Question for cancers.

Hello everyone. Scorpio girl here. I am new to this board. Would appreciate the feedback from all you cancers.

My question is do you find it hard to stay friend if you have strong feelings for someone or would you rather think it in a —something is better than nothing?? sort of way? Would you want to stay in touch with that special person even when things are not working the way you want to or when the other person does not reciprocate your feeling s and treat you like a friend ?

This cancer guy proposed me several times but I am not ready for this. I really like talking to him but he keeps me reminding of the same issue and the love he has for me, when I see him just like a friend. Sometimes when I get mad, he says things like " we are friend for life and friends don't take offense".

Now I haven't heard him since last two months. I really like talking to him but looks like he can't see me as a friend. I am wondering what could be his next step. Would he accept me as a friend or keep in touch or would he get bitter about this whole thing and would not want to be in touch with me anymore? I know that he is not dating anyone until now.

I have several issues in my life due to which I can't get into relationship right now. Would it be a good idea to trust him and tell him about it? I am not good at trusting people and I avoid talking and getting personal with others. I wonder if he is going to keep all those things to himself even if we don't end up like a friend.

Would appreciate feedback from iwin32, Zenbear and waterboy Cancepio.

I have a lot of Aries and fire in my chart. I am a true Scorpio/Aries combo.

Posted by sanoritaaaa
This cancer guy proposed me several times but I am not ready for this. I really like talking to him but he keeps me reminding of the same issue and the love he has for me, when I see him just like a friend. Sometimes when I get mad, he says things like " we are friend for life and friends don't take offense".

Now I haven't heard him since last two months. I really like talking to him but looks like he can't see me as a friend. I am wondering what could be his next step. Would he accept me as a friend or keep in touch or would he get bitter about this whole thing and would not want to be in touch with me anymore? I know that he is not dating anyone until now.

I have several issues in my life due to which I can't get into relationship right now. Would it be a good idea to trust him and tell him about it? I am not good at trusting people and I avoid talking and getting personal with others. I wonder if he is going to keep all those things to himself even if we don't end up like a friend.

Would appreciate feedback from iwin32, Zenbear and waterboy Cancepio.

I have a lot of Aries and fire in my chart. I am a true Scorpio/Aries combo.

I'm flattered that you would ask for me by name, but I'm afraid this time I can't offer much.

You may have read my thread "Get that dirt off ya shoulda" and if so, you know that I'm facing this same dilemma from the Cancer side.

I really do love my Scorpio. She's an amazing woman whom I trust completely. As it stands now, though, with her dating my friend whom I introduced her to at my birthday party two weeks ago, I can't be around either of them. It's just too painful, and I don't know when or if I'll ever be fully over it and able to carry on our friendship. I sincerely hope so, and I'm trying my hardest to overcome my emotions, but it's just so damn hard.

As for your situation, you most definitely need to talk about it with each other earnestly face-to-face. Leave things ambiguous as they are and all the pain, confusion and frustration will fester and grow like a, well, cancer, and your friendship will be ruined. Start the conversation by stating that you need this to be kept between the two of you, and when you get his promise you can tell him all your concerns. Cancers (most, anyway) are good listeners, and trustworthy enough to tell secrets to.

In short, I don't know.

same situation happened with me recently with a sagi girl and i am not on talking terms with her since.and i feel happy that i idnt becum a "friend" to her coz that will just hurt more. in the past i tried to stay friends with my gemini ex but it just hurt me a lot and i exhibited the same behaviour of that cancer man of urs. let me tell u, he's absolutely devastated ryt now and if he was seriously into u then he still thinks about u and will never accept friendship. i will never accept it too...i would move on1 there will be someone for him who ll appreciate and love him for who he is truly and like all cancers,we are the best lovers! even if he dosent u shud b the smart one and end it for his sake because it ll only hurt him in the long term and u wont get a gud friend either! poor guy! ;( ur loss! :p

Thank you all especially Waterboy Cancepio, Crabmoon and Krebbsmann for your feedback and valuable advice. You helped me in getting an idea what could be on his mind and now I can make a move after taking all your answers under consideration. I am about to let him go.