The child inside...trapped or grown up...?

Hey everyone...

One thing astrology always seems to talk about in character profiles and your outlook is your childhood and relationships with your parents...

Mine has always been a good one and one that I now respect alot more through growing up and seeing the world through adult eyes.
I never saw it as being that important before but now see it as vital.

My quandry is how do you get a person to come to terms with a brocken and lost childhood through never having a father...and a mother they now say they hate because of neglect and a very unstable relationship....which continues through neither of them wanting to talk about it and come to terms with their HUMAN mistakes...—

They mistakes they are makeing are in my opinion directly related to the laque of love and direction through poor upbringing because they are mistakes not that I...myself would never or have never made, but realise were mistakes when I looked back and used what grounding my parents gave me to analise them from...?

Bareing in mind this person is Cancerian and battles to open up as a result their shell seems even more impermiable through the constant laque of guidence and grounding to base their life and it's decisions on...their actions are very immature and they they have a lot...I mean A LOT...of difficulty in comming to terms with faliure...samll things that are not the end of the world to get wrong set them into depression for days and to my reckoning that is a direct relation to a laque of love and support shown in the tender and early years of child develpment when you would have recieved love and support telling you it O.K to make mistakes...

This person keeps telling me they don't need help, nor even mine or anyone elses love...that they can manage alone but when I look at where I have got in life it is largely through the love and support of my family and I now know they need that...

My question is this...

As I live with them how do I tip toe through their highly emotional state on a daily basis to stay in good spirits with them but balance that with giveing advice without pis*ing them off and feeling the wrath of the Cancerian explosive nature and ultimatley loosing this person for the rest of my life...someone I love so dearly and wish they could draw on my strength and love to help them through...but are ademant they don't need to...I have more than enough to go around and my love and strength grows through shareing and giving...

How would you approach that...—

I'm not trying to replace their parents...that's rediculous...I could never do that, all I'm trying to do to show them they DO need love...they DO need others in their life and the reason for that is for support and a pillar to lean on through the rough times...

This is a it of a tough one to answer but I am just lloking for idea's and advice...have you ever been here before...what did you do that worked...what did you do that didn't...you know what I mean...

Thanks guys and girls...

Stay well...love and light to you all and always...

Durrie...

well durrie i dont know if i can help but to cancerian trust is very important. if u can earn thier trust u might be able to get somewhere. with out that they will never let u in or come out of thier shell.