Went ALLLL the way!!!!

Ok so I've been seeing this Cancer for only 3 months. I like him very much and it appears he does too . We r older, grown kids, one teenager(his). Anyway, i was pretty much sexless the past 1 1/2 years and I dreamed of having a relationship that is romantic , great sex plenty of laughs , etc. We have done a LOT of stuff, I mean a LOT sexually! Now I'm feeling a bit embarrassed. Our last encounter was 2 days ago and it just hit me tonight! Should I discuss with him? I almost want to crawl in a hole. Should I break it off?

Cancer men, step up here & give me your opinions but b nice please...

I don't see the issue it sounds like you did everything right to me 🙂

Why would you break it off? Are you saying you're embarrassed about having good sex?
Don't throw away a good thing because you aren't used to good things. Embrace it. Own it!

has he made you do something that made you unable to face your kids?

did he poop on your face?

Posted by Kim31
Why would you break it off? Are you saying you're embarrassed about having good sex?
Don't throw away a good thing because you aren't used to good things. Embrace it. Own it!

This 100%

Posted by DonnaElvira77
Is he decent enough?

Figure out what you want. Then figure out if he is what you want and decent enough. If you want him and you think it's a good idea ask him out.

Don't you think it's safe to say they've been out,

more than once by now?

😕

Did he poop in my face ?? No that's not my thing. I'm just saying we've gotten kind of freaky very quickly!. There is an enormous physical attraction and sex is phenomenal. I've never had this kind of compatibility before with a man plus there is no established relationship. I feel like a complete slut.. He says he's dating no one else which is cool. Nether am I . I kind of feel like I should take a step back. If I do that I would want to communicate that to him. Idk!..

Why feel like a slut? You're a grown woman! You've had sex! Sex is perfectly healthy and normal. Just be safe, take the right precautions for your health. Other than that, bang away and enjoy it!

As a side note, I really dislike the outdated notion that if a woman enjoys sex she's a "slut". Actually, it suggests that a woman's sexuality makes her a slut. Some aren't highly sexual, and others are, and that's no one's business but their own. Embrace your sexuality!

Posted by DonnaElvira77

Posted by xtina
I don't see the issue it sounds like you did everything right to me 🙂

Yeah I don't understand what the issue is? Regrets?

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Possibly...

but I can't see any regrets aside from him being a bad lay ‚‚

Posted by MoonArtist
Why feel like a slut? You're a grown woman! You've had sex! Sex is perfectly healthy and normal. Just be safe, take the right precautions for your health. Other than that, bang away and enjoy it!

As a side note, I really dislike the outdated notion that if a woman enjoys sex she's a "slut". Actually, it suggests that a woman's sexuality makes her a slut. Some aren't highly sexual, and others are, and that's no one's business but their own. Embrace your sexuality!

I think she is moving beyond the sex part and discovering she needs more.
Because otherwise this would have come into play much earlier.

Posted by SweetNSexyBull
Ok so I've been seeing this Cancer for only 3 months. I like him very much and it appears he does too . We r older, grown kids, one teenager(his). Anyway, i was pretty much sexless the past 1 1/2 years and I dreamed of having a relationship that is romantic , great sex plenty of laughs , etc. We have done a LOT of stuff, I mean a LOT sexually! Now I'm feeling a bit embarrassed. Our last encounter was 2 days ago and it just hit me tonight! Should I discuss with him? I almost want to crawl in a hole. Should I break it off?

Do you want a relationship with this man?
What kind?

YOU are in control. He is following you.
Don't be afraid to set some boundaries and ask for what you want.

I was here before and ironically it was with a male Bull.
The sexual attraction and sexual high jinks were off the charts.

However, that's not what I was solely looking for.
I wanted a relationship and to know who he really was as a man.
So self preservation kicked in.
Due to the fact that we had no established relationship and we were just going with carnal urges;
I put a stop to it before we "went all the way" and could establish something more meaningful.

