Firstly, sorry for the long message but it's a lot to distill into one post. I have been dating a cancer (cap moon and aries rising; I'm a pisces with cancer moon and sag rising) for about 10 months now and could really use some advice as he is becoming increasingly difficult to read and often hot and cold. We started dating about a month and a half after his last relationship ended (he had been with her for around 3 or 4 years when he ended it). I think initially, he was just looking for something casual with someone, and didn't expect to find himself in a serious relationship so soon. But within a few months of dating we were completely enamored and even met each other??s families (we live in NYC but are both from the same state). He is usually so caring and attentive, going out of his way to show that he cares, but recently, he has become more and more distant, even as the relationship continues to evolve in a forward direction. We have opposing issues as a result of past experiences which hasn't helped (I have trust issues while he immediately becomes defensive whenever I call into question any behavior that raises red flags for me). Nor has the fact that he has admitted to having a dependency on alcohol which often alters his personality, though he has said he is trying to have better control over his drinking. We are also both going through a lot right now. My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and my childhood home was nearly destroyed in a fire, while his grandmother hasn't been doing well (she was his primary caregiver growing up as his mother left when he was a baby and his dad wasn't there as a father figure for much of his childhood) and they are now selling the house he grew up in. He is also struggling with where he is headed career wise, because he was in a band that recently broke up and doesn't have the same connection to playing music as he once did (which was something he shared with his ex as she is also a musician and they have many of the same musician friends).
