texting him (Page 5)

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by britneybabe26 on Monday, October 19, 2015 and has 226 replies.

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Birtney,

ha. you are flight attendant? Girl it looks like you boost your ego. where is your confidence?

you throw it all? whatever, the dude is not into you.

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11 Years500+ PostsGemini

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by centipedes
If he's so skittish and paranoid that a simple text like that seriously scares him off, then he's unlikely to even be relationship material anyway.

So damn true

Skittish and paranoid——? Because he´s not responding to a single text?!? You´re getting out of control here. Honestly, I think he got the text. Probbly smiled. Got occupied doing something else, and then just don´t think it´s important enough to reply at a later time. From his perspective you said no to going all the way. Then he goes home. Then you text him, that you´re thinking about kissing him (or what it was). He´s probably thinking "why the fuq is she texting me stuff like this, when she didn´t even want to have sex? Oh wait, it´s her way of asking, if there is also something sweet and caring between us", enough to make him want to be lovey dovey and say shit like "I want to kiss you too" or something. Come on, the guy is 36!

Regardless, with my little knowlege and experience with a cancer man, if you do contact him again, he´ll assume, that you are fully aware now, that he doesn´t want anything sweet and caring; a relationship, since he didn´t reply to you. And so he´ll probably think, that you´re all in for having a casual, sexual relationship. So he won´t deny you or anything. This is his way of seing, what you want and what you´re about. ´Cause he´s not putting enough effort in to bluntly ask, because he doesn´t want it enough. That´s my opnion.

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Wow this is spot on! And it took 26 pages lol.....but yeah now I see what's happening here...and I didn't send that text right away like 6 days later. Anyway point is he doesn't want to lead me on like that because cancer man are different.. You're right.... But he Does want to hang on to me for something casual if we are in the same state hence he told me the next morning that he night visit me and will definelty let me know . .ohhh and he said thanks I had an amazing time...so don't know what's on his mind

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11 Years500+ PostsGemini

Posted by Finbuff
Actually, let me retract the "I don't remember the last time a woman allowed me to get her naked, but wouldn't allow me to bang her".
It was about 2008 with a Leo/Cancer cusper. She let me sleep with her, got mostly naked, but would not allow me to have sex because she was really, really self conscious about being on her period during the weekend. Was I annoyed - yeah. But I was so into this hottie, we did it again two weeks later and all was good. There is no way in hell I would have NOT come back for a return engagement with her. I couldn't think of anything else.

This guy has to be distracted by something else if he cared enough to want you the first time, but now ignores you. Don't over analyze it, sometimes people are players, regardless of the astrological sign. The only thing that will make you feel better is to let time fade it, or have him come back on his own.

Thank you for your insight... I fully understand what happened now...I'm going to let it go and if he comes back from his shell I will write a new topic.

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Anyway I want to thank everyone who participated and gave me advice even the funny comments 😉

I understand what happened now and will start a new topic if he ever does reply.

Thanks to all!!!

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11 Years500+ PostsGemini

Posted by thinktoomuch
Okay, glad you got something out of my comment, but like the last one I made, you don´t quite seem to grasp, what I´m saying, so here it comes direct:

he is just thinking about sex with you.
What´s on his mind? Sex. And a lot of other stuff probably, that has nothing to do with you. He is not hiding in his shell, he is just not interested in you.

This is nothing specific to a cancer: this is what most guys do, when they want to have some casual sex. They are being nice and sweet, but they are nowhere near putting in the amount of effort, that they will do if they actually want to build something with you.
This is what confuses many women, and it did me too when I was 21 and then some. But very very rarely will a guy call you a bitch and tell you, to your face, that they just want to fuck you. Because: then you will not fuck them.

Oh God..here I thought that just maybe he likes me and is trying to learn more about me...honestly I didn't expect him to take me to bed the second date... He didn't grope me..we were laughing a lot..he only touched my head in a cute way. And when he actually did I was thinking God I am attracted to him so much why not just make out...and you know the rest.

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Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by Pisces15
Intrigued if this guy will message you back......I'm 30 days tomorrow of nothing at all!!

Probably when it´s been 100 days, you´ll be glad about it.... Just wait it out.

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What do you think of this thou?
but to answer the question of the OP, moon and rising and mars placements also affect lust. usually cancers need attachment for sex, cant be one without the other. if he has strong leo, sag or gemini elements he may be a surface prober. in the end as a cancer he craves attachment.

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Posted by thinktoomuch
Okay, glad you got something out of my comment, but like the last one I made, you don´t quite seem to grasp, what I´m saying, so here it comes direct:

he is just thinking about sex with you.
What´s on his mind? Sex. And a lot of other stuff probably, that has nothing to do with you. He is not hiding in his shell, he is just not interested in you.

This is nothing specific to a cancer: this is what most guys do, when they want to have some casual sex. They are being nice and sweet, but they are nowhere near putting in the amount of effort, that they will do if they actually want to build something with you.
This is what confuses many women, and it did me too when I was 21 and then some. But very very rarely will a guy call you a bitch and tell you, to your face, that they just want to fuck you. Because: then you will not fuck them.

Also why not fuck me on the first date if that's all he wanted from me? He didn't make one move on me. Yes I was confused I thought he didn't feel for me in that sense and someone told me Cancer men observe first. He didn't even know if we will see each other again. In fact he left for a vacay after.. So why the hell he didn't try anything then? Yes after dinner we were at his place. And nothing at all.

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Yeah. You are just another conquest to him. Back off and watch him come running back for an ego stroke.

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Posted by kalin

Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by kalin
How often did he text? I mean when he texts you without you texting him first. Just curious.

He would text once in a while... Not every week...

Well, if he's not used to texting you every day, then I think it's not too bad that you haven't heard from him for 3 days.

Btw, I do think humor works. I offended a Cancer guy friend and he ignored me for like a week until I asked him a funny question yesterday. I know it's different from your situation. What I'm saying is humor really is a good ice breaker if you care to reach out again.

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What would be really humorous is if he saw how long this thread about him has gotten

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Posted by LibWman

Posted by kalin

Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by kalin
How often did he text? I mean when he texts you without you texting him first. Just curious.

He would text once in a while... Not every week...

Well, if he's not used to texting you every day, then I think it's not too bad that you haven't heard from him for 3 days.

Btw, I do think humor works. I offended a Cancer guy friend and he ignored me for like a week until I asked him a funny question yesterday. I know it's different from your situation. What I'm saying is humor really is a good ice breaker if you care to reach out again.

What would be really humorous is if he saw how long this thread about him has gotten

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LMAO

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Some guys do this shit, like pull houdini with communication, not interested type of vibes. Once they know they have you. You stay awhile because they sweet talk ya. Oh it works but not for long. Because when woman figure it out. It's like really I tried all this time now you moved on, now they want to reach out with some more sweet things. Hell no.. Keep moving.

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Posted by Pisces15

Posted by britneybabe26

Posted by Pisces15
Intrigued if this guy will message you back......I'm 30 days tomorrow of nothing at all!!

He messaged me today!

Glad to hear he came back...how are things between you?

I messaged mine in the end; it's like flogging a dead horse; tiresome & boring - seems very uninterested in me / my life, so cutting loses now. Not heard anything again since Sunday, so I'm done with it for good.

All the best with your fella.

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Aw thank you. Things are OK..like whatever happened didn't happen..he's not ignoring me on social media even..so weird. Yours might come around..if not you deserve better babe