Cappie Girl and Cappie Guy... (Page 2)

Amazing how a bit of sunshine can lift the spirits!..or is that just the alcohol..lol

LeoGirlWithCap&Annoyed... I am impressed with you and your outlook/handling of the situation. : ) I couldn't remember how long you'd been dealing w/ yours... longer than I thought. Actually, I think my dear friend TaurusGirlwithCap talked about the deadlines... and that not working. I tend to do the deadlines in my own mind but I'm off that now for the moment. Haven't heard from him... I feel the energy/thoughts in the air... It's weird- I'm about 50/50, thinking I'd be fine w/ letting this thing phase out. That's what keeps me from contacting him, for the most part; he has to want this and I'm not going to prolong my own misery and torture, because I do feel that way not being with him and spending time w/ him like I'd like... I don't have alot of motivation there to chase him, in other words. What you said about the time investment and the "longitude" and expectations though, as to their outlook, was very very insightful and most definitely true.

That is really funny, LeoWithCap&Annoyed- the whole thought process of these guys!! LOL 😉 (I thought you had some earth or water in your chart, and am not surprised to see your cancer moon and venus!) So, you've got 2 years in w/ your Cap.? Does that not sound like an investment ... "...years in..." ?? LOL You know that the dividends are not paying off well on this particular stock it seems, right? haha!! What is your mercury in? Just curious if it's an earth sign. I like #9! LOL The stage #9 could last anywhere from 5 days to 5 weeks, while he goes back over stages 1-8 in his head about a dozen more times? Then stage 10 lasts 24 hours at most. Stage 12 is basically a stage 9-er. 🙂

Leo~ Too funny! I am chatting w/ my Pisces friend- she has the 3 yrs. w/ her cap. guy too, and she read your posts of today and is the intuitive astrologist, guessing your mercury down to Virgo. 😉 We'll have to chat more sometime off this darn board... She just said she has had the same type of division of history, by year, w/ hers. I'm only a 1.5'er so you all are double my stock investment. LOL As you know, TaurusGirlWithCap is my other support who has 4 yrs. 3 mos. and is pretty consistently into smooth sailing. So, have you done the ILY?

Leo~~ TaurusGirl has clued me in to one of her tactics to pulling hers out of a disappearance which I used just recently and was very pleased w/ the results. 😉 This was just showing up at his place, a'knocking, without call or warning... a little friendly drop-by! He actually answered the door, which was way more than I ever expected. I guess I am letting go, outwardly anyway, unless he does something to show me I shouldn't.

That is so compellingly true, once again... This thing has been so very 'stop-and-start' because of that very issue, and would have been just dead-STOP perhaps many months ago, had I not gotten advice off this and another old site from others who gave me the insight and courage to take some initiative and educate me of the issues of insecurities, etc. Otherwise, my own Cap. insecurities and fear of rejection, and wanting to avoid rejection at all costs, would have kept me paralyzed and prevented me from taking a risk... But right now, I just don't feel that it's my place to do anything further, ya know?

LWCA - You got it all figured out..
I loved the conversation..especially number 10!..hahaha..

LWCA~ I sent you a PM.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

So mt cappy msn'ed me just now... telling me his last two weeks has been chaotic with police training.. and that he's sorry for not keeping in contact.
it was good to hear from him.. but I am still a lil annoyed.

However, learning to be a patient person .. I just told him that I understand he's busy, because so was I! ANd I am happy for him that he's doing well at school.. and then he says I am such a sweet lady. (bloody smooth lines... always gets me!) we talked for a bit more and flirted.. and I was telling him that if he needs to learn to use those cuffs, i have an extra pair of wrists.. LOL.. and he told me that I have nice ankles and all sorts of other things.. LOL.

But he was a lil too busy to talk to me, seeing he's only home for the weekend and he has a lot of running around to do. So we chatted a bit.. called me a funny, sexy lady.. and I am now at the point of understanding.. that the cap man... is definitely alot of work. Gotta be patient. and I am happy that he hasn't forgotten me... and realized its been two weeks since he's freakin contacted me at all!

sigh.. i gotta take a step back. I GOTTA.
and I am trying to play it cool...
am I right?
just play it cool?
sigh...

Savagetai,

I'm glad your cap guy got back to you, after that long agonizing wait (two weeks, wow!). I wish I had done the same thing as you when my cap (which he isn't) disappeared for a week. I knew he would have come back like yours did. I have to tell you that police training is very intense. I know someone who went for it, and you don't get two minutes to yourself. You are always under constant surveillence. I know you really want this guy, so the history on this board is telling me that you'll have be a ROCK. Be patient, you'll pull through 🙂

Yeah... I know...

I think what sucks is that I don't get to see him because of his busy schedule.. so I have to just stick with msn and phone and text.

The thing is, sometimes I am just slightly confused because I think that he may not be interested in me.. and maybe just treats me like.. "whatever". But then, when we talk, we flirt, he comments on how great I am or how great I look in the webcam or pics... then my thinking is that, he is interested.

