Whats the most appropriate way to make a move?

I know sun signs aren't everything but it's all I know about him.

Anyway... I have a gut feeling that this cancer guy likes me, but won't ask me out. Yeah he's shy and according to his friend he's afraid of rejection so I have to make the first move... but hell I don't know what to do. How do I make the first move?

We're already good friends and we're extremely comfortable around one another. We tell each other almost everything and I can tell he truly cares about me. He's told me a lot about his childhood and a lot of the things he's been through voluntarily, and we've hung out numerous times. When I wasn't enthusiastic he chased me down to ask me whats wrong, and after work he always asks me how my day was and how work was. Then at times I feel like he gets protective over me, for an example our friend was teasing me about my toes and trying to make me show everyone and I kept on saying no, and the cancer guy got really heated and yelled at our friend "She says no. NO means NO!" and shoved him aside. We also have these moments where we just look at each other and smile and this lasts a while.

So how do I make the first move? We already hang out all the time so I don't know what to do...

If I were to tell him how I feel about him, would that scare him away? I just want to take the next step already but I just don't know whats the most appropriate.
I'm not afraid to just tell him face to face, but I also don't want to come on too strong...

Any suggestions?

Lol he sounds like me. I do those things when i like a lady. But the shyness does stop us because what if that person don't like us back. Yes you do gotta make the 1st move in the beginning. He must like you, to tell all his childhood & life. Bascially tell him everything you like about him. Starting with his qualities & good traits. Smile & hold his hand while doing this. Then compliment him on his looks, make those unique. Just tell him how much you about care him. Actions wise, he has kinda already shown you how much he like you. But words, it's hard because like i said, he's scared you won't feel the same. So be sincere, direct & a lil aggressive. The key to getting us shy Cancers to open up more in terms of words; is by making us feel comfortable & safe around you. So yeah you know what you gotta do lol. You got this 🙂

The classic Cancer-Virgo dance.
Does he know your interests, and has he expressed an interest, or at least a willingness to listen?

Now what i just told you, is kinda how i would want a lady to get me. This is for the shy Cancer guys. But really, if you make us comfortable around you at all times, you won't have to do too much 1st moves. You making the 1st move, makes us feel that we have a good chance as a bf for you. Most importantly, we'll feel safer to tell you everything then. Which is your goal to keeping us

The thing is for the past few months I have been telling him how he's an amazing person and that I'm always going to be there for him and what not, and I truly mean it. But I only see him twice a week and I don't want to be clingy so I don't really contact him when I don't see him. Then when I do see him I have numerous guys hitting on me and flirting with me in front of him and he just watches me, so then I just look at him.

The universe hasn't really been working in our favor and we haven't been able to hang out, but I see him twice a week regardless and he's still the same caring, loving self. I've been kind of distant though... I just really don't want to be that clingy girl.

Posted by vir22
The thing is for the past few months I have been telling him how he's an amazing person and that I'm always going to be there for him and what not, and I truly mean it. But I only see him twice a week and I don't want to be clingy so I don't really contact him when I don't see him. Then when I do see him I have numerous guys hitting on me and flirting with me in front of him and he just watches me, so then I just look at him.

The universe hasn't really been working in our favor and we haven't been able to hang out, but I see him twice a week regardless and he's still the same caring, loving self. I've been kind of distant though... I just really don't want to be that clingy girl.

Ok, you want to make a move?
In that moment where you have guys hitting on you, sidle up next to him and give the other guys the cold shoulder. Talk to him, and hint that you'd like to spend some time with him.
Really, its that's simple.

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Posted by vir22
The thing is for the past few months I have been telling him how he's an amazing person and that I'm always going to be there for him and what not, and I truly mean it. But I only see him twice a week and I don't want to be clingy so I don't really contact him when I don't see him. Then when I do see him I have numerous guys hitting on me and flirting with me in front of him and he just watches me, so then I just look at him.

The universe hasn't really been working in our favor and we haven't been able to hang out, but I see him twice a week regardless and he's still the same caring, loving self. I've been kind of distant though... I just really don't want to be that clingy girl.

Ok, you want to make a move?
In that moment where you have guys hitting on you, sidle up next to him and give the other guys the cold shoulder. Talk to him, and hint that you'd like to spend some time with him.
Really, its that's simple.

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Wow I didn't think of that. I like that, nice and simple.

