Confusing Capricorn ex, mixed signals. (long story

My Cap and I have known each other for roughly 11 years. Last April I felt a compelling urge to contact him and it had been at least a year since we had seen each other last. We hung out once and then he asked me to be his girlfriend. We got engaged shortly after and were going to buy a house when his ex contacted him and he decided to give their relationship another shot, leaving me broken hearted. They didn't work out and 4 months later he contacted me and confessed he wanted everything we had back. I went over to his house that night and we "made up" but he didn't talk to me for a week after so I blew up at him. We didn't speak to each other again until late this March. We had a heart to heart and he explained himself and everything that has happened and we were back on 'friendly' terms. He's been hot and cold and down right confusing. Sometimes it feels like we're just friends and sometimes it feels like there's still more there. He'll flirt with me one day and flatline the next. We'll have long conversations and then he'll barely speak to me. We rarely contact each other unless I come to visit (his mother considers me her daughter) and he still has me blocked on Facebook. He's made it impossible for me to read him. He was my date to a party 2 weeks back and he brought up that my friend, her boyfriend, he and I should do something for Halloween and since then there's literally been nothing. I haven't gone over there in a week and when I did he came home late, just waved to me, ate something, and went to his room. It's almost like he wants something but yet he doesn't. I almost got the courage to just ask him, but I'll be damned if I get rejected by him a second time (Sagittarius pride, obviously). I don't know what to do. I'm thinking maybe taking a hiatus would make him miss me and might be a more comfortable situation to bring up the "what is this" business than just asking him out of the blue. Help?

To add, we have had sex twice in the passed 5 months. Thought I would clarify that because it almost sounded like nothing but flirting has happened. Sex, flirting, cuddling, long eye contact, etc. HAVE happened.

Hahaha, I wish only that my sag guy was this willing to get back together. All efforts made with no resolution, still trying , grrrrr. I hate to say I have not had any capricorn in my life except my sisters ex husband..hmm.. was he hot and cold. But deep down I feel like he still loves her. I think a capi`s love is very strong and on going. I don't think they just `give up` things easily, or move on easy. And seeing your situation I'm starting to believe that.

I hope things improve for you 😱

Thank you both for the messages.

@whitedream I hope things do too. And be persistent with your sag guy. We're stubborn but we do have a warm spot for the people we've loved. We usually believe in second chances.

@evalani290 in the beginning I was so happy and hopefully, but everything changed and now it's just a hot mess. I know what I want and it's to move on, with or without him. He just needs to figure out what he wants, and if he can't do that I'll be making his choice for him and walking away.

You made it too easy for him to come back.

Besides. Do you really want to be second choice?

I know I made mistakes in this, believe me I do. I tried to follow my heart and that's not always the way to go. I've been a pushover.
I only let him back in because I had been so miserably heart broken and depressed and I truly still loved him. I really thought he was the one. Part of me still does but part of me is ready to give up.
I thought maybe where its been a year and a half since he left and they've been done for a year and he wanted to have me back into his life and wanted to have the heart to heart about everything that he might actually give a damn. But I also thought I might have been reading into everything too much, where I always over analyze things.
I read Capricorns show their love through actions and I might have been reading too far into the way he looks at me, the way he kisses, the way he squeezed my hand when he held it as we cuddled, doing small things like going into my purse to get something for me or charge my phone or grab something I couldn't reach, going with me to a party even though he was tired just because he knew I wanted him to go, etc. I think I've weighed too much into it all because of the actions that say other wise. I don't ones speak more volumes.

Take the actions of sexual response out of the equation. It's the other types of actions that show we care like constant contact, spending time with you, doing nice things for you, etc

Posted by capricornmoon
He rejected you twice already

Oncem, when he left you for another girl that he was really into

And twice, when you slept with him after the break up and he didn't call you back for a week+

So now he knows you are always available, willing, able, ride or die type chic, even if he breaks your heart into a little pieces again, and again, and again.

IF you would have told him to get lost after he left you for the woman he really wanted and tried to crawl back to you, he would me blown' up your phone right now, your posts would be titled Capricorn ex is stalker, lol, but nah women act like we don't have any God given sense when it comes to men. And by the way, hot/cold behavior is a classic red flag of a guy trying to play you simply because he can. Simply because you let him. SMH

This. +100

Update: It's been a month since I've seen him. I know he's asked about me (whenever his mother brings him up, that's when I know he's asked about me) but we haven't spoken. I've been doing me, working overtime, going on dates, and having fun while on my hiatus. It wasn't easy at first, but I adjust to things fairly easily. The hiatus is ending today though. I'm going over to get my cat (who was born there) and there's obviously a good chance he'll be home so this should be interesting.

If you've been dating this man for 11 years it's obvious that you know how they act to certain issues. You know he's very distant at times and you know he's very cautious. He may not want to commit to you or his other mate. You might have to just give him his space and call him every now and then. Don't think too much because you already know how he is if you've been with him off and on for 11 years you already know the situation and you already know how to handle everything you just have to do it and don't let your feelings get too involved and make sure you don't be too demanding with him right now. I'm eager to hear a lot more about the situation I'm in a similar situation but I've learned to know how to handle everything.

Capricorn men at that age don’t just have sex just to be having it. That have to have some type of relationship with a women they care about to keep coming back. He cares about you and there is no doubt about that!!! Yes you can tell from the little things he do. Don’t take the sex out of the equation especially if you feel a connection from him while yall having sex. He’s uncertain what he want so he pushing you away to protect himself. He want to stay in control and if he let his guard down the situation that he’s unsure of can get out of hand. I’m sure he still love the other women.