CybeleRising
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Virgos: Why do they have such a hold over me?
Is he your friend, your lover, a past lover, or ... ?
He was a good friend for several years. And then came mutual feelings that we chose not to act on, and then eventually we put up so many walls that I said goodbye.
Why did neither of you act on it, what were the reasons that caused you both to take a step back?
Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioI believe you are a good candidate to explain this, scorpio. 😉
Is he your friend, your lover, a past lover, or ... ?
How women never really get over some virgo guys. What is it these guys do to these woman as I was asked one time what do yall do to them?
Women are always asking about said virgo guy not limited to thinking and wondering about him on a daily basis. Looks like some leave a forever stained mark etched into the woman. How is it they do this?click to expand
What would you like me to explain?
The effect of Virgents?
Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioYeap, that sounds promising. Would maybe help her understand a bit more as you have great experience in this area.Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioI believe you are a good candidate to explain this, scorpio. 😉
Is he your friend, your lover, a past lover, or ... ?
How women never really get over some virgo guys. What is it these guys do to these woman as I was asked one time what do yall do to them?
Women are always asking about said virgo guy not limited to thinking and wondering about him on a daily basis. Looks like some leave a forever stained mark etched into the woman. How is it they do this?
What would you like me to explain?
The effect of Virgents?click to expand
You have only been here for a few days and you already know I have experience with Virgents?
Are you a troll?
At the time that an admission was made that there were feelings beyond friendship I was newly separated, only a few months in. He was also within a year of a very long relationship. We both have children and that is the primary focus for both of us and neither of us wanted to jump into anything. That was in early 2012.
We agreed to just remain friends but I think that one conversation threw things off. We are both pretty aloof and we both mirror. I don't think there were ever intentional games on either side. Just a lot of walls built on fear and poor communication. Until finally I told him that I couldn't move backwards with him, but that I could move out of the way and that the kindest thing he could do for me was to leave me alone.
We agreed to just remain friends but I think that one conversation threw things off. We are both pretty aloof and we both mirror. I don't think there were ever intentional games on either side. Just a lot of walls built on fear and poor communication. Until finally I told him that I couldn't move backwards with him, but that I could move out of the way and that the kindest thing he could do for me was to leave me alone.
Posted by CybeleRising
At the time that an admission was made that there were feelings beyond friendship I was newly separated, only a few months in. He was also within a year of a very long relationship. We both have children and that is the primary focus for both of us and neither of us wanted to jump into anything. That was in early 2012.
We agreed to just remain friends but I think that one conversation threw things off. We are both pretty aloof and we both mirror. I don't think there were ever intentional games on either side. Just a lot of walls built on fear and poor communication. Until finally I told him that I couldn't move backwards with him, but that I could move out of the way and that the kindest thing he could do for me was to leave me alone.
The last statement really showcases the poor communication between the both of you.
You did not express what you really felt. You want him, then tell him, and show him. Your words must match your actions. A Virgent always notices it.
If there are any slight variations of it in the beginning, before a solid commitment has been established, they will have doubts. The doubts will grow in their minds as they mentally process their emotions and access the potential of the situation. I am certain enough to a degree those are the doubts that are causing the reaction and the way he is, coming and going in your life right now.
Time have passed it has been years since the both of you are in a relationship (I presume), do something, anything.
Someone must be upfront, and honest. You must step into the abyss with courage. Only once you finish falling will you find the love at the bottom, waiting.
Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by CybeleRisingThey have such a hold over you because when they like you, you know it.
He was a good friend for several years. And then came mutual feelings that we chose not to act on, and then eventually we put up so many walls that I said goodbye.
It's all in how they make you feel if one has the hots for you. So if you can't get over him, what makes you think he over you? Chances are he's not.click to expand
I came up behind him peeking into my office the other day, I was about thirty feet behind him and he didn't see me. And then he shook his head like he was chastising himself and then dropped his chin down to his chest and kept walking. I don't think he is over it. But I also don't think he'll ever let me off the hook for the way I ended things.
Posted by CybeleRisingPosted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by CybeleRisingThey have such a hold over you because when they like you, you know it.
He was a good friend for several years. And then came mutual feelings that we chose not to act on, and then eventually we put up so many walls that I said goodbye.
It's all in how they make you feel if one has the hots for you. So if you can't get over him, what makes you think he over you? Chances are he's not.
I came up behind him peeking into my office the other day, I was about thirty feet behind him and he didn't see me. And then he shook his head like he was chastising himself and then dropped his chin down to his chest and kept walking. I don't think he is over it. But I also don't think he'll ever let me off the hook for the way I ended things.click to expand
He is not over it and what you wrote reinforces the fact that he assessed the situation by your actions and words. What you expressed to him, got him mentally reeling in doubts. He is uncertain now whether or not he should proceed and more so, whether or not you still care or want him.
A Virgent will only pursue with almost blind purpose if they know you want them.
Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioMaybe ask your virgo guy if my replies look a bit trollish to you? I think he would he say, no love they do not?Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioYeap, that sounds promising. Would maybe help her understand a bit more as you have great experience in this area.Posted by littleboxwitharedbowPosted by TheLadyScorpioI believe you are a good candidate to explain this, scorpio. 😉
Is he your friend, your lover, a past lover, or ... ?
