AriesFireKnight
@AriesFireKnight
9 Years
Comments: 0 · Posts: 96 · Topics: 20
Patience or Pain, and what is the best option with you?
Posted by AriesFireKnightYou just told people to leave this thread if their advice is for you to leave her though.
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
Posted by Ram416Dude, if u reached the final statement means you agreed with the initial condition. Is common sense.Posted by AriesFireKnightYou just told people to leave this thread if their advice is for you to leave her though.
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
click to expand
Posted by AriesFireKnightYeah but if you want people to give their 100% honest opinion then you gotta allow for people to suggest that you leave her based on their opinion. Otherwise you're not being very honest with people here if you ask for 100% honest opinion yet don't allow them that which maybe be one out of hundreds of opinions.Posted by Ram416Dude, if u reached the final statement means you agreed with the initial condition. Is common sense.Posted by AriesFireKnightYou just told people to leave this thread if their advice is for you to leave her though.
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
click to expand
100% means everything, INCLUDING things you don't wanna hear or might not think possible.
Posted by Ram416Listen to this lady ^Posted by AriesFireKnightYeah but if you want people to give their 100% honest opinion then you gotta allow for people to suggest that you leave her based on their opinion. Otherwise you're not being very honest with people here if you ask for 100% honest opinion yet don't allow them that which maybe be one out of hundreds of opinions.Posted by Ram416Dude, if u reached the final statement means you agreed with the initial condition. Is common sense.Posted by AriesFireKnightYou just told people to leave this thread if their advice is for you to leave her though.
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
100% means everything, INCLUDING things you don't wanna hear or might not think possible.click to expand
Controlled/restricted advice isn't always for your best outcome
One thing hit me in the face...shy insecure girl who is playing with other guys to make you jealous? Hmmmmm
Op you actually sound eerily similar to that AceofFlames guy who started that thread about a cancer girl.
Maybe you two should exchange notes with each other instead of asking people for their honest opinions? 😎
Maybe you two should exchange notes with each other instead of asking people for their honest opinions? 😎
Posted by Arielle83Honestly? Lmao...🤣🤣🤣
You're just obsessed.
Whoever read the whole post - say ‘I’
Lmao
Isn’t it a bitch to scroll trough these walls of text? Carpal tunnel is sneaking up on me like sob! 🤣
Lmao
Isn’t it a bitch to scroll trough these walls of text? Carpal tunnel is sneaking up on me like sob! 🤣
Posted by Arielle83No! Take him for a test drive. After I had one that was mind blowing I said astrology only wrong when it comes to sex!Posted by GemitatiHey the 46 yr old capricorn told me he loves me, last night.Posted by Arielle83Honestly? Lmao...🤣🤣🤣
You're just obsessed.
Should I run?click to expand
Good luck!
Posted by Ram416Ok, say whatever you want, but I don't intend to leave. Idk why is such a big deal tho.Posted by AriesFireKnightYeah but if you want people to give their 100% honest opinion then you gotta allow for people to suggest that you leave her based on their opinion. Otherwise you're not being very honest with people here if you ask for 100% honest opinion yet don't allow them that which maybe be one out of hundreds of opinions.Posted by Ram416Dude, if u reached the final statement means you agreed with the initial condition. Is common sense.Posted by AriesFireKnightYou just told people to leave this thread if their advice is for you to leave her though.
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
100% means everything, INCLUDING things you don't wanna hear or might not think possible.click to expand
Posted by Ram416Im the same guy, I just realised I'm logged onto an old account with a forrgoten password on this phone. Didn't want to update the old thread because it wasn't relevant anymore, so I rewrited it here. To be honest writting things out helps me clear my mind.
Op you actually sound eerily similar to that AceofFlames guy who started that thread about a cancer girl.
Maybe you two should exchange notes with each other instead of asking people for their honest opinions? 😎
This situation is a bit awkward, but I didn't had the intention to pretend I'm someone else.
God I have to log into this new account on all of my devices ffs
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
She's not into you dude
She's hurting and you're taking advantage
Like a vulture
We don't like ppl on our nuts like that
Crab women know who they want
We go after who we want
She don't want you
So for the sake of God, what I would possibly want from her? I can get attention or sex easier from soneone else if that would've been my objective.
