capricorn man issue

Genome's take is best for those dealing with YOUNG Cap guys, IMO.

I completely dissagree that it has to do with attraction to you, although I think bullerina might be right regarding most guys.

Us caps just aren't superficial like that.

I pulled my scorpio in some intense directions, and I had strong feelings for her, but I didn't know what I wanted to do with them yet. and knowing that I was hurting her was painful, so I let her go. But it didn't mean I didn't have feelings for her, I just needed some time to think about them. It doensn't mean we don't like you. When us cap guys are ready we are READY. Just be really nice to him at this point. Consistancy and positive attention go pretty far.

My scorp ended up trying to make me jealous which sent me in the opposite direction. Don't ever go that route. but if you are interested in another guy...let this cap guy know but tell him that he is the first choice...and that you don't want to have to go to second best.

And I disagree with Bull (& Genome from another thread) bc. my Cap said on several occasions that he was very attracted to me... and on other occasions said he couldn't date me because x, y, z (lame, bullshit, stupid). Some men (Caps included) ARe MeSSed up, (divorce, childhood, cheating exes) and it's not always as simple and clearcut as when you were 22!!!

I have experienced the same from a Cap, we were together a year and he went all out saying we should live together etc. He was very intense and made out i was the most amazing thing in the world and we started to look for a place together, he became busy at work then started to drift i gave him space and then out of the blue he ended it saying he didnt know what he wanted. He had pushed all the committment in the first place and i got caught up and couldnt beleive i'd also found someone so attentive and perfect.

Its only been a week and i've left him to have some space and time to think although he hasnt contacted me at all!!

Do Capricorns need this space sometimes? am i right not to contact him? I hear they dont change their minds but i know we had something really good and work was a major stess to him

i also forgot that caps let logic override their attraction, or at least that's what i've heard & read...? ~Bullerina.
unless i'm madly in love, yes its true, and once i can cope with the emotion i do tend to use logic.

always as simple and clearcut as when you were 22!!!
don't think i ever said it's simple. but some cases can be grouped together. it is also possible to not be concerned about dating even though the person is interesting or attractive.

*huggles toro* well, except for Genome hehe 😉.

well i look forward to hearing what this legendary genome has to say however, the advice of everyone else is appreciated as well! been hella busy and distracted ill read over the rest of this after i return.

don't think i'm legendary, i just say whats on my mind even if it's not very delicate. i don't call an ugly person, facially disfigured, i call them ugly, if someone is pretty i call them pretty.

well gtg do some bullshit. later.

scorp girl

He's young; Cap men get better and more mature as they age.

The work situation is a bummer. Not out of sight, not out of mind.

You need to know that the more conversation you have, the more chance he will open up more emotions and start to trust in the relationship. We're logical and pragmatic but also deeply emotionally, and the two can be confusing to us as much as others.

That said:

"I'd love to go with you if that's what you want." Slap that man and tell him to step up. Caps like strong women.

I feel like our communication is at an all time low right now, which on the one hand, makes sense because that's usually what happens when people "take a break" or break up. it's just harder because he's right here and like you said, it's not "out of sight out of mind" It feels unfinished between us and we're both really unhappy at work and want to get out so i think that's really affecting him as well. Last week there were text messages exchanged. i texted him on monday because he called in sick and i assumed he just did so to take a day for himself but i wanted to make sure, because despite everything obviously we still care for each other. so, i texted him a simple "u ok?" and he responded thanking me for my concern and telling me that he just took a day. i ended up calling out on wednesday and he did the same. texted me wishing me a happy new year (jewish) and checking up on me. other than that though, just work related emails that are strictly professional. it's just so weird going from talking basically every day to not at all. anyway, we have the baseball game on wednesday and i'm just not sure how i should act. should i let him know i miss him?