Capricorn Male Confusing

So me and this cap guy started off casual, but over these 2 months we've become attached...he asked me to come away with him for a week (I did it, was amazing!) and he told me he's falling for me ect He said that we're clearly dating now haha But he's moving to Skye (which is why we started casual!) and he doesn't want to leave me behind but doesn't want a gf yet - we both became single in mind February... When we're out with friends he's so affectionate and a guy st this bar asked if I was his gf and he put his arm around me and said 'I guess you could say that' he was away for a week with his dad there and we had plans tonight but he just cancelled! Says he's got too much to do, that's he's sorry and rescheduled to meet tomorrow for brunch...he's got a gift to give me so maybe it's just to give me that:/ I'm just confused...he seems to like me sometimes, but as an Aries, this cancelling of plans tonight has upset me if it was me, I would never let anything cancel my plans to see him and I can't help but think he's no longer interested! Capricorns help?!?!

Explain?haha

what ? please - get real - plans can go awry at times and he's already made up for it by getting together as soon as possible - brunch the next morning ... you sound too spoiled for a Capricorn ... I have some strong Aries placements and although it does throw anyone off when plans need to be cancelled, it's not the end of the freaking world ! sheeeeet happens and if you don't learn to roll with it - especially when you know he would not have done that had there been any other choice - you will be rolling alone ...

Hey TierRom,

I know he likes me, that's not in question for me! It's just how much... I know that Capricorns move slow and we've become weirdly close in 2 months which is quite fast for him! I'm not unhappy he's rescheduled, I just don't feel like he's very eager to see me that's all:/

Tcta

Haha I don't think I'm too spoiled, I've got a Capricorn moon so I think I'm actually a lot more tolerable of him that most Aries would be! He rescheduled me again to lunch cause he has to see his sister before he goes tomorrow (understandable!) but I guess I expected him to be more excited to see me? That's just how I would be so I guess I expect him to be that too...?

And no cheekyfaerie the move isn't permanent! He's going up to work in Skye over summer (he actually asked me to join him when we were on holiday up there but I called him nuts haha) He'll be back in July/August- I've find him I would be happy to make the journey to see him before then though...

I can't do that on my phone haha

@cheekyfaerie did this work?haha No he doesn't leave tomorrow, I'm seeing him tomorrow at 2 (don't know what we're doing yet..) but I was thinking about asking him to stay for a bit longer here? He's always given opportunity to ask him to stay and I've never taken it because I want to be supportive, but maybe my telling him what I really want he'll hold off until I can go with him like what he originally wanted? Thoughts?

@tcta

Haha I don't think I'm too spoiled, I've got a Capricorn moon so I think I'm actually a lot more tolerable of him that most Aries would be! He rescheduled me again to lunch cause he has to see his sister before he goes tomorrow (understandable!) but I guess I expected him to be more excited to see me? That's just how I would be so I guess I expect him to be that too...?

@TierRom

I know he likes me, that's not in question for me! It's just how much... I know that Capricorns move slow and we've become weirdly close in 2 months which is quite fast for him! I'm not unhappy he's rescheduled, I just don't feel like he's very eager to see me that's all:/

The real question is how much do you like him? You need to be very patient and trust Capricorns. They really are a great catch!

@pinkbird03 I like him a lot haha We've both agreed that we've never fallen for a person so fast and that's what scares him! I'm trying to be patient, but because he's leaving soon I don't feel I have that much time haha

@cheekyfaerie haha Well I'll try it! I feel like it can't hurt...I won't push it, but I wanna make sure he knows what I ideally want - just as much as he hopefully knows that's I'll support his leaving too!

I hope we do!? I guess I'll find out when he gives me my birthday present!

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 I like him a lot haha We've both agreed that we've never fallen for a person so fast and that's what scares him! I'm trying to be patient, but because he's leaving soon I don't feel I have that much time haha

I would trust those words and try the long distance thing out. July isn't that far away. You can always FaceTime. How far away is skye? Can you visit on the weekends?

@pinkbird03 no I know...he just doesn't seem entirely sure because 2 months isn't very long to transfer to long distance - likes he's sceptical... He asked me on holiday to go up north to work with him and I called him nuts but I would! Skye is quite a few hours in the bus but I'd do it! Told him I'd come up every 2/3 weekends and he said he'd try and get every 2/3 weekends off...