Would most definitely love to have him as my one & only! He is aware of that fact but so far is noncommittal. I've learned a lot from this board and from all of you! That's how I managed with the Cancer so far lol ! I'm giving him time. .. But I also know myself- I can't keep giving emotionally and sexually and not get what I want in return. He has 6 months...then I will back off

I agree with what Lunar Maiden said.
You said he has six months.
Hopefully you're going to discuss this with him well before then (as in today, tomorrow or the day after).
If you wait and then back off without setting terms (or at least giving him a heads up), he will feel blindsided.
And tell him what you are looking for.

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Posted by MoonArtist
Why feel like a slut? You're a grown woman! You've had sex! Sex is perfectly healthy and normal. Just be safe, take the right precautions for your health. Other than that, bang away and enjoy it!

As a side note, I really dislike the outdated notion that if a woman enjoys sex she's a "slut". Actually, it suggests that a woman's sexuality makes her a slut. Some aren't highly sexual, and others are, and that's no one's business but their own. Embrace your sexuality!

I think she is moving beyond the sex part and discovering she needs more.
Because otherwise this would have come into play much earlier.

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Good point. 🙂

All of you make great points! Very insightful ! As for you Thinktoomuch u helped me out with your thoughtful post last time. Yes , I'm a slow learner in regards to life and love. That is how it is with me. At least I'm still learning and trying to improve myself. I'm good with that. That's all that matters. We texted on this morning as we are both working. I expect I'll have something concrete later on in the day to update. Thank all of u.

You're thinking "I'm a slut" he's thinking "hell yeah!".

What do u mean?

I was totally feeling it of course I'm a Taurus. We r the most sensual, sexual sign of the entire zodiac. Mr Cancer surprised the hell out of me for sure tho! He is a giver in the bedroom and totally rocked me.. And I like him as well very much. I hope I didn't screw myself tho in the end

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Posted by MoonArtist
Why feel like a slut? You're a grown woman! You've had sex! Sex is perfectly healthy and normal. Just be safe, take the right precautions for your health. Other than that, bang away and enjoy it!

As a side note, I really dislike the outdated notion that if a woman enjoys sex she's a "slut". Actually, it suggests that a woman's sexuality makes her a slut. Some aren't highly sexual, and others are, and that's no one's business but their own. Embrace your sexuality!

I think she is moving beyond the sex part and discovering she needs more.
Because otherwise this would have come into play much earlier.

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Exactly what I think it is about. She's probably wondering if she can have a relationship with him now seeing they've gone so far. To now take things slower.
SweetnsexyBull just have a talk with him and see where his head is at. You are both grown and show him you're not playing games or having sex with other people just him and see how he feels about being exclusive. Better to ask than assume or just freeze him out.

PLEASE do not discuss any type of commitment conversation with him im warning you... That will be a bad move. you need to continue to do what you are doing and don't back off because that will send him mix signals which will tell him that he may not be bale to trust you with his heart long term pass the sexual level. But you will have to lead things in a different way. Eg. ask him on a date and I don't mean a date you want but a date he would want depending on what he is into whether its music sports or whatever. show him that you are great to be around besides sex. talking with a cancer man does almost nothing when you want something to be your way. but showing them how you want things to be speaks volumes .....

im a bull

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Posted by blossombonnie
PLEASE do not discuss any type of commitment conversation with him im warning you... That will be a bad move. you need to continue to do what you are doing and don't back off because that will send him mix signals which will tell him that he may not be bale to trust you with his heart long term pass the sexual level. But you will have to lead things in a different way. Eg. ask him on a date and I don't mean a date you want but a date he would want depending on what he is into whether its music sports or whatever. show him that you are great to be around besides sex. talking with a cancer man does almost nothing when you want something to be your way. but showing them how you want things to be speaks volumes .....

lol

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why you laugh crazy crab LOL