I don't know why I'm asking for advice but, I'm going to ask it anyway... Get some different opinions...
So me and this scorpio guy have known eachother and have been friends for two years now... Him and I were supposed to be together but we had a couple of fall outs and we've never actually been able to be together (thats a whole different story). I just moved back to Phoenix wher he lives about a month ago. Since I've moved back we have been hanging out a lot out of the 7 weekends I've been here we've hung out 5 of them. Everytime we would hang out together there has been more than just friendship there. There has been some othere type of unexplainable attraction that I've never had for him...
So to add to the story. He has a girlfriend. Not only is she his girlfriend but she is also the mother of his 1 and half year old daughter. They were friends and they messed around she got pregnant. He has always just been there for this girl and didn't decide to be with her until 6 months ago. He's always said that he loves her but has never been in love with her that he just wanted to settle down and they get along as friends so he wanted to try this out and see where it went.
Since him and I are friend we talk about everything. We have over these two past years. I'm starting to think thats what makes me 10 times more attracted to him now. Anyways... I know that he hasn't been happy for a minute this is going back to since before I moved here... Basicly they don't have sex... and now they are always arguing about that. Everytime we talk about it I get mad because, first of all this girls is not pretty at all. Not one bit. Everyone is always askn him what he's doing with her in the first place. Cause she is uglee. (No offense she just really is and he'll say it to) Second of all he's a good guy. He treats her really good practicly takes care of her. She has another daughter from someone else and he takes care of her too. He does really love her as a person. I don't know whats wrong with the girl. There are other things he complains about. Says she's lazy doesn't clean and so on... It just makes me mad.
We had a conversation two weeks ago about it. It was making me even more mad. At the same time he was asking me to go to Vegas with him for his cousins birthday. We've been hanging so tight lately. So I put it out there. I'm like you and I both know that when we get together there is more between us than just friendship. He text back sayin I know huh...
And I told him that it would be a bad idea for us to go to vegas together with everything that was going on. I also told him that I didn't want him to think that any advice that or anything I said about the situation wasn't real. Whatever I had to say about it was only because I cared about him and I wanted him to be happy. That we were friends first and have been for the past two years despite our fallouts he's been there for me throug all my shit...
He said he understood and that was cool. So we end up hanging out again that weekend on Friday Night and Saturday night. All the feelings were all so tense. We ended up kissing on friday night. On saturday night he kissed me again on our way back to the car. And its like I can't help but feeling everything I'm feeling.
I ended up going to Vegas this past weekend with him. Me and one of my girls. We hung with him and his people all weekend. I had the time of my life. We ended up sleeping together. He said that him and his girl got in a really big fight before he left but,I don't know the truth in all that. I don't know if he's just telling me that or if it happend. I've told him that there are alot of feelings involved in what were doing. I like him way too much. I care about him. I'm not going to do the side chic thing because thats not my style and it would not feel good. He says he wouldn't want me to feel like dat either and he understands.
I'm just kind of feeling confused on what's really happening with us. Should I just fall back a little. He's calling me baby all of a sudden and I'm like where is all this coming from. Whre is it going? I've never felt this way about him ever. What should I do?
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So me and this scorpio guy have known eachother and have been friends for two years now... Him and I were supposed to be together but we had a couple of fall outs and we've never actually been able to be together (thats a whole different story). I just moved back to Phoenix wher he lives about a month ago. Since I've moved back we have been hanging out a lot out of the 7 weekends I've been here we've hung out 5 of them. Everytime we would hang out together there has been more than just friendship there. There has been some othere type of unexplainable attraction that I've never had for him...
So to add to the story. He has a girlfriend. Not only is she his girlfriend but she is also the mother of his 1 and half year old daughter. They were friends and they messed around she got pregnant. He has always just been there for this girl and didn't decide to be with her until 6 months ago. He's always said that he loves her but has never been in love with her that he just wanted to settle down and they get along as friends so he wanted to try this out and see where it went.
Since him and I are friend we talk about everything. We have over these two past years. I'm starting to think thats what makes me 10 times more attracted to him now. Anyways... I know that he hasn't been happy for a minute this is going back to since before I moved here... Basicly they don't have sex... and now they are always arguing about that. Everytime we talk about it I get mad because, first of all this girls is not pretty at all. Not one bit. Everyone is always askn him what he's doing with her in the first place. Cause she is uglee. (No offense she just really is and he'll say it to) Second of all he's a good guy. He treats her really good practicly takes care of her. She has another daughter from someone else and he takes care of her too. He does really love her as a person. I don't know whats wrong with the girl. There are other things he complains about. Says she's lazy doesn't clean and so on... It just makes me mad.
We had a conversation two weeks ago about it. It was making me even more mad. At the same time he was asking me to go to Vegas with him for his cousins birthday. We've been hanging so tight lately. So I put it out there. I'm like you and I both know that when we get together there is more between us than just friendship. He text back sayin I know huh...