? See ya!
I like that I obviously don't feel like he uses me for sex but I do have a sex drive
Posted by LadyNeptuneWe have all of our own things we do not need each other for finances.
Do you have a source of income of your own, or are you dependent on him?
He is VERY well off.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
I stalked you a little bit calm crab
" Why does it seem like telling him I love him even playfully pisses him off?
- he has told me he loves me (once) told me he cares (few times)
- when arguing I told him just tell me you don't love me, that you don't care & I'll leave you alone. His response (on both occasions) I can't tell you that, of course I care
- everyone knows we're together
- he's very protective (checks on me) & jealous (some females dislike this, I find it cute & comforting)
- he has 4 small companies he's building & he won't let anything take his focus off of building them. Kinda seems to me that he won't allow more in love department bc us cancers can get so caught up in our partners that we lose focus of other goals & it can be difficult for us to balance"
Is this the same guy you're talking about?
" Why does it seem like telling him I love him even playfully pisses him off?
- he has told me he loves me (once) told me he cares (few times)
- when arguing I told him just tell me you don't love me, that you don't care & I'll leave you alone. His response (on both occasions) I can't tell you that, of course I care
- everyone knows we're together
- he's very protective (checks on me) & jealous (some females dislike this, I find it cute & comforting)
- he has 4 small companies he's building & he won't let anything take his focus off of building them. Kinda seems to me that he won't allow more in love department bc us cancers can get so caught up in our partners that we lose focus of other goals & it can be difficult for us to balance"
Is this the same guy you're talking about?
Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
You also mentioned
" Cancer/cancer been dating year and half, deep emotional attachment & still the thought of full commitment is making my heart race with anxiety now.
We aren't exactly older (that's kinda relative though) & we both have teen kids. I won't know until I'm more settled in my careers but I think we're both hesitant due to new careers at the time we met. We need to feel more established in them before devoting time elsewhere.
He may have something he wants to work on or he may be set in his ways.
I know giving up my home is a huge thought in the back of my mind when thinking of commitment. I don't want anything from anyone else I only want him but I don't want him around everyday."
Same cancer fellow?
" Cancer/cancer been dating year and half, deep emotional attachment & still the thought of full commitment is making my heart race with anxiety now.
We aren't exactly older (that's kinda relative though) & we both have teen kids. I won't know until I'm more settled in my careers but I think we're both hesitant due to new careers at the time we met. We need to feel more established in them before devoting time elsewhere.
He may have something he wants to work on or he may be set in his ways.
I know giving up my home is a huge thought in the back of my mind when thinking of commitment. I don't want anything from anyone else I only want him but I don't want him around everyday."
Same cancer fellow?
Posted by beautifuldayI am also a cancer so I am to aware of how he can be. I'm not looking for commitment I am wondering what he wants me around for.
So i dated a Cancer man who hated commitment and on our 2nd date told me that he didn't believe in labels and I gave him a look of "your strange" and than very politely told him that i do. You have to be direct but very sweet with Cancer men about what you want. Stay stable because they are not...there emotions are all over the place so don't let them drown you. So, be sweet, wear something that shows your boobs and tell him how you won't accept anything less than a commitment if thats what you want. He will forever give you a run around otherwise.
We've both made our feelings known. We love each other and as 2 cancers are moving at our own pace.
If he can't give you commitment for over 2 years what purpose does he serve honestly.
Do you want more?
Maybe he can't give you but someone else can.
I really don't understand your living situation.
Posted by SensitiveBluesHe has his own home & has 2 19 year old nephews living with him
I feel like you're not painting a full picture, can you describe your relationship more, and who else lives with you?
I have my own home& my 2 children live with me. Their dad lives in another state & is zero factor in our relationship
Side note: he has kids also
@harleytwinflame
Same guy but SOOOOOOO Much has happened since then. The dynamics have definitely changed a lot.
Same guy but SOOOOOOO Much has happened since then. The dynamics have definitely changed a lot.
@sensitiveblies
It's not a problem at all.
I am simply curious to a man desiring to have a woman at his home when he isn't engaging with her due to business.
I was with a man for 8 years that owned a very successful company so I know how it goes being with a man married to building a life style vs a man with "9-5"
It's not a problem at all.
I am simply curious to a man desiring to have a woman at his home when he isn't engaging with her due to business.
I was with a man for 8 years that owned a very successful company so I know how it goes being with a man married to building a life style vs a man with "9-5"
Posted by SensitiveBluesGood point. I didn't see it that way at all. Thank you!!Posted by CalmCrab22Ok well think it through, home is very important to a Crab, he see's you as a fixture in his home, to me that means he cares alot about you
@sensitiveblies
It's not a problem at all.
I am simply curious to a man desiring to have a woman at his home when he isn't engaging with her due to business.
I was with a man for 8 years that owned a very successful company so I know how it goes being with a man married to building a life style vs a man with "9-5"
its like we let just anybody come into our homes.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBluesYes! He's told me a # of times that he trusts me. I've been in his home a many times without him for long periods of time and while he was out of town.
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.
Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
Thank you so much you're so on point, clear and honest 🙂
Posted by SensitiveBluesSensitiveBlues I sent you a message. Please lmk if you didn't get it. Tks
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.
Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by CalmCrab22i dont think i got it,Posted by SensitiveBluesSensitiveBlues I sent you a message. Please lmk if you didn't get it. Tks
I also want to add he trusts you alot, Extremely so.
Can you imagine someone coming into your house that you're not even committed too, the information they can find out...
That's huge. To me that's a big big thing.
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I sent it again
Posted by SensitiveBlues? my box is empty LOL
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
Posted by CalmCrab22You dont want help, if you did you would cut the bullshit and be more clear about what exactly is going on, instead of these stupidly, vague bullet points.Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $click to expand
Posted by CalmCrab22I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $click to expand
Posted by IlluminatiI literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.Posted by CalmCrab22I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
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@illuminati as for my cancer man not moving forward
1) I was so anti love when we met idk how he stayed bc I was the stupid girl all about being single independent & not needing a man (I'm not like that anymore)
2) he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship
1) I was so anti love when we met idk how he stayed bc I was the stupid girl all about being single independent & not needing a man (I'm not like that anymore)
2) he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship
Posted by CalmCrab22Sounds like time to have a heart to heart talk with him? To figure out what you both want
@illuminati as for my cancer man not moving forward
1) I was so anti love when we met idk how he stayed bc I was the stupid girl all about being single independent & not needing a man (I'm not like that anymore)
2) he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship
Posted by CalmCrab22Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.Posted by IlluminatiI literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.Posted by CalmCrab22I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBluesOk. Thanks for being direct.Posted by CalmCrab22My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
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Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
Posted by IlluminatiI am satisfied being single but would be happy sharing life with him.Posted by CalmCrab22Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.Posted by IlluminatiI literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.Posted by CalmCrab22I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
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Sounds a lot like my Cancer/cancer situation as far as the clueless about what he wants thing goes...I just left a I'm leaving for good this time message yet again n I know what's gonna happen... The same depressing cycle.. You have to talk to him..n if he doesn't at least attempt to make u happy..just move on?As cancer's we know how to make the ones we love feel loved so if he's not doing... He simply doesn't want to
Posted by CalmCrab22What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?Posted by SensitiveBluesOk. Thanks for being direct.Posted by CalmCrab22My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.click to expand
Posted by MoonbutterMoon: ScorpioPosted by CalmCrab22What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?Posted by SensitiveBluesOk. Thanks for being direct.Posted by CalmCrab22My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.click to expand
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviors
Posted by CalmCrab22Sensitive to his own feelings, yet detached to his partner in relationship. He is witty, has good sense of humor, He loves debating, and he is attracted to intelligence and the unknown.Posted by MoonbutterMoon: ScorpioPosted by CalmCrab22What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?Posted by SensitiveBluesOk. Thanks for being direct.Posted by CalmCrab22My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviorsclick to expand
just guessing from the placement you listed.
Posted by CalmCrab22Good you should tell him that. There is risk but reward comes with the risk.Posted by IlluminatiI am satisfied being single but would be happy sharing life with him.Posted by CalmCrab22Time heals almost anything. What do you want in your life now? Do you want more commitment with this man? If so let him know that you are in a place that you are ready for more. If he is not interested move on, if so work as a team.Posted by IlluminatiI literally almost died in my last relationship. I didn't so much as exchange #s with a man for 2 years after the hat relationship ended. I've spent a few years healing.Posted by CalmCrab22I don't get how you can date casually for 2 years, are you long distance or something?Posted by HarleyTwinFlameWe've been casually dating for two years. Yes we've had sex.
Have you ever had sex with him?
Do you live with him?
I'm confused ...
No we have our own homes, careers, cars & $
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Posted by PoppyseedsHe's definitely not detached from my feelings. When we're together he is very tentative. He checks on me makes sure I don't need food water or blanket. When we get in the car he asks if I'm comfortable.Posted by CalmCrab22Sensitive to his own feelings, yet detached to his partner in relationship. He is witty, has good sense of humor, He loves debating, and he is attracted to intelligence and the unknown.Posted by MoonbutterMoon: ScorpioPosted by CalmCrab22What is his Venus? And moon? Maybe Mercury too?Posted by SensitiveBluesOk. Thanks for being direct.Posted by CalmCrab22My answer to your pm and i read it was LEAVE. I READ everything you wrote, he's extremely disrespectful...Posted by SensitiveBluesIn short my new question is… why does he go out on his boat and out at night without me (been like this 8mos but previous 1yr + we went out together). He will avoid me the days he's going on the boat. Which seems to me that he doesn't want to lie if I ask him what his plans are bc he has no intention of inviting me.
i sent you messages both times, did you get anything? something is going on.
I'm confused bc like I previously mentioned he wants me to hang at his house & while his friends/Fam/coworkers/ employees are there. So I'm not a secret & he's not embarrassed & has no reason to be. You pointed out that he cares & trusts me but this makes me not believe that.
and i can guess why he isn't sexing you up....
he's emotionally using you.
you can do much better.
Still don't understand why a grown man needs me emotionally.
My lease is up this month & I was thinking of bring it up to him that I may not stay but instead move to the house I own in a different state. Because I am contemplating moving but also curious what he would say.
Venus: Gemini
Merc: Gemini
I'm not familiar with how these affect his relationship behaviors
just guessing from the placement you listed.
click to expand
He HATES debating of any sort.
He is attracted to classy sexy intelligent mysterious women for relationships but keeps company of ANY type of woman when partying.
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