Sigh..

I'm sure anyone who has been in a relationship with a cancer man will understand this. Well, I'm technically not in a relationship with this guy, not at all. We've been talking over the comp. for a while and he gives me amazing conversation, we know each other through mutual friends, but have never actually met up. We speak often though- well, used to. So I made the mistake, after one of our many deep convos, of giving him my number. I told him to contact me so I won't have to always catch him online. this was about a month ago and I still haven't gotten a call. Before and After I gave him my number we would still speak online.. Until one day he just stopped contacting me online. I haven't heard from him in weeks and I'm kind of confused. Our "relationship" was strictly platonic.. Even though I am secretly infatuated with him, but I think I sort of scared him off by giving him my number. I know how moody cancers are so I havent contacted him, but im starting to wonder whether or not I should approach him, I want so bad to move foward with him, but it seems like we're at a standstill, and I don't want to be too foward because I know how s l o w they are. And to make it worse, he shows no interest in actually forming a relationship, anytime I compliment him or anything, he sort of withdrawls but never really expands on it. I guess what I really want to know is.. What are some ways these guys respond to a female making advances towards them? If they are/ or aren't interested, how do they respond? Is it generally in their character to be the knight in shinning aromor one minute and play the disappering act the next? Anyone been in a relationship with a cancer man or been through something similar w| one? Comments and Opinions are welcome.

Thanks for reading.
Capricorn.

Posted by Cusp Of Magic
It sounds like he's already in a relationship with someone else. If he was interested he defiantly would have called you the minute you gave him your number. When we like you we want to talk and see you all the time.

But you see, there was a moment where he WOULD want to talk to me all the time. And make arrangements to see me.. Etc. But its like he all of a sudden just disappered. Guess your right. He isn't interested.

Posted by BigTeddyBear
Maybe he is just as nervous as you are. Ever think about that?

I'm getting that vibe too from reading it

Why would you ask a guy for his number? lol....Let them ask you.

this is so similar to my recent experience...if you read some of my cancer posts


really really liked him. liked talking to him bla bla, as an aries i told him i liked him (as im pretty straight forward) he said he liked me a lot too. we exchanged numbers but hes never really been a texter or ever called me. we went out for a drink before our exams and he said we should do it again, and he invited me to his party next month. but he hasnt been in contact like you would expect someone to be when they like you. anyways he is kinda shy n has only had one proper gf, duno if thats why he acts like he does. maybe hes indirect or maybe he just doesnt like me. but as an impatient aries iv already moved on. too much hardwork playing the chasing/guessing game

^^ Yeah, that too some are indirect and some aren't. All depends. But I guess either way you don't want to lose any sleep over it.

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
He didn't ask for the number? So you just gave it to him and said call me? What did he say that he will call? Did you say anything before you giving your number? Try and remb your convos around that time what is it as usual or slight change...
It's odd he never contact you after, even if he was nervous to call fair enough but that don't mean he is nervous to text you, I mean he talked by typing on net so all he gotta do is type on his phone...
If he was interested he would still be talking to you...

No, he didn't ask. But I gave it to him, because we'd got cut off from a good convo.. So I said.. Hey just text me.. And he told me he didn't have text but that he would call. And he didn't. I can understand him not being interested. Bur its not like I'd said to him .. "Hey I like you.. etc." I didn't even really give the impression that I liked him.

Agree with Cusp sounds like he has a gf, sometimes it's exciting to be exploring someone else when there is no intention of going any further than talking. He probably felt safe talking through the net but once you expected it to go to mobiles where he can more easily be caught then why risk it?

@ cleo

You know in Steve Harvey book he explains that when a guy hasn't got himself settled in a good career and comfortable with their lives, because being a provider is what is expected of them they aren't ready for a relationship. But they are still willing to play around, so if they aren't constantly wanting to be with you maybe they aren't ready because there is still work to be done!