What Went Wrong Here? (Cancer Men)

Ok, I wonder if I was too forward, or not forward enough, with my cancer man.

We've been taking things slowly (by slowly, I mean no formal relationship yet) for the past 7 months. I'd never been to his place (he moved about a month ago), so when he asked to pick me up to take me there, I was really excited! I met his housemate, and then we went to his room. We talked for a couple of hours (time flew!). But, we were sitting like 3 ft away from each other. So, I got up and sat next to him on his bed. He said he wondered what had taken me so long. Lol

Then, we sat there talking for another 10 minutes before he turned the lights off and pulled me on top of him. What happened next was weird. So, it was clear that he was nervous. I mean extremely, like 1st time nervous. Idk why. Afterwards, we laid there and cuddled and kissed for a while before he brought me home (I have children, so the babysitter was with them).

Did I do something wrong? Just when he was getting so comfortable with me!

Do you cancer men prefer when a woman initiates?

Short answer, yes.

Posted by nikkistar
Short answer, yes.

Ok, noted. Lol

Wow 7 months. Your much more patient then me.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Wow 7 months. Your much more patient then me.

It didn't bother me until now. It takes a while to get to know a person, and feel comfortable around them. I understand. His shyness started to go away pretty quickly-I'd say within the 1st month or so. But, it feels like some backtracking happened the other night, and I don't get why.

Seems like cancers always have to step back and analyze what happened.

nothing went wrong, he just got cold feet. he's probably inexperienced

Posted by GC02
When was his last relationship?

It ended almost 2 years ago. It was very long term, and they have a child together.

Posted by CrabbyRam
Don't worry about what went wrong. Wait for his call and try again.

Ok. There's been no gap in the communication, or any weird communication. Lol but I noticed that I've been initiating it since that night (a few nights ago). Before then, he'd be the one to contact me first.

Posted by Baddy4040
Seems like cancers always have to step back and analyze what happened.

Yes, it seems he did that. We even had a discussion about children the next morning-he wanted to know what my thoughts on having more children are.

Posted by rabidtalker
nothing went wrong, he just got cold feet. he's probably inexperienced

+1

Posted by rabidtalker
nothing went wrong, he just got cold feet. he's probably inexperienced

But, this wasn't our 1st time having sex. Why now?

Posted by TaurusFlower22

Posted by rabidtalker
nothing went wrong, he just got cold feet. he's probably inexperienced

But, this wasn't our 1st time having sex. Why now?

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hmm so you were doing the same stuff you usually do and now he acts different, you should try asking him, something is on his mind, but dont push too hard if he doesnt tell you.

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Posted by TaurusFlower22

Posted by rabidtalker
nothing went wrong, he just got cold feet. he's probably inexperienced

But, this wasn't our 1st time having sex. Why now?

hmm so you were doing the same stuff you usually do and now he acts different, you should try asking him, something is on his mind, but dont push too hard if he doesnt tell you.

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He told me about some issues that he's been stressing about lately. But, that doesn't explain the nervousness, shyness and awkwardness. He was nervous from the moment we walked in the door. I was thinking maybe because his housemates were there, that may have played a part in it? Idk. I guess I might try asking him, or just give it time, and things will smooth back over hopefully.

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Posted by GC02
When was his last relationship?

It ended almost 2 years ago. It was very long term, and they have a child together.

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Ok. He has a child. So he isn’t virgin.

You were 3 feet apart and then when you came close - nothing happened.

But you had sex before...

Strange. When and where and what was that sex like? Inexperienced?

Everyone, how soon man has to do it to become experiences and hug a woman during hours conversation whom he had sex with before? Hmmm...

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by TaurusFlower22

Posted by GC02
When was his last relationship?

It ended almost 2 years ago. It was very long term, and they have a child together.

Ok. He has a child. So he isn’t virgin.

You were 3 feet apart and then when you came close - nothing happened.

But you had sex before...

Strange. When and where and what was that sex like? Inexperienced?

Everyone, how soon man has to do it to become experiences and hug a woman during hours conversation whom he had sex with before? Hmmm...

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When I came close, something finally happened.

He's not extremely experienced, but I wouldn't call him inexperienced either. Like myself.

OK, I'm just going to say it. I didn't want to get too personal. But, he couldn't maintain an erection this time. It was exactly like the first time we had sex. It hasn't happened since the first time. I don't understand. Idk if it was because of me, or what. But, it's like he's gone quiet now. 😢 I didn't do anything when it happened. I didn't know what to do, really. But I also did not talk about it after.

I think he is very sensitive and has occasional ED problems that makes him self-conscious, that was the reason why he was weird. And he hasnt been initiating probably for the same reason, he thinks that it was a big deal, but for you it wasnt. He needs to feel comfortable around you and to trust you, it comes with time.

The cancer I had a short relationship was ... the same thing happened the first two times we had sex🙂. I think Cancer men are very very sensitive.

Posted by eglantine
I think he is very sensitive and has occasional ED problems that makes him self-conscious, that was the reason why he was weird. And he hasnt been initiating probably for the same reason, he thinks that it was a big deal, but for you it wasnt. He needs to feel comfortable around you and to trust you, it comes with time.

The cancer I had a short relationship was ... the same thing happened the first two times we had sex🙂. I think Cancer men are very very sensitive.

I think you might be right. This is day 2 of not hearing from him...not like him, but I don't want to push. 😢

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Posted by eglantine
I think he is very sensitive and has occasional ED problems that makes him self-conscious, that was the reason why he was weird. And he hasnt been initiating probably for the same reason, he thinks that it was a big deal, but for you it wasnt. He needs to feel comfortable around you and to trust you, it comes with time.

The cancer I had a short relationship was ... the same thing happened the first two times we had sex🙂. I think Cancer men are very very sensitive.

I think you might be right. This is day 2 of not hearing from him...not like him, but I don't want to push. 😢

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...or should I push? I want to give him the space that it seems like he wants, but I also want him to come back. Lol

Finally, he contacted me! It was like a big burst of sweet texts, and, I'm loving all of it. I love this guy so much. So happy he's back.