Advice About Cappy Male.... (Page 2)

I know Satori was married once, but I didn't know she was engaged again. I thought she was dating a Virgo now.

:O Wow I had no idea! And she has said for a while now that she can't see herself with a Cap haha

See how that works out 😛 I have to hit her up. I'm happy for her 🙂

Yup she said shes dating a Cap. I just checked her history and found the thread. I missed her posts somehow I guess.

haha

Aww I miss her. That's my girl right there. I hope shes doing well.

"Do you see me STILL posting about that shit? Unlike some, I ACTUALLY cut his ass off. 🙂 I gotta love how some of you keep throwing that back in my face as a comeback, but I'M not the one still posting about some asshole who outed himself with his bullshit and making excuses for him. I'm not trying to imply that I'm bette, but I can proudly say that I'm NOT being held hostage emotionally by some guy who shows me snippets of affection that is overshadowed by pure bullshit. It's rather freeing and a huge relief to NOT have him in my life anymore. Unlike Scorps, Aries do grow tired of drama and bullshit and will walk away at the drop of a hat. I say what I say because I'VE BEEN THERE. Some of you assholes have had the nerve to try to tell me that I don't have room to talk WHEN I DO. What's advice based on? EXPERIENCE. Not speculation of perpetuated myths.

OP- I don't care what anyone says or how analytical they want to be about his sexual comments- Dude's made his intentions clear. If a guy is talking sex with you that quickly, chances are that's all he sees you for. It doesn't really matter if he's talking to you, or whatever some want you to believe in the area of him actually being interested. Suure, MAYBE he is, but for a guy to start talking like that, regardless of sign, ONE thing is on their mind. If a guy truly respected you and was interested in you on a deeper level, he wouldn't talk to you like that. Seriously."

Testify!! I'm sure your self esteem was restored and your self awareness grew once you cut him off.

Your advice/testimony is no more less powerful than anyone else's.

Typically when a man start off wrong it ends wrong. Credit to the person that started this thread she doesn't seem light headed and desperate over this man so there's a huge possibility she will walk if he don't straighten his ass up and treat her with respect.

Stands up *CLAPS* Bravo!

I applaud you Ameth for doing something good for your self and your self esteem...Cutting off assclowns

Posted by amethyst2002
I've had one too many guys approach me with this tactic, and as soon as I shut them down, I stopped hearing form them. It's not just irony.

The cap I was engaged to never talked about sex in the beginning, but he sure wanted to get busy on the first date! I had to put the breaks on. Too be fair, he loved me from childhood, but never made a move. Even though he confessed all of this on our first date and asked me to marry him, I still put the brakes on. He never tried that again. He was always a gentlemen and I learned alot about him. Although I did not wind up marrying him, (I'm married to a scorpio), he was geniune. It may have seemed fast to me, but it wasn't to him since he had loved me for a very long time.

Ok, sex talk with someone you've just met and only had casual dates with.
I was doing the online dating thing and met quite a few caps. This one cap I met started talking a little freaky about sex and what not. It took me by surprise because our previous conversations were about so many other topics that we had in common. I thought he would be cool to get to know. But when he started getting lewd and almost rude, I asked him why was he so curious about my sexlife or my views on having sex. He seemed to appreciate my response, but it surprised him and he didn't have a quick, witty reply. So he sobered up after a moment (no he wasn't drunk) and gave me a answer I could accept. After that, we just talked more about sex in general without getting too personal. The convo became more respectful and somewhat fun. At times he would try to brag, and I would listen unimpressed and respond if I felt like it. He admitted that our conversation was unusual because most women either get offended or try to go "toe-to-toe" and boast about their lovemaking skills. Not many were able to hold their ground and have a grown folks converation about it.

Ok, here's the thing I learned. It's just a topic of conversation. THAT'S ALL. This early in a relationship, unless you are a hooker or a porn star, men are not expecting you to be a 977 call. But he's hoping he CAN talk about it just like you may want to talk about something interesting to you. Sex is an interesting subject. It can be handled with style and fun.

Lighten up...

🙂

The guy apologized for his behavior, that's fair enough.

Amethyst, out of respect, everyone deserves time to do what's best for them. Yes, you lifted the weight off of your shoulders, but it took time to get to that point. I'm sure there were people who told you the truth upfront in your situation, but you allowed yourself weeks, months, or however long you needed to do what was best for you. Every woman has a limit, and just because your limit is different doesn't make you right or wrong, it just makes you, you. So I think your tone in these posts are a bit offensive because We are all grown and All capable of doing what you did when we feel we can handle no more. That is all. Give respect and give time.

I agree, M.


