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I realize he is cheating and I am not naieve enought to think I am different and/or the only one. What makes me wonder is we live so far apart, have nothing but a phone/e-mail situation and why would he risk everything for this? He can cheat in his own town, I am sure. He hasn't said anything and I haven't asked, but I can't believe for a second she doesn't know or at least suspect he up to something. We aren't meeting in hotels, eating out, he's not spending money on me, etc. but he's spending an awful lot of time communicating and growing the communication. Someone mentioned earlier I don't have a life because I am analyzing this, but frankly, I have a nice life. I am smart, funny, pretty (look younger than I am and at my age it's sayin' somethin'!), make really good money, own my home,have good friends and am busy. Not a loser, not out to break up his family. We hit it off and I am curious why he acts this way. I completely get the love vs. sex thing, but we're not having sex...really, I am just wondering and thoughtful about the whole deal. Appreciate the insight cappywench and bullisha.
You know, it's a very good question. I don't know, probably nothing, but he has stated several times he'd like to get together. I made no commitment to this, but did ask when and he said, "...soon, but not just yet..." so again, I just wonder...i realize you don't have concrete answers, but we do flirt on the phone and via e-mail and I guess because it can be two or more hours, I just wonder WTF...ya' know?
NO!!!
OMG!!! I must've hit the wrong button when I just looked at my profile. brand new here...!
Ooops, I didn't see the "male" in front of the first radio button, just saw "female". I am a gurl, definitely!
Honest!
I "heard" it in your question...too funny!
Not the case...BTW, I am perusing some other message boards and saw on one where you interpreted a chart. Do you do this for a living? On the side? If so, do you have a website with fees posted? If not, would you interpret mine?
Hi everyone,
I'm new to this forum, even to this site, but I have been reading you for quite a while,in my ''dark'' moments, trying to make some sense out of what I was living.
I am very fond of a Cap man, we have known each other for almost 6 years now, seen each other a few times - it is a long distance relationship. We have not met face to face since January 2006 (at least I have not seen him, but just found out from him he saw me on a TV show I was in, which is kind of strange to deal with for me).
A lot of emailing has been done between us and two work projects completed together. Just finished the second, and he has proposed another one. Ups and downs came into our relationship, he knows that he has a special place in my heart, but has not answered my feelings. However, since that talk, almost two years ago, he has made sure to stay present in my life, although some interruptions occured.
He will remain special, and I know I will always wonder in a corner of my heart, what if...., but I have decided to face it as it comes, a day at a time, a situation at a time. I know the lines are blurred between professional and personal, on my side and sometimes on his too, and I know we have changed our lives in significant ways. Life, however, goes on...
Just wanted to share my personal experience and perhaps, have some feed-back from you, cappy fans!
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I'm new to this forum, even to this site, but I have been reading you for quite a while,in my ''dark'' moments, trying to make some sense out of what I was living.
I am very fond of a Cap man, we have known each other for almost 6 years now, seen each other a few times - it is a long distance relationship. We have not met face to face since January 2006 (at least I have not seen him, but just found out from him he saw me on a TV show I was in, which is kind of strange to deal with for me).
A lot of emailing has been done between us and two work projects completed together. Just finished the second, and he has proposed another one. Ups and downs came into our relationship, he knows that he has a special place in my heart, but has not answered my feelings. However, since that talk, almost two years ago, he has made sure to stay present in my life, although some interruptions occured.
He will remain special, and I know I will always wonder in a corner of my heart, what if...., but I have decided to face it as it comes, a day at a time, a situation at a time. I know the lines are blurred between professional and personal, on my side and sometimes on his too, and I know we have changed our lives in significant ways. Life, however, goes on...
Just wanted to share my personal experience and perhaps, have some feed-back from you, cappy fans!
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I'm new to this site. I found it because I recently had a short relationship with a Cap-man. I struggle to call him a "man" now, because of how the relationship went. Everything you all are saying on here though is blowing my mind. It's all so reflective of my experience with him. I'm a Libra. Seems like we were doomed from the beginning.
But all of the comments about when we were together how romantic and "there" he was are so true! He held my hand all the time, he cuddled with me all the time. He talked about me to his friends and his family and introduced me to his best friends, with whom I really hit it off. We were dating for about a month, when I wanted to have the conversation with him about exclusivity. I told him that I'd feel more comfortable moving forward if it was just me and him. He acted surprised as if there was any other way, and agreed that is what he though we were doing all along and that he's not seeing anyone else. But man, I wouldn't hear from him for days! So literally a few days later, he called me up to tell me that he met someone at work this past week and he would like to start seeing her. What a punch in the gut!!! Now, it seems like he's gushing all over her already.
I did hear from a friend that knows his friends that he blows through girls like tissues.
Is this just in the fate of the Capricorn male? I would like to know so I can AVOID them and this kind of mess in the future. What kind of psycho sweeps someone off their feet, agrees to be exclusive and within the same week, dumps you on your ass?
Apparently from what I'm reading, caps!!!
But all of the comments about when we were together how romantic and "there" he was are so true! He held my hand all the time, he cuddled with me all the time. He talked about me to his friends and his family and introduced me to his best friends, with whom I really hit it off. We were dating for about a month, when I wanted to have the conversation with him about exclusivity. I told him that I'd feel more comfortable moving forward if it was just me and him. He acted surprised as if there was any other way, and agreed that is what he though we were doing all along and that he's not seeing anyone else. But man, I wouldn't hear from him for days! So literally a few days later, he called me up to tell me that he met someone at work this past week and he would like to start seeing her. What a punch in the gut!!! Now, it seems like he's gushing all over her already.
I did hear from a friend that knows his friends that he blows through girls like tissues.
Is this just in the fate of the Capricorn male? I would like to know so I can AVOID them and this kind of mess in the future. What kind of psycho sweeps someone off their feet, agrees to be exclusive and within the same week, dumps you on your ass?
Apparently from what I'm reading, caps!!!
Ok, now this is really wowing me! All the things that have been posted hit my cappy on the head!
-drinks alot
-sexy
-good in bed
-roving eye
-almost parylizing fear of committment
-acts like he's head-over-heels for you then BAM! later!
-very charismatic at first then almost reluctant to talk much after a few dates when he thinks he has you.
-very work and career-oriented
this is mind-boggling!!!!
Thanks everyone for sharing. It's actually making me feel better! LOL
-drinks alot
-sexy
-good in bed
-roving eye
-almost parylizing fear of committment
-acts like he's head-over-heels for you then BAM! later!
-very charismatic at first then almost reluctant to talk much after a few dates when he thinks he has you.
-very work and career-oriented
this is mind-boggling!!!!
Thanks everyone for sharing. It's actually making me feel better! LOL
Sorry to post three times in a row, but now I'm upset. I just realized that another guy I've been talking to and contemplating going out with is a Cap too! Ugh...is there no hope for me?
As I said, I'm Libra. I've read that I am one of the most versitile signs and I can be involved with pretty much anyone.
I really really wish I had read this thread and found this site before I got involved with the Cap I was talking about already. If I had known not to fall for his fake "I'm falling for you" type of sharade, I might not feel as hurt as I do now and I would have known what to expect.
That being said, I'm not sure I can handle another one right now!
Has ANYONE that contributes to this ever known a cap guy that defies the stereotype? Thanks for your input.
As I said, I'm Libra. I've read that I am one of the most versitile signs and I can be involved with pretty much anyone.
I really really wish I had read this thread and found this site before I got involved with the Cap I was talking about already. If I had known not to fall for his fake "I'm falling for you" type of sharade, I might not feel as hurt as I do now and I would have known what to expect.
That being said, I'm not sure I can handle another one right now!
Has ANYONE that contributes to this ever known a cap guy that defies the stereotype? Thanks for your input.
annemarie_s if you haven't met this man you are in an imaginary relationship, there is NO relationship, the relationship is all in your head, men that use text, email sms as PRIMARY forms of communication are lazy and emotionally unavailable men....it also says a lot about women that use these forms of communication ONLY, men should call, should soon ask for a meeting and there should be intervals forms of communication between phone, meeting fact to face and secondary form should be email, text and sms....
