Cap playing games?

I need honest opinions please as my heart is breaking. I'm a 20 year old Scorpio woman &met the man of my dreams (or so I hoped)a little over a month ago. He's 24 & a Capricorn (January 7 birthday).The attraction between us was instant!He asked for my number the 1st night we met &we talked for hours that night.He asked to see me everyday after he got off work & would spend hours cuddling, talking &kissing.When i started sleeping over, I refused to have sex with him-which he said made him respect me even more.Everything was perfect. He tells me he can see himself falling in love with me in a few months& all his friends knew about me. He told me 'you know your mine right? &introduced me as his girl to all his friends.Then out of the blue, the calls & texts started becoming less.He'd make plans with me& then cancel to "go drinking with the guys".I panicked & started getting insecure & clingy-mainly in the form of texting. He'd reassure me that "we are good".3 weeks into it, he texts me "sweetheart this isn't working, your getting too serious and attached too fast". I was devastated, but I texted him back ok &wished him the best-not typical scorpio reaction I know, but I was head over heels for him.Then the next night he texts me that he is sorry, there's nobody else,he just doesn't want to hurt me, he knows how much I care about him and he misses me & wants to see me.the instant we see each other -fireworks! I told him I'm an all or nothing type when it comes to relationships & I wanted to be with him.The only issue we had was that we were both going to be leaving in a year to different states-but I would go with him if he wanted. He asked if I was in love with him & I told him not yet since we had only known each other a few weeks, but I could see myself getting there with him soon-he said he felt the same but he thinks theres an inevitable end, but wants to take it day by day because he cares so much for me &wants nobody but me.However a week later he went back to canceling dates again,but would ask me to spend the night-which I stopped doing.The next night I stopped by unannounced & found him naked in the bathroom with another girl.He yelled at me "I told u I don't want you! "-which he had never said before.He then comes out &begs me to wait &stay,but I left.The next morning he texts me 'sorry, it shouldn't have went down like that'.I didn't respond, I'm so hurt.I haven't heard from him in 3days.Don't know what to do.

Unfortunately I think the answer is pretty clear. There's nothing left for you to do but to move on. This fellow is not serious about your relationship.

I think my issue stems from a point of almost being vindictive-again wanting to deliver that Scorpio sting.I'm not sure if I want him to try to come back more for an explanation or just so I can make him suffer and let him know what it feels like. I'm usually extremely careful with my heart, but for some reason I let him in. I hope this is not a representation of most Capricorn men as I was really attracted to his ambition, work ethic and manliness. I loved how he was this strong man on the outside,but a teddy bear on the inside.

nobody buys a frikkin car without test driving it.

taking it day by day.. said no sincere cap ever

Posted by Haven
.3 weeks into it, he texts me "sweetheart this isn't working, your getting too serious and attached too fast"..

You got attached too fast and he bolted.

I think he did like you, which explains the back and forth behavior, but you scared him away by getting too serious too soon.

He did tell you it wasn't working - that was his way of breaking up with you. He had every right to be with someone else after telling you that. You had no right to stop by unannounced.

For future reference, canceled dates is a big ole red flag that they're not into you.

You found him in the bathroom.....what'd you do just walk into his house?

Thank you everyone for your honest&sincere replies.
Truecap- I promise I didn't mean to scare him away. He was the 1 who would bring up everything from how beautiful or kids would be, to traveling together, told his mom about me, etc. When he told me it wasn't working it was out of the blue,I told him ok & wished him luck in the future & left him completely alone, and he came running back the very next day saying it was a big mistake & how much he cared for me and didn't want to lose me. Stupid me for believing him. He would make dinner plans with me, then say he just wants us to stay home and cuddle, so that's what we did. Most of the time he would cancel to go drinking with his boys. But after so many times of canceling,I decided to keep my original plans with my friends and family instead of canceling to be with him only to be let down. In fact,he begged me to stay with him the night before finding him, but I had a family event I couldn't miss, so we planned on the next day. No matter what, he always told me I was the 1& he was spoken for. Thank you for the future reference in regards to the canceling dates-if I ever date a Cap again ‰.As far as finding him in the bathroom, his front door was open and I called his name thru the screen and he answered.This was nothing new, until I walked in and saw women's underwear on the floor & found him in the bathroom with her.
Ellle-thank you for being able to relate to what's going on in my head. I turned right around after catching him and walked out while he was telling me to wait&stay. I didn't really say anything, just got in my car & left. I've not reached out to him and refused to respond to his text-only 1 mind you. I just hate running thru all these emotions. Being a Scorpio yourself, you obviously can relate to how deep & intense we feel.Everywhere I looked I had seen that Caps&Scorp were excellent matches & we really clicked right from the start . I guess I thought I meant something to him after he left the 1st time and came running back less than 24 hours later telling me how much he cared, leaving me was a mistake,I was the only 1 and begging to see me. I hate that I let him make &see me insecure-if it were any other guy they would have not even got a 2nd chance. Your right, dignity&class is the way to go, although all my plots and revenge seem justified, I will definitely sick with your advice. Thank you!