I just hope that when he decides that he can't appreciate me or is disinterested.. he will tell me. Be upfront and tell me. I am a big girl who can take stuff like this and will just move along.
I know he's been straightup so far.. I just hope he continues to do so...

Is this where we're posting random thoughts right now? Gosh, I know what I've said about that I cannot do anything more or feel that I shouldn't ... but today I am feeling this incredible pull just to call or text. I hate this~ I just want to feel "wanted" and have some feedback/ positive sign from him, so I hold back and wait. I try to tell myself that if he can't act on that letter I gave him, and w/ my showing up and delivering it in person, if that wasn't enough for him to see that he needs to reciprocate and do something, then I don't want that kind of "man" anyway... It's too huge an indicator that he doesn't have what it takes to step up when needed... Bad day. 😢

Everybody has bad days. Don't do anything when you are having days like that. I don't know how long ago it was when you handed him the letter but he could be still thinking if it's wise to take contact with you. He might think you are disappointed with him and he doesn't want to be rejected. It's not easy to say since I have no idea what you wrote. Maybe if you are feeling bad tomorrow, and you want to test the waters, you could send him a short and sweet text message. It's just a suggestion. It could work.

Thanks, Mystical. I'm sitting cool. I will be fine.... ; ) Shoot, I can't keep straight everyone's dudes-- are you the police officer training Cap. who had recent contact? I think so... Just read about the msn IMs? That is positive~~ I know what you were saying about feeling encourage and connected by the conversation- flirting, and attentiveness and compliments~ just stay positive and focused on your own self-worth. That contact was a good sign, just don't readjust your focus or thinking because of it...

I know it's difficult keeping track with all the dudes but I have to disappoint you with it's not me that has been dealing with a police officer cap guy. That's a girl called Savagetai. I have my own so called problem with a guy too who is some piece of work. You know I hadn't heard from him since last weekend and he told me he was annoyed with me because I'm too positive. I couldn't believe it. Then the whole week went by without hearing from him. Suddenly 1 AM Saturday morning he calls me. I was a little taken aback I have to say. Everything was fine it seems like. This guy wanted me to know his neighbor doesn't like him because all the girls are interested in him (my friend). I have no idea why he's telling me this or what he expects to gain by telling me this. When I told him he's lucky to have so many girls after him he told me he wasn't. I have no idea when I'll hear from him again. Life goes on.....

Mystical~~sorry, that's right, I now have it straight. What is your sunsign? I have always wondered about this.. And do you know his venus/mars/moon, and yours? This is really helpful compelling info.

CapGirl,

I had gone to Astro.com a while ago and had done my horoscope. I had to go back and then due his also now. I think he was born around noon time on his birthday. I'll write it down. I have no idea what any of this means though. I'm and Aquarian by the way.

Him: Ascendant in Scorpio Me: Ascendant in Libra
Sun in Virgo Sun in Aquarius
Moon in Pisces Moon in Leo
Venus in Libra Venus in Aries
Mars in Libra Mars in Capricorn

Can you explain what this means? Does it explain why I get so frustrated with him?

I don't know what happened. I also wrote myself. Oh well, I'll write it again.

Me: Ascendant in Libra
Sun in Aquarius
Moon in Leo
Venus in Aries
Mars in Capricorn

Oh now I see. I got jungled up with each other.
I'll write his also again.

Him: Ascendant in Scorpio
Sun in Virgo
Moon in Pisces
Venus in Libra
Mars in Libra

Thanks guys for your comments...

PS.. I am the one with the guy who's in police training. 🙂

I need to stop focusing on the negatives and take a step back.. and breathe. I have to stop being so low in confidence with what I do, because I am not like that. I am so self conscious about the steps I take, afraid to let my ego be bruised. Afraid to lose and afraid of failure. and I keep on thinking that the end of this.. is just going to be a crappy ending. That he's going to forget about me and that it's all going down the drain. That he's going to never tell me the truth and that he's going to be a flake and disappear into thin air. It's true.. the reason why I am upset with my situation.. is because it's not turning out the way I want it to turn out. The way I expect it to. and because my expectations are not met or not turning out the way i want it too.. i am upset and therefore wanting to preserve my ego, i am thinking it as a negative negative negative thing.

I need to change this attitude... to be able to roll with the punches. i need to stop having so many expectations and think that I can control things.. when i can't..

sigh... this is tough. I am a cappy and such a stubborn girl that change.. is scary.

Hi all..

just thought I'd sorta update and say that mr cappy.. msn'd me from training schooL! he can't do it often with his laptop.. but he did.. and we talked and i gave him a bit of eye candy by turning my webcam on. 😉 😉 😉 hehehehe...

so much so that he wants to try to see me on friday. (HAH.. knowing how sporadic his timing is.. I am not placing all my hopes on THAT! but its good to know he's thinking about it.. 🙂 ) Anyways... thank you taurusgirlwithcap. You were awesome in giving advice.. and fingers crossed. everything in the end.. with or without him, will turn out fine..

just gotta breathe..