This is the best site! I wonder what happened to all of those women back in 2006 that were struggling with their tough little goats? I didn't read long enough to discover if there were any happy endings, but I guess women don't join discussion forums to discuss their bliss. So I'm here because I recently became acquainted with a cappy young man. He is actually a double cap (sun and moon, like a double espresso shot!) I give the guy credit, he hasn't said anything that he hasn't followed up on (ie, no false claims or proclamations of love).. he's just a slow moving vehicle, moving in all types of circuitous paths. We have had several dates, the first was great, the second was not- come to think of it, the odd numbered dates are great and the even-numbered ones are flops. I have no clue how he feels about me, and he is not consistent. We started off emailing a lot, and he seemed like an incurable romantic. But in person, he is very shy. I am a little shy myself, and kind of paranoid he might be reading this (though very unlikely).. and advise would be appreciated, though I haven't been clear on what my issues are .. sorry! I have to get off here, it's too late tonight.. good night to all, and good luck with those stubborn mountain climbers of yours.. when in doubt, always appeal to their egos, since they have a sizable amount of self-doubt lurking about their pressured little minds..
Hey..im new to this site, but i am really impressed with how well you all "know" these signs. I read the Libra DO's and DONT'S and....woooow...they are all accurate considering I am a libra.
Anyway... SO, I came to ask for some advice.
I just met this great guy (capricorn). I have ALWAYS been a little weary of this sign. Ive NEVER liked them...NO OFFENSE CAPS! Anyway, I just met him last week at a nightclub. My friends and I happen to be nearby, and even though my outgoing (LEO) friend tried to dance on him and flirt, he pulled away, and spoke to me. I was probably the only one NOT dancing. He said "I like you, cause you're so mellow and chill." We exchanged contact info, and have been talking via text...
We talk via text, because he is ALWAYS working. He is a celebrity by the way. I assumed that his workaholic ways were because hes a celeb...but after reading all this..im guessing im wrong. So, this week i spent time with my new CAP at his home. Aaaaalll he did was talk about work. I was just attentive. Didnt say much. He was very affectionate. Lots of cuddling, playing with my hair, etc...and some kissing. My question is...does this seem to be off to a good start? Or ais the part of the CAP traits? Are these just smoke signals and fun house mirrors? Am i setting myself up for a future let down? I'm pretty patient...but I'm scared now. Should i not even try?! HELP!!!
Anyway... SO, I came to ask for some advice.
I just met this great guy (capricorn). I have ALWAYS been a little weary of this sign. Ive NEVER liked them...NO OFFENSE CAPS! Anyway, I just met him last week at a nightclub. My friends and I happen to be nearby, and even though my outgoing (LEO) friend tried to dance on him and flirt, he pulled away, and spoke to me. I was probably the only one NOT dancing. He said "I like you, cause you're so mellow and chill." We exchanged contact info, and have been talking via text...
We talk via text, because he is ALWAYS working. He is a celebrity by the way. I assumed that his workaholic ways were because hes a celeb...but after reading all this..im guessing im wrong. So, this week i spent time with my new CAP at his home. Aaaaalll he did was talk about work. I was just attentive. Didnt say much. He was very affectionate. Lots of cuddling, playing with my hair, etc...and some kissing. My question is...does this seem to be off to a good start? Or ais the part of the CAP traits? Are these just smoke signals and fun house mirrors? Am i setting myself up for a future let down? I'm pretty patient...but I'm scared now. Should i not even try?! HELP!!!
Dear tiki, thanks for your refreshing email. Most of the things you write, I have told them to myself already.
Yet, I guess I did not make myself clear enough for you - the relationship with my Cap was not imaginary at all. We did meet face to face as often as our professions and the 3500 km between us allowed us to meet. We are at two ends of the old world and travel remains expensive and time consuming. We spoke most on email, yes, yet we had two common work projects completed this way, the most recent product being launched last November!!!
I think most correct would be to say that I HAD a relationship which at one point was much more than bussinesslike, but then life have decided otherwise for me and this Cappy guy, which will continue to hold a special place in my heart. Honestly, he was one of the few people who influenced me profoundly, therefore he will have a hold on me for the rest of my life. In a way, he was a mentor and a lover in one person. That is why the door will remain ajar for him, until our paths will cross again, even if both him and me would be/are in other relationships.
I believe in friendship after love. 🙂
Yet, I guess I did not make myself clear enough for you - the relationship with my Cap was not imaginary at all. We did meet face to face as often as our professions and the 3500 km between us allowed us to meet. We are at two ends of the old world and travel remains expensive and time consuming. We spoke most on email, yes, yet we had two common work projects completed this way, the most recent product being launched last November!!!
I think most correct would be to say that I HAD a relationship which at one point was much more than bussinesslike, but then life have decided otherwise for me and this Cappy guy, which will continue to hold a special place in my heart. Honestly, he was one of the few people who influenced me profoundly, therefore he will have a hold on me for the rest of my life. In a way, he was a mentor and a lover in one person. That is why the door will remain ajar for him, until our paths will cross again, even if both him and me would be/are in other relationships.
I believe in friendship after love. 🙂
My friends, I need some help.
My Cap friend has just told me he will come back this summer, in my home town, after three years of not seeing me face to face due to very long distance. (though we kept in touch throuh emails, sometimes phones, etc.).
I am a bit confused about how I should react. He will come to work, seeks and needs my help, as the project he wants to start is something of my specialty too. I am confused more than anything because he was the one who chose this particular project, amongst many others projects he could have asked to be financed for. So that is why I am asking myself. Is he also coming to check on how am I doing, if I am happy, if I have other relationships?
I was prepared to let him be just a memory in a corner of my mind and now I am wondering a bit.
How any of you reacted when old friends came back into their lives...?
My Cap friend has just told me he will come back this summer, in my home town, after three years of not seeing me face to face due to very long distance. (though we kept in touch throuh emails, sometimes phones, etc.).
I am a bit confused about how I should react. He will come to work, seeks and needs my help, as the project he wants to start is something of my specialty too. I am confused more than anything because he was the one who chose this particular project, amongst many others projects he could have asked to be financed for. So that is why I am asking myself. Is he also coming to check on how am I doing, if I am happy, if I have other relationships?
I was prepared to let him be just a memory in a corner of my mind and now I am wondering a bit.
How any of you reacted when old friends came back into their lives...?
annemarie_s, welcome 🙂
You haven't seen this man in three years? Have you guys ever dated?
"He will come to work, seeks and needs my help, as the project he wants to start is something of my specialty too."
You really haven't posted anything that indicates that you and he have anything more than a business, possible friendship, association with him.
You haven't seen this man in three years? Have you guys ever dated?
"He will come to work, seeks and needs my help, as the project he wants to start is something of my specialty too."
You really haven't posted anything that indicates that you and he have anything more than a business, possible friendship, association with him.
Hey guys. Well Im a cancer female and I think that caps and cancers have a whole lot in common so I do understand exactly why they pull away just when things are getting the best. The reason is because they're so scared of not being good enough for the other person that they wait till they are more bouncy, positive and happy go lucky. We both get easily depressed and constantly have to be fighting depression off usually so the thing is we don't want to be depressed or mostly feel vulnerable and talk to you and possibly get rejected for not being bouncy or w/e while we're feeling most vulnerable. It is very hard for us to contact you when we feel this way because the fear of rejection is greater than the thought that you may feel ignored. But I've learned that if someone is going to be ur friend theyre gonna have to take the good with the bad or else theyre being selfish. And if they want to be a selfish jerk and say something bullyish to u when youre down, well then theyre not worth your time or heartache.
I have a capricorn best friend who is even more sensitive than me, the cancer. I think that caps can be even more sensitive than cancer, but they are much more practical and realistic than cancer as well and much more interested in material things and everyday life, while cancer's head is usually in the cloud and in their feelings.
