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Cappy man withholding sex
He sounds just like the cap I'm hanging out with. We didn't have sex until 3 months in. No sleep overs yet, but I also haven't asked or tried. It really took him that long to trust me. That's when everything started to warm up. Gain his trust.
On the other hand. I dated another cap and took 3 months for us to have sex and then it never worked out. He just wasn't that into me.
The biggest difference was the intimacy when I hung out with both of them. The first guy was always cuddling when we hung out. The second guy did not do that tooo much.
What's your gut say?
On the other hand. I dated another cap and took 3 months for us to have sex and then it never worked out. He just wasn't that into me.
The biggest difference was the intimacy when I hung out with both of them. The first guy was always cuddling when we hung out. The second guy did not do that tooo much.
What's your gut say?
Posted by pinkbird03
He sounds just like the cap I'm hanging out with. We didn't have sex until 3 months in. No sleep overs yet, but I also haven't asked or tried. It really took him that long to trust me. That's when everything started to warm up. Gain his trust.
On the other hand. I dated another cap and took 3 months for us to have sex and then it never worked out. He just wasn't that into me.
The biggest difference was the intimacy when I hung out with both of them. The first guy was always cuddling when we hung out. The second guy did not do that tooo much.
What's your gut say?
wow, I think that's it, he doesn't trust me, like at all, and it hurts me. Well now I left, so until october we'll se how things will go, probably I will found someone else who will want me and trust me . I mean I woudn't want to wait for him 5 months and later to find out we're not conpatible like it happened with my ex. And how are you now with him? are you touchy loving all that cute couple stuff?
Posted by nanobyte
Well, if you feel something off then there is probably something off.
It sounds like maybe you two just aren't sexually compatible.
IME I think caps are kind of closeted nymphos, so it does sound very weird to me that a whole month goes by and he hasn't made any move.
I mean, I know they say caps move slow (not my experience), but shit.
yes I know, I find it weird too because he flirts with me, he tells me like I have an awesome butt, or once we had a pretty nice role playing texting flirt. Maybe it's the trust issues.
Posted by virgoclusterIt's touchy loving cute couple stuff but we aren't a couple. No titles with this guy right now. It's only month 4.Posted by pinkbird03
He sounds just like the cap I'm hanging out with. We didn't have sex until 3 months in. No sleep overs yet, but I also haven't asked or tried. It really took him that long to trust me. That's when everything started to warm up. Gain his trust.
On the other hand. I dated another cap and took 3 months for us to have sex and then it never worked out. He just wasn't that into me.
The biggest difference was the intimacy when I hung out with both of them. The first guy was always cuddling when we hung out. The second guy did not do that tooo much.
What's your gut say?
wow, I think that's it, he doesn't trust me, like at all, and it hurts me. Well now I left, so until october we'll se how things will go, probably I will found someone else who will want me and trust me . I mean I woudn't want to wait for him 5 months and later to find out we're not conpatible like it happened with my ex. And how are you now with him? are you touchy loving all that cute couple stuff?
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Posted by Capzhaha thank you! I will try that next time if it will be one. But I dont get it why do you have to move so slow? And do you have any idea how to gain his trust? Or what makes you open up to someone? Thanks
the sexual tension is not high enough, you both will have sex after your firth big argue. next time you go out with a guy, argue. of course in face too face.
? angry face + screaming.
Posted by youngalithanks! Yes I met othet cappies too and they can get very clingy and flirty but he's more serious and I like that. Maybe he is that type that needs to have real feelings and feel comfortable with the other person before getting intimate, which takes time. He made feel bad because I was the one suggesting it like I'm easy but I'm not
that's odd that he's not all over you. never dated a cap that wasn't all over me, they'd usually want to see the person and hang out all the time when truly interested.
i'm guessing sexually incompatible or maybe he just likes your company, and that's it.
...and he definitely doesn't trust you yet.
