Kay5493
@Kay5493
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Cappy pulling away
I'm a Capricorn woman so hope you don't mind me posting here. I'm hoping to try and help.
I think it might be he's behaving this way because as a Capricorn being pretty straightforward, he's either With you or he's not. No in between. And if he's not with you properly, he will treat you like a friend. Even though he may have romantic feelings for You, it won't feel like a proper relationship to him because it's just bits and pieces stretched out over years.
As a Cap female, I wouldn't like like myself. I'd feel as if it was just a nice bit of romance in my life that pops up occasionally. I'd also want so much more but if I can't have it, I'd probably carry on with my life.
And the fact that he isn't saying anything to you about how he feels is also a Cap trait. It's very difficult for me to open up and say how I feel, I need time with that person - not away from them. Then I will start to open up and talk that per son how I feel. If I don't get time with that person then it all builds up inside me and it gets too much to deal with.
If he had more time with you and you were seeing each other regularly then it would probably be lovely. But you both apart all the time so for Him, it's more than friends but less than a relationship. To me that sounds like Limbo. It's a half-way house between 2 things. It's not definite one way of another.
Also you're Aries and hes Cap.
I was Married to an Aries and it wax absolute HELL!
Both want they're own way. Both stubborn. Both argumentative and neither will bend for the other.
COMPROMISE is what it's all about. Otherwise it's doomed.
However as a Cap woman it was always Me that would bend to suit him. I became his doormat and became resentful as a result.
Communication is not good between these two because they tend to think more than speak which is what happened between me and my husband. So we'd end up having 2 different wants in a situation and it would cause arguments. Or I would tell him what I wanted and he'd argue it every time to the point that it stop telling him what I wanted.
So to wrap this Up, he's probably treating you as a friend as it's easier. Hence why it feels weird the next day. But when you have time together he gets romantic because he likes you. But he also knows it's going to end and won't see you for years after so his feelings will only be present when you are.
When you are not present nor are his feelings. Then when he sees You, he remembers x
Notice how when he's with his friends he's with them properly and totally and enjoys it. He doesn't have that with you so it's like you can't be with him like that. But as you only see each other very rarely then he also can't be as intimate with you as he would like.
As a Cap I hate long distance relationships and would never do them. Maybe ask him how he feels about LDR. He may not like them.
Aries woman & Cap man is a better combo than the other way round but not much.
Personally I think you guys may be better off as friends because if you were together properly then give it 5yrs or so and you may just find you can't stand each other.
Read Compatibility charts between Aries Woman & Cap Man
http://www.astrology-zodiac-signs.com/compatibility/aries-capricorn/
Hope a of this helps x
I think it might be he's behaving this way because as a Capricorn being pretty straightforward, he's either With you or he's not. No in between. And if he's not with you properly, he will treat you like a friend. Even though he may have romantic feelings for You, it won't feel like a proper relationship to him because it's just bits and pieces stretched out over years.
As a Cap female, I wouldn't like like myself. I'd feel as if it was just a nice bit of romance in my life that pops up occasionally. I'd also want so much more but if I can't have it, I'd probably carry on with my life.
And the fact that he isn't saying anything to you about how he feels is also a Cap trait. It's very difficult for me to open up and say how I feel, I need time with that person - not away from them. Then I will start to open up and talk that per son how I feel. If I don't get time with that person then it all builds up inside me and it gets too much to deal with.
If he had more time with you and you were seeing each other regularly then it would probably be lovely. But you both apart all the time so for Him, it's more than friends but less than a relationship. To me that sounds like Limbo. It's a half-way house between 2 things. It's not definite one way of another.
Also you're Aries and hes Cap.
I was Married to an Aries and it wax absolute HELL!
Both want they're own way. Both stubborn. Both argumentative and neither will bend for the other.
COMPROMISE is what it's all about. Otherwise it's doomed.
However as a Cap woman it was always Me that would bend to suit him. I became his doormat and became resentful as a result.
Communication is not good between these two because they tend to think more than speak which is what happened between me and my husband. So we'd end up having 2 different wants in a situation and it would cause arguments. Or I would tell him what I wanted and he'd argue it every time to the point that it stop telling him what I wanted.
So to wrap this Up, he's probably treating you as a friend as it's easier. Hence why it feels weird the next day. But when you have time together he gets romantic because he likes you. But he also knows it's going to end and won't see you for years after so his feelings will only be present when you are.
When you are not present nor are his feelings. Then when he sees You, he remembers x
Notice how when he's with his friends he's with them properly and totally and enjoys it. He doesn't have that with you so it's like you can't be with him like that. But as you only see each other very rarely then he also can't be as intimate with you as he would like.
As a Cap I hate long distance relationships and would never do them. Maybe ask him how he feels about LDR. He may not like them.
Aries woman & Cap man is a better combo than the other way round but not much.
Personally I think you guys may be better off as friends because if you were together properly then give it 5yrs or so and you may just find you can't stand each other.
Read Compatibility charts between Aries Woman & Cap Man
http://www.astrology-zodiac-signs.com/compatibility/aries-capricorn/
Hope a of this helps x
Also..
It like to add that the reason he said all those romantic things to You, thrn went weird, saying he can't see as you as more than a friend, is because he meant alm those yhings and he'd probably like to see you as more than a friend but because of distance he can't.
Therefore he probably feels weird inside because you only see each other every few years. So as he feels weird. He acts weird.
It like to add that the reason he said all those romantic things to You, thrn went weird, saying he can't see as you as more than a friend, is because he meant alm those yhings and he'd probably like to see you as more than a friend but because of distance he can't.
Therefore he probably feels weird inside because you only see each other every few years. So as he feels weird. He acts weird.
checking you guy's full chart could be interesting.
I do however consider the 8y on the friendzone quite a problem, considering he told you he was attracted to you, how many years he's being just wondering why you never wanted him, and now you're there, but why? if he's the kind to overthink, he's doomed.
Mmm, that kinda hit close to home, now that I think about it 😅
I do however consider the 8y on the friendzone quite a problem, considering he told you he was attracted to you, how many years he's being just wondering why you never wanted him, and now you're there, but why? if he's the kind to overthink, he's doomed.
Mmm, that kinda hit close to home, now that I think about it 😅
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