I know that caps will turn aloof when hurt and they even think they need to act tough and curse you out or be very harsh with u, but the truth is they are very sensitive inside and that's just them trying to defend themselves. I also feel that they party so much because it's a way to release their frustrated emotions mostly sadness/ depression. So they go to the other extreme to try to feel bliss.
I think when capricorn and cancer meet cancer recognizes the side of them that so much wants to excel in the world and be very public, but which they cant get themselves to really feel confident enough in to actually do, and capricorn sees the closeness, sympathy, and emotional comfort they wish they had in their lives but which they dont because they r focused so much on their work.
Anyway, doing this same thing they do of pulling away, I can tell u the solution to the problem: Stick around and make it very clear that you need this attention from them and don't care if theyre depressed or vulnerable or what but that u will still like them just the same but u just really miss them and are afraid u wont be able to stand
I have a capricorn best friend who is even more sensitive than me, the cancer. I think that caps can be even more sensitive than cancer, but they are much more practical and realistic than cancer as well and much more interested in material things and everyday life, while cancer's head is usually in the cloud and in their feelings.
I know that caps will turn aloof when hurt and they even think they need to act tough and curse you out or be very harsh with u, but the truth is they are very sensitive inside and that's just them trying to defend themselves. I also feel that they party so much because it's a way to release their frustrated emotions mostly sadness/ depression. So they go to the other extreme to try to feel bliss.
I think when capricorn and cancer meet cancer recognizes the side of them that so much wants to excel in the world and be very public, but which they cant get themselves to really feel confident enough in to actually do, and capricorn sees the closeness, sympathy, and emotional comfort they wish they had in their lives but which they dont because they r focused so much on their work.
Anyway, doing this same thing they do of pulling away, I can tell u the solution to the problem: Stick around and make it very clear that you need this attention from them and don't care if theyre depressed or vulnerable or what but that u will still like them just the same but u just really miss them and are afraid u wont be able to stand
DainBramaged, you described us caps well. In fact I created a thread called Understanding a Capricorn that talks about some of the things you mentioned. I always run into Cancers but I ward them off as being flaky. Caps do go through depression more than others and it's at this time that we do need people but will NEVER appear weak and needy so we tend to suffer in silence.
Hi All,
I've been silently reading your posting for the past few months, and I can honestly say that some of your advice has been really helpful. However, even with all of your help my Cap still manages to confuse the heck out of me. After 9 months of dating I am at a point where I am becoming very frustrated, because he can't seem to have a basic conversation about where our relationship is going or how he feels about me. I've met his entire family and he's met mine, but even after all of this he can't part his lips to say a single thing about us.
This doesn't seem like rocket science to me and I personally believe that 'straight talk makes for straight understanding,' so this past weekend I directly asked him what he thinks about where our relationship is headed. I was not asking to get married nor was I asking for a timetable, just simply do you see our relationship as something that has the potential to become serious. Rather than answering my question he replies, "I don't want to talk about it right now." Now here I am 3 days after he slammed the door in my face, and we haven't spoken because he's totally oblivious as to why I am so pissed.
Long story short, we make a great team and I —think?? he can see that. I??ve avoided all relationship questions long enough, so at what is he going to man up?
I've been silently reading your posting for the past few months, and I can honestly say that some of your advice has been really helpful. However, even with all of your help my Cap still manages to confuse the heck out of me. After 9 months of dating I am at a point where I am becoming very frustrated, because he can't seem to have a basic conversation about where our relationship is going or how he feels about me. I've met his entire family and he's met mine, but even after all of this he can't part his lips to say a single thing about us.
This doesn't seem like rocket science to me and I personally believe that 'straight talk makes for straight understanding,' so this past weekend I directly asked him what he thinks about where our relationship is headed. I was not asking to get married nor was I asking for a timetable, just simply do you see our relationship as something that has the potential to become serious. Rather than answering my question he replies, "I don't want to talk about it right now." Now here I am 3 days after he slammed the door in my face, and we haven't spoken because he's totally oblivious as to why I am so pissed.
Long story short, we make a great team and I —think?? he can see that. I??ve avoided all relationship questions long enough, so at what is he going to man up?
Posted by Ms.Cancer
Hi All,
I've been silently reading your posting for the past few months, and I can honestly say that some of your advice has been really helpful. However, even with all of your help my Cap still manages to confuse the heck out of me. After 9 months of dating I am at a point where I am becoming very frustrated, because he can't seem to have a basic conversation about where our relationship is going or how he feels about me. I've met his entire family and he's met mine, but even after all of this he can't part his lips to say a single thing about us.
This doesn't seem like rocket science to me and I personally believe that 'straight talk makes for straight understanding,' so this past weekend I directly asked him what he thinks about where our relationship is headed. I was not asking to get married nor was I asking for a timetable, just simply do you see our relationship as something that has the potential to become serious. Rather than answering my question he replies, "I don't want to talk about it right now." Now here I am 3 days after he slammed the door in my face, and we haven't spoken because he's totally oblivious as to why I am so pissed.
Long story short, we make a great team and I —think?? he can see that. I??ve avoided all relationship questions long enough, so at what is he going to man up?
Unfortunately you've picked the absolute worst time to ask for a straight answer. Venus is in retrograde and a lot of couples are feeling the effects. You have to be especially careful with a cap not to push them up against a wall and admit to their feelings (with us it's more like admitting rather than expressing). I was asked for a straight answer last week and instead of expressing, I admitted that I wanted to end our relationship, and now it's over. I don't have many regrets but things would have been fine had the topic never been broached. I say keep your mouth shut until venus goes direct on the 15th I think.
If you aren't happy with the way things are going, you're going to have to really think about whether or not this guy is the one for you. Cancers and Geminis and Leos all need a lot of communication in relationships and caps aren't well versed in this area (pun). Good luck!
As for princess...you hit a lot of key points but never have I met a happy go lucky capricorn that wasn't heavily medicated or drunk all the time. Ca
As for princess...you hit a lot of key points but never have I met a happy go lucky capricorn that wasn't heavily medicated or drunk all the time. Cancers are the opposite sign and yes opposites attract. Funny thing is, I have a lot of cancer friends, male and female and they are the only ones I feel comfortable telling my innermost feelings to. It's weird. But when it comes to relationships, when the going gets good, I freak out. And yes, I don't think I'm good enough. Remember, caps are always climbing, trying to better themselves to the point of exhaustion. It is hard for us to be content with the way things are in our lives, we always want to keep striving for more and more success in every part of our lives.
Regardless how much one is warned to be cautious of Venus Retrogate, I believe, whatever came out of your mouth ending your relation, it is for your own good.
Yes deep down I miss the CAP man and wish he wouldn't have acted as foolishly. He turned out to be a cheater or it could be named an overlap or whatever in my case. Either way -- I firmly believe it was for our own good. My decision was very sudden as well. Considering only 2 days before finding out he had spent time with someone else.
Something pushed me to it.
The timing was superb!
Move on people! Don't regret what came out of your mouth. I think Venus Retro only helped us in making up our minds.
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Ms. Cancer: if he comes back after retro, he is all yours.
Warholian: you sure your unconscious did not make up your mind for you?
Yes deep down I miss the CAP man and wish he wouldn't have acted as foolishly. He turned out to be a cheater or it could be named an overlap or whatever in my case. Either way -- I firmly believe it was for our own good. My decision was very sudden as well. Considering only 2 days before finding out he had spent time with someone else.
Something pushed me to it.
The timing was superb!
Move on people! Don't regret what came out of your mouth. I think Venus Retro only helped us in making up our minds.
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Ms. Cancer: if he comes back after retro, he is all yours.
Warholian: you sure your unconscious did not make up your mind for you?