I swear to God I tried my best to help her because I was put into a similar position myself at one point and I know how much it hurts. My only fault is that I caught feelings, and I'm under big pressure outside this situation because of the huge amounts of work I have to finish. I can't even sleep well because I'm haunted by the thoughts that I will blow everything up and I'll be left alone created by my stressed and exhausted brain.
I didn't wanted to make her feel bad, actually I thought everything was perfect after that day and I felt happy.
She wanted to stay with me, in the last weeks she started to talk and get to know my group of friends. She spend time with me, and she appreciated the fact that I was there.
Wtf I could want from her? To be honest a hugg would've been enough, but I guess I'm selfish and rude if I ask for one.
😒😒
Why does Cancer's always get involved in a drama that is filled with headaches.
Why does Cancer's always get involved in a drama that is filled with headaches.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeLibraPosted by AceOfFlamesStop your dramaPosted by CaramelizedCoffee
She's not into you dude
She's hurting and you're taking advantage
Like a vulture
We don't like ppl on our nuts like that
Crab women know who they want
We go after who we want
She don't want you
So for the sake of God, what I would possibly want from her? I can get attention or sex easier from soneone else if that would've been my objective.
I swear to God I tried my best to help her because I was put into a similar position myself at one point and I know how much it hurts. My only fault is that I caught feelings, and I'm under big pressure outside this situation because of the huge amounts of work I have to finish. I can't even sleep well because I'm haunted by the thoughts that I will blow everything up and I'll be left alone created by my stressed and exhausted brain.
I didn't wanted to make her feel bad, actually I thought everything was perfect after that day and I felt happy.
She wanted to stay with me, in the last weeks she started to talk and get to know my group of friends. She spend time with me, and she appreciated the fact that I was there.
Wtf I could want from her? To be honest a hugg would've been enough, but I guess I'm selfish and rude if I ask for one.
What's your exes signclick to expand
Posted by EchoIdk, for example your zodiac forum community is the most annoyng and negative compared to the aries or aquarius one
😒😒
Why does Cancer's always get involved in a drama that is filled with headaches.
People there are supportive and actually give u some worthy advice... Here they make comments about your grammar and start cursing one another over trivial stuff. When they post something about the actual post it's usually some negative bullshieet. I guess is called cancer for a reason.
Shotout to a dude here tho. The gut gave me a really nice answer that helped me a lot. I owe him a beer if I we ever meet irl.
Posted by AriesFireKnight
Ok, I don't know how this will sound but I have to deal whit an immature Cancer girl and I'm starting to believe that patience isn't the best choice I can make.
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.
Choose option 2... then, option 1... in that order.
XX
A fellow Aries
Posted by HoneyXxThis is usefull and gave me some clarity, thanks.
i cringe every time i hear about a fellow fire sign with a cancer... 😒
here's the thing... you're trying waaaay too fucking hard.
be natural, fall back, don't give a fuck... put her on ice for a minute... and allow her to come to you...
don't embarrass yourself, she's using you to rebuild her confidence so that she can make another attempt with ol' boy again...
get the fuck outta there and save face while you can...
it's too soon for y'all to start dating anyway, you'd only be the rebound.
dude, don't be the rebound. i want more for you, but you also gotta want more for yourself.
she's still in love with him and that's where her heart is.
sorry.
"Can I trust a Cancer tho?"
you ask for too much. A Sun sign is only one issue of 1000. Dating, love, friendship, partnership, all these things are complicated and seldom transparent. Only time can show. Often people do not even know themselves. It's all risky. No blame on nobody. Love is expensive cause there's a lot of cheap copy around. So...
you ask for too much. A Sun sign is only one issue of 1000. Dating, love, friendship, partnership, all these things are complicated and seldom transparent. Only time can show. Often people do not even know themselves. It's all risky. No blame on nobody. Love is expensive cause there's a lot of cheap copy around. So...
How about the option where you listen to her request and back the fuck off. Instead of being arrogant enough to think you know what’s best for her. That’s not attractive.
What happened specifically that made her say “you put her in a shameful position in front of her friends”??