Posted by Capzhahaha this reminds me of my ex cap, He liked getting me mad or worked up about something amd then do anything for me, even come to sleep with me even though he had to go to work. ? I liked it, he would do whatever I wanted. "to make it up". ?
the sexual tension is not high enough, you both will have sex after your firth big argue. next time you go out with a guy, argue. of course in face too face.
? angry face + screaming.
On the other hand, he was always all over me.
He would even say, I don't want to have sex... then end up having sex. lol
Posted by ShadowcatI think around 10-12 times
How many times have you seen each other in this past month?
I thought about it and I think it was a smarter move from him because it would have been harder for us to get to the next level and then leave and let us thrive for more. I could have handled it though but I think he couldn't
Posted by lesenfantterribleshaha, I've read about this combination, it's pretty hard for my all or nothing venus scorpio attitude
ooyyeeee that cap sun w/ venus in aquuaaaa
that smells like with holding for surreee
Posted by virgocluster
Last time this happened to me was with my ex cancer bf who wasnt sexual attracted to me (found out after 2 years when we broke up) .
First of all, how thick headed are you in that 2 years can go by and you have no clue whatsoever that your boyfriend isn't sexually attracted to you?
And you obviously had to be told by him ... I mean, can you tie your own shoes, or do you just keep tripping over them until someone tells you your shoes are untied.
Like seriously .. it's that fucked up that you have no awareness of your SO.
Second .... due to the fact that this has happened to you before, which is unusual that a guy doesn't want to fuck you, since they'll fuck a hole in a tree if nobody was looking ..... you must be pretty fucked up in other departments, since that fuck up supercedes his need to nut.
Probably your lack of awareness.
Posted by virgocluster
But he is very possesive and jealous, because if I go out with my guy friendsclick to expand
And here is the likely problem. Again, you are completely clueless to the fact that a person trying to learn how to trust you isn't going to do so if you're out running around with guys.
That's not saying you can't have male friends .. it's saying that you're so thick headed that you have zero sensibilities to tell you that you SHOULD refrain from going out with other men, since he is in a phase of trying to understand you, and work through how to trust you.
And it's not that you're going out with these friends ..... rather, that you have no gauge in you to tell you that it's something you shouldn't do for his sake.
It's like you're just an empty container .....
You're going to be hard pressed to get any to believe in you, since you have to be told to consider them.
Oh and btw, your title is misleading .. which isn't a surprise, since you're empty headed.
He isn't withholding sex from you. He made no promise, nor move to indicate he wanted to have with you. You wanted him to initiate and he didn't. That's not withholding .. that's electing not to dip into a woman who is so fucked up.
I mean, we all know that the moment a guy sleeps with you (women) ... women suddenly have outrageous expectations on the guy, as if he is then bound to her for life. And I don't blame in for taking that pass ... who the hell wants to get caught up in a female who cannot even think for herself?
He dodging a bullet.
i honestly think this cap of yours is suffering from performance anxiety
Posted by P-AngelWow I think you got it a bit wrong, and I am definitely not stupid. I didn't know my ex wasn't attracted to me because it was a complex problem. He has ED because of smoking and unhealthy eating and didn't try to treat at all and blame it on me, and he always tried to find in other girls his first highschool love.Posted by virgocluster
Last time this happened to me was with my ex cancer bf who wasnt sexual attracted to me (found out after 2 years when we broke up) .
First of all, how thick headed are you in that 2 years can go by and you have no clue whatsoever that your boyfriend isn't sexually attracted to you?
And you obviously had to be told by him ... I mean, can you tie your own shoes, or do you just keep tripping over them until someone tells you your shoes are untied.
Like seriously .. it's that fucked up that you have no awareness of your SO.
Second .... due to the fact that this has happened to you before, which is unusual that a guy doesn't want to fuck you, since they'll fuck a hole in a tree if nobody was looking ..... you must be pretty fucked up in other departments, since that fuck up supercedes his need to nut.
Probably your lack of awareness.
Posted by virgocluster
But he is very possesive and jealous, because if I go out with my guy friends
And here is the likely problem. Again, you are completely clueless to the fact that a person trying to learn how to trust you isn't going to do so if you're out running around with guys.
