Do Caps Turn their back on family/friends?

I have a problem with my Cap brother...we have been always been thick as theives, since our mother died, we use to be inseparable.

I met my boyfriend in 2002 and 2 years into the relationship,we started talking about my moving down to be with him, I told my brother that he was welcome to come with me if he wanted to because I would never leave him to fend for himeself, (we were sharing an apartment) well, my brother hooks up with this chic, she's a Scrp/Sag...first of all, she was dating our "cousin" (that stayed with us and was like my brother's other rib)first and the only reason they didn't have relations is because he didn't have condoms (he had just had child he didn't want) about three or 4 days later, she's coming over to see my brother talkin' bout she really want to be with him anyways, that's after she found out that the apartment wasn't in my cousin's name and that he had a child...so my brother gets with her and slowly he changes, with his last girlfriend he wasn't like this at all...i tried to warn him but we only got into an argument so I just kept my opinions to myself...and i tried to be friendly with her until she was beyond standing...so i remain cordial but we weren't going to be tight like i was with his last girlfriend...well...it's 4 years later...I haven't spoken to him in a month...we use to talk 2 to 3 times daily...in the past 6 months he started calling less, and when i did call he acted as if he was sooo tired and always making up excuses for why he was sleeping all the time...(of course i was concerned and ask questions)...so I got tired of it...and just let it be...my phone number hasn't changed so i figured when he remembers he's not sewn to her hip then maybe he'll ring it...

I did sacrifice alot to bring him up after our mom died, he was 11 and my dad was there and not there...for him to turn his back and change up like that...i ain't going to lie it hurts...and i don't want all his attention...he could call me for an hour on Saturday and have a real convo like we use to and it's fine with me but i can feel the fakeness of it when we talk now...and i can't go there...he knows that if this was reversed i'd never put my boyfriend before him...boyfriend/girlfriends come and go but family is suppose to be forever...oh...he married her last year without telling me or our other brother and he's cut off friends like changing socks...any thoughts...

Yes, I did... Does moving on mean not communicating and turning his back on family and long time friends?

This is a very difficult situation I've found myself in with my own younger brother. What I've come to realize is, if you want to remain close with anyone, you have to accept their choices. Especially, who they choose to spend their lives with, because obviously that person is very important to them. I know this is difficult, but she is not worth sacrificing your relationship with someone who means so much to you. You may be grinding your teeth the entire time in the beginning, but tolerate her and assure your brother you accept his choices and just want to be part of his life again. Write a letter to him if you feel a phone conversation would be cut short.

As I told someone in another thread, capricorns will take it as a personal insult if you insult their mate. That course of action will only push him further away. If she is no good for him, he will figure it out. Believe me! Caps are sharp. He may just be in the middle of learning a hard lesson.

Thanks sea, I've had to deal with this two other times, with my father when he remarried the first time I met her I knew she was a golddigger and no good...everyone was like I had the problem...but my gut was telling me she was going to put us (the kids) through hell...boy, didn't what I predict come true...my dad still hasn't told me he should've listened to me...not that I expect it...he's a gemini we don't get along....I told my cancer brother his wife meant him no good...he's now going through a difficult divorce but we're still good...and i warned this brother that she is a gold digger...three weeks after they started dating she got him to move her in...i've never known my brother to act like this...she can say anything about me and our other brother and he just sits there but if we say something he flies off the handle...I need a break from all this cause I'm a scorpio (obviously) and I'm only going to take so much to keep the peace before I let the stinger out and don't give a damn who gets mad...

satry, i've been on these boards enough to know how ppl just like to start an "argument" just to have something to do doing during the day...I came in here to ask Capricorns a question...There's no way in hell you know the whole situation from one freakin' paragraph...and if i was a control freak none of my family memebers would be in the fucked up situations they got themselves into not trying to hear me when i said they were chosing women beneath them...you do not know my family life or the hell we've been through so please do not go there...wishing the best knowing they'll eventually get a knife in their gut is not my way...

"You'll be happy as long as he learns a lesson, huh?" If that was the case would i have argued with him to wake the hell up!!!! I do not enjoy seeing my family memebers hurt even my dad which is why I don't stand back and just smile and hope for the best...I try and warn them...but because he won't listen just like my dad didn't listen and my brother didn't listen, he will, too, learn a hard lesson...and like I was there to pick up the pieces those other times I'll be here, too.

Wishing them the best don't mean a damn thing if their mates have ulterior motives, I suppose I caused their mates to be the bitches I knew them to be— Not going there with you, this is my piece on that...

I wanted to simply know if Capricorns have a tendency of turning their backs on family and close family friends when in relationships...and those are the responses that I want to hear...and yes, now i'm being a control freak!!!!

Thanks, and I don't need it repeated. Sea, I forgot to say that I have been trying not to let her come in btw us...but I think that has to work both ways...it's bothering so much because we were so close and i've bend over backwards (even taking snide remarks) off of her just to keep our relationship together and for him to change like that...that's why i feel like i need to take a step back for awhile before I say something that could cause us to not speak for 10 yrs vs a month or so...

SATYR, she has my brother in so much debt, he's calling me for money, she works when she feels like it, she talks to him like he ain't shit, he can't go 2 steps without her right on his heels, need I say more!!!! She wants the finer things but she don't want to help out... she got my brother and my dad(except me and my other brother and anyone else she comes in contact with) fooled!!!

"I need a break from all this cause I'm a scorpio (obviously) and I'm only going to take so much to keep the peace before I let the stinger out and don't give a damn who gets mad..."

Yes, then take some time to cool down. Going off on him would be the worst possible thing - it might push him away forever. He's probably hurting just as much as you, and that's why he's backed off from everyone. Take a little break and get your head about you, and then approach him.

"knife in the gut" was referring to the women and what they were doing to my brothers...I said I wasn't going to wish them well knowing that was going to happen to them...and this is not my brother's character...but hey what do I know I only been his sister all his life and raised him since he was 11....

Thanks Sea, but I miss my brother...even when i moved we were still on the phone like hours 2 or 3 times a day...and she would be in the background trying to talk to him while we were talking, so then i noticed he would call when she wasn't home and as soon as she get home he'd be like i call you later, i kept my mouth shut...now...he doesn't call at all and he act diffrent...like he's afraid to relax or something...what I admired about my brother was his strength in character and that no one pushed him around...it's like looking at a stranger these days...i went home for Christmas, my other brother has been in Iraq for christmas for the past 3 yrs so this was his first christmas home, before I came up there I told him that we were all eating at my other brothers...so i come up there thinking i'm going to spend christmas with both of my brothers I hadn't done that since i moved...she talking about that she has to work (didnt have to work til midnight and then didn't go in) so they're eating lasanga...all because she don't get along with my other brother's wife...and vice versa...i was so pissed but i kept my cool cause it was the holidays and i didn't want to ruin my trip...called him when i got back to let him know i had arrived okay and to wish him happy birthday..and hadn't heard from him since...the bad thing...I was sick (flu/laryngitis)when i called him...

"but I think that has to work both ways...it's bothering so much because we were so close and i've bend over backwards"

It should work both ways, but he has to live with her, so that's probably why he's less likely to ruffle her feathers. 😉 Take a little break and then when you talk to him explain how things she says make you feel, and that you just want you guys to be close again. I understand why you feel so protective of him, especially since you raised him. I'm the same with my brother, but I had to let go. He's a grown man, after all, and he has his own lessons to learn.

thanks sea, i really appreciate it.