How women never really get over some virgo guys. What is it these guys do to these woman as I was asked one time what do yall do to them?
Women are always asking about said virgo guy not limited to thinking and wondering about him on a daily basis. Looks like some leave a forever stained mark etched into the woman. How is it they do this?
What would you like me to explain?
The effect of Virgents?
You have only been here for a few days and you already know I have experience with Virgents?
Are you a troll?
click to expand
It is always hard to tell in this god forsaken place called dxp.
Anyhow, what is your sign? Are you a Virgent?
The last statement really showcases the poor communication between the both of you.
You did not express what you really felt. You want him, then tell him, and show him. Your words must match your actions. A Virgent always notices it.
If there are any slight variations of it in the beginning, before a solid commitment has been established, they will have doubts. The doubts will grow in their minds as they mentally process their emotions and access the potential of the situation. I am certain enough to a degree those are the doubts that are causing the reaction and the way he is, coming and going in your life right now.
Time have passed it has been years since the both of you are in a relationship (I presume), do something, anything.
Someone must be upfront, and honest. You must step into the abyss with courage. Only once you finish falling will you find the love at the bottom, waiting.
About six months after I ended it I got up the courage to apologize and tell him exactly how I felt. I did it in a letter...it should have been done in person but I didn't have the courage. He never responded. He has reached out once or twice to share music, but it's always by text. I reached out in July and told him I was thinking of him and hoped he was doing well. He responded and we talked for a few minutes and then he texted me a song in the middle of the night and then another the next afternoon. A few days later I told him I missed having him around, again he never responded. I probably should have tried talking to him in person, but work didn't seem to be an appropriate place.
Posted by bubbythewhale1
"Until finally I told him that I couldn't move backwards with him, but that I could move out of the way and that the kindest thing he could do for me was to leave me alone."
"I came up behind him peeking into my office the other day, I was about thirty feet behind him and he didn't see me. And then he shook his head like he was chastising himself and then dropped his chin down to his chest and kept walking."
My initial reaction was to laugh, not necessarily because its funny but ive been in the same situation but reversed lol. Ive wanted to tell him to get out of my life bc his presence was too important to me and wen he wasn't around it was torture, never experienced anything like it, so instead we tried to passively ignore each other. My friends and family all knew how I felt towards him, which made some of them resent him without even knowing him, just the fact that I actually liked someone for once and they don't seem to care made them upset.
I could see myself looking for him then feel stupid that he wasn't there or feel stupid bc I should just give him his space anyway. I've kept this weird feeling that the cancer watches me for some reason, and sees my little weird quirks that ppl miss
We do! If we like you we are going to take in every nuance of your behavior, especially in the beginning. We study you.
Funny, Virguy is a Virgo Sun/Virgo Moon. What was your Cancer guys moon?
So in an odd turn of events, he texted me on Friday.
Posted by bubbythewhale1Interesting! I am a Cancer Sun/Cap Moon. I'd love to hear your story if you want to PM me.Posted by CybeleRisingDidn't see the previous response, he had a cap moon and yay! double virguy, hope he's a nice one 🙂
So in an odd turn of events, he texted me on Friday.
But how'd that go? The texting..
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I don't know. He said he wanted to know how a new album "made me feel". I gave him my input asked him his opinion and he never responded. So the next day I said that I didn't think that's really what he wanted to know, and that yes I still care and I left it at that.
It was strange that he reached out after three months on the week that I couldn't get him out of my head though.
Posted by starwarsHa, StarWars 🙂
Care to elaborate? Probably not the right way to handle things right?
--just realized you were probably just answering my question-- Virgos: Why do they have such a hold over me? you don't know either, huh?
It could be because he was feeling nostalgic or worse, he needed an ego boost.
Virgents (of a certain kind), they would at times write to past interests or past lovers, to determine whether or not they still have a hold over them. However, not all Virgents are this way, some Virgents do so because they are not ready to move on yet therefore they will hold on to any thread that is still left remaining until they could finally let go.
It could mean more, or it could mean nothing at all.
It could also be because he was bored.
The reasons are limitless.
Unless if he acts upon it, and firmly so, do not overthink it or place too much expectations on it either. You will break your own heart in the process. However, as I had said before, if you do wish to pursue him, as he you, then do something about it. Communicate it clearly, let him know where you stand.
The rest you will simply have to leave up to fate.
Que Sera, Sera.
Virgents (of a certain kind), they would at times write to past interests or past lovers, to determine whether or not they still have a hold over them. However, not all Virgents are this way, some Virgents do so because they are not ready to move on yet therefore they will hold on to any thread that is still left remaining until they could finally let go.
It could mean more, or it could mean nothing at all.
It could also be because he was bored.
The reasons are limitless.
Unless if he acts upon it, and firmly so, do not overthink it or place too much expectations on it either. You will break your own heart in the process. However, as I had said before, if you do wish to pursue him, as he you, then do something about it. Communicate it clearly, let him know where you stand.
The rest you will simply have to leave up to fate.
Que Sera, Sera.
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