What should I do from now?

So I met a Cancer man and I am thoroughly confused about how everything is happening between us and what to do now.

We started off as good friends. We came closer and reached up to the level of cuddling all night. He said he does not want to be in a relationship but he definitely wants to be my friends. He said I love you which I don't think makes any sense if he wants to friendzone me. So we parted off 5 months ago. I talked to him today and he said he is seeing someone but not for dating or girlfriend. He said again that he wants to be my friend. But I love him. I know I should stay away from him and find someone else and blah blah but we have a hardcore compatibility and I just don't like to stay away from him.

He asked me if I want to be his friend again. He said he does not like to spend days without me.

I really want to be with him every time. I have feelings for him. But he said his priorities is not dating in near future. So should I become his friend again? Or continue staying away? I am so much confused here. What should I do? I cannot live without him anymore surely. Please help.

So I am a Taurus sun, Libra moon and Scorpio Ascendant.

He is Cancer sun, Sagittarius moon and Virgo ascendant.

I got my synastry interpretation with his chart and this is what I got:

"Well firstly, his ego is going to be resistant to any freedom or independence you express (sun opposite uranus), but he does gain a huge boost or sense of confidence around you (sun conjunct jupiter). He will always find you attractive or desirable in the relationship (sun trine pluto). In relationships, you prefer to remain upbeat having your Venus in Aries; it makes you direct in love, while having his Sun in Cancer naturally makes him slower and more sensitive in love. If you go to fast in the relationship you could end up hurting his feelings – as funny as that sounds.

While your Moon in Libra meshes well with his Mercury and Venus in Gemini – which creates a ton of great conversation and sense of having similar values – when you get angry your passive-aggressive and rather allusive anger (mars pisces) will frustrate his logical and relational take on things. He does, however, find this attractive and alluring. Both of your Moons are sextile so your guys' inner cores will work well together. Mars square venus is super good for a relationship, you just have work it out because there will be so much energy that needs to be resolved in the passionate relationship.

Your ego opposite his Pluto will create a lot of obsession and attraction in the relationship, but too much and you guys can get a little psychotic and manipulative with each other, which you don't want. Both of you will change and transform each other, feel much intensity and energy, and won't ever forget each other whether it be good or bad. If you want to learn more about the sexual part of the relationship just pay close attention to your guys' mars and aspects including mars. But from what I see in the sexual side of the relationship is a lot of passion."

He never asked me for sex. He genuinely cares for me and loves me too. The problem is he is not looking for relationships with any one. I can try being his friend but whenever I see him, I fill up with love for him.

Make him your bitch. Fuck I'm good and tell him the ring to buy you. Not particularly in that order.

Make him your bitch. Fuck him good and tell him the ring to buy you. Not particularly in that order.

Ask yourself if you'll be ok with being his friend while he's dating other girls casually, and then when he finds a girl he wants to get serious with.

Because if he puts you in the firendzone, that's where you'll stay. He won't decided that you're the one he wants, down the road, you'll be the one he asks for relationship advice. Guy's don't have feelings like girls, they can compartmentalize very easily. If he thinks of you as a friend, but not a girl that he is interested in, he's not going to change his mind.

Seems like you'll just be torturing yourself hoping that he'll eventually see you as something more, but most likely, he wont.

He called it off. He texted last night that he does not want to talk to me at all as its fairly unhealthy. Thank you for the comments though. 🙂

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He called it off. He texted last night that he does not want to talk to me at all as its fairly unhealthy. Thank you for the comments though. 🙂

He love you as a friend and values the emotional connection you share. If he calls it off this week he'll probably hit you up next week to start up again.

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He called it off. He texted last night that he does not want to talk to me at all as its fairly unhealthy. Thank you for the comments though. 🙂

He love you as a friend and values the emotional connection you share. If he calls it off this week he'll probably hit you up next week to start up again.

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Thank you for the hopes! 🙂 I wish it was like that!! We have been there for each other since the start. He is attracted to me as what he said. 5 months ago when I told him that I have feelings for him he kissed me and said he loves me too! But then situation got weird as he added that he is not looking for dating and his priorities are different. He suggested me to look for someone else. Now after 5 months, I am longing for him and he is casually seeing someone and asking me to go away forever.

He simply believes that if we went into relationship, we would start taking for granted and we would turn out bad. So he suggested instead we can be good friends and be there for each other forever. How can two people be just friends when there is mutual love and attraction going on?

I did not want to fall in love with him in the first place as he is an American citizen and I am from Europe and I wanted to return back to my country instead of be in the US permanently. But cupid hit me so bad and now I am trying to overcome this heartbreak.

For the first time ever, I felt incredible chemistry and mutual love but universe was not ready for it. 😢 😢

Posted by taurus575
So I met a Cancer man and I am thoroughly confused about how everything is happening between us and what to do now.

We started off as good friends. We came closer and reached up to the level of cuddling all night. He said he does not want to be in a relationship but he definitely wants to be my friends. He said I love you which I don't think makes any sense if he wants to friendzone me. So we parted off 5 months ago. I talked to him today and he said he is seeing someone but not for dating or girlfriend. He said again that he wants to be my friend. But I love him. I know I should stay away from him and find someone else and blah blah but we have a hardcore compatibility and I just don't like to stay away from him.

