What's going on...is that a possibly new start?

Hi all,

I've opened a thread a month ago and since some things were happening. At the beginning of october I visited him for a weekend - and on the last day - exactly at the airport- he broke up with me and told me he doesn't want me to feel hope for a common future because there isn't. After breaking up with me he hold my hand and kissed me several times and was hugging me for long-long minutes. I only wanted to be alone after hearing what he said, and I was wondering why he broke up, because I felt the still loves me. I returned back to my country. We didn't have contact for a couple of weeks, but since I knew he is going to have a long-long flight ahead, I sent him a book with a greeting card saying "for your long flight, and enjoy the trip". He texted me, that he got the gift and told "thank you". 2 weeks later I booked a flight to the city he is living, but didn't tell him, I'll be arond just 2 days before departue. He asked me if I may have time for him on that weekend (it was last weekend) and I said, of course I would, and we decided to meet.
I showed up as discussed, he was really friendly, but after 30 mins he told me he didn't change his mind, but I told him, i was there without any exceptations, I only want to have fun, and that's it. He was surprised, and we talked a lot in the next hours about things were on our minds when I left his and he said he was completely hurt and heartbroken and I felt, it's not over yet. He acted very jelaous, asking me if I have had sex with my teacher (I am learning his language) or if I was seeing friends of mine who are all guys and they only want to hook with me...but I told him I only saw my girlfriends and there is no other male. Later we were dancing (he recognised we never danced like that) and he kissed me. Later he admitted, he thought nothing is going to happen but he has to say, he couldn't resist.
We went out in a bar, had a lots of fun together, and when we were heading home, I told him, I go back to my hotel and he asked me to sleep at his place...and I could not resist. He was holding me in his arms all night. I left on the next day around noon. We talked when I was at the airport and he asked me to let him know when I arrive home.
He texted me yesterday, and we also had 2 emails and I called him (promised to do some stuff for him) and he mailed me one more time telling about the music we discussed on saturday. He called me today, but seemed to be stressed....but gave me no hints. I don't kn

I don't know what is happening or going on now.....I still love him so much. Comparing our last meeting (4 weeks ago) he was really lovely, and we took a lot of pics - with kissing, hugging etc. I felt, he still loves me, and he was singing to me while we were dancing. He hugged me everytime he could and kissed me too. He was tender, and caring, and now I miss him again, and want more to go on with this relationhsip.

I need some objective opinions, please! Help me out 🙂

Nobody has an opinion— 😢 I may need further help to understand my crab ....

crabbies have a hard time with long distance relationships. they love being in the moment of being with someone because they feel their way through relationships. it's hard to have that human contact countries away from one another.

what's the story here? are you planning on moving back? you ran. he's got to be ridiculously gun shy. i would...you've got to prove to him that you'll stick around and not jump ship because you can't handle yourself. you dropped your life for him, and within a short period of time, dropped him for your life. you've got a lot of work ahead of you if you want this to work.

When I decided to move back to my country he broke up with me saying he didn't want to have a long distance relationship again. We had that for almost 8 months.

I wasn't ready for the move. I had so many unclarified stuff back home, I couldn't still my mind and I was always considering. Since we broke up I worked a lot on my backlog, clarifying all my "black dots" and I also worked on my personality. He realised, that I've changed a lot and he also said, that I changed the things he didn't like about me (I wasn't aware of that).

"you dropped your life for him, and within a short period of time, dropped him for your life"-you are absolutely right.

I know, it's a lots of work, but I want him and I want to be with him, because I truly believe we belong together. We are already on the way to build something new, I "only" need support in order to pay attention to things I wouldn't realise by myself.

We have contact via mail or phone...he already asked me this week 2 times for the pics we took. Unfortunately I didn't have time to manage them, but told him this weekend I will finally hae time for them. I sent him today (it's been 11 month since we met for the very first time) a mail with a made-by-myself picture sayin happy 16th november and he replied that "yes, it's been a year when very first time we went out together🙂 " I corrected him it's only 11 months, then he replied "one more month to go...." And he told me how he spent yesterday evening and he wished me a great weekend.

I think it's a positive answer...but I'm not sure...

So what do u want from him now? Were u guys exclusive at some point?

I'm confused because it seems like you're ok with the split or am not sure if you want to get back together with him?

I want him definitely back. I love him more than I loven anybody else in my life. I just don't know how to move on now. I'd like to be with him (we are living 3 countries apart) and I'd do anything to get him back. Since he is the only crab I've dated in my life I am not sure what to do and how to do. When last time I told him I'll be around where he lives, he immediately asked me out. We spent 22 hrs together talking about all our problems we had in the past but we did not discussed any future plans. He knows I'll be in is city in a couple of week. But he did not ask yet the date when I am travelling...its been only 1 week when we last met.

I think the dude is saying "No" very clearly. If you still want him back doesn't that amount to harassment? Just sayin'

Posted by incandescentcancer
I think the dude is saying "No" very clearly. If you still want him back doesn't that amount to harassment? Just sayin'

I am wondering if it would be harassment he 'd already told me that. I am not calling or mailing day-by-day....and he always replies and is very friendly.