But I feel like hinting at it isn't really to move our relationship forward. I'm getting a sense here that you guys think that I shouldn't just flat out tell him. Is that right?

lol Just tell him what you want, so you guys can move past this minor hiccup. Now you mention you got other guys trying to talk to you, he's definitely not going to say anything now that he sees that. That'll make him even more shy, because he's not going to compete with random guys. You don't wanna be flirting & talking to other men around a Cancer. That'll only make him feel bad & more shy. Which you don't want. There's nothing wrong with being the direct one. You have to be, if you want a Cancer. If not, find someone else

Posted by vir22

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by vir22
The thing is for the past few months I have been telling him how he's an amazing person and that I'm always going to be there for him and what not, and I truly mean it. But I only see him twice a week and I don't want to be clingy so I don't really contact him when I don't see him. Then when I do see him I have numerous guys hitting on me and flirting with me in front of him and he just watches me, so then I just look at him.

The universe hasn't really been working in our favor and we haven't been able to hang out, but I see him twice a week regardless and he's still the same caring, loving self. I've been kind of distant though... I just really don't want to be that clingy girl.

Ok, you want to make a move?
In that moment where you have guys hitting on you, sidle up next to him and give the other guys the cold shoulder. Talk to him, and hint that you'd like to spend some time with him.
Really, its that's simple.

Wow I didn't think of that. I like that, nice and simple.

But I feel like hinting at it isn't really to move our relationship forward. I'm getting a sense here that you guys think that I shouldn't just flat out tell him. Is that right?

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Don't dump all the stuff you're thinking. But he has an obvious interest.
He's holding off watching other guys hitting on you and weighing his chances.
The key is in letting him know you want to spend time with him despite that whole universe of dudes circling around you. If he has a mutual interest, he'll respond.

If you got other guys around you, a Cancer probably not going to pursue you that much. If you want this guy soo bad, get rid of the other men & just tell him how you feel. If you wanna talk to him, then talk to him. It's not really that hard lol

Well the thing is we work together and my work place is male dominated and so they all flirt and hit on me and we're ALL friends, so it's kind of hard to get rid of them. I do want him really bad so if I could I would if thats what it takes.

So do you think that saying to him "I like you" is ok?

I'm sorry I'm making it more complicated than it really is. I just really don't want to mess up with him. It's so aggravating cause we sometimes already act like a couple but we're not and it's such a small hiccup but I can't seem to get to the other side. I want to get this over with already, I've been so patient for the past 8 months :/

lol more than one person agrees here ms virgo lady. Just make that 1st move & get the best bf & love you'll ever receive 🙂. It's up to you

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
If you got other guys around you, a Cancer probably not going to pursue you that much. If you want this guy soo bad, get rid of the other men & just tell him how you feel. If you wanna talk to him, then talk to him. It's not really that hard lol

Oh, I know.

I did the dance with a Crab I really did like, and she tried to Friend Zone me after I told her that I have feelings for her. She said that I am among the smartest people she ever met, but she doesn't want to be with me.

So I told her no thank you to her friend zone plan, and that I don't want to push anything on her. I closd by saying that she should contact me anytime she changes her mind.

She got pissed off about that, and I kept things cool and civil.

I dunno, sometimes when a Gentleman puts himself out there for a Crab girl, it doesn't work. Oh, well. I have a few other women I am courting right now, and I must admit that I secretly hope she finds out about them soon.

The Crab and I haven't spoken in about a week now since she got mad at me, but I am keeping things quiet and just getting on with my life.

What else can a man do once he stands up for himself, and heads for the door?

I need ideas on how to make the first move...
because I'm sensing that you all suggest that I should be obvious with my actions but not verbally state it.

can I be straight to the point?
is "I like you" too much?

@vir22 Lol just tell him how much you appreciate him & compliment him on his good qualities. Just tell him that you really like him & you want to be with him & only him. His actions obviously show that he likes you. So be sincere & direct. You have to be, if you want him. Don't make this hard lol, because it's quite simple. So like everyone else will tell you, go get him

@ScorpioFish just forget about that Cancer lady ok. She doesn't care for you, so why worry about her. You got other people to talk to. So find someone who is worth your time & effort. Someone who will like you for you. Not everyone will like you, BUT there is someone special for you my friend. So forget the bad fish, & worry about the one who does care for you. If it was meant for you & that Cancer to be together, it would have happened. But she's not for you. However someone better is. So don't worry ok 🙂

Posted by vir22
Well the thing is we work together and my work place is male dominated and so they all flirt and hit on me and we're ALL friends, so it's kind of hard to get rid of them. I do want him really bad so if I could I would if thats what it takes.

So do you think that saying to him "I like you" is ok?

I'm sorry I'm making it more complicated than it really is. I just really don't want to mess up with him. It's so aggravating cause we sometimes already act like a couple but we're not and it's such a small hiccup but I can't seem to get to the other side. I want to get this over with already, I've been so patient for the past 8 months :/

Yes. Just tell him, better privately.

Or ask him out for lunch since Cancers like food. You could ask him what his favorite foods are. It's easier to make a Crab come to you with food. He'll probably talk more then. Just be direct with your feelings, & he'll mirror that if he's interested.