Posted by LadyNeptuneIt wasn't something that bad. We actually had a great time toghether and right after she backlash on me via text (she doesn't have the courage to do it irl) in order to make me feel bad. If you like someone you don't create such of a big deal out of that thing, because all I did was touch her hand a few times.
What happened specifically that made her say “you put her in a shameful position in front of her friends”??
Now is clear for me that she thinks she got an edge on me and I'm some kind of idiot that she can use in order to make her ex jealous and at the same time pay back my old ex, because I dumped her and she still got smth for me.
I always took this case into consideration, but I have the tendency to fall easily for a damsel in distress, so I always talk about this stuff in places like that to get an objective point of view and make a decision before I take action.
After she said that to me I just apologized and stopped messaging her. Until now I was completley silent.
She also used a few good guys in order to get my attention, so she will have no remorse if she does the same thing to me after she gets the upper hand.
Now I know exactly what to do and the fact that she maybe deserved the situation she was in. I'll make sure I fck up her plan and also leave her a door open if she didn't intended to do that.
Posted by xoxflute80% of what? Could be ‘OMG’ or ‘what?’Posted by GemitatiDoes 80% count? 😛 Skimmed a little lol.
Whoever read the whole post - say ‘I’
Lmao
Isn’t it a bitch to scroll trough these walls of text? Carpal tunnel is sneaking up on me like sob! 🤣click to expand
Lol
Posted by xoxfluteI guess I’ll never know...and I am usually reading crap out of long posts but this is just ridiculous! LolPosted by Gemitati80% of the first post. 😛Posted by xoxflute80% of what? Could be ‘OMG’ or ‘what?’Posted by GemitatiDoes 80% count? 😛 Skimmed a little lol.
Whoever read the whole post - say ‘I’
Lmao
Isn’t it a bitch to scroll trough these walls of text? Carpal tunnel is sneaking up on me like sob! 🤣
Lolclick to expand
Posted by UnicornSagDon’t tell me you’ve READ IT ALL!!!
You're both incredibly immature, only difference is you're also smart while she's plain dumb. So how does smart and dumb actually work? For me it's painful to be with a dumb person, as soon as I see it I'm out of it, but as you wish. So you want to play her game? Then be a duche that her ex was. She likes to suffer doesn't she, so make her suffer more. Why rescue someone who's addicted to pain. Let it be then. Push pull, play her game. Make her suffer than give her treat and so on until she learns.
I must say this is incredibly stupid but so does she sound, so my advice goes only because of the way you described her and situation. Not that I ever do such things or advise them to other people, just adapting to situation in question...
Talk about people have no life...❤️🤣🤣
Posted by AceOfFlamesJust send a package of beer to his door 😂😂😂😂Posted by EchoIdk, for example your zodiac forum community is the most annoyng and negative compared to the aries or aquarius one
😒😒
Why does Cancer's always get involved in a drama that is filled with headaches.
People there are supportive and actually give u some worthy advice... Here they make comments about your grammar and start cursing one another over trivial stuff. When they post something about the actual post it's usually some negative bullshieet. I guess is called cancer for a reason.
Shotout to a dude here tho. The gut gave me a really nice answer that helped me a lot. I owe him a beer if I we ever meet irl.
click to expand
Your post came off egotistical and arrogant with no real justification to be so.
Very terraminish, if you ask me.
That is a huge turn off to any girl, regardless of sign.
Very terraminish, if you ask me.
That is a huge turn off to any girl, regardless of sign.
Posted by AceOfFlamesBut what was it that happened. That’s what I wanted to know.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt wasn't something that bad. We actually had a great time toghether and right after she backlash on me via text (she doesn't have the courage to do it irl) in order to make me feel bad. If you like someone you don't create such of a big deal out of that thing, because all I did was touch her hand a few times.
What happened specifically that made her say “you put her in a shameful position in front of her friends”??
Now is clear for me that she thinks she got an edge on me and I'm some kind of idiot that she can use in order to make her ex jealous and at the same time pay back my old ex, because I dumped her and she still got smth for me.
I always took this case into consideration, but I have the tendency to fall easily for a damsel in distress, so I always talk about this stuff in places like that to get an objective point of view and make a decision before I take action.
After she said that to me I just apologized and stopped messaging her. Until now I was completley silent.
