How to Proceed with Capricorn Male

Hey guys, so I've been seeing this Capricorn for the past 8 months. We broke up a few months ago around November, but had remained friends, hanging out occasionally. Our hanging out times started to increase around the holiday season in late December. On Christmas we hung out and had a great day ... and ended up sleeping together. I knew we were broken up so I kept my guards up but we ended up sleeping together a few more times after so I started to let my guards down.

I wanted to just go with the flow and see where this goes, but we had a talk about it this past weekend and I wasn't really sure what to say because I still want to date, but he keeps saying that he wants to be friends so we can build on our friendship and solidify that part of our relationship first. I think I understand where he's coming from, but I also feel like we've been doing this dance for 8 months because he's too scared to take a risk and make a mistake. He's always been like this even with everyday things/problems; moves at a slow pace, takes time to decide on things and does everything with caution. Things just progress at such a slow pace between us because of that.

We had a conversation yesterday and it ended with me saying I need time to think. He still wants to remain friends, but I am not sure I can do that immediately if I still want to date him. This ^ entire scenario might happen again.. but I also care so much about him and he's been so apart of my life that I don't think I can let him go completely. In a more ideal situation, he'd just forget his fears and we would date because thats what he wants, but in his own "build a solid foundation" way.

Any advice on how to proceed or if anyone has gone through a similar experiences, please share! (:

I'd say, start by assessing your needs and setting your boundaries - not stating your expectations.

He wants to "build a solid fondation". So do you. If his idea of a "solid foundation" doesn't jive with yours, have a talk. If you two can't come to an understanding or if he's still not getting it, then walk.

Personally, I think it sounds like a "cakey-eatey" situation on his end, but I could be wrong. Either way, the above advice still stands.

What caused the initial breakup?

Posted by paperwallflower
H but he keeps saying that he wants to be friends so we can build on our friendship and solidify that part of our relationship first. (:

This..

Stop sleeping with him and build the friendship portion of your relationship. Perhaps yall moved to the sexual stage too soon into your relationship.