Should I Invest My All Into This Guy

So very recently (as in within the last two years I’ve been interested in getting in seeking a relationship with a guy). Generally this is all fine and dandy, but the issue is I’ve not really had an experience dating anyone. So basically I’ve dated around and have discovered I get along with every sign that’s not a fire sign. However, I seem to attract a steady flow of cancer men my way. It’s usually nice, we’re both pretty chill and they usually get my humor, but they do a few things that bother. One is their unwillingness to reach out. If it’s a cancer man I swear I have to reach out or we’d just never talk. Another thing that I pick up on is what I perceive as their shallowness. They really seem to be interested in physical beauty and not much else (and it’s more so the opposite for me). Another issue that I run into is their unlikelihood to show any emotions. It’s very difficult to get the emotions from someone who doesn't get emotional or had a very strong poker face (this by far is my biggest pet peeve for them), and sometimes I get a lack of empathy from Cancers, as in a lot of the ones I meet seem to be a little egocentric (or at the very least lack empathy). Currently I am seeing a Cancer guy and we’ve been talking to each other for a few months now, and we met up a few times (only for a good time), but every time we try to meet up for something else he seems to make up these really poor excuses. Even though I tell him it’s ok to tell me he changed his mind he insists on lying to my face. (For Example on time I cleared my entire schedule just so we could have a romantic weekend together in the city, and be ended up making an excuse for some last minute work and that he couldn’t make it). He’s done this several times. Normally he’d be forgotten but we connect on a mental and emotional level which is hard for me to find with men. And he gets my humor and is not judgements like a lot of other people my age. He is literally a breath of fresh air when we do talk but it’s few and far between. We’ve went in like this for 9 months now and I want to know should I invest more of my time into him? Is her even interested in me? Should I continue to wait for a guy who may never come (I don’t exactly have a line of suitors out there waiting for me)?

Any insight would be most helpful!

Investing more time into a liar? 🤔 No damn way! THAT would be enough for me to care less about the emotional and mental "connection". A dishonest person is a no-no.

I read your title only and the answer is always no.

I didn't read anything but the title too....hell to the fucking no...wtf?!

First things first, if the needing him to text first or reach out first to you thing is something that you place a lot of value in for yourself, Cancer men are not the way to go for you. The majority of them, just are terrible at talking and texting. Great in person, but it's almost like the phone is such a taxing thing to deal with.

The "shallowness" they project is usually just their opening lines. Something they have probably picked up and realized worked for the majority of women they have dated/approached. Takes more than being pretty to actually get them to fall for you. Takes A LOT more. But they know how to "play the game" when telling most women initially what they want to hear. This same type of behavior will come out initially in other ways as well. It can be about looks, but it can also be talking about a future with the girl in the first few months and then going cold turkey.

The lack of showing emotions, again you won't see anything past surface level for a long time. I mean years. They will pokerface the shit out of you, until they actually say they want a committed relationship with you, And even then, you may have to wait until they actually say they love you in order to do so.

The flakiness. Again, something you will have to decide if you are okay with. Some of these fucks, are hurt is some fashion in the past, that they get scared or spooked somehow, and think by distancing themselves from time to time, it will keep them "safe". I watched someone close to me, deal with a Cancer that literally did this shit to her for 7 years. They would go on vacations and have a great time, and BAM no talking for weeks. But in the case of living together, most won't do this. But they won't live with someone unless they are ready to get married to that person, so this doesn't really show. But the back and forth, can last for years if allowed. They like to "challenge" or "play games" in the sense of testing a person's loyalty and resilience.

It's annoying, and can test your patience to the ends of the Earth. You just have to determine if you want to ride through hell, to get to the place you want to be. They are the "high risk, high reward" types. Not for the faint of hearts. lol

You should match his investment in you.

If he’s being a flake and making excuses to skip the hangouts you should keep yourself open to what else is out there.

There are plenty of men who would make you a priority. Don’t settle for a subpar connection just cause there’s nothing else on the horizon atm.

Meet people especially men where they're at.

No more, no less

Posted by LadyNeptune

You should match his investment in you.

If he’s being a flake and making excuses to skip the hangouts you should keep yourself open to what else is out there.

There are plenty of men who would make you a priority. Don’t settle for a subpar connection just cause there’s nothing else on the horizon atm.

You're right sometimes the best choice of action is for us to be alone 😭