cancersmith78
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Advice on Capricorn Co-Worker
Well, first of all the cap doesn't want to listen to you whining about being left out. Caps don't have time for whiners, it's weak. Caps are problem solvers. Best way to approach this with a cap is to say 'how is the best way to infiltrate this group?' or 'do you have any tips on how my ideas will get heard?'. Give them a problem to solve and they'll be more willing to suggest ways you can solve it. Be prepared for some brutal truth, though, and be willing to listen and follow through on the advice. The thing a cap can't stand the most is to give advice and it not be taken.
Mainly though, I am wondering why you didn't stand up for yourself when you got shut down. A cold look and a firm, authoritative voice saying "excuse me, I'm talking here" would put most people in their place and earn you some respect. Or you just keep talking and finish your thought process. Don't stop when they interupt, keep talking. If you let them interupt you, then you are allowing and rewarding their behavior.
Can't be polite in the business arena.
Mainly though, I am wondering why you didn't stand up for yourself when you got shut down. A cold look and a firm, authoritative voice saying "excuse me, I'm talking here" would put most people in their place and earn you some respect. Or you just keep talking and finish your thought process. Don't stop when they interupt, keep talking. If you let them interupt you, then you are allowing and rewarding their behavior.
Can't be polite in the business arena.
And losing your cool doesn't work. It makes you look weak and out of control of your emotions. Emotional outbursts do not belong in the office, people lose respect.
Posted by CluelessCancer
You can't be emotional. You're not a woman. Man up or get your own business.
Get Rich or DIE TRYING
CRAB motto.
I thought it sounded like a woman.
Either way, I stand behind my words, except now I will empathize the assertiveness.
Posted by FrenchKpricornPosted by truecap
Well, first of all the cap doesn't want to listen to you whining about being left out. Caps don't have time for whiners, it's weak. Caps are problem solvers. Best way to approach this with a cap is to say 'how is the best way to infiltrate this group?' or 'do you have any tips on how my ideas will get heard?'. Give them a problem to solve and they'll be more willing to suggest ways you can solve it. Be prepared for some brutal truth, though, and be willing to listen and follow through on the advice. The thing a cap can't stand the most is to give advice and it not be taken.
Mainly though, I am wondering why you didn't stand up for yourself when you got shut down. A cold look and a firm, authoritative voice saying "excuse me, I'm talking here" would put most people in their place and earn you some respect. Or you just keep talking and finish your thought process. Don't stop when they interupt, keep talking. If you let them interupt you, then you are allowing and rewarding their behavior.
Can't be polite in the business arena.
Sometimes truecap I find you so sexy, always saying the naked trueclick to expand
Awwww, shucks! 🙂
Thanks those that have responded. And yes, I am a woman. 🙂
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