No, I haven't received an "I love you" yet, neither have I received an answer to the question that I posed to him last week. I've realized that being angry requires a lot of unnecessary energy and it's very exhausting, so I've let the issue go for now. I am; however, going to bring it back up within the coming days, not because I need to hear him say that he loves me, but rather because I want him to realize that his inability to have basic conversations about his feeling will hinder us from developing an strong relationship. For now I??ll take baby steps, and truly express how this issue is going to hurting us in the long run, in hopes of getting him to open up so we can completely putting this behind us.
Hey everyone,
anyone who can enlighten me i'm in need...i'm on the verge of just bluntly asking my cap what the hell is going on but i don't want to scare him away.
background...
i'm a virgo, and i've been seeing this guy for about 7 months; we are both 21. we were seriously dating for a month, he romanced me to the extreme, he then broke up with me (although he was extremely sad about it) because of his school work. he's an engineering major and he is always extremely busy and stressed and losing sleep. he doesn't even had time for friends either. over winter break we started talking again and he decided he wanted to try and make it work. however, a week in the next semester he got too busy again and he wanted to break it off again...he said he may change his mind like last time but doens't want me to wait for him though he does still want to be with me. i am in love with him (i am very very cautious when i use this phrase) and i want to wait for him. so the last 4 months have been him and i acting like we are dating (and we have been exclusive) but without the official title, as he only had time to see me once in awhile. it started with once a week and then got to being 3-4 times a week for a short period...but then starting 3 weeks ago he has been extremely non respondent to all my texts and calls. his school work has been at crunch time, i know he's stressed, he only visits me at work because that's all the time he claims to have to see me. we did have a conversation 2 weeks ago about how he probably wouldn't' be able to see me will next friday when finals are over.
however, i am getting worried with lack of communication and him ignoring all my texts and calls that he has lost interest in me. i surprised him at his presentation on wednesday and he smiled like a goon when he saw me (which is a rare thing to see from him) although he admitted that if i were to have asked him before hand if i could come see it he would have said no. he didnt' visit me at work last night like he usually does and i didn't know if this meant something.
i want to ask him if he's still interested in me or not, is this a good idea?
also, i'm leaving 10 days after finals to study abroag in italy for a month, and he will be gone for a month after that. i'm desperately scared that he will not contact me, and even worse, forget me during the summer.
does anyone have any advice?
anyone who can enlighten me i'm in need...i'm on the verge of just bluntly asking my cap what the hell is going on but i don't want to scare him away.
background...
i'm a virgo, and i've been seeing this guy for about 7 months; we are both 21. we were seriously dating for a month, he romanced me to the extreme, he then broke up with me (although he was extremely sad about it) because of his school work. he's an engineering major and he is always extremely busy and stressed and losing sleep. he doesn't even had time for friends either. over winter break we started talking again and he decided he wanted to try and make it work. however, a week in the next semester he got too busy again and he wanted to break it off again...he said he may change his mind like last time but doens't want me to wait for him though he does still want to be with me. i am in love with him (i am very very cautious when i use this phrase) and i want to wait for him. so the last 4 months have been him and i acting like we are dating (and we have been exclusive) but without the official title, as he only had time to see me once in awhile. it started with once a week and then got to being 3-4 times a week for a short period...but then starting 3 weeks ago he has been extremely non respondent to all my texts and calls. his school work has been at crunch time, i know he's stressed, he only visits me at work because that's all the time he claims to have to see me. we did have a conversation 2 weeks ago about how he probably wouldn't' be able to see me will next friday when finals are over.
however, i am getting worried with lack of communication and him ignoring all my texts and calls that he has lost interest in me. i surprised him at his presentation on wednesday and he smiled like a goon when he saw me (which is a rare thing to see from him) although he admitted that if i were to have asked him before hand if i could come see it he would have said no. he didnt' visit me at work last night like he usually does and i didn't know if this meant something.
i want to ask him if he's still interested in me or not, is this a good idea?
also, i'm leaving 10 days after finals to study abroag in italy for a month, and he will be gone for a month after that. i'm desperately scared that he will not contact me, and even worse, forget me during the summer.
does anyone have any advice?
I just want to say that all of this is disheartening. I know a cap man for about a year and some months now (back and forth) , and everything I had read in this thread is sadly true. If only I would have read this before I started dating him, because I never would have.
I really do not like playing games, I hate being stressed out and I HATE confusion. If that is all the cap man has to offer me, then I'm going to tell him I don't want to be a part of his life. Im a girl looking for a possbile long-term relationship over here!
And I do really really want him, but I know there are more fishes in the sea to be grilled, so I'm going out fishing.
I really do not like playing games, I hate being stressed out and I HATE confusion. If that is all the cap man has to offer me, then I'm going to tell him I don't want to be a part of his life. Im a girl looking for a possbile long-term relationship over here!
And I do really really want him, but I know there are more fishes in the sea to be grilled, so I'm going out fishing.
A coworker sent me this: "LIFE"
"Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it."
"Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it."
random question:
do cap males like big/grand gestures? i'm a virgo so i don't normally do them that often but sometimes I feel compelled when the timing is right. do they like them or does it scare them?
do cap males like big/grand gestures? i'm a virgo so i don't normally do them that often but sometimes I feel compelled when the timing is right. do they like them or does it scare them?
Sadly ladies and to my detriment, broken heart and miserable attitude, all of this and more are true about the Capricorn man. I dated one for six months and it was the most frustrating experience I have ever had dating a man. He is indeed aloof, secretive, scared, distrusting, angry, vulnerable, plays mind games, (guess how I think and feel?) is selfish, self centered, it's always all about him, even though he gives the appearance of considering your feelings he does not in the final analysis. He was manipulative and no matter what he had to be right and made you feel that you were somehow crazy for having feelings or questioning anything he said or did. They are worse than Scorpio in this area.
It is exactly this aloofness and sad sweetness and gentleness than hook you in and then look out-they will screw you over if they do not get their way.
It is not an equal partnership. It is not healthy. It is not a give and take. They just take. They test, they observe and then can dump you for the least show of emotion or little provocation. They are an enormous amount of work and very high maintenance. They are cold and can dump you with out a second thought. I will never ever date another Capricorn again. It has been the worst six months of my life-they fun and good times did not make up for the cold bull they put out. I am a woman and Cap men also do not like sex very much and will use it to manipulate you. I was always having to come to HIS house, care for HIS needs, His family, HIS everything. They are users of the highest order. I am glad I got out-it would have been years before any sort of commitment or even then-none at all. Their caution is to the point of fanaticism, paranoia and mental illness I think. Fear rules their life and as a result they end up very lonely and sad. Not worth it. In a word they are crazy makers.
It is exactly this aloofness and sad sweetness and gentleness than hook you in and then look out-they will screw you over if they do not get their way.
It is not an equal partnership. It is not healthy. It is not a give and take. They just take. They test, they observe and then can dump you for the least show of emotion or little provocation. They are an enormous amount of work and very high maintenance. They are cold and can dump you with out a second thought. I will never ever date another Capricorn again. It has been the worst six months of my life-they fun and good times did not make up for the cold bull they put out. I am a woman and Cap men also do not like sex very much and will use it to manipulate you. I was always having to come to HIS house, care for HIS needs, His family, HIS everything. They are users of the highest order. I am glad I got out-it would have been years before any sort of commitment or even then-none at all. Their caution is to the point of fanaticism, paranoia and mental illness I think. Fear rules their life and as a result they end up very lonely and sad. Not worth it. In a word they are crazy makers.
Posted by Chance11
how could you tell that he didn't like you?