Scorpio girl; you were fortunate to find him naked with another girl before you had sex with him. You will look back on this in a couple of months and realize how lucky you are. He was being conniving when he shouted at you "I told you I don't want you!" And then chased after you with excuses. He said those hurtful words for the other girl's benefit and chasing you was to try salvage yours cuz he's still trying to get into your pants. I say good riddance; there's a world full of good decent eligible men out there. Stay strong Scorpio.‰

exactly..what a piece of shod....capricorns are a trip..i ignore them but i am always hunted by them lol

i would've invited him out no showed and said i changed my mind..what a dick head....
You dodged a big std bullet..please pull yourself together and go be the sexxy siren scorpio you are.... 🙂
as a scorpio you should've been mysterious with a cappy...you control your lane with men, never the other ay around

good luck and be happy you now know the truth 🙂

Posted by RegalLioness
Scorpio girl; you were fortunate to find him naked with another girl before you had sex with him. You will look back on this in a couple of months and realize how lucky you are. He was being conniving when he shouted at you "I told you I don't want you!" And then chased after you with excuses. He said those hurtful words for the other girl's benefit and chasing you was to try salvage yours cuz he's still trying to get into your pants. I say good riddance; there's a world full of good decent eligible men out there. Stay strong Scorpio.‰

Everyone always reads the story and makes an opinion, which is fine. I always read through sentences.

What is it that YOU want— Do you want to win or compete for him? Do you want to know the reasoning for his actions? Or do you just want to put yourself through hell just to figure him out?

Since your a Scorpio, I bet it's the last one.

RegalLioness-thank u for the much needed support. I'm slowly but surely getting back to my normal Scorpio self. I know what I want from a man and loyalty & honesty are at the top of the list. I can't believe I let this happen to myself-definitely getting back to the old me is priority #1.
Balblair- definitely dodged an std bullet for sure! While he was in the bathroom with her trying to figure out what to do,her phone kept going off -so I looked at it and I counted at least 4 different men asking when she was going to come over- yeah he picked a winner there.
SureShotCap- I truly admire your ability to read between the lines! Part of me wanted to win, part of me wanted reasoning which has put ALL of me thru hell.
I'm usually so good at seeing thru people and I'm VERY selective with who I give my time to, zero time for games. My friends keep telling me he will contact me again since I have gone cold with no contact, just because he is a man and didn't get in my pants the 1st time. I'm not going to lie and say that a part of me doesn't want him to try to win me back since he's the 1 who messed up. I know this is the wrong way of thinking but some feelings are still there as this only happened a few days ago, but I know I deserve better. So I have picked up extra hours at work and made plans with my girls who live out of town to keep me busy this weekend & to help me move on. Just trying to prepare myself to refuse him in case he does try to come back. I hate that there is even a 1% chance that I would even listen to anything he had to say-but Im working on it! Hopefully I can eliminate that 1% over the weekend and accept it for what it & he is.

Posted by Haven
Balblair- definitely dodged an std bullet for sure! While he was in the bathroom with her trying to figure out what to do,her phone kept going off -so I looked at it and I counted at least 4 different men asking when she was going to come over- yeah he picked a winner there.

lol

You will be just fine....🙂
He will contact you...I have a cap who still contacts me till this day, called me this weekend to say he was in my neighborhood with his bff...I didn't pick up, he then proceeded to text me...I didn't answer...lol
He lives an hour away from me and opted to go to a shopping plaza in my neighborhood...yeah ok stalker lmaooo

My issue is caps live this faux life about respect and blah blah, but most caps I know will fluck a slut in a bathroom as if their breathing air...but want you to be mother teresa in order to be the woman in their life...contradictory much...

Your cap will contact you and be very subtly manipulative...they hate to not have something they want and they don't mind going weeks or months or yrs in my case to get that person back...

In life you teach ppl and men how to treat you...good luck 😉

Don't feel bad for him trying to win you back at most it will be entertaining...in the end just make sure the man in your life is treating you like the amazing woman you are! 😉

Posted by Haven
RegalLioness-thank u for the much needed support. I'm slowly but surely getting back to my normal Scorpio self. I know what I want from a man and loyalty & honesty are at the top of the list. I can't believe I let this happen to myself-definitely getting back to the old me is priority #1.
Balblair- definitely dodged an std bullet for sure! While he was in the bathroom with her trying to figure out what to do,her phone kept going off -so I looked at it and I counted at least 4 different men asking when she was going to come over- yeah he picked a winner there.
SureShotCap- I truly admire your ability to read between the lines! Part of me wanted to win, part of me wanted reasoning which has put ALL of me thru hell.
I'm usually so good at seeing thru people and I'm VERY selective with who I give my time to, zero time for games. My friends keep telling me he will contact me again since I have gone cold with no contact, just because he is a man and didn't get in my pants the 1st time. I'm not going to lie and say that a part of me doesn't want him to try to win me back since he's the 1 who messed up. I know this is the wrong way of thinking but some feelings are still there as this only happened a few days ago, but I know I deserve better. So I have picked up extra hours at work and made plans with my girls who live

Thank you SO very much everyone for all your support and responses. It means the world to me! â¤