People tend to personalize and project on these boards. By making it okay for another couple (who also happens to be the same signs), it somehow validates their own situations. I like how Amethyst remains rather objective, although that doesn't seem to be a popular opinion around here, which baffles me. She shoots straight no matter the sign (ie doesn't give Aries women the benefit of the doubt, or conversely, doesn't automatically assume they won't work out)



Oh well. Such is life amongst women on DXP tho 😛

Wow! I had a lot of catching up to do. I actually agree with everyone. I think that everyone is (kind of) saying the same thing but have different ways in communicating their points. amethyst2002, is a bit **ahem** abrasive. Lol. I understand her frustration. It is the same frustration that I feel when a close friend of mine calls me for advice on a relationship that was dead months prior. It's hard to see women settle and put up with shit they do not have to. Its even more frustrating and hard to speak to women who do not realize that they DO NOT HAVE to put up with shit. However, like kstark, cappyluv and others have said EVERYONE has their own timing. I am sure that we have all been in questionable situations with men, where others are looking at us like we are crazy for putting up with the man's bullshit, but something will not allow us to let go until the time is right. Some let go and move on faster than others. At the end of the day, why get so mad/upset over someone else's life? As long as you make decisions that you can live with, why allow others decisions regarding their own lives to be such a major point of contention. If a person does not want to read something because they are tired of reading it, I completely get it. I am like that with reality TV. I am SO over reality TV...well certain shows. Lol. So, guess what? I don't watch it. I don't get mad about it a call every reality TV show everything but a child of God. I just steer clear until I want to watch it happily. With that being said, I think amethyst2002 along with everyone is right about my cap situation. This IS a MAJOR red flag. Yes, men think about sex 99.99999% of the time. Lol. Yes men think about being intimate with a woman the minute they lay eyes on her. We know this. But that did not give homeboy the right to go hog wild with it. Lol. Yesterday, I was upset, offended and mad. This morning I got the stick out my ass and realized that what he said is not the end of the world.

Which brings me to the latest. Lol. He called me this morning. I answered. He said that he wanted to apologize again and that he wanted me to know that he did not mean to be offensive nor disrespectful. I told him that I dont play that shit and made a little joke about, but let him know I didnt feel comfy with it going down in the future until when and if we get to the point where trust has been established and it is a little more appropriate for that kind of conversation. He stated that he is interested in a relationship and wants to continue to get to know one another to see if we are good match for one another. We chatted a little and then I got off the phone. He AIMed via the internet while I was in a meeting this morning. I have not responded. Point is. IF I do proceed, I am not taking him serious until he SHOWS me he's serious and I am going to move very slowly. So we shall see??_.

I like this site!! Ahh ha ha ha!

Well done Scorpie 🙂

Lol. Thanks MsPices!

Ha, you put him in his place! I bet he's falling in love LoL.

lnana04 - Thanks! It was a really empowering feeling to laty it on the line. What felt the best was the fact that I was SERIOUS. I was not bluffing. I think he could tell. Lol.

*lay it

You got it!

A woman with self esteem is so refreshing (:

please don't change and turn into a bumbling fool with dead weight in her ass and ears (:

CapGal - Yes, I agree completely. I think that is a good rule of thumb with any man, really. If the actions do not back up the words, a man will automatically lose a lot respect for the woman. Honestly, he has put a bad taste in my mouth, I have kind of lost the sexual attraction that I DID feel. My desire to be taken seriously and to have a have meaningful relatinoship outwieghs my need to get laid. Fortunately. Lol.

Lol @ Tiki. Thanks!

From the moment I read the first post, I knew the end result would be this.

Beowulf - what do you mean?

Well dam... Lol

Lol @ out the side of her neck. Oh lordie. Well like I said the important thing I think is for everyone to remember that we were all in very similar situations at some point. Some more than others and we all appreciated being able to discuss our issues on a platform that where we could be open and honest and receive real advice from real people.

Btw, QS you crack me up.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
Venus in Sag... hm.. am curious if upcoming threads will be on Scorp ladies versus Caps with Venus in Sags 😛

it would be interesting to see the outcome.


I agree, don't ask him out first. Let him.

He wouldn't write you if not interested... so it is not because he feels bored at work.

He is still young without too much damage... i hope it works out for both.

...i just posted on here the other day as a scorpio girl into capricorn guy and my venus is in sagi... :o

Posted by Ruby01
This was really amusing to read LOL.

Anyway the point was, look in the mirror before constantly bashing the women who come to ask for advice here.

I thought it was pretty amusing too. LOL and thank you for reiterating that point for me. Apparently it went right over her head.



No worries QS. I have been reading for quite a while without posting, but i just had to say something this time as i don't like people being mistreated. No one owns anyone on here, and you most certainly don't have any rights over them, so please accord respect to your fellow human being. We are all adults here. Hopefully the points stated by lnana & kstarks wouldn't go unheard also.

Having said that, i'll go back to reading and leave you all to carry on.









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