I know her wounds are fresh so she may not agree with me but it wasn't about him not liking her, it was more about him not liking the relationship thus he would chew his own leg off to get out, to get out from under the suffocating feeling of being bound to one person...I'm sure he loves her but he can only love what he can't have, he can only feel his love with a woman that is not relationship needy, unfortunately many woman fail to know this before they venture into it with him because he's very charming, very open, very all in during the pursuing stages, as she's falling in love, he's slowly falling out of love and back pedaling but because she's head over heels in love she can't see his back pedaling out of that relationship....happens to many many women
wildhorse, you described a NEGATIVE cap man to a T....ladies make sure you understand that when a cap is good he's good but when he's bad and chooses to live in negativity it can be a narcissistic nightmare.....sorry to hear about your not so positive experiences with your cap, give yourself time to heal but move on, not all men are like your experience, find the lessons in your experience and let it go. Just remember no matter how much he woo's you, no matter how often he says we, us, future, he is fiercly independent and that means the moment you focus on him, the moment you need him, want him more than he wants you he will BOLT, he will become mean, distant, frustrate you sexually, silent treatment, withhold emotionally/sexually, you have to maintain a level of selfishness as you date this kind of man, he doesn't want pressure of any kind, he wants to lead, he wants everything to be his big grand idea on his terms, he doesn't even want to be needed in any kind of way. He wants to be the pursuer thoughout the entire relationship especially if he's still insecure and commitment phobic....you experienced a commitment phobic cap, they will do anything to breathe when they feel suffocated in a relationship. If you do not know how to BE with this kind of man it's best to get out. Any kind of emotions, any kind of emotional bond/intimacy you try to build will create a narcissitic monster with this kind of man.
Taurus, mess in a dress.. needs help with Cap nice man.
Hi all...
I need your help... and answers / comments on this please!!
I will try to make it short and sweet (if possible):
- I am taurus, goind through very very hard time in personal life... (divorce).
- I meat a man Cap in a cyber environment... we never meat in person (long distance).
- He was going thourhg a rough time... lost his job.
- We were casually chatting and "supporting" each other in hardship... is was a very clean and friendly relationship.
- I was providing much support witht he job search... with my contaacts and helping pass his resume... commenting on his applications letters and etc etc... (he was very appreciative).
- I must confess that I got "attached" to him and started to have "feelings" (given the context, this is weird).
- At the begining, he found this to be "ridiculous"... but he did not reject me... or comment. He just said that the only thing he can offer to me was his "sincere" friendship. (He told me that he "liked me"... but that is the only thing for now).
----- first question: am I right to assume that maybe he had the same "soft" feelings for me... but was just afraid to admit to it?
- Being a typical taurus, I showed moments of "possessiveness" and "impatience"... (even jealousy).
- At the begining he back fired... but then he became more "consilient" and "cool"... he even "explained" reasons of his absence online... and tried to reassure me (when unavailable, that is was not because he "avoided" me.. but because he was busy).
----- Again/ second Q: knowing the love of freedom of capricorns... if he started giving explanations to his "absence"... that was a sign that he was more than just condierate of my feelings?
(Man, he was so caring !!!! )
Anyways... next...
- After 8 months of this.. he found a job....
And like all the capies, he became very busy... and vey devoted to work.
- I started missing him so bad... and writing emails...
- He did not reply... but when online "chat" explained that he was busy... and trying to reassure me. He even started calling nice "cute" names... to show reassurance (I guess).
- But I still missed him... and then my taurus could not hold it anymore... I wrote him a long long email where I told him that I felt "used" and I had doubts about his friendship for me...
(ouch, I know)...
- He replied to that saying that I should "re-think" about my tantrums...
- To which I replied and back-fired with many many emai
Hi all...
I need your help... and answers / comments on this please!!
I will try to make it short and sweet (if possible):
- I am taurus, goind through very very hard time in personal life... (divorce).
- I meat a man Cap in a cyber environment... we never meat in person (long distance).
- He was going thourhg a rough time... lost his job.
- We were casually chatting and "supporting" each other in hardship... is was a very clean and friendly relationship.
- I was providing much support witht he job search... with my contaacts and helping pass his resume... commenting on his applications letters and etc etc... (he was very appreciative).
- I must confess that I got "attached" to him and started to have "feelings" (given the context, this is weird).
- At the begining, he found this to be "ridiculous"... but he did not reject me... or comment. He just said that the only thing he can offer to me was his "sincere" friendship. (He told me that he "liked me"... but that is the only thing for now).
----- first question: am I right to assume that maybe he had the same "soft" feelings for me... but was just afraid to admit to it?
- Being a typical taurus, I showed moments of "possessiveness" and "impatience"... (even jealousy).
- At the begining he back fired... but then he became more "consilient" and "cool"... he even "explained" reasons of his absence online... and tried to reassure me (when unavailable, that is was not because he "avoided" me.. but because he was busy).
----- Again/ second Q: knowing the love of freedom of capricorns... if he started giving explanations to his "absence"... that was a sign that he was more than just condierate of my feelings?
(Man, he was so caring !!!! )
Anyways... next...
- After 8 months of this.. he found a job....
And like all the capies, he became very busy... and vey devoted to work.
- I started missing him so bad... and writing emails...
- He did not reply... but when online "chat" explained that he was busy... and trying to reassure me. He even started calling nice "cute" names... to show reassurance (I guess).
- But I still missed him... and then my taurus could not hold it anymore... I wrote him a long long email where I told him that I felt "used" and I had doubts about his friendship for me...
(ouch, I know)...
- He replied to that saying that I should "re-think" about my tantrums...
- To which I replied and back-fired with many many emai
Taurus, mess in a dress.. needs help with Cap nice man.
Hi all...
I need your help... and answers / comments on this please!!
I will try to make it short and sweet (if possible):
- I am taurus, goind through very very hard time in personal life... (divorce).
- I meat a man Cap in a cyber environment... we never meat in person (long distance).
- He was going thourhg a rough time... lost his job.
- We were casually chatting and "supporting" each other in hardship... is was a very clean and friendly relationship.
- I was providing much support witht he job search... with my contaacts and helping pass his resume... commenting on his applications letters and etc etc... (he was very appreciative).
- I must confess that I got "attached" to him and started to have "feelings" (given the context, this is weird).
- At the begining, he found this to be "ridiculous"... but he did not reject me... or comment. He just said that the only thing he can offer to me was his "sincere" friendship. (He told me that he "liked me"... but that is the only thing for now).
----- first question: am I right to assume that maybe he had the same "soft" feelings for me... but was just afraid to admit to it?
- Being a typical taurus, I showed moments of "possessiveness" and "impatience"... (even jealousy).
- At the begining he back fired... but then he became more "consilient" and "cool"... he even "explained" reasons of his absence online... and tried to reassure me (when unavailable, that is was not because he "avoided" me.. but because he was busy).
----- Again/ second Q: knowing the love of freedom of capricorns... if he started giving explanations to his "absence"... that was a sign that he was more than just condierate of my feelings?
(Man, he was so caring !!!! )
Anyways... next...
- After 8 months of this.. he found a job....
And like all the capies, he became very busy... and vey devoted to work.
- I started missing him so bad... and writing emails...
- He did not reply... but when online "chat" explained that he was busy... and trying to reassure me. He even started calling nice "cute" names... to show reassurance (I guess).
- But I still missed him... and then my taurus could not hold it anymore... I wrote him a long long email where I told him that I felt "used" and I had doubts about his friendship for me...
(ouch, I know)...
- He replied to that saying that I should "re-think" about my tantrums...
- To which I replied and back-fired with many emails
Hi all...
I need your help... and answers / comments on this please!!
I will try to make it short and sweet (if possible):
- I am taurus, goind through very very hard time in personal life... (divorce).
- I meat a man Cap in a cyber environment... we never meat in person (long distance).
- He was going thourhg a rough time... lost his job.
- We were casually chatting and "supporting" each other in hardship... is was a very clean and friendly relationship.
- I was providing much support witht he job search... with my contaacts and helping pass his resume... commenting on his applications letters and etc etc... (he was very appreciative).
- I must confess that I got "attached" to him and started to have "feelings" (given the context, this is weird).
- At the begining, he found this to be "ridiculous"... but he did not reject me... or comment. He just said that the only thing he can offer to me was his "sincere" friendship. (He told me that he "liked me"... but that is the only thing for now).
