Sigh.. I've got it bad for a scorpio

I'm feeling very confused about a certain scorpio guy I like and have posted about before. I hope someone will be able to help provide me with some answers!

We've dated in the past, and were really into one another, but things didn't work out. I think we took things too fast and we both got quite scared of getting hurt as we were both fresh out of broken long-term relationships.

Some time had passed and we got back in contact. We started texting again on a regular basis and we met up for drinks one day. We both agreed we had an awesome time, and that we should do it again. He was suggesting it more than me, and even when we got home he text me and told me how good it was to see me again and that we should do it again.

We texted a few days after our 'date' just general chat but nothing was mentioned about meeting up again, although he was being really friendly like he always is. I felt like I was initiating most texts, so I held back to see if he will ask me out or make effort. All my friends said I should let him pursue me, and let him ask me out so I thought I'd see if he would

10 days passed and I was ready to forget about him when I finally heard from him, he text asking how I was and if everything was ok?

(almost as if he noticed I had stopped reaching out to him) I replied really friendly, told him I had been really busy with work etc, and chatted a bit and asked how he was... He then didn't reply!

Now, I am really confused, I had been waiting for him to initiate and when he finally did (meaning he was actually interested) he didn't follow through conversation. So, is he playing games? Did he not like that I stopped contacting for 10 days and is doing the same to me? (I didn't ignore him at all, just didn't initiate anything)
Or is he just mega busy and forgotten to get back to me? (doubtful, its now been a week since I replied)

Who starts a conversation and then doesn't reply? It doesn't make sense to me! He obviously wanted to hear from me, but then didn't want to carry on conversation?

I've contemplated reaching out again, asking if he's ok and how his weekend was. But then I don't want to look like a 'psycho girl' for texting twice. Its almost like I should just take a hint that hes not interested as he hasn't replied. But he was the one to reach out! I'm so confused!

What do you guys make of this? I posted in the scorpio thread, but wondering what you fellow crabs think, as you probably understand the intense connecti

Keep analyzing the guy. You should use Google for further information in order to reveal the answer behind all that fuss. Check out his natal chart as well.

Awww poor Crabby, this Scorp really got under your skin.

At this point I think you should ask yourself this; when you see the happy healthy relationships around you; does this guy remind you of the men in those relationships?
Do these guys initiate contact, stop, disappear for a few days to a few weeks then reappear asking if they are okay?
Are the women ever in doubt of the interests coming from their men?

Does this guy fit that mold?
If he doesn't then it's time to move on. As hard as it is.

I think at this point you should stop and focus on you and your other goals.
Let him chase you. If he wants to start a relationship with you, let him ask for one.
If he doesn't chase, he's not interested.

give good head

Go with CC on this. I got nervous reading your post. You are over thinking!

I love Scorpio men. They write the best poetry.
*sigh*

Cancerrose, you're definitely over analyzing. YOU started the "don't want to appear too desperate" stuff and avoided him. He probably is mirroring you by avoiding back. Knock that shit off! It's silly and immature. If you like him, keep it moving forward. If he's not interested you'll find out pretty fast as Scorpios won't waste time on people they don't give a flying fuck about. He SAID he wanted to go out again, he SAID he had a good time....that's all you need to know in a nutshell. HE LIKES YOU!

Buuut I was the last one to message, and that was a week ago. The ball is in his court! He reached out, asked how I was and then I replied and then asked how he was and he dind't respond.

So I didn't want to double text and appear pathetic...

But at the same time, I do just want to contact him cos I like him.

And when he said he wanted to go out again and that he had a good time was weeks ago now...

I want to be the mysterious, sexy, strong woman that doesn't go chasing after a man. I fear it will put him off if I message (I know I'm overanalysing - its what I do!)

Posted by Reincarnation
Strong woman?

Tell me. What does that mean?

One that doesn't go chasing after a man in a 'desperate' way

Just to help you bring clarity: You and he are not dating.

At this point you are just friends/acquaintances.
No pressure, no need to worry what he thinks of you.
Strong women make decisions and actually initiate a text or two.

So it's okay to contact him asking how his week is going.
I do this all the time with my male friends/acquaintances.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Just to help you bring clarity: You and he are not dating.

At this point you are just friends/acquaintances.
No pressure, no need to worry what he thinks of you.
Strong women make decisions and actually initiate a text or two.

So it's okay to contact him asking how his week is going.
I do this all the time with my male friends/acquaintances.

Even if I was the last one to message and he didn't respond?

To everyone except cancerrose:
Is it wrong for her to flat out ask him wth is going on?

Posted by kim30
To everyone except cancerrose:
Is it wrong for her to flat out ask him wth is going on?

Nope definitely NOT doing that!

I'm struggling to decide whether I should just ask how he is, let alone that.. no no no!

Posted by Reincarnation
Well - he is not chasing you. That's not good.

Scorpions chase hard.

+100

you got it. they must hide under a rock and pounce or something. lol

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by kim30
To everyone except cancerrose:
Is it wrong for her to flat out ask him wth is going on?

Nope definitely NOT doing that!

I'm struggling to decide whether I should just ask how he is, let alone that.. no no no!

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ROFL you were suppose to stop reading at the EXCEPT CANCERROSE part!

Posted by cancerrose

Posted by kim30
To everyone except cancerrose:
Is it wrong for her to flat out ask him wth is going on?

Nope definitely NOT doing that!

I'm struggling to decide whether I should just ask how he is, let alone that.. no no no!

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Why do you think you don't hear from him?
Do you really need him to tell you?

Argh some people tell me not to contact him, other tell me that I should

I don't know what to do!

