Can't read this Capricorn man

For the life of me I have no idea why is not posting my thread o.O

Ok sooo it took me for ever to write it and of course for some weird reason is not posting o.O

Let's just say...we met on line and we went out and our first date was pure magic...he actually deleted his on-line account during the date with me.

We saw each other a few other times and in between there were some really loving messages that made my heart smile.

He did say to me that he's a little guarded cos he's scared to get hurt again.

He's definitely closed up! I read a lot of threads here and I see that you guys keeps saying to give him time and space and I'm really trying to do that. I'm not a clingy person.

But it's been hot and cold ever since and it's driving me mad...I can't read him...I gave him a way out more than once...but he hasn't...but the messages slew down a lot and now we are trying to figure out if we can see each other Sunday for a drink...I need to talk to him.

I did mention to him that I felt confused and I couldn't figure out is he was still in this...but he keeps texting (less for sure).

So my questions for you Caps are:

What should I say when i see him next to make him understand that I'm not here to rush into anything but that I want to get to know him?

I don't wanna scare him away!

Also I'm not planning to text him again unless he texts me...do you think that would help?

Again the connection we had at the beginning was Once-In-A-Lifetime feel...

Posted by Capri-sun
We suck at communication. Talking face to face is best so as long as he's still around & making plans with you then everything is probably okay.

If you prefer more communication then let him know that.

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me...yeah one time he said to me "you know I'm a guy" when we were talking about communicating (my eyes rolled in the back of my skull :p

I'm not planning to text him...is that a good idea in your opinion?

Also I'm writing a letter to him, I'm trying to put my thoughts down on paper so that they are as clear as possible...I haven't sent it and I won't unless we are not meeting...

Last but not least...what would you 'need' to hear from me to make you understand that I'm not here to rush anything but just trying to get to know each other and that we should both leg go of our fears?

Thank you again for replying! i hope all is well for you!

Posted by Capri-sun

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Posted by Capri-sun
We suck at communication. Talking face to face is best so as long as he's still around & making plans with you then everything is probably okay.

If you prefer more communication then let him know that.

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me...yeah one time he said to me "you know I'm a guy" when we were talking about communicating (my eyes rolled in the back of my skull :p

I'm not planning to text him...is that a good idea in your opinion?

Also I'm writing a letter to him, I'm trying to put my thoughts down on paper so that they are as clear as possible...I haven't sent it and I won't unless we are not meeting...

Last but not least...what would you 'need' to hear from me to make you understand that I'm not here to rush anything but just trying to get to know each other and that we should both leg go of our fears?

Thank you again for replying! i hope all is well for you!

You're welcome and thank you for your kind words.

I like the letter idea....i'm a female though so I'm not sure how guys actually feel about it.

Not texting him should be fine, it gives him a chance to initiate and let you know that he's serious.

That last question...hmm, something along the lines of "I'll always be here for you and whenever you want to talk you know how to reach me. I have no intentions if hurting you and you're the only person I want to be with." Only if it's sincere and genuine and you truly mean it.

Other than that, just write from your heart if the above doesn't apply. The most important thing is to be honest. 🙂

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Thank you So much!!! That was very helpful! 🙂 He texted this morning...Just a "good morning 🙂 hope you'll have a good day" I did reply and wished him the same...he said Thank you...nothing else...

I will add what you said to my letter...it's truly what I feel...and I always speak from the heart with honesty...I think it's so important!

Posted by Capri-sun
It sounds like you're on the right track. He just might not have much to talk about

From your mouth to the Universe... 😉

Thank you so much!