----- first question: am I right to assume that maybe he had the same "soft" feelings for me... but was just afraid to admit to it?
- Being a typical taurus, I showed moments of "possessiveness" and "impatience"... (even jealousy).
- At the begining he back fired... but then he became more "consilient" and "cool"... he even "explained" reasons of his absence online... and tried to reassure me (when unavailable, that is was not because he "avoided" me.. but because he was busy).
----- Again/ second Q: knowing the love of freedom of capricorns... if he started giving explanations to his "absence"... that was a sign that he was more than just condierate of my feelings?
(Man, he was so caring !!!! )
Anyways... next...
- After 8 months of this.. he found a job....
And like all the capies, he became very busy... and vey devoted to work.
- I started missing him so bad... and writing emails...
- He did not reply... but when online "chat" explained that he was busy... and trying to reassure me. He even started calling nice "cute" names... to show reassurance (I guess).
- But I still missed him... and then my taurus could not hold it anymore... I wrote him a long long email where I told him that I felt "used" and I had doubts about his friendship for me...
(ouch, I know)...
- He replied to that saying that I should "re-think" about my tantrums...
- To which I replied and back-fired with many emails
Sorry..t his is too long.
The end of the story... is that I wrote a lot.. without answer.
Then I took a break.. and just sent a note giving news about my 'divorce"... he then replied by simple "good luck".
Thank I wrote... after that... but no reply.
I want to know... if there is anything that I can do to "save" our friendhsip.——
I know now that after all the bad that I have done to him... whether he lied me or not (that way)... I have destroyed everything... and I must have hurt his feelings too (whatever they were... and he would not admit to it).
But I want to make it up to him... and remain his "friend" because I trully think he is a nice guy.
Is there anything I can do?
Or did he scratch me for ever?
Please comment, help and advise.
Me 🙂
The end of the story... is that I wrote a lot.. without answer.
Then I took a break.. and just sent a note giving news about my 'divorce"... he then replied by simple "good luck".
Thank I wrote... after that... but no reply.
I want to know... if there is anything that I can do to "save" our friendhsip.——
I know now that after all the bad that I have done to him... whether he lied me or not (that way)... I have destroyed everything... and I must have hurt his feelings too (whatever they were... and he would not admit to it).
But I want to make it up to him... and remain his "friend" because I trully think he is a nice guy.
Is there anything I can do?
Or did he scratch me for ever?
Please comment, help and advise.
Me 🙂
Sorry, this might be the answer that you do not wish to hear. He is just not into you. And you never know the real side of him / or he never show it to you since you know him thru cyber world. Plus you cannot tell if he's already attached or married since you guys only chat online. Pls do ask yourself if its really a friendship that you are looking for, I guess he knows you want more than that. Thats where the disappear act began. If Cap man wants you, he will chase after you persistently. He will tell you bluntly that he likes you.
Time to move on!
Time to move on!
Posted by Conscience
Sorry, this might be the answer that you do not wish to hear. He is just not into you. And you never know the real side of him / or he never show it to you since you know him thru cyber world. Plus you cannot tell if he's already attached or married since you guys only chat online. Pls do ask yourself if its really a friendship that you are looking for, I guess he knows you want more than that. Thats where the disappear act began. If Cap man wants you, he will chase after you persistently. He will tell you bluntly that he likes you.
Time to move on!
Hi,
Well... I put things very shortly.
I do know that he does not have anybody for sure. I mean, we used to work for the same company in different countries, so there are things that I knoew about his life for sure. (we worked together... but never meat).
Also, he did not have to 'guess' my feelings since I have told him... I told him sincerely that I was attached to him but that it was totally ridiculous. This is when he replied that it was not ridiculous.. and that he did not have the same feelings... but that he was offering me his sincere friendship... plus he said, that we should "start" by being friends...
And then... after that, he was more "considerate" of me... this is when he started "explaining" reasons of his absence online... or send me little notes to say that he will be "busy" with work and why he did not log in for a chat... etc...
I mean, he is a precious man... very very sensitive and considerate.
I realise that... and I was blessed to see this side of him.
Now to be honest with you, I must agree... for the time being... my feelings are still there... and I wish for more than friendship from him.
But I do know and realise that this feelings are not reciprocated on his side... and I also hurt him (and disappointed him) so much with my tantrum of being jealous and accusing him that he was 'using' me for his job search only...
And now... I sincerely want make it up... and save the friendship.
I mean, when I am ready... I KNOW that I will never have his love... never (especially after what I did)...
but I want at least to have him as a friend... for I know what a wonderful person he is.
Very sincerely...
Taurus gril -- who was so close to happiness and who blew it out 😢
sorry to rain on your parade, Taurus_lily...
my CaP guy is in the same city and he cheated on me last year with a woman from overseas, who came visiting her. Apparently, these two were online friends for about 3 years. She claimed, she knows him better than me.
The funny story behind, this CAP guy was very (so appearing!) into me. We shared A LOT!... One week he acted weird, and I caught him... I ended right away. He didn't know why.. I just told him, I don't trust him. That was the End!
This woman, who he cheated me with, I found her... emailed her after 2 weeks of finding out because I wasn't sure if I was to just let it go or let her know. Then my conscience kicked in and I let her know that at the time when he dated her, he shared his bed with me the day before. Which is true.
She responded telling me that she knows him longer than me and she is ready to fight for him.
I never responded back again, because I was done with him already and if this woman wanted to go ahead... then that's her decision... I thought.. pfff... I was nice enough to let you know.. besides I don't want him anymore anyway. YOU can have this fucker!
my CaP guy is in the same city and he cheated on me last year with a woman from overseas, who came visiting her. Apparently, these two were online friends for about 3 years. She claimed, she knows him better than me.
The funny story behind, this CAP guy was very (so appearing!) into me. We shared A LOT!... One week he acted weird, and I caught him... I ended right away. He didn't know why.. I just told him, I don't trust him. That was the End!
This woman, who he cheated me with, I found her... emailed her after 2 weeks of finding out because I wasn't sure if I was to just let it go or let her know. Then my conscience kicked in and I let her know that at the time when he dated her, he shared his bed with me the day before. Which is true.
She responded telling me that she knows him longer than me and she is ready to fight for him.
I never responded back again, because I was done with him already and if this woman wanted to go ahead... then that's her decision... I thought.. pfff... I was nice enough to let you know.. besides I don't want him anymore anyway. YOU can have this fucker!
I'm back with this guy again.
I'm cautious... but my reasons and approach are different this time. I sure like him very much... I let him step all over me... He knows his limits. I was truly done with him this March, when he was very disrespectful towards me. But then two days later, I saw some confession... and decided to give us another chance.
Again... I am sorry to tell this... but these guys can be excellent liars...
Do NOT, honey, ... try long-distance with them. It already is difficult enough being close. If he wants you... let him come to you.
Last night I talked to my CAP man on the phone... he asked me to call him for today. So far... he has picked up my calls or returned my calls. I know when he says *I'm Busy*,... he is actually working. He made me overhear his telephone conversation with his colleague. There are many other little things, I do not pressure him with... and he is trying in his own ways proving he is only seeing me.
True or Not... Start with yourself. Do you really want to put up with a long-distance Capricorn man?
I'm cautious... but my reasons and approach are different this time. I sure like him very much... I let him step all over me... He knows his limits. I was truly done with him this March, when he was very disrespectful towards me. But then two days later, I saw some confession... and decided to give us another chance.
Again... I am sorry to tell this... but these guys can be excellent liars...
Do NOT, honey, ... try long-distance with them. It already is difficult enough being close. If he wants you... let him come to you.
Last night I talked to my CAP man on the phone... he asked me to call him for today. So far... he has picked up my calls or returned my calls. I know when he says *I'm Busy*,... he is actually working. He made me overhear his telephone conversation with his colleague. There are many other little things, I do not pressure him with... and he is trying in his own ways proving he is only seeing me.
