so how are we supposed to know?

So I've been meeting a lot of people who are in relationships with cancers lately, and all of us have the same problem. We can't read your minds. You don't tell us anything. You get moody and withdrawal for what seems like no reason.

How the heck are we supposed to know what's going on? How do we not take it personally? How are we supposed to tell how you feel if you never let us in on it—?

Ah yes.....thats a tough one, we cancer's do have a soft spot 🙂. We like to be cuddled and loved (at least I do), but sometimes when I'm ticked I like to be alone and brood - at that point we should be left alone for a while. The brooding passes in a while and then we're back to our relative jovial self....

Family, stability and long-lasting relationship's important, so we've gotta feel that's in the air or else we scuttle.

It's extremely hard for me to tell my feelings to anyone, it's tied to my insecurity and fear of rejection...or something of that sort..needless to say, I tend to destroy relationships because of fear of some sort of rejection......

Read up more on your specific cancer type....

If you care, you should be able to tell.

well i can understand why it's hard for you guys, but i am a fun loving leo who wears her heart on her sleeve!!! it's making me very sad that my cancer can't reciprocate, and it makes me feel like he's keeping me around until something better comes along. last week i was bummed all week because he withdrew, and when we finally went out on saturday i had an emotional outburst and accused him of not caring....i don't like acting that way and i am embarrassed by it now, but everything needed to come out. he came over last night and we cuddled and watched a movie, but now because of my little scene i am more worried that he thinks i am a drama queen, or psycho or something.....i just don't know how to cope!

I could take an outburst once in a while, that shows that you care. I probably wouldn't react well at first, but it would mean something to me. Cuddles would follow, so the course of actions seems right so far.

My mom is a leo and she KNOOOOOWS when something is bothering me. I don't open up quickly either, so she has to ask me several times what's wrong before I start telling her my issues.. At first I don't want her interfering, but I know she only wants me to be happy and without sorrow! So I think your cancer-man will probably understand what he is putting you through, but he just can't help it..

ok, but how do i know not to take it personally? how do i know that it's not a sign that he is on his way out? how do i know that he's happy and content? especially after my outburst, i am very insecure.

Off the subject, mr.crabby, you are ADORABLE! Love the pics.

Back on the subject:
"I could take an outburst once in a while, that shows that you care. I probably wouldn't react well at first, but it would mean something to me. Cuddles would follow, so the course of actions seems right so far"

I know EXACTLY what you mean. It almost as though (after an outburst) I say to myself "WWWHOAH". Then it becomes more of "ahhh, they really DO care". I know, it's strange...

The cuddles to follow...priceless.

I KNOW!! And some think we aren't cute. The crazies...

We have similar planets, and the moon. You're yummy.

well aside from a very quick email letting me know how disgusting a forward i sent him was yesterday, i haven't heard from him since sunday. this sin't cute to me. i'm at my wits end trying to figure this guy out. i think fatre seven months you should be able to reveal something in the way you feel.

I don't think i understand.

I'm sorry, I am ranting because I am afraid he has lost interest in me. It really appears this way, even though this is how he's been through the entire relationship.

mr. crabby, what is your rising sign, etc.? I'm curious.

You're not ranting, sunniegirl. I'm not sure if there's anything worse than feeling unsure in a relationship that you really want to work.

Damn cancer men...why cant they just be more open about their feelings..he he he

I looked at your page a bit too quickly, i'm actually a virgo moon and rising crab. I'm also a metal cock, but most people just say rooster.

Taurus makes everything beautiful, it seems.

so after a week of barely giving me any attention, to the point where i thought he was leaving me, he comes over last night and stays really late, watching tv, cuddling and talking. then i come to work to an email from him that says "have a great day". i really don't get it at all.

Rest assured that you probably never will get it. It's a complete mystery with these water signs. UGH. Just try your best not to take it personally.