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someone kept insulting you in front of other people while wrapping it up as a joke, yet their main goal was to intimidate you?
Posted by Seraphlight
What are they saying?
i'm not going into that, it would be pointless. i'm not competing with this person on their level, just gathering ideas.
Posted by clare
someone kept insulting you in front of other people while wrapping it up as a joke, yet their main goal was to intimidate you?
Maybe confront them. Or even just make it known with body language and facial expressions that it annoys you. Or raise an eyebrow at them or something. You could also maybe just say something "jokingly" back. Sometimes it's the only way they back down. Are you close with this person?
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)
just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
Posted by clare
someone kept insulting you in front of other people while wrapping it up as a joke, yet their main goal was to intimidate you?Maybe confront them. Or even just make it known with body language and facial expressions that it annoys you. Or raise an eyebrow at them or something. You could also maybe just say something "jokingly" back. Sometimes it's the only way they back down. Are you close with this person?
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yeah i could do that. and only as close as is necessary. but yes, in a more access to my life than i would like kind of way, it's a family member.
Posted by lisabethur8
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
thank you blackphase.
i don't want an eye for an eye either, i don't particularly want to hurt.
but physical fighting, no i can't. most members of my family have some martial arts belt or another. i'd rather meditate and come away from that. i'm wondering if i could be at least slightly creative lol.
Posted by lisabethur8
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
thank you blackphase.
i don't want an eye for an eye either, i don't particularly want to hurt.
but physical fighting, no i can't. most members of my family have some martial arts belt or another. i'd rather meditate and come away from that. i'm wondering if i could be at least slightly creative lol.
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lol
i'm not blackphase. but I can see my avatar can be construed as blackphase. She likes to use "the Crow" a lot. with moving vampiric images. lol
well if she's that way and you don't want to confront her, she may do it again and again.
this person doesn't seem to care.
Posted by lisabethur8
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
thank you blackphase.
i don't want an eye for an eye either, i don't particularly want to hurt.
but physical fighting, no i can't. most members of my family have some martial arts belt or another. i'd rather meditate and come away from that. i'm wondering if i could be at least slightly creative lol.
lol
i'm not blackphase. but I can see my avatar can be construed as blackphase. She likes to use "the Crow" a lot. with moving vampiric images. lol
well if she's that way and you don't want to confront her, she may do it again and again.
this person doesn't seem to care.
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oh so sorry lisa lol, how could i possibly do that? it must be your avi yes .. and the general mood i'm in currently.
and thank you. 🙂 **sigh**
i'm sure i'll figure it out, whatever happens next will be a permanent solution. 3rd house activate!
Posted by lisabethur8
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
thank you blackphase.
i don't want an eye for an eye either, i don't particularly want to hurt.
but physical fighting, no i can't. most members of my family have some martial arts belt or another. i'd rather meditate and come away from that. i'm wondering if i could be at least slightly creative lol.
lol
i'm not blackphase. but I can see my avatar can be construed as blackphase. She likes to use "the Crow" a lot. with moving vampiric images. lol
well if she's that way and you don't want to confront her, she may do it again and again.
this person doesn't seem to care.
oh so sorry lisa lol, how could i possibly do that? it must be your avi yes .. and the general mood i'm in currently.
and thank you. 🙂 **sigh**
i'm sure i'll figure it out, whatever happens next will be a permanent solution. 3rd house activate!
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lol
it's kaya scodalario avatar, I like her super dark locks. blackphase always uses Brandon lee.
let us know what you decide to do. it sucks when they are your family and they are doing that.
Posted by lisabethur8
I would put them aside and tell them honestly that hurts me. (this is in the event that I am thinking of the other person not to hurt their feelings and embaress them)just because they hurt me (this is in the case i'm their family member and I love them) doesn't mean I want to hurt them back. eye for an eye. So I will put them aside and tell them how it really makes me feel bad.
if she/he feels deep regret and doesn't mean to do that due to their lack of sensitivity, and is more "aware" then you noticing they are changing, then that is good.
however, if this person doesn't want to change and wants to keep making fun, then it's time to kick ass.
make fun of her, too, in the worst possible way, and do some physical fighting.
but the reasons WHY she/he did it in the first place is odd, especially if they are close to you.
they must have had deep deep harboring jealousy towards you to hurt you so, that must have been embedded in there for years.
thank you blackphase.
i don't want an eye for an eye either, i don't particularly want to hurt.
but physical fighting, no i can't. most members of my family have some martial arts belt or another. i'd rather meditate and come away from that. i'm wondering if i could be at least slightly creative lol.
lol
i'm not blackphase. but I can see my avatar can be construed as blackphase. She likes to use "the Crow" a lot. with moving vampiric images. lol
well if she's that way and you don't want to confront her, she may do it again and again.
this person doesn't seem to care.
oh so sorry lisa lol, how could i possibly do that? it must be your avi yes .. and the general mood i'm in currently.
and thank you. 🙂 **sigh**
i'm sure i'll figure it out, whatever happens next will be a permanent solution. 3rd house activate!
lol
it's kaya scodalario avatar, I like her super dark locks. blackphase always uses Brandon lee.
let us know what you decide to do. it sucks when they are your family and they are doing that.
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is it? i always like your avatars. yes i will do!
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