@aj123
12 Years
Cancer man - is he cheating?
Posted by canmini
What your sign
I am a Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aries Venus and Leo Mars. (So me and him have the same moon sign and also his venus sign is the same as my mars sign)
Posted by dolluxe
Thanks for the reply.. So you think it is nothing to worry about? It's just the pattern - AWOL for two Saturdays in a row which seems concerning...
if it helps, I may still send little texts while I have my friends over but if I'm out or with family my phone may as well not exist.
I think family just take up a lot more energy to be around and I focus on them more. I'll still check now and again though in case there's something important.
Thank you for the replies everyone but I think my intuition was right. Something is definitely up..
No word at all from him today. Texted him late evening asking if he's all ok.. no response..
That's never happened before. He's always initiated communication every day no matter how busy he was, since the day we met, 8 months ago... yesterday was the first time he didn't and today neither (worse yet that I initiated for once to ask if he's ok and still no response (despite having been online).. he usually does space out responses by about 25 minutes-isn which is fine and normal for us but never ever does he totally ignore..
:/
Where did you come up with about 14 months?
Define about 14+/- 1 month?
Poor guy prob got tired counting after 8 lol
Really? You're crapping yourself because he doesn't text you for 2 days out of the week? Stop wasting bandwidth
Posted by PoopMcPoopFace
Yes he's cheating you can hate him and dump him now.
I agree. He's definitely cheating on you right now and the reason is very clear
He might be cheating! Confront him...
Posted by Arielle83
Id be cheating.You've got too many rules and expectations.
You're high maintenance and needy.
Lol +1
They're missing out on the best part - the getting-to-know-you honeymoon phase of sex. By the time they start having it they'll be halfway fed up with eachother. Life is too short
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Id be cheating.You've got too many rules and expectations.
You're high maintenance and needy.
Lol +1
They're missing out on the best part - the getting-to-know-you honeymoon phase of sex. By the time they start having it they'll be halfway fed up with eachother. Life is too short
What do u do for a living?
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International man of mystery
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Id be cheating.You've got too many rules and expectations.
You're high maintenance and needy.
Lol +1
They're missing out on the best part - the getting-to-know-you honeymoon phase of sex. By the time they start having it they'll be halfway fed up with eachother. Life is too short
What do u do for a living?
International man of mystery
Serious
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Not sure what the exact title/definitions are abroad but basically CNA/Psychiatric Aide
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Arielle83
Id be cheating.You've got too many rules and expectations.
You're high maintenance and needy.
Lol +1
They're missing out on the best part - the getting-to-know-you honeymoon phase of sex. By the time they start having it they'll be halfway fed up with eachother. Life is too short
What do u do for a living?
International man of mystery
Serious
Not sure what the exact title/definitions are abroad but basically CNA/Psychiatric Aide
So you definitely have more experience and understanding of mental illnesses and disorders than the wannabe shrinks on dxp.
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No way near as experienced as SF though 😉
But it's a huge area and a lot of work just keeping myself updated about what I (should) know. Really depends on the type of "patients" we get. My real interest lies in the psychology field though, not psychiatry. And the ppl I care for are usually not suffering from mental illnesses or disorders but mostly old age or physical disabilities.
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Hi all, been with an early twenties guy (cancer sun, aquarius moon, leo venus, taurus mars) for about 8 months now.
We see each other occasionally (every few weeks) but ever since the day we met, he would text me every evening for about 3 hours or so, asking about my day, etc
We met on an online website and he deleted his account on there less than a month after we met.
Although he has a history of having had a few one night stands, etc when we was younger, he seems very sensible and serious from the day we met. Haven't been "physically intimate" with him, since I told him from the start, he'd have to wait about 14 months (!) I know that's a long time but it's due to wishes on the side of my parents (I know it seems really silly!) but he said he was totally fine about that. I did mention though that I'd done "other stuff" with previous guys, making out, etc so I never implied everything was off limits. Despite this, the most he's ever done physically, is hug me. He seems very hesitant to even touch me (even though it's been months) haha which I find weird considering he's been with quite a few girls before me.
He has never ever flirted with me (he did mention that unlike a lot of his friends, he's never been the one to flirt and come out with cheesy lines with girls), but always seems polite, respectful, tells me I look great, that he always has an amazing time with me.
Ok now to the problem:
He has texted me every evening since the day we met (8 months now) regardless of how busy he is, whether he's out with friends, etc EXCEPT this Saturday (yesterday) and last Saturday.
Last friday, he did tell me, he was visiting one of his relatives as it was their birthday that Saturday and he texted me just at midnight to say goodnight and said he'd only just got back from his aunts (he had not been online for the last 7 hours prior to this).
For this Saturday, he told me the day before, that he was visiting his dad's side of the family for a catch up as he hadn't seen them in a long time. (again he was almost never online the whole evening, 1 minute at about 7pm-ish and then 1 minute at 10pm ish and that was it) so he didn't text me at all yesterday.
I know with some guys that's normal but he's always quite often online even if he's out with friends, etc. constantly texting me every 15 mins or so. It's only when he's with me (i.e. on a date), that he completely doesn't go online for 6 or so hours (as most people think it's rude to use their phone during dates).
By the way, most saturdays, since we met, he's had a full-on day of sport that he plays (till the evening so it keeps him busy) but only a few saturdays ago, the season has now ended so he's got the whole saturdays free now.
Do people really switch off completely to see their relatives (esp since he doesn't do that with friends) or is he seeing someone else in secret both these saturdays? I know it's near impossible to say definitively but any insight would be great!