My head tells me not to, my heart tells me just do it :/

@cancerrose well I think you need to follow & listen to your heart on what you think is best to do. Don't go by your feelings to make an important decision. If your heart & mind tells you he's not worth it, then don't waste your time. You know how you wanna be treated better than us. If his actions show he don't give a damn, then why should you. So go do what's best for you. Its your relationship or whatever not ours ok

if you're that uncomfortable contacting him either its because you've played it up too much or you're ignoring your instincts.
which is it, CR?

Posted by kim30
if you're that uncomfortable contacting him either its because you've played it up too much or you're ignoring your instincts.
which is it, CR?

Well if someone had ignored a message you had sent them, would you be so willing to message again?
I guess my instincts are telling me dont go chasing after him, he didnt reply to your last message

But then another part of me thinks, well he did reach out originally so he did initiate something! But its just strange he hasnt responded if he was the one reaching out. Which is why i feel i should reach out!

Make sense? Im posting here to see what people would do in my position, bearing in mind i dont want to come across as desperate

No, I really wouldn't. If I'm into a guy, I'm bold and don't pull back just to see what happens or where I stand.
I think pu**yfooting around is the worst thing to do during a budding relationship. I hate when men do it so I try not to be a hypocrite.

The sad part is you're appearing very desperate here on this thread. I can practically feel the frantic on you! You're contradicting yourself. Your heart says to contact him but then you say your instincts are telling you not to chase him. I thought heart and instinct went hand in hand. The brain is the logical analytical part, not the heart or the instincts.

At the beginning of your thread you said you didn't respond to him right away so you wouldn't appear desperate and when you finally did contact him you gave him the "I was busy" excuse. Is it any surprise that he's possibly doing the same thing back? He put himself out there, exposed how much he enjoyed your company and wants to do it again and you let it slide and basically suggested that you were so busy you forgot all about him (thinking from his perspective) and oops, couldn't be bothered with replying. That could make a man feel not so important and not so wanted! It would make you feel that way if the situation was reversed. If Crabs are intuitive enough to figure out when someone is lying and giving us a BS excuse then you can bet a Scorpion will be able to do that just as well.

STOP worrying what everyone else is telling you to do or not do, STOP the not wanting to appear any way at all and just go with your heart. If your appearance is more important than getting to know this guy you like then you're not worthy of his attention.

Posted by Reincarnation
Well - he is not chasing you. That's not good.

Scorpions chase hard.

Well it's good if he's not right for her.
Something she has to come to terms with.

Thank you, MoonArtist.
Exactly why I'm a big fan of getting to the point with a man instead of all the confusion.

Kim, I really hate game playing in relationships. It's one thing to have misunderstandings and hurt feelings but with some work it can be straightened out. Attempting to hide this, withhold that, dodge this, dodge that is just making for more confusion. It's a waste of time and energy. Relationships take enough work as it is, so why make them even more complicated?

Posted by MoonArtist
The sad part is you're appearing very desperate here on this thread. I can practically feel the frantic on you! You're contradicting yourself. Your heart says to contact him but then you say your instincts are telling you not to chase him. I thought heart and instinct went hand in hand. The brain is the logical analytical part, not the heart or the instincts.

At the beginning of your thread you said you didn't respond to him right away so you wouldn't appear desperate and when you finally did contact him you gave him the "I was busy" excuse. Is it any surprise that he's possibly doing the same thing back? He put himself out there, exposed how much he enjoyed your company and wants to do it again and you let it slide and basically suggested that you were so busy you forgot all about him (thinking from his perspective) and oops, couldn't be bothered with replying. That could make a man feel not so important and not so wanted! It would make you feel that way if the situation was reversed. If Crabs are intuitive enough to figure out when someone is lying and giving us a BS excuse then you can bet a Scorpion will be able to do that just as well.

STOP worrying what everyone else is telling you to do or not do, STOP the not wanting to appear any way at all and just go with your heart. If your appearance is more important than getting to know this guy you like then you're not worthy of his attention.

Thank you moonartist for your response, I appreciate what you are saying but perhaps I explained things wrong or maybe you interpreted things in the wrong way

Firstly I would like to say english isn't my first language, so I thought your instincts was the same as your head ie. your logical side/gut feeling! woops!

I probably appear desperate because I have little experience on dating and men, I was in a very long relationship with the same guy since I was young, and now I am older, I am thrown into the dating scene, and I'm not the kind of girl to sleep around, or to date around even. Its very rare that I like a guy, so when I do like a guy I just do not know what is the best way to act. Everyone says you should play hard to get, or not to show you like the guy more then he likes you etc.etc. I live in a big city so dating is tough! I hate playing games, but sometimes I feel like the guy I like is either not interested or is playing games so

I have to do it too!

May I correct you when you say he put himself out there and I ignored? When he told me he enjoyed our meeting and would like to do again, I agreed, and then continued conversation. We were in contact for a few days but he never mentioned another meeting. I felt like I was initiating most mesages so I held back a bit to see if he would initiate something. But he didn't. Not until 10 days later, and when he did I replied very friendly, told him I had been busy which was the truth (not as a reason why I was holding back, just tellin him what I had been up to) and then asked how he was. Which he then chose to ignore.

So you can see why I am sceptical about reaching out as the ball is in his court really. Its been over a week now though, and its got to a point where I don't think he can be all that interested otherwise he would have reached out, even if he was annoyed/playing games.

But another part of me thinks (and a small part) that perhaps he did think I was holding back and so is mirroring me...and that maybe I should reach out.

But if he ignores it AGAIN.. so two messages in a row he will ignore from me, I will feel very foolish. Plus I will look like a psycho girl, for chasing him. Everyone says a woman shouldn't chase a man, especially double texting!