She also used a few good guys in order to get my attention, so she will have no remorse if she does the same thing to me after she gets the upper hand.
Now I know exactly what to do and the fact that she maybe deserved the situation she was in. I'll make sure I fck up her plan and also leave her a door open if she didn't intended to do that.click to expand
Posted by AceOfFlamesYou said it in your op. You wanted to ‘rescue’ her and be more alpha then her ex.
So for the sake of God, what I would possibly want from her? I can get attention or sex easier from soneone else if that would've been my objective.
This was always about you and your ego.
cancer ladies love a strong man but not if its for the sake of his ego, huge turnoff for them. think beauty and the beast...bell and gaston, no one cried when he fell from that tower. sorry those cancers love romance.
OP, the thing is by telling the forum to not advise you to leave the situation is already indicative that a voice in your head is telling you to do exactly that.
That my friend, is your gut and you would do well to listen to it.
I get it, you've already invested emotion into this chick and have got nothing in return. IOW, you haven't fvcked her yet. I know how much this sucks. But stop wasting your time, and instead give it to someone who is actually into you.
That my friend, is your gut and you would do well to listen to it.
I get it, you've already invested emotion into this chick and have got nothing in return. IOW, you haven't fvcked her yet. I know how much this sucks. But stop wasting your time, and instead give it to someone who is actually into you.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
Oke, first of all I know that Cancers are trying not to hurt anyone and most of the time they are little snowflakes with the people around them, but in this particular case this cancer girl hurt me really bad and her only way out in this case is a straigh
So i know this is a hot topic as always, the libra man. Let me just begin this by saying i am a cancer woman, Taurus moon, Pisces rising, and Gemini Venus. He is a libra sun, Gemini moon, Capricorn rising, and Leo Venus. We have been together for about a
Hi, I’m a cancer woman whose has been involved with a Scorpio man for a long time, I accidentally hurt his feelings when I told him I couldn’t come out one night , and he felt I rejected him, and he iced me out for over 3 years , barely talking to me, we
Hello I’m not sure if anyone can help me with this one but here goes nothing. I’m an Aquarius woman who was dating a cancer woman. When we first met everything was perfect but about after a month & a half things went down hill.. she became very distant an
i am in a relationship with a cancer woman and she is super sensitive to me (the slightest thing that i say/do hurts her even if i was just being honest with her). i am just worried right now that she might blame her sensitivity to me on me --- like she m
My Cancer lady whom I previously wrote about finally texted me. After months. She moved out and hasn't spoken to me in many months. I have tried everything but to no avail.
We were together for years.
Finally tonight she texted me one word. "Hi"
I wa
Hello, I'm a cancer woman married to an aquarius man. I know we're not supposed to be a good match but I didn't want to believe it at first. Now I'm having sexual issues with my husband and I think it will only get worst.
At the beginning when he starte
Life is a story and to often the cancer woman is typecasted into two roles ...
the first one is the princess/victim
the princess/victim- waits for her prince patiently with the promise of happily ever after in real life the princess just wants to b
she doesn't respond to text messages (she just reads them) so i don't know what her response is to my message. Recently she answers my phone call but doesn't speak just listens. as a scorpio i feel via my intuition that i can have a proper conversation wi
i noticed about my cancer that when i am not able to do something that she wanted me to do at the time that she wanted me to do it, she feels insecure (i think what is going on in her mind is that i don't love her) and acts immaturely/act like a kid. but
Most of you probably remember my screen name from a few months ago when I shared my story of the sweetheart Cancer woman that I basically chased off after she cleaned my house.
Well, what was missing from that story is that prior to her coming into my
I (Cancer woman) met a new Taurus man and I gave him my phone number, telling him to get a hold of me if he ever wanted to get together. He texted me that same day when I didn't expect to hear from him for a bit.
We've texted and Snapchatted back and f
Hey all.
I have just broken up with a lovely Capricorn guy. I ended it after four months and miss him terribly but I wasn't sure if it had a future and he hasn't exactly come rushing back. I posted about all this in another thread.
Anyway...I'm 38 and
Hello All.
First time poster. Nervous.
