texting him (Page 2)

Posted by Lyse
OMG. You poor girl.
First off be careful on dxp okay, because alot of the people on here are 40+ years old married, or divorced or separated. A lot of them are old school if you know what I mean.lol.

That being said, I’ve dated crabs and YES they are FLIRTS, but only when they know the other person is interested. They don’t take kindly to rejection. They are more of the tread softly type until they know you like them back, then it’s “game on”. So in your case, I’d say flirting is fair game.
HOWEVER we don’t know all the facts. Such as…
How long you knew him before sleeping with him?
The direction of the relationship? Were their talks of a future together?
When you are together does he take you out, or are you his couch potato where he cops a few free feels every now and then in hopes of getting lucky?
All of these aspects are important because it will give a better insight on where his head might be in terms of the two of you as a whole, since your obsessing use all the facts girl.lol.

Honestly when I first read it I laughed as I did find it a little corny. It seemed like you wanted to make conversation because you miss him and since you didn’t know what to say, you tried too hard. If that makes sense. If your relationship is still pretty casual and there have been no declarations of feelings for one another recently then I would’ve kept it simple like “I miss you.” or “Hope all is well. I was just thinking about you.”

Posted by Shaniajam
Cancer men don't like confrontation. This wasn't argument but a direct way for him to express his feelings and they're not good at it. Next time... Wait for him to text and please stay busy with yourself. They have this way to draw you in leave you breathless then you chase and then they leave. Let him lead. When he reaches out then you know he wants affection. If he doesn't don't second guess it. Heck date around you're not in a "relationship" yet.

THE END.

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Posted by Lyse
Holding out the goodies with Cancers, yea it works i'll admit lol. But only if he knows you like him. I haven't known them to chase women that they geniunely feels has no interest, that seems more like a Scorpio, Sagg or Aries thing; those three cant take no for an answer, and they welcome the challenge. lol They enjoy making the woman that told them "no" for years, graval once they've finally won her affection. Lucky for you Cancers just need the green light and they go.

So they're not picky? Any woman can have at them?

Seriously I don't know what kind of crab men you date. The ones I know are very very masculine

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Posted by Shaniajam
Cancer men don't like confrontation. This wasn't argument but a direct way for him to express his feelings and they're not good at it. Next time... Wait for him to text and please stay busy with yourself. They have this way to draw you in leave you breathless then you chase and then they leave. Let him lead. When he reaches out then you know he wants affection. If he doesn't don't second guess it. Heck date around you're not in a "relationship" yet.

THE END.

Aha I see....but its OK maybe he doesn't need to respond. He read it..smiled and thats it..

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Posted by Shaniajam
They like hard to get but once they get it then They're gone,,. Girl keep busy and date around.. Trust me from experience they will drive you insane thinking about them.... I've learned to let go and just stay busy do me and if it happens then it does. Why swear it? You are the prize don't forget that.

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Posted by Lyse
Holding out the goodies with Cancers, yea it works i'll admit lol. But only if he knows you like him. I haven't known them to chase women that they geniunely feels has no interest, that seems more like a Scorpio, Sagg or Aries thing; those three cant take no for an answer, and they welcome the challenge. lol They enjoy making the woman that told them "no" for years, graval once they've finally won her affection. Lucky for you Cancers just need the green light and they go.

So they're not picky? Any woman can have at them?

Seriously I don't know what kind of crab men you date. The ones I know are very very masculine

Yes but he chose to sleep with me...therefore attraction is there!

Omg. You're hopeless!

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Posted by britneybabe26
Some people HerÄ™ are very mean..I'm asking for advice. I put myself out there for the first time....he usually responds now he didn't and I was wondering what A cancer male would think....they are suppose to love this kinda stuff

Ignore them. You didn't do anything wrong. Just wait for him to respond.

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by Shaniajam
They like hard to get but once they get it then They're gone,,. Girl keep busy and date around.. Trust me from experience they will drive you insane thinking about them.... I've learned to let go and just stay busy do me and if it happens then it does. Why swear it? You are the prize don't forget that.

