I love you VS I am in love with you.

Do they mean the same thing to you all?

I can see how there can be a difference, but if I say it I mean it both ways. I'll tell my friends all day long I love them, but I won't say it to a boyfriend unless I mean I am in love with them. I other words, with the boyfriend, I'll avoid the L-word all the way around, unless I am in love with them. Hope that makes sense.

My guess is that the Cap guy in question said he loved you and now you want to know if it means he is in love with you right? Only way to know that is to ask him because only he knows what he meant. I will say that Caps aren't free with the word love unless there is some strong feeling or sense of commitment to a person behind it so that is a good sign. But does it mean you are his true love and will happily ever after be around the coroner? Again, I would ask him to clarify if you truly want to know and be prepared if the response isn't what you thought it would be based on anything other than his own words. Best of luck.

"Happily ever after be around the coroner"

hahahahaha!!!! Gotta LOVE typos! That's just funny right there.

I was also discussing this on the Aquarius board...

Maybe it's like this

I love you = I choose to love you

I'm in love with you = it chooses me

Posted by WoundedLeo
This is a really good question APC!

😛

I can absolutely 'love' someone but it takes me a while to actually say it. It's even harder to say and feel I am actually 'in love' with someone.
For me loving someone would be wanting to do anything for them, even as a friend, while being 'in love' is more like a surrender, a knowing and desire that is unstoppable and not easily to put aside with a rational thought.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I was also discussing this on the Aquarius board...

Maybe it's like this

I love you = I choose to love you

I'm in love with you = it chooses me

Hmmm...

Is any love a choice, though?

Even among your friends, have you really made the conscious choice to find those qualities they possess attractive and worthy of your love? Or is what attracts you to them, whether as a friend or lover, innate? Knowing of them what you do, could you choose not to love/be in love with them?

Posted by truecap
"Happily ever after be around the coroner"

hahahahaha!!!! Gotta LOVE typos! That's just funny right there.

That must have been me having a flashback about my own Cap man before he got it together! LOL

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I was also discussing this on the Aquarius board...

Maybe it's like this

I love you = I choose to love you

I'm in love with you = it chooses me

I have a few questions:

1) Are you in love with this Cap? If yes, have you told him so?

2) Can you give us the context in which the love you statement was made? Was it made jokingly? During an intimate moment?

I still say the best way to find out the exact meaning behind the words irregardless of anyone else's opinion on what it might mean is to ask the person face-to-face.

Posted by TigerCap
I can absolutely 'love' someone but it takes me a while to actually say it. It's even harder to say and feel I am actually 'in love' with someone.
For me loving someone would be wanting to do anything for them, even as a friend, while being 'in love' is more like a surrender, a knowing and desire that is unstoppable and not easily to put aside with a rational thought.

Yep.

Posted by TigerCap
I can absolutely 'love' someone but it takes me a while to actually say it. It's even harder to say and feel I am actually 'in love' with someone.
For me loving someone would be wanting to do anything for them, even as a friend, while being 'in love' is more like a surrender, a knowing and desire that is unstoppable and not easily to put aside with a rational thought.

I like this a lot too...

Would you ever tell that person that you felt in love?

I am being curious as I do not say it often and I was just wondering what others thought about the two types.

I think I would, but for some reason an image pops up of two friends that say "I don't just love you, I am actually in love with you..."

But honestly the last girl I got serious with, I wasn't able to say more than "I really, really like you".
It's hard you know, most of the time.

Besides, there are countless ways of saying it. Falling for you, can't live without you, etc.

You can love anyone, but will you die for them?
There is your difference...

When someone is in love, they will do anything, even die for you... = PURE LOVE

Posted by SureShotCap
You can love anyone, but will you die for them?
There is your difference...

When someone is in love, they will do anything, even die for you... = PURE LOVE

When I say it, I will do that.
I have said it to the cap I am seeing. Admittedly, I breakup with him every now and then because he goes aloof on me