Cap men eqo qun sorry little too much info

Well this is as personal as it can get so please be honest yet gentle.

12 years ago I was dating cap guy (I am also Capricorn), amazing rapport and chemistry we broke up for complicated reasons. 4 years ago he wrote me message to apologize and to hope to meet which never happened as we both in different countries right now.

4 months ago I reached out to say hi as I was coming to his town, he got immediately excited and planned how we get together. And we did 2 days ago, it was amazing still same rapport and chemistry despite these years.

However now the private part, when we tried to re-ignate the passion it started off well but then he couldn't. He told me he is attracted to me and I turn him on, however it doesn't feel as he thought it would (12 years is a big gap) perhaps his expectations were it will be exactly the same. He said he has conscience doesn't want this to be just sex. He stayed to chat, and was kissing me and being generally affectionate however he didn't want to stay the night. I was so hurt because the emotional build up was for 4 month and I just wanted spend the with him. He said he really missed me and wanted to see me before I go but then he made no effort to do so not he responded to any of my plans instead left me hanging.

I feel so confused, maybe he feels shame or maybe it's over for him. I don't know and have no idea of what to do.

If anyone could share similar experience or personal one it would really help.

Something was stopping him. Too hard for us to assume what exactly.

We Capricorns when we love it's forever usually, the person always stays in our heart but obviously 12 years is too long to feel exactly the same. The feelings are still there but not the familiarity that would have to be rebuild.

@maidenmerilyn no need for self esteem classes for neither of us, life takes us on strange paths sometimes and we all have different routes so perhaps this could have been hours

Hi cappiegirl,

Was there any signs or feeling you got that may be he's involved in another relationship?

This is random speculation but I just got this in my head that may be he's involved with someone else but hearing from you was just too good to let go. However, when you got together physically he just couldn't betray someone else on that level. This would explain why he went ghost on you. I mean i'd understand if suddenly meeting you in person after so long changed things intimately but you'd think that the person would let you know instead of not responding at all. The not responding part seems shady like there's more going on....

@stillstillwater I hear you! He told me he has been single for a while like me but sure he could lie as not to pass the opportunity to see me.

The feelings are still same as they were before yet he made a mistake assuming it will be exactly the same which is not possible and I told him so.

He sent message following day that he doesn't know what to say as he feels bad for how the evening went and he never meant to upset me.

Then another one next day that he is not ignoring me but is busy with show which was true yet he didn't communicate or meet me later on despite knowing I am leaving the country.

Well being cap myself I know I cannot make him talk but it's driving me nuts not knowing if it's over now or he is recovering from the failure/disillusion and will talk to me again as he made plans to come out and see me where I am earlier. So much potential to build up on the base that we have.

I decided to send him one message explaining how I feel and word it so he can come out clean if something was a lie (like he is single) which would be instant deal breaker.