Omg yes I like him so much....just don't know why he doesn't want to respond...maybe he thought I'm drunk texting him...god even more awkward

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Hey no one is perfect....so I'm a Gemini..I have a big mouth sometimes..but please don't scrutnize my question.

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Posted by maomao
Here is the thing.. if you only met 2 times, and yet you already went highly emotional over a text
This won't last long even you're in a relationship..

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Hey no one is perfect....so I'm a Gemini..I have a big mouth sometimes..but please don't scrutnize my question.

I'm not getting personal at it but honestly all this fuss over a simple text sent to a guy you're not even in a relationship with?

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Posted by Lyse
OMG. You poor girl.
First off be careful on dxp okay, because alot of the people on here are 40+ years old married, or divorced or separated. A lot of them are old school if you know what I mean.lol.

That being said, I’ve dated crabs and YES they are FLIRTS, but only when they know the other person is interested. They don’t take kindly to rejection. They are more of the tread softly type until they know you like them back, then it’s “game on”. So in your case, I’d say flirting is fair game.
HOWEVER we don’t know all the facts. Such as…
How long you knew him before sleeping with him?
The direction of the relationship? Were their talks of a future together?
When you are together does he take you out, or are you his couch potato where he cops a few free feels every now and then in hopes of getting lucky?
All of these aspects are important because it will give a better insight on where his head might be in terms of the two of you as a whole, since your obsessing use all the facts girl.lol.

Honestly when I first read it I laughed as I did find it a little corny. It seemed like you wanted to make conversation because you miss him and since you didn’t know what to say, you tried too hard. If that makes sense. If your relationship is still pretty casual and there have been no declarations of feelings for one another recently then I would’ve kept it simple like “I miss you.” or “Hope all is well. I was just thinking about you.”

No idiot it's not about old school it's about men and biology.

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Posted by Finbuff
Britney, it should have been a turn on to him, as a Cancer male. I would have liked it.
I go back to his seemingly laughing tone in your call with him last Thursday. I think this guy isn't taking you in the serious fashion you desire. JMO

Posted by Lyse
Also in what part of my comment did i say Cancer men aren't masculine.
what i SAID was...they wont chase or flirt with a girl they DONT think likes them.
How is that saying they aren't masculine?? It's more so saying they dont just go after anybody with a twat.
Next time read before you speak.

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Best Thread Ever. LOL w

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Hey no one is perfect....so I'm a Gemini..I have a big mouth sometimes..but please don't scrutnize my question.

Gemini? Oh this all makes sense. Look you should just move on now.

He'll never make you his girl

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Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by Lyse
Also in what part of my comment did i say Cancer men aren't masculine.
what i SAID was...they wont chase or flirt with a girl they DONT think likes them.
How is that saying they aren't masculine?? It's more so saying they dont just go after anybody with a twat.
Next time read before you speak.

I'm showing him I like him but I never really threw myself at him...honestly this was a first for me to text him that.. Maybe he's shocked

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Posted by Lyse
OMG. You poor girl.
First off be careful on dxp okay, because alot of the people on here are 40+ years old married, or divorced or separated. A lot of them are old school if you know what I mean.lol.

That being said, I’ve dated crabs and YES they are FLIRTS, but only when they know the other person is interested. They don’t take kindly to rejection. They are more of the tread softly type until they know you like them back, then it’s “game on”. So in your case, I’d say flirting is fair game.
HOWEVER we don’t know all the facts. Such as…
How long you knew him before sleeping with him?
The direction of the relationship? Were their talks of a future together?
When you are together does he take you out, or are you his couch potato where he cops a few free feels every now and then in hopes of getting lucky?
All of these aspects are important because it will give a better insight on where his head might be in terms of the two of you as a whole, since your obsessing use all the facts girl.lol.

Honestly when I first read it I laughed as I did find it a little corny. It seemed like you wanted to make conversation because you miss him and since you didn’t know what to say, you tried too hard. If that makes sense. If your relationship is still pretty casual and there have been no declarations of feelings for one another recently then I would’ve kept it simple like “I miss you.” or “Hope all is well. I was just thinking about you.”