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 no I know...he just doesn't seem entirely sure because 2 months isn't very long to transfer to long distance - likes he's sceptical... He asked me on holiday to go up north to work with him and I called him nuts but I would! Skye is quite a few hours in the bus but I'd do it! Told him I'd come up every 2/3 weekends and he said he'd try and get every 2/3 weekends off...

Well it seems like he's willing to try! Go with it.

@pinkbird03 maybe...but he still seems hesitant! He's made time for me tomorrow, but I may try and ask him to stay a little longer so I can go up with him....good idea do you think?

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 maybe...but he still seems hesitant! He's made time for me tomorrow, but I may try and ask him to stay a little longer so I can go up with him....good idea do you think?

Yep. It's a good idea.

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 maybe...but he still seems hesitant! He's made time for me tomorrow, but I may try and ask him to stay a little longer so I can go up with him....good idea do you think?

I just wonder why he's hesitant. Obviously it's because things are moving fast. But is it because he doesn't think he knows you well enough, can he trust you with loyalty, are you the right woman for him, and is long distance worth the hassle?

Caps think everything throughly. They make their decisions based on logical reasoning. Keep this last part in mind.

I don't know @pinkbird03 ... I would hope he doesn't doubt me but it has only been 2 months and Capricorns are slooooooow I hear! He does the classic hot and cold of being all over me, giving that adoring stare they're known for then I don't hear from him for a day or 2, then he's back and better than ever!haha I know he cares about me, making time for me and getting me a birthday present (I spent my birthday with him but he couldn't attend my party...) I just hope I can convince him tomorrow to stay and wait for me...

Posted by AriesAlways
I don't know @pinkbird03 ... I would hope he doesn't doubt me but it has only been 2 months and Capricorns are slooooooow I hear! He does the classic hot and cold of being all over me, giving that adoring stare they're known for then I don't hear from him for a day or 2, then he's back and better than ever!haha I know he cares about me, making time for me and getting me a birthday present (I spent my birthday with him but he couldn't attend my party...) I just hope I can convince him tomorrow to stay and wait for me...

Yep, the do move slow in relationships. Two months is not a long time for them. They need a lot longer than that.

@pinkbird03 Yes see this is the issue...we are out of time being local to one another and him being so logical I don't think sees he it could work long distance:/

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 Yes see this is the issue...we are out of time being local to one another and him being so logical I don't think sees he it could work long distance:/

If he really likes you, which it seems he does, then he's more likely to try the long distance relationship. It just might be a very big relationship test, a make it or break kind of thing.

@wonderwoman14 has experience with long distance relationships with a Capricorn man

I hope you're right @pinkbird03 ! I'm not sure how to approach him with the option though...I said it in passing the other week, but if staying isn't an option for him I don't want to push him to see me when he leaves either...

Posted by AriesAlways
I hope you're right @pinkbird03 ! I'm not sure how to approach him with the option though...I said it in passing the other week, but if staying isn't an option for him I don't want to push him to see me when he leaves either...

How's his effort been the last two months? Does he text or call a lot? Just so you know, they say the way that caps show they care about you is through working and making money to take care of you. How old is he?

@pinkbird03 Well he doesn't have a phone haha We met in work do mostly we just meet after he's finished or we'll set a day and he'll message asking if we're still on! He's 23 and has been working since he was around 15/16 haha He likes to buy my dinner when we go out...

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 Well he doesn't have a phone haha We met in work do mostly we just meet after he's finished or we'll set a day and he'll message asking if we're still on! He's 23 and has been working since he was around 15/16 haha He likes to buy my dinner when we go out...

Why doesn't he own a phone— That might be an issue. Does he have a computer?

@pinkbird03 @cheekyfaerie UPDATE:

Didn't go well...My Capricorn is very cold because he spoke to his ex for the first time in 2 months today and she is very angry with him and he feels horrible..he was with her 2 years and they broke up late February (we liked each other since December but only got together once he was single) But nonetheless he was very shut off from me when we met and wouldn't come near me😢 said he's worried we rushed into this and he's not ready for a relationship right now...think he may need time alone up in Skye to clear his head. He missed me when he was with his dad and still likes me/meant everything he's said to me... He asked me if I want to meet him for a drink later once he's back from his ex's house

He's definitely going to Skye and he doesn't care if he's running away:/ So I didn't even suggest him waiting haha

I don't know what to do/say... I've never had someone like me but not want me - help??