I'm a Cancer girl who broke up with my Cap boyfriend of just four months because I am depressed about being out of work and hated having him around to witness it. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I didn't want to
Who don't like Scorpio men? I personally think that this pairing is overrated.
Is your cancer sending you confusing signals
Is your cancer woman refusing to open up to you
Has your cancer man gone cold and silent...
Well fuck off.. This isnt the support group for you... That's down the hall... I think it's called the "
I'm a cancer woman myself, but I'm not sure I can pinpoint the exact things that make me fall for someone. When I fell in love with my ex I fell in love cause I felt reassured that she wouldn't leave and I felt safe with her, but then she still left.. Now
This question is for all who have either dated a cancer woman or know one.
I'm dating this Cancer Girl, 4th Juy born. We been going out and having fun. We also enjoy staying indoors and have great physical chemistry. But there 2 very peculiar behaviors;
First of all, if your advice is to leave her and find someone better please don't bother responding to this thread, I have no intention to do that.
Long story short, I fond her in a very difficult period of her life, her ex dumped her in order to get into a relationship with one of her 'best friends' (that happened to be an ex I've dumped), and then the two idiots made her their biitch by exploiting her emotional nature. She (my ex) gave him the permission to play her, and the idiot just played her up every time he was around. It was just painful to watch, because i knew that inside she is one of the most caring and intelligent girls I ever saw but she was just blinded by her devotion and lack of confidence. I was really pissed of because I knew from experience that my ex was a total biitch, this was the reason I've dumped her in the first place, so I decided to take action.
But first of all, how do I know all that stuff? Well I randomly met her at an event and I found her cute, so I stared to pay attention to her. I can easily read this type of situations (I got crazy levels of emotional intelligence at my psychological tests and I had some similar past experiences), but most of the time I chose to stay away from drama because I have better things to focus on. But this was not the case, I liked her and thought she doesn't deserve that.
With that being said, I started to build my own network of friends around her, talking with as many people she got in contact with and gaining their respect. I know how to do this because I studied some sociology, and by being an ENFJ as personality type it is one of my natural qualities. After 2 months of carefully building up a status in her environment, I managed to outshadow her ex in his own group and attract most of his followers (the dude have a lot of money and confidence, but as I mentioned he is a total jerk, so was surrounded by a lot of betas) by being considerate to them. Also the dude now fears me because he have no idea who I am other than his girl's ex and i just made all his money and fame worthless.
The thing is that I was nice to her, and I tried to care for her as much as I could, because I realized that she needs love and she likes me, but she is really insecure. She tried many times to make me jealous with other guys and played a lot of games with me, I was able too see trough all of them and I just acted like I fall for them even if some of them were plain rude and hurt me (I was able to bounce back after a bottle of wine tho) and I saw how each day she was more and more confident about herself and she was smiling more. I confessed my love to her a few days ago and she seemed the most happy person on earth even that she avoided to tell me the same thing back she started to spend a lot more time with me.
The thing is that as an Aries sun and Moon I tend to be shameless when it comes to the ones I love, so for me is natural to be touchy and all that so recently, after a day spend together at the collage, she just messaged me and told me that I was plain rude and I put her in a shameful position in front of her friends, I took her for granted and she want to stop talking to me for a while. I just apologized and tried to talk to her about it but she just ignore my messages.
Right now I really don't know what to do because I have 2 possible options:
1. She is trying to make me her emotional punching bag --- a tendency of immature and insecure girls that gain a lot of attention from one guy. So in this case if I stay and put up with her craap I will end up seeing her getting back to her ex that now wants her back in order to make me look like a fool. If this is the case I can easily put some distance between us, by starting to talk with other girls (I didn't even think about it all this time because I felt that it would hurt her). Is the last thing I want to do, but I will do it with no remorse if I have to.
2. She is loyal but pissed off --- in this case I just have to give her space and check the waters from time to time until she is ok. This is the thing I would like to do right now to be honest but if for some reason it is the case 1 I will be fcked up beyond any imagination.
Can I trust a Cancer tho? I did my best and I realize that I'm not perfect, but I need her but at the same time I don't want to be no ones fool, because I might lose her if I give up my pride and show weakness.
Any advice is welcomed, this is an anonymous forum so I feel free to be 100% honest here about this situation.