No idiot it's not about old school it's about men and biology.

Bitch you dont know me so watch your fucking mouth when addressing me.

Firstly , yoUr first paragraph was somewhat insulting and now you are swearing??!!!!!! Would you really have said that if you were 'face to face' with BM? You need to wash your moUth out with bleach.. It's filthy!! You are a libra aren't you?! I'm beginning to think you libras have no self control with your filthy mouths!!

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Posted by Finbuff
Britney, it should have been a turn on to him, as a Cancer male. I would have liked it.
I go back to his seemingly laughing tone in your call with him last Thursday. I think this guy isn't taking you in the serious fashion you desire. JMO

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Posted by Joseline
maybe you turned him off

What Man would be turned off by that? It was flirty not dirty haha

cancer men aren't flirty.

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Posted by goligold
Trust me girl, I'm one of the few ladies in a good relationship with a cancer man..

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Hey no one is perfect....so I'm a Gemini..I have a big mouth sometimes..but please don't scrutnize my question.

I'm not getting personal at it but honestly all this fuss over a simple text sent to a guy you're not even in a relationship with?

Yeah, don't take it the negative way around but honestly,if you have to overanalyze to SUCH AN EXTENT over one text msg,it's really unhealthy. You need to have some control over your emotions. How do you think you'd arrive at a conclusion over an endless debate? What you are asking for is basically stereotyping people literally based on their zodiacs. Yes,people can be similar (NOT SAME) to a good extent based on their zodiac signs (which is why we have this forum here) but interests ,turn offs and ons are individualistic. I am a pisces.They say pisceans get turned on by a feet massage.I'll be asleep if a guy gives me a foot massage instead of pouncing on him. So it differs with people. More importantly, do you realize HOW MUCH ARE YOU GOING CRAZY ABOUT ONE TEXT? It's understandable when you feel something for someone and you go crazy but so much overanalyzing about ONE freaking text?And just because he didn't reply YET?He has a life. Please consider that. When my ex cancerian guy and I were together, he used to get turned on when we shared such texts but sometimes in realistic life people get screwed up with a busy day or illness or moodiness or whatever personal issue. GIVE HIM TIME TO BREATHE. If you freak out over one text,I really wonder how would you handle things when it gets tough. This is absolutely nothing. Life happens. Challenges happen. People get distant or they leave. My cancerian ex has been distant for over 3months now due to his personal career issues. We talk only twice thrice a week. Can I ask for general opinion? Yes.Can I go absolutely crazy about it? No. Can I make him talk to me? No.Can you make him instantly reply you? No. This is just a text message and he hasn't even replied any negative..

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Posted by Joseline
maybe you turned him off

What Man would be turned off by that? It was flirty not dirty haha

cancer men aren't flirty.

They can be

What going through his head??

Who knows. How long has it been since you texted that? Are you in an official relationship?

I'd just say, if it's not moving in the direction that you want, move on

It had been a couple of hours...no were not g/f b/f yet but we were intimate.

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Posted by Joseline
maybe you turned him off

What Man would be turned off by that? It was flirty not dirty haha

cancer men aren't flirty.

They can be

What going through his head??

Who knows. How long has it been since you texted that? Are you in an official relationship?

I'd just say, if it's not moving in the direction that you want, move on

It had been a couple of hours...no were not g/f b/f yet but we were intimate.

didnt know cancerians get intimate before a relationship happens

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Posted by Joseline

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Posted by Joseline
maybe you turned him off

What Man would be turned off by that? It was flirty not dirty haha

cancer men aren't flirty.

They can be

What going through his head??

Who knows. How long has it been since you texted that? Are you in an official relationship?

I'd just say, if it's not moving in the direction that you want, move on

It had been a couple of hours...no were not g/f b/f yet but we were intimate.

didnt know cancerians get intimate before a relationship happens

Ya right!! In was shocked too...that's why I thought maybe he has feelings for me

He doesn't know you. How can he have feelings for you?

