Has capricorn lost interest?

I was in a casual long distance thing with an American Capricorn, who's 25 years older than me.

We met last summer and we chatted over whatsapp for months. He visited me and I visited him in the Spring. I thought we had a good bond going in spite of the distance.

I thought we could get to know each other a little better this summer so i took a summer course and stayed with him for 4 weeks. By the end of the first week, we were arguing because he felt that I took all that he did for me for granted (as i was exhausted from jetlag and a long day at school so fell asleep); he flew into this rage and told me to get out of house and his life etc etc. As i started developing feelings for him, i needed to know where we stood as i didn't want to waste my time or money. He raged every time we discussed emotional stuff and said i get into a "certain state" i.e. emotional. And maybe I shouldn't have given him the silent treatment and kept feelings to myself. Nevertheless, he did admit i was beautiful during our tender moments, and he cared/did a lot for me even though he was emotionally inhibited. He said he enjoyed hanging out with 70% of time, i ruin the other times with my need for discussion on what we are.

On my last night, I was straightforward and told him: "I want to see you again". He said "we'll figure it out"

I gently tried to tell him "he needed to figure it out as he's the man and before he's too old"

so my questions are:

1.) "We'll figure it out" (and he was adamant on the 'We' part). Is that a code for "I'm no longer pursuing you/interested" or maybe he hasn't made his mind up...

2. ) I landed 2 days ago and sent him a notice via whatsapp and a general thank you email where i also told him of places we could hang out and i'm open to his suggestions.

He's not responded to either forms of communication. even though he's been online on both platforms. He's not even messaged me at all.

Is he putting distance to cut me off, still processing his feelings (he was affectionate the night before and morning I left with hugs and kisses).

I know patient is key with these guys but the wait is killing me

i meant to ask the questions (be direct) but ended up writing more...

From everything I know about Capricorn Men... they don't play games when they really like someone. They truly are ALL IN when they're serious about you. NO MIND GAMES "We'll figure it out" sounds like some bulls**t. He seems like he's just trying to keep you as a "placeholder" while he finds what he's truly looking for. You shouldn't tolerate ANYONE being 'iffy' or 'on the fence' about their feelings for you. Know that you DESERVE much better.

aquariusgirl2, have you been intimate? Did you contribute financially when you stayed with him?

Going through this same thing with my Leo ex. The compiments but practically nonexistent communication are basically encouraging your self esteem and confidence but seriously, find someone else. My ex really let herself go after breaking up but she cheated and I could never forgive that. Plus the arguments and tension buildt between us made her even more unappealing. I told her she could have a bombshell body if she really worked out. But she's clingy and desperate and that's a real turnoff for a Cap. Seriously, I assure you, chances are he doesn't want a relationship. Got three texts from my ex recently, haven't returned any of them for a reason. Plus she's libra rising, it would never work out. She's spendy and materialistic. My LDR Pisces girl laughed her ass off when I showed her what my ex looked like.

@SunMoonStars Prior to staying with him. I asked him how much. He said $ 150. So I gave $ 150. When we had an argument, he then brought up that I've stayed with him for a month and only gave a hundred.

I thought I was a guest and he never mentioned wanting more. I'm not a mind reader!

@carefreecap77 Yup I fear he mentally decided I wasn't "the one" because whilst he was affectionate with me on my last night, he turned down intimacy-which for him/a cap might've been telling! One half of me knows I should drop him (the LD thing doesn't help too) and the other half knows he had some sort of affection (he had a little tear whilst lying stoically next to me as we watched TV on my last night) so he could be needing time to process things.

It's just confusing. Love/relations between any signs are tough, but with Caps...wowza!

Posted by aquariusgirl2
@SunMoonStars Prior to staying with him. I asked him how much. He said $ 150. So I gave $ 150. When we had an argument, he then brought up that I've stayed with him for a month and only gave a hundred.

I thought I was a guest and he never mentioned wanting more. I'm not a mind reader!

@carefreecap77 Yup I fear he mentally decided I wasn't "the one" because whilst he was affectionate with me on my last night, he turned down intimacy-which for him/a cap might've been telling! One half of me knows I should drop him (the LD thing doesn't help too) and the other half knows he had some sort of affection (he had a little tear whilst lying stoically next to me as we watched TV on my last night) so he could be needing time to process things.

It's just confusing. Love/relations between any signs are tough, but with Caps...wowza!

Sounds like he's pushing you away with impossible requests like reading his mind about the money thing.

Sorry to pry, but just to clarify, you never had sex with him?

Wow this Capricorn sounds like an absolute jerk! He screamed at you over money? and because you got emotional? Forget this fool

@SunMoonStars

It seemed that unless you were perfect, he'd hate me.

In his reply email to me, he outlined how he spent 3k on me (money and sex are their obsession), therefore he's not travelling any time soon (thus rejecting my invitation to hang out)

He then said a woman for should "never be a pain in the ass. Ever"

Seriously on eggshells all the time so it seemed every little thing I did, like being in his way in the hallway, would piss him off.

I still don't know whether he's testing me or telling me to piss off. I much rather he did the latter. At least, finally, he can give me an answer.

Posted by aquariusgirl2
@SunMoonStars

It seemed that unless you were perfect, he'd hate me.

In his reply email to me, he outlined how he spent 3k on me (money and sex are their obsession), therefore he's not travelling any time soon (thus rejecting my invitation to hang out)

He then said a woman for should "never be a pain in the ass. Ever"

Seriously on eggshells all the time so it seemed every little thing I did, like being in his way in the hallway, would piss him off.

I still don't know whether he's testing me or telling me to piss off. I much rather he did the latter. At least, finally, he can give me an answer.

What the hell..was he under the impression that you had money or something? I think he's struggling with finances or using that as an excuse to end things with you, or wanting YOU to pay for his trip? Maybe other Caps will have better insights.



I know that walking on eggshells feeling for different reasons than yours. I suggest that you leave him alone. Pull WAY back. He will return if he likes you, or you won't hear from him in any real way again.

Posted by carefreecap77
From everything I know about Capricorn Men... they don't play games when they really like someone. They truly are ALL IN when they're serious about you. NO MIND GAMES "We'll figure it out" sounds like some bulls**t. He seems like he's just trying to keep you as a "placeholder" while he finds what he's truly looking for. You shouldn't tolerate ANYONE being 'iffy' or 'on the fence' about their feelings for you. Know that you DESERVE much better.

Yes. This is shocking to hear from a Capricorn, but then, people are people at the end of the day. The rage part really shocked me because I can't even get my boyfriend to raise his voice. The only time I heard him scream was when we went to Hershey.

OP, this man's behavior is extremely questionable. I would recommend staying away from him. He is so much older than you and he may be trying to control you. Accusing you of being "emotional" and using it in such a negative way is dangerous.

I always hate saying this but, leave him alone. There are a lot of reasons and ways he has indicated that he either isn't ready to feel anything for you or that he doesn't want to. Either way, at this point in time, all the effort and energy you are putting in to analyzing the situation is a waste. You can't convince him of anything (nor should you have to- you ALWAYS deserve better!) and you damn sure shouldn't wait on him. Move on, meet people and make yourself happy. If he decides to be part of your life then consider it a bonus. If not, then you're already working on being happy anyway. And yes, we take our sweet time in romance but, we will (literally) climb mountains for the ones we love- excuse the pun. We don't do the games and rage thing- its a waste of time.