True or Not... Start with yourself. Do you really want to put up with a long-distance Capricorn man?
oh.. I forgot to mention...
this woman he cheated me with, I saw her email she sent late January. She still tells him that she was willing to give up her life in Germany for him. He hasn't responded yet. Which she writes in her email too....
this woman he cheated me with, I saw her email she sent late January. She still tells him that she was willing to give up her life in Germany for him. He hasn't responded yet. Which she writes in her email too....
I love reading TIKI's posts, by the way...
There were times when I didn't like hearing what she had to say... but she is pretty accurate for those, who get their Head back to centre again...
It is very apparent, she loved her Capricorn man and she knew him very well.
There were times when I didn't like hearing what she had to say... but she is pretty accurate for those, who get their Head back to centre again...
It is very apparent, she loved her Capricorn man and she knew him very well.
nothing to be proud of, Starfish...
your decision is well-received
I knew a very nice Capricorn man... and I hope, I would have stayed in touch with him
your decision is well-received
I knew a very nice Capricorn man... and I hope, I would have stayed in touch with him
HI Starfish,
I am not sure if you are getting my message right... I dunno about the other...
but what I am saying is that caps are good... and precious.... and I think they are very faithful to the woman they love...
from what I read, also... they would never "separate" if commited (mariage) because it would make them admit a msitake they did... which they don't do easily...
and this is the only case when they can cheat actually...
other than that... if they are happy.. you are happy 🙂
Anyways... I don,t think I am in the right thread to get the advise that I need...
wish you both luck in your stories...
I am not sure if you are getting my message right... I dunno about the other...
but what I am saying is that caps are good... and precious.... and I think they are very faithful to the woman they love...
from what I read, also... they would never "separate" if commited (mariage) because it would make them admit a msitake they did... which they don't do easily...
and this is the only case when they can cheat actually...
other than that... if they are happy.. you are happy 🙂
Anyways... I don,t think I am in the right thread to get the advise that I need...
wish you both luck in your stories...
Hi All,
I need alittle expert advise Cappy about my situation.
I was dating a Cap for about a year and half. While we have had an wonderful time together I spent a substantial portion of the relationship completely confused by his word vs his actions. He is a 38 year old man w/ no children and he's never been married; however, he claims that he has aspirations of having a wife and kids one day. Over the course of our relationship he was very thoughtful and surprised me with any and everything (even when I didn't ask). Every time things start getting good and we're both having enjoying ourselves he suddenly changed, and I was left trying to figure out what the happened.
A about 2 weeks after Valentine's Day I noticed that he was beginning to fall into one of his cold spells. For the next month I tried to keep quite, but I got tired of getting my feelings hurt. At the beginning of April, I finally addressed the situation, and as I suspected he fled like a coward and abruptly ended the relationship. Before cut things off he asked for a hug and to be friends and I politely told him "NO," b/c he clearly didn't have a solid understanding of the meaning of either.
Since then I've been flooded with calls from him family and friends explaining how sad he is and how they want "us" to make it. In addition, I see him occaisionally at events. The first time we ran into each other and gave me a big hug, after I had already told him I don't have time for playing games. The last time I saw him, I ignored him and bolted before the event ended. I've done everything that I possibly could to be sensative to his needs, but I'm tired of being senative towards him when he can't provide me with the same courtesy. The truth is I do care about him, but I need him to communication b/c every aspect of our relationship was suffering b/c he couldn't communicate. At what point are my feelings going to be taken into consideration?
Its been almost 2 months since I've spoken to him and I'm trying to figure out what to do next. He's so predicable, so I feel like know its only a matter of time until he comes back again. Here's where I need your help ... How do I get him to snap out being so considerate one minute then being so inconsiderate the next? How do I get him to just listen since he's unwilling to talk? When are my feeling going taken seriously?
Thank you all ... I truly appreciate your help! =)
I need alittle expert advise Cappy about my situation.
I was dating a Cap for about a year and half. While we have had an wonderful time together I spent a substantial portion of the relationship completely confused by his word vs his actions. He is a 38 year old man w/ no children and he's never been married; however, he claims that he has aspirations of having a wife and kids one day. Over the course of our relationship he was very thoughtful and surprised me with any and everything (even when I didn't ask). Every time things start getting good and we're both having enjoying ourselves he suddenly changed, and I was left trying to figure out what the happened.
A about 2 weeks after Valentine's Day I noticed that he was beginning to fall into one of his cold spells. For the next month I tried to keep quite, but I got tired of getting my feelings hurt. At the beginning of April, I finally addressed the situation, and as I suspected he fled like a coward and abruptly ended the relationship. Before cut things off he asked for a hug and to be friends and I politely told him "NO," b/c he clearly didn't have a solid understanding of the meaning of either.
Since then I've been flooded with calls from him family and friends explaining how sad he is and how they want "us" to make it. In addition, I see him occaisionally at events. The first time we ran into each other and gave me a big hug, after I had already told him I don't have time for playing games. The last time I saw him, I ignored him and bolted before the event ended. I've done everything that I possibly could to be sensative to his needs, but I'm tired of being senative towards him when he can't provide me with the same courtesy. The truth is I do care about him, but I need him to communication b/c every aspect of our relationship was suffering b/c he couldn't communicate. At what point are my feelings going to be taken into consideration?
Its been almost 2 months since I've spoken to him and I'm trying to figure out what to do next. He's so predicable, so I feel like know its only a matter of time until he comes back again. Here's where I need your help ... How do I get him to snap out being so considerate one minute then being so inconsiderate the next? How do I get him to just listen since he's unwilling to talk? When are my feeling going taken seriously?
Thank you all ... I truly appreciate your help! =)
Oh gosh ... I hope it doesn't seem as though I'm trying to change him, because I have enough trouble being responsible for me, myself, and I (lol). He certainly needs to grow up and figure out what he wants in life, because I clearly can't figure it out. Snifle, Snifle ... thank you. I know what I need to do going forward. It just hurts, because I really cared about him a lot.
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Sadly ladies and to my detriment, broken heart and miserable attitude, all of this and more are true about the Capricorn man. I dated one for six months and it was the most frustrating experience I have ever had dating a man. He is indeed aloof, secretive, scared, distrusting, angry, vulnerable, plays mind games, (guess how I think and feel?) is selfish, self centered, it's always all about him, even though he gives the appearance of considering your feelings he does not in the final analysis. He was manipulative and no matter what he had to be right and made you feel that you were somehow crazy for having feelings or questioning anything he said or did. They are worse than Scorpio in this area.
It is exactly this aloofness and sad sweetness and gentleness than hook you in and then look out-they will screw you over if they do not get their way.
It is not an equal partnership. It is not healthy. It is not a give and take. They just take. They test, they observe and then can dump you for the least show of emotion or little provocation. They are an enormous amount of work and very high maintenance. They are cold and can dump you with out a second thought. I will never ever date another Capricorn again. It has been the worst six months of my life-they fun and good times did not make up for the cold bull they put out. I am a woman and Cap men also do not like sex very much and will use it to manipulate you. I was always having to come to HIS house, care for HIS needs, His family, HIS everything. They are users of the highest order. I am glad I got out-it would have been years before any sort of commitment or even then-none at all. Their caution is to the point of fanaticism, paranoia and mental illness I think. Fear rules their life and as a result they end up very lonely and sad. Not worth it. In a word they are crazy makers.
I could agree with most said on here. It must be the sort of CAP/Guy one can run into. Sounds pretty accurate to me... to him it was always about *me, for me, how about me?* When it came to giving FUM something in return, it was like doing you a huge favour out of his majestic time. Mind you... I hardly ever heard a thank you, and when saying... hello.. thank you would suffice!! He used to say, do you want to get paid for it? How much do you need?