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
*sigh*

Why do girls these days always try to gain a relationship with a man through their bits instead of their brains?

Don't text him again. It'll look desperate. He knows you like him. If you leave the text at that, he'll eventually wonder why you didn't follow it up and his curiosity will get the better of him. Let him be curious.

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Posted by bloobaz
this topic can't be real, honestly

Hey no one is perfect....so I'm a Gemini..I have a big mouth sometimes..but please don't scrutnize my question.

I'm not getting personal at it but honestly all this fuss over a simple text sent to a guy you're not even in a relationship with?

Yeah, don't take it the negative way around but honestly,if you have to overanalyze to SUCH AN EXTENT over one text msg,it's really unhealthy. You need to have some control over your emotions. How do you think you'd arrive at a conclusion over an endless debate? What you are asking for is basically stereotyping people literally based on their zodiacs. Yes,people can be similar (NOT SAME) to a good extent based on their zodiac signs (which is why we have this forum here) but interests ,turn offs and ons are individualistic. I am a pisces.They say pisceans get turned on by a feet massage.I'll be asleep if a guy gives me a foot massage instead of pouncing on him. So it differs with people. More importantly, do you realize HOW MUCH ARE YOU GOING CRAZY ABOUT ONE TEXT? It's understandable when you feel something for someone and you go crazy but so much overanalyzing about ONE freaking text?And just because he didn't reply YET?He has a life. Please consider that. When my ex cancerian guy and I were together, he used to get turned on when we shared such texts but sometimes in realistic life people get screwed up with a busy day or illness or moodiness or whatever personal issue. GIVE HIM TIME TO BREATHE. If you freak out over one text,I really wonder how would you handle things when it gets tough. This is absolutely nothing. Life happens. Challenges happen. People get distant or they leave. My cancerian ex has been distant for over 3months now due to his personal career issues. We talk only twice thrice a week. Can I ask for general opinion? Yes.Can I go absolutely crazy about it? No. Can I make him talk to me? No.Can you make him instantly reply you? No. This is just a text message and he hasn't even replied any negative..

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Youre right...I just like him so much I'm scared because of this text his opinion will change of me..why do I screw myself so much...😢 but maybe he really isn't th

Posted by Koniucha
I have noticed the being mean part and that they like you more. I am not mean, since that is not in my nature, but I have noticed that if I ignore them, they seem to be more interested.

I keep attracting these shy, passive guys. I have seen that if I am assertive towards them, they like it. This is definitely different for me, since I have always considered myself passive and shy.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
*sigh*

Why do girls these days always try to gain a relationship with a man through their bits instead of their brains?

Don't text him again. It'll look desperate. He knows you like him. If you leave the text at that, he'll eventually wonder why you didn't follow it up and his curiosity will get the better of him. Let him be curious.

I was thinking that too....maybe he's testing to see if I will blow his phone with texts since he's silent

There are many possibilities. That could be one of them. He could not be interested. He could be interested, but not want a relationship. Hell, the text might not have even gone through. Time will tell.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
*sigh*

Why do girls these days always try to gain a relationship with a man through their bits instead of their brains?

Don't text him again. It'll look desperate. He knows you like him. If you leave the text at that, he'll eventually wonder why you didn't follow it up and his curiosity will get the better of him. Let him be curious.

I was thinking that too....maybe he's testing to see if I will blow his phone with texts since he's silent

There are many possibilities. That could be one of them. He could not be interested. He could be interested, but not want a relationship. Hell, the text might not have even gone through. Time will tell.

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Posted by kissmygrits
Be sure to send a pic of your dick next time. Isn't that the cool thing now a days?

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Be sure to send a pic of your dick next time. Isn't that the cool thing now a days?

Im sorry what does that have to do with this topic?

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Posted by thinktoomuch
Guys though: she´s freaking out so hard over a text, because they had sex!

OP: learn from this and don´t have sex with someone, if you don´t know them more and know, how they do with women.

The part about cancer men not having sex without a relationship? Where the hell does that come from! That´s all every man does ever always.