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 @cheekyfaerie UPDATE:

Didn't go well...My Capricorn is very cold because he spoke to his ex for the first time in 2 months today and she is very angry with him and he feels horrible..he was with her 2 years and they broke up late February (we liked each other since December but only got together once he was single) But nonetheless he was very shut off from me when we met and wouldn't come near me😢 said he's worried we rushed into this and he's not ready for a relationship right now...think he may need time alone up in Skye to clear his head. He missed me when he was with his dad and still likes me/meant everything he's said to me... He asked me if I want to meet him for a drink later once he's back from his ex's house

He's definitely going to Skye and he doesn't care if he's running away:/ So I didn't even suggest him waiting haha

I don't know what to do/say... I've never had someone like me but not want me - help??

doesn't sound good but hey - you can still be friends and date other people ... if she is an ex then what is he doing going to her house and who cares if she is angry and why are they even in contact ? that doesn't sound good to me - even if it was his decision to end it - why is there still contact between them ... hang in there ... but don't put all your eggs in one basket ...

@tcta because he's moving and there's a lot of his stuff at hers that he has to go get! He hasn't spoken to her in months and she hates him..and he hates himself for how he left it! They were together 2 years yknow...he cares about her which I understand

@cheekyfaerie think I may have mentioned a relationship but didn't say how long! I don't sympathise with him though cause he knew what he was doing with me...he went after me while still with her and I shut him down each time, but once he because single that was different! He invited me to Skye...he kept asking me to dinner...we both very recently took our relationship one step further....so he liked me enough for all of that! I don't understand this kind of behaviour!

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 @cheekyfaerie UPDATE:

Didn't go well...My Capricorn is very cold because he spoke to his ex for the first time in 2 months today and she is very angry with him and he feels horrible..he was with her 2 years and they broke up late February (we liked each other since December but only got together once he was single) But nonetheless he was very shut off from me when we met and wouldn't come near me😢 said he's worried we rushed into this and he's not ready for a relationship right now...think he may need time alone up in Skye to clear his head. He missed me when he was with his dad and still likes me/meant everything he's said to me... He asked me if I want to meet him for a drink later once he's back from his ex's house

He's definitely going to Skye and he doesn't care if he's running away:/ So I didn't even suggest him waiting haha

I don't know what to do/say... I've never had someone like me but not want me - help??

I don't mess around with guys who have baggage. Rebounds never seem to work out. I'd give him a lot of space and let him come to you if he's ever more serious about dating. Let him chase you. You're the prize. Not him. Or at least that's my latest approach to dating and seems to be working I think.

@pinkbird03 so you don't think he really liked me...? Capricorns finish and don't come back though right? I read that once they're done they're done... I don't think I'll hear from him once he's away

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 so you don't think he really liked me...? Capricorns finish and don't come back though right? I read that once they're done they're done... I don't think I'll hear from him once he's away

I've seen ones come back to other girls on here, but didn't last. My cap ex and I reconnected after not speaking for awhile, but we didn't officially date again. Just pretty good friends now. The cap I'm talking to now used to talk to me 3 years ago. We kinda just faded out. No major fall out or anything and now we're in the early stages of dating. You're not having a major fall out. You're not the reason for the breakup. It's him. So I'm going to say there's some hope after he's moved on from his ex completely.

@pinkbird03 Thanks...it really does help me right now. He says he wants to meet me later too...I believe he cares about me and if timing was different we'd be fine, but we were never friends before we started dating and I think we may need to do that first? I hope you're right... We've not had an argument, we DO like each other, he just can't focus and I need/want to respect that and trust that if he wants me back he'll say

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 Thanks...it really does help me right now. He says he wants to meet me later too...I believe he cares about me and if timing was different we'd be fine, but we were never friends before we started dating and I think we may need to do that first? I hope you're right... We've not had an argument, we DO like each other, he just can't focus and I need/want to respect that and trust that if he wants me back he'll say

Yep. Exactly. It's a good sign that he wants to meet with you. Are you going to see him tonight?

@pinkbird03 It all depends! He was obviously very cold because he had to go see his ex but it will depend what time he gets back and how much he gets done for going away...He told me he'd like to meet me later for a drink so I just have to wait til he messages me

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 It all depends! He was obviously very cold because he had to go see his ex but it will depend what time he gets back and how much he gets done for going away...He told me he'd like to meet me later for a drink so I just have to wait til he messages me

Not sure if it's a good idea to meet up. Since he might be upset after seeing his ex again and being at her place.