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Hi there all. I am confused as hell by a capricorn man. And yes, I am his nemisis. I am a Gemini woman, libra rising, Leo moon. All things Pretty much too jolly and frivolous for him. We met online a few months ago, and remarkably he was eager to meet asap. I didn't want to as I have a few issues and wanted to get to know him first. So we started this email and texting thing. And we get on remarkably. On the outside I am very Gemini, but due to past hurts, and the dictatorial way I was brought up, with not much love and care, I yearn for someone with stability, and would like to get to the core that is true care and deep emotion that I know is inside this almost morose charachter. Anyway. We're both graphic designers and both seem to have this fantasy world in our heads. Mine I believe is my imagination, and escapism to a certain extent, his I believe is the trapped dreamer within. Anyhow, these shared parts of our psychi made us bond massivly. And as we'd never met, I put no brakes on what I was or what I was saying. And he responded well to pretty much everything I threw at him. I did get the initial idea he was depressed. He talked about his 2 main relationships, how awful he was with women, and how both of the loves of his lfe had ended up havi g affairs and leaving him. He said he was broken by his divorce. And nearly destroyed. This was 2 years ago and o know he hasn't had anyone significant in his life since then. I have had a hell of a lot of sadness in my life, which is quite crippling for old Gemini me, but after about 180 hours of therapy, and numerous other tricks to save myself, I am finally on the up. But I have a very big heart, a compassion for people in pain, and a caring giving nature. So I felt incredibly drawn to this broken man.
So eventually we decided to facebook each other. Then 'omg it turns out I know him. I recognised his surname and he has lost all his hair and wears glasses now. We were sort of in the same group of friends when we were 20 ish. (both 41 now) I used to fancy the hell out if him, possibly cos even then I was drAwn to the darker side to him. He used to hide behind his hair and be full of mystery.
So we then continue, on my insistence, as friends. To be honest, my low self esteem thought ' he's too good for me' but I didn't want to let go of this lovely kind and sort of intoxicating man. But it got very I tense. Nothing sexual, just this complete obvious heartfelt bonding.synergy. Serendipity. Amazing. Never
So eventually we decided to facebook each other. Then 'omg it turns out I know him. I recognised his surname and he has lost all his hair and wears glasses now. We were sort of in the same group of friends when we were 20 ish. (both 41 now) I used to fancy the hell out if him, possibly cos even then I was drAwn to the darker side to him. He used to hide behind his hair and be full of mystery.
So we then continue, on my insistence, as friends. To be honest, my low self esteem thought ' he's too good for me' but I didn't want to let go of this lovely kind and sort of intoxicating man. But it got very I tense. Nothing sexual, just this complete obvious heartfelt bonding.synergy. Serendipity. Amazing. Never
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Never had anything like it. We know allthe same people ( although h has changed cities when he settled down first time) but it did go into thr tender side of caring, as much as you can get by text and emails.
It took a couple of weeks before I could see bim. We met, got on really well, had a massive laugh, and ended up snogging the night away. I had a fabulous time. And so did he it seems.
Next day nothing. I was nervous as hell and thought somewhere along the line, as he is a very polite person and traditional, I'd get some sort of thank you. I didn't. So I eventually sent one to him, and he responded quite .... Stiffly.... But said ge had a great time etc. Pride mixed with fear of rejection made me then email him to day whAt a great time, how did we end up snogging and if he isn't interested in that way, then I'm sure we could be good friends, as we seem almost destined to know each other. He reassured me that he had a great time and that I'm Reading too much Into it ( here we go Gemini) so I continute the same as before, slightly confused but onwards and upwards type of thing. Then I'm still getting nice things fro him, nice commnets, warm emails and texts. And eventually, when I said I'd found a load of pics we took larking around on the date night, and we looked really happy and merry, he said yes it was great, we had Fun and he can't wait for round 2. Bingo. I was happy. So we continued the same, and he asked me if I wanted to go to pick up a mucical instrument he has bought on eBay ( he'd actually asked me to bid on it, cos it was going to end when he couldbt ve there, given me all of the eBay passwords etc and said he trusted me) I thought that was nice. And was thrilled that I managed to win it for him)
it was quite a nightmare wAiting for thAt Friday, but he picked me up and we spent 8 hours in rhe car and having a look round oxford, we got on really well, but unlike when wer were both a little squiffy on wine on the first date, we didn't hold hands or do anything other than walk and talk. That night, after getting home, he texted and was lovely. Finishing his text with ' I didn't bore you did I?' which was the most vulnerable thing I think he'd ever said to me. And melted my heart. Again.
So all good again, till the Sunday, I sent a few texts and he didn't answer, come monday he emailed me sayin sorry, he has had the mother of all rows with his ex over the kids and money and he was called
Never had anything like it. We know allthe same people ( although h has changed cities when he settled down first time) but it did go into thr tender side of caring, as much as you can get by text and emails.
It took a couple of weeks before I could see bim. We met, got on really well, had a massive laugh, and ended up snogging the night away. I had a fabulous time. And so did he it seems.
Next day nothing. I was nervous as hell and thought somewhere along the line, as he is a very polite person and traditional, I'd get some sort of thank you. I didn't. So I eventually sent one to him, and he responded quite .... Stiffly.... But said ge had a great time etc. Pride mixed with fear of rejection made me then email him to day whAt a great time, how did we end up snogging and if he isn't interested in that way, then I'm sure we could be good friends, as we seem almost destined to know each other. He reassured me that he had a great time and that I'm Reading too much Into it ( here we go Gemini) so I continute the same as before, slightly confused but onwards and upwards type of thing. Then I'm still getting nice things fro him, nice commnets, warm emails and texts. And eventually, when I said I'd found a load of pics we took larking around on the date night, and we looked really happy and merry, he said yes it was great, we had Fun and he can't wait for round 2. Bingo. I was happy. So we continued the same, and he asked me if I wanted to go to pick up a mucical instrument he has bought on eBay ( he'd actually asked me to bid on it, cos it was going to end when he couldbt ve there, given me all of the eBay passwords etc and said he trusted me) I thought that was nice. And was thrilled that I managed to win it for him)
it was quite a nightmare wAiting for thAt Friday, but he picked me up and we spent 8 hours in rhe car and having a look round oxford, we got on really well, but unlike when wer were both a little squiffy on wine on the first date, we didn't hold hands or do anything other than walk and talk. That night, after getting home, he texted and was lovely. Finishing his text with ' I didn't bore you did I?' which was the most vulnerable thing I think he'd ever said to me. And melted my heart. Again.
So all good again, till the Sunday, I sent a few texts and he didn't answer, come monday he emailed me sayin sorry, he has had the mother of all rows with his ex over the kids and money and he was called
all the names under the sun and was in bits. I tried to be as supportive as I could, but seriously, from being on a high for 2 months, I felt like my heart had been ripped out. He went very cold, and sort of didn't engage with my correspondance. He'd always answer, but not cute. Occasionally he'd be the one to emIl or text, but it was mainly me. It put me in such. Bad mood that by the following Friday I, again, had to say something. Not all heavy, and how dare you make me feel like this, but wow- somethings gone sour hasn't it!? I'd like to remAin friends etc. He responded saying that in no way was any of this due to me, and external forces were making his life a misery at the moment. And he gets low when his kids are used as pawns etc. I could see it was t about me, and stopped fretting so, but he Was still very very low. I have kept up the supportive role and tried to be upbeat at times, but he can only just function, I can see that. Again, not one day has gone past since we met online where we haven't corresponded at all. He had a job interview yesterday and didn't get it. I was as philosphicAl as I can be and very kind and supportive and bigging hiM
up, and we exchanged a few texts about it.
Last night, I stumbled upon this site and was amazed. I was so tired but lay in bed for 4 hours on my iPhone and read and read and read about all these cap men who seem the same. I vowed I'd join today, even though my 'friendship' isn't massivly establised, It is and was very deep so I need some help.
up, and we exchanged a few texts about it.
Last night, I stumbled upon this site and was amazed. I was so tired but lay in bed for 4 hours on my iPhone and read and read and read about all these cap men who seem the same. I vowed I'd join today, even though my 'friendship' isn't massivly establised, It is and was very deep so I need some help.
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