Feeling attracted to someone is not an emotion and it´s certainly not love. Basing wether or not he respons on the fact, that he is supposed to be attracted to you, is in my opinion exactly what cheekyfairy says: trying to get a man with sex/your body.
And it is amazing, how many of us women believe, that just because someone wants to have sex with us, he must also have a genuine, caring interest in us as a person and a partner. But furthermore: we also believe, that when we are attracted to someone, it must be love. Then we try to force something, that is probaby just pure lust, attraction and chemistry and nothing more. If there is more and if there is something good there, it won´t be this frustrating all the time (referring to my own situation and the countless stories here in the cancer forum and every other forum on this site).

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Be sure to send a pic of your dick next time. Isn't that the cool thing now a days?

Im sorry what does that have to do with this topic?

Sorry didn't read all 11 pages. But I'm sure it's the same thing. You gave it up and he's not responding.

She has the braincells of a cardboard. Only ones who are advising her to continue are dumb slores. Anyways lol lol lol

Hilarious

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Posted by kissmygrits
Be sure to send a pic of your dick next time. Isn't that the cool thing now a days?

Im sorry what does that have to do with this topic?

Sorry didn't read all 11 pages. But I'm sure it's the same thing. You gave it up and he's not responding.

She has the braincells of a cardboard. Only ones who are advising her to continue are dumb slores. Anyways lol lol lol

Hilarious

Why are you acting bitchy? Wow...anyway point is even if a man only wants sex he should of replied

Cause I hate dumb women like you. You shame us all. Desperate sl% t

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Posted by BlackMamba
You lame hoez want war I'll give you war.

Posted by shellshocker
Wow 11 pages over a text. Makes me think people consult others over how many squares of toilet paper are needed to wipe their ass.

OP are you the one who who got naked and then stopped? If you're now getting flirty over text, maybe he doesn't know how to respond.

YOU: I want your kisses but you're so far away
HIM: If I was kissing you... would you make me stop?
YOU: Asshole!

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Posted by BlackMamba
You lame hoez want war I'll give you war.

Why so mean? You sound sexually frustrated

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Posted by BlackMamba
Lamest thread in history. Not certain why it has so much traction.

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Guys though: she´s freaking out so hard over a text, because they had sex!

OP: learn from this and don´t have sex with someone, if you don´t know them more and know, how they do with women.

The part about cancer men not having sex without a relationship? Where the hell does that come from! That´s all every man does ever always.

Feeling attracted to someone is not an emotion and it´s certainly not love. Basing wether or not he respons on the fact, that he is supposed to be attracted to you, is in my opinion exactly what cheekyfairy says: trying to get a man with sex/your body.
And it is amazing, how many of us women believe, that just because someone wants to have sex with us, he must also have a genuine, caring interest in us as a person and a partner. But furthermore: we also believe, that when we are attracted to someone, it must be love. Then we try to force something, that is probaby just pure lust, attraction and chemistry and nothing more. If there is more and if there is something good there, it won´t be this frustrating all the time (referring to my own situation and the countless stories here in the cancer forum and every other forum on this site).

Yes but no intercourse...just foreplay. And yes that's one of the reason its really odd. Maybe he thought I'm making fun of that fact I didn't allow intercourse. I get it....but still a normal man would reply even if he just wants sex....while here its silence which is really weird

But for real though: when you´ve already sorta gone there, it´s just a matter of time... He probably knows, he has you tripping right now, because that´s the typicle reaction for a girl after *doing stuff*. I´d dare say it´s just classic mail moves from a man, that isn´t in love with you in any way, but isn´t disgusted by you either.
He probably thinks you´re sweet, but is that enough? At the same time, you can always just let things evolve...

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Posted by shellshocker
Wow 11 pages over a text. Makes me think people consult others over how many squares of toilet paper are needed to wipe their ass.

OP are you the one who who got naked and then stopped? If you're now getting flirty over text, maybe he doesn't know how to respond.

YOU: I want your kisses but you're so far away
HIM: If I was kissing you... would you make me stop?
YOU: Asshole!