That's not saying you can't have male friends .. it's saying that you're so thick headed that you have zero sensibilities to tell you that you SHOULD refrain from going out with other men, since he is in a phase of trying to understand you, and work through how to trust you.
And it's not that you're going out with these friends ..... rather, that you have no gauge in you to tell you that it's something you shouldn't do for his sake.
It's like you're just an empty container .....
You're going to be hard pressed to get any to believe in you, since you have to be told to consider them.click to expand
I'm not that clueless of things, I am pretty intuitive, it's just that I don't see all men as a hookup, I usually see a person first as a person without thinking of gender. And I don't find it normal for a guy I've been on 10 dates and we're not even official to not meet my friends when I want to. If I am with someone he has to trust me and let me free. If I choose to be with that person it's because I see only that person. I'm very faithfull.
And yes I know the title it's not the best option I really didn't know how to put it, maybe it would have been better to write: Cappy man doesnt want to get intimate
Posted by Shadowcatyes, This is what I am thinking too. I think it's best that happened. I may have hurried up a bit because I wanted to know if we are sexual compatible because I don't want to wait 4 months and not be able to meet my friends just to find out we're not compatible. But I will stay this summer home and not meet anyone and maybe he will trust me more.Posted by virgoclusterHe could just be being cautious. Sex opens a huge can of worms, and it's only been a month.Posted by ShadowcatI think around 10-12 times
How many times have you seen each other in this past month?click to expand
Posted by Adreamuponwakingyes it can be that too
i honestly think this cap of yours is suffering from performance anxiety
Posted by lesenfantterriblesPosted by virgoclusteri have a cap venus/aqua mars and i love to withhold a MF like crazy. i go through bouts of self imposed celibacy also.Posted by lesenfantterribleshaha, I've read about this combination, it's pretty hard for my all or nothing venus scorpio attitude
ooyyeeee that cap sun w/ venus in aquuaaaa
that smells like with holding for surreee
a few weeks ago there was a thread about hypersexual scorps but i've done some reading where scorps can actually withhold sexually for a long time. other scorps agreed... so i am a triple whammy sexual withholder lol... the sexual gatekeeper
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I read that too about scorpios. wow how can you do that? I mean I can too but not for more than 3 months. I think it isn't healthy . I can't do it with anyone either, I need to have a connection first, or to be a pisces.
Posted by Aerazoaww that is so cutePosted by Capzhahaha this reminds me of my ex cap, He liked getting me mad or worked up about something amd then do anything for me, even come to sleep with me even though he had to go to work. ? I liked it, he would do whatever I wanted. "to make it up". ?
the sexual tension is not high enough, you both will have sex after your firth big argue. next time you go out with a guy, argue. of course in face too face.
? angry face + screaming.
On the other hand, he was always all over me.
He would even say, I don't want to have sex... then end up having sex. lol
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Posted by lesenfantterriblesPosted by virgoclusterit kinda just comes naturally. sometimes it is an active choice & sometimes it isnt. i am going on 8 months right now!Posted by lesenfantterriblesPosted by virgoclusteri have a cap venus/aqua mars and i love to withhold a MF like crazy. i go through bouts of self imposed celibacy also.Posted by lesenfantterribleshaha, I've read about this combination, it's pretty hard for my all or nothing venus scorpio attitude
ooyyeeee that cap sun w/ venus in aquuaaaa
that smells like with holding for surreee
a few weeks ago there was a thread about hypersexual scorps but i've done some reading where scorps can actually withhold sexually for a long time. other scorps agreed... so i am a triple whammy sexual withholder lol... the sexual gatekeeper
I read that too about scorpios. wow how can you do that? I mean I can too but not for more than 3 months. I think it isn't healthy . I can't do it with anyone either, I need to have a connection first, or to be a pisces.
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wow, Good luck! It's better to not do it if it isn't a connection there
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i know it's been the fourth time i post this video on dxp, but this one is so a great tutorial. those libra rising are tired too be nice all the time
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