Posted by GobshiteJust answer the woman cappy.
Too many variables to consider, to what is a universal question and not necessarily one for only Cap men to answer...
Posted by LibraLovesHiminteresting, i also would like to know the answer to your question....
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?
Posted by LindaaaatjeCappy wantin keep themselves a mystery I think....Posted by LibraLovesHiminteresting, i also would like to know the answer to your question....
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?click to expand
Posted by FrenchKpricorn.........
I will just
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
I will just
Posted by FrenchKpricornah ok, got you! that cappy communication lol!! love it!Posted by LibraLovesHimexactly, disappearPosted by FrenchKpricorn.........
I will justclick to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimI am a.Cap woman, not a man... but I will give you the overview of how Caps usually operate. Obviously there are different variables bcuz almost nothing in life is that simple.
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?
Posted by SpiceNSugarSometimes we will set it up subconsciously where the other person makes the decision for us.
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Posted by SpiceNSugarIf you want to break up with someone, to the point where you've thought long and hard on it and decided you don't want to be with them anymore, would it make you stay if they didn't want to break up?
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Posted by truecapYES THIS! Exactly how I was thinking...Posted by SpiceNSugarSometimes we will set it up subconsciously where the other person makes the decision for us.
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??click to expand
Posted by SpiceNSugarThank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Posted by Leolady666HAHA! Same here! Im currently in "cut it off" mode lets move on from this bs coz im too emotionally attached, I wanna move on grrrrrr!!!! Leave me alone 😢
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
Posted by Ktayl117I've never done that in a serious relationship, I have with guys I was dating or seeing.
Personally, I think the cap would do a slow fade, or just stop talking to you.
Posted by Ktayl117Yes, unless it's a long term relationship
Personally, I think the cap would do a slow fade, or just stop talking to you.
Posted by Leolady666Ask yourself why you let them keep coming back if they keep disappearing.
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
Posted by Leolady666Because you let him.
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
Posted by GreenteaSuch a Cap way of looking at things! LOL!Posted by SpiceNSugarThank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Why would you want to take part?.. the decision has already been made. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise, especially when it's been weighing on their mind for a while. It's not a business transaction.click to expand
Posted by champrangerThat's kind of what I meant, but couldn't find the right words.Posted by GreenteaIt's not so much about taking part ... as it is to understand the reasoning behind it.Posted by SpiceNSugarThank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Why would you want to take part?.. the decision has already been made. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise, especially when it's been weighing on their mind for a while. It's not a business transaction.
IMOclick to expand
Posted by iCloud9Yes, it feels so harsh to say those things to someone.
"It's not so much about taking part ... as it is to understand the reasoning behind it."
it's likely a double-edged sword that the one who decided to break up would rather not tell spill reasons behind the decision. would you like to hear "because i have never really loved you" or "i finally realize that i loved someone else more" or "i was settling and i just cannot take it anymore"? even if you think you can handle it, he may not be able to deliver it.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamTo whom is this question addressed?
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?
...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
Posted by champrangerTotally agree.Posted by iCloud9Sometimes the silence and the confusion hurts more than the words.
frankly, i had a very difficult time telling the exact reasons when i was breaking up and it did prolong the process with a lot of weight loss (due to stress). but i actually decided again that it was still better to not crush an ex partner like that especially when they didn't deserve it.
for me, a firm decision "let's break up" says it all. if someone really loved and wanted to be with you, s/he would.
IMO 🙂click to expand
Posted by SpiceNSugarThe OP? Why is this even a question?Posted by rockyroadicecreamTo whom is this question addressed?
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?
...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.click to expand
Posted by champrangerit's not uncommon that some would just disappear or slowly fade but i detest such a cowardliness. as i said, a firm breakup decision would be given. i just don't think it's humane to crush someone who loves me just to spell every little detail out. for what? and this goes both ways. a decision to leave would be enough for me to let the person go. i also see this as a compatibility issue in the area of non verbal communication. sometimes truth is simply overrated and inhumane.Posted by iCloud9Sometimes the silence and the confusion hurts more than the words.
frankly, i had a very difficult time telling the exact reasons when i was breaking up and it did prolong the process with a lot of weight loss (due to stress). but i actually decided again that it was still better to not crush an ex partner like that especially when they didn't deserve it.
for me, a firm decision "let's break up" says it all. if someone really loved and wanted to be with you, s/he would.
IMO 🙂click to expand
Posted by rockyroadicecreamJust didn't know since several people were responding to the OP.Posted by SpiceNSugarThe OP? Why is this even a question?Posted by rockyroadicecreamTo whom is this question addressed?
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?
...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.click to expand
Posted by SpiceNSugar...wouldn't one figure that if a random post was made in a post, it'd be directed at the OP, and anything to anyone responding would be done in quotes?Posted by rockyroadicecreamJust didn't know since several people were responding to the OP.Posted by SpiceNSugarThe OP? Why is this even a question?Posted by rockyroadicecreamTo whom is this question addressed?
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?
...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.click to expand
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