He asked me if I want to be his friend again. He said he does not like to spend days without me.

I really want to be with him every time. I have feelings for him. But he said his priorities is not dating in near future. So should I become his friend again? Or continue staying away? I am so much confused here. What should I do? I cannot live without him anymore surely. Please help.

So I am a Taurus sun, Libra moon and Scorpio Ascendant.

He is Cancer sun, Sagittarius moon and Virgo ascendant.

I got my synastry interpretation with his chart and this is what I got:

"Well firstly, his ego is going to be resistant to any freedom or independence you express (sun opposite uranus), but he does gain a huge boost or sense of confidence around you (sun conjunct jupiter). He will always find you attractive or desirable in the relationship (sun trine pluto). In relationships, you prefer to remain upbeat having your Venus in Aries; it makes you direct in love, while having his Sun in Cancer naturally makes him slower and more sensitive in love. If you go to fast in the relationship you could end up hurting his feelings – as funny as that sounds.

While your Moon in Libra meshes well with his Mercury and Venus in Gemini – which creates a ton of great conversation and sense of having similar values – when you get angry your passive-aggressive and rather allusive anger (mars pisces) will frustrate his logical and relational take on things. He does, however, find this attractive and alluring. Both of your Moons are sextile so your guys' inner cores will work well together. Mars square venus is super good for a relationship, you just have work it out because there will be so much energy that needs to be resolved in the passionate relationship.

Your ego opposite his Pluto will create a lot of obsession and attraction in the relationship, but too much and you guys can get a little psychotic and manipulative with each other, which you don't want. Both of you will change and transform each other, feel much intensity and energy, and won't ever forget each other whether it be good or bad. If you want to learn more about the sexual part of the relationship just pay close attention to your guys' mars and aspects including mars. But from what I see in the sexual side of the relationship is a lot of passion."

"He said he is seeing someone but not for dating or girlfriend"



Sounds like he's into escort services.

Maybe you should walk away from this one and be grateful..he was honest from the jump.

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He called it off. He texted last night that he does not want to talk to me at all as its fairly unhealthy. Thank you for the comments though. 🙂

He love you as a friend and values the emotional connection you share. If he calls it off this week he'll probably hit you up next week to start up again.

Thank you for the hopes! 🙂 I wish it was like that!! We have been there for each other since the start. He is attracted to me as what he said. 5 months ago when I told him that I have feelings for him he kissed me and said he loves me too! But then situation got weird as he added that he is not looking for dating and his priorities are different. He suggested me to look for someone else. Now after 5 months, I am longing for him and he is casually seeing someone and asking me to go away forever.

He simply believes that if we went into relationship, we would start taking for granted and we would turn out bad. So he suggested instead we can be good friends and be there for each other forever. How can two people be just friends when there is mutual love and attraction going on?

I did not want to fall in love with him in the first place as he is an American citizen and I am from Europe and I wanted to return back to my country instead of be in the US permanently. But cupid hit me so bad and now I am trying to overcome this heartbreak.

For the first time ever, I felt incredible chemistry and mutual love but universe was not ready for it. 😢 😢

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You misunderstand me. My intention was never to fuel your hope.

Sorry my bad, I misunderstood.

someone can really care about you and like you and still not want a relationship with you. When people say they dont want a relationship, please always listen and believe them -otherwise you will always just get hurt.

when people send mixed signals its because they have mixed feelings. you don't want someone with mixed feelings, because again - you will always get hurt.

walk away from him if you want a relationship and he doesnt, and go and date other people - he will quickly get over his desire to avoid a relationship if he feels he is going to lose you and he really wants you

its very hard when you like somebody to do that, but it's always best for your heart

That's exactly what is happening. He has said multiple times that he has love feelings for me but he just does not want a relationship. I don't have any other option than to let him go. Being friends in this case is just another level of torture. But he won't be able to see me with anyone else. When we were just friends, he never liked me talking about any other guy. We don't have any mutual friend and I already removed him from social media and deleted his number. In no way he can know what I am upto until I tell him.

Months ago he told me that he wants to date to get married and he takes it seriously. Now he is saying that I am seeing someone just like that. I know he is casually going out on dates just to move on too. But I feel, its his loss more than mine. He was extremely blunt in asking me to leave. A man who was craving me to come back as soon as I can when I was living for a month in another country now just wants me to leave.

I am 26 and he is 28. I am a manager in a company and he is a musician who mostly like to go out all night and meet new people to collaborate music. I know how much he appreciate women's attention. But I am not one of them. I am unique and special for him, the one whom he wants permanently in his life, and he said that to me. But he still is asking me to leave and never talk to him. It must be painful for him too, not just me.

He wanted me to meet his parents and wanted to meet my parents. He was so much keen to meet my friends and he was eager for me to meet his friends. But within minutes it all changed. Whom to trust now? I am a Taurus and I don't give up easily but he is so much rude to me that I feel bad also.

Something is there which he is hiding or I guess he feels if I am with him I am gonna suffer. For now I am not talking and trying my best to move on. I cry some nights. My mind likes to think about him and imagine how wonderful it would have been if he was here! I always miss him. But I am fine. I don't have any other option.