@pinkbird03 but if he wants to be friends then surely I should go? Try and transition to that different relationship - let him open up to me....?

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 but if he wants to be friends then surely I should go? Try and transition to that different relationship - let him open up to me....?

Depends. Are you completely okay with just being friends right now? Don't want you to be disappointed. I sense he's in a funk today.

@pinkbird03 Well we've never done the friends thing and I know that's important to Caps so maybe that'll help me rn...Hopefully our attraction won't fade and in a few months, once his head is clearer he'll have missed me more? (What I'm hoping anyway haha) And yeah he is definitely stressed today, the most cold and detached I've seen him:/

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 Well we've never done the friends thing and I know that's important to Caps so maybe that'll help me rn...Hopefully our attraction won't fade and in a few months, once his head is clearer he'll have missed me more? (What I'm hoping anyway haha) And yeah he is definitely stressed today, the most cold and detached I've seen him:/

Aww poor guy. You can hope. I've been nothing but hopeful for all my relationships (I date a lot) so I completely understand your feelings about him but just be realistic too. Like someone else said, don't put all your eggs in one basket

@pinkbird03 yeah no he's definitely had a tough day I think...he cares for his ex and she told him she hated him today, he feels worthless... I think he's still there so I don't think we'll get that drink but he might still message me

Maybe after a few months of friendship he'll come back to me ...

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 yeah no he's definitely had a tough day I think...he cares for his ex and she told him she hated him today, he feels worthless... I think he's still there so I don't think we'll get that drink but he might still message me

Maybe after a few months of friendship he'll come back to me ...

Seems odd to me that he's still there. You deserve to be the girl. Not the backup. Hopefully after a few months he will realize that

@pinkbird03 Well he hadn't spoken to her since the breakup and he did say that he wanted to try and talk to her/let her say whatever she wanted to him because she deserves that much so I'm not surprised he was there a while! I don't for a second think anything happened between them...But yeah, I hope that once he gets that clear head again he'll miss me and realise that his fear sabotaged us😢

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 Well he hadn't spoken to her since the breakup and he did say that he wanted to try and talk to her/let her say whatever she wanted to him because she deserves that much so I'm not surprised he was there a while! I don't for a second think anything happened between them...But yeah, I hope that once he gets that clear head again he'll miss me and realise that his fear sabotaged us😢

Hang in there! I know this is tough ?

@pinkbird03 It is😢. This is the most cold he's been and I know it's not me, he's just got a lot on his mind and he can't really focus on us right now...but in gonna talk to him today and make sure he understands that I want to be with HIM, but if he just wants friendship then I'm open to see others while he's away...(because he's been a little possessive with me of guys hit on me around him in the past - definitely doesn't like it) Or is that a bad idea?haha

Posted by AriesAlways
@pinkbird03 It is😢. This is the most cold he's been and I know it's not me, he's just got a lot on his mind and he can't really focus on us right now...but in gonna talk to him today and make sure he understands that I want to be with HIM, but if he just wants friendship then I'm open to see others while he's away...(because he's been a little possessive with me of guys hit on me around him in the past - definitely doesn't like it) Or is that a bad idea?haha

If you not exclusive, then it's okay. I dated another guy when I stopped talking to my ex cap. He was understanding, but definitely jealous. I actually felt bad talking to him about it, but he was the one asking in person. I think it's best for you to continue dating other guys, but it could affect your relationship in the future if he's already a jealous guy. He might get hurt. But at the same time, he's hurting you by playing these games. It's tough to listen to your brain when your heart is talking much louder.

From all of my dating experiences, I've learned my biggest lesson -if the feelings are mutual, the effort will be equal

@pinkbird03 We haven't talked about exclusivity but we both have only had eyes for one another these past 2 months (and even before then when he said he thought about me while with his gf at the time...) I want to show him in loyal and not start dating too soon, but he may never return to me and as an Aries my nature is 'well if you don't want me, someone else will'

Looking at a lot of difference people experiences I think it's a number of issues: he felt too strongly for me too fast, he hurt a girl he cares for and feels guilty about 'us' now and that our friends all already thinking we're in a relationship which is freaking him out...

Maybe after our talk today I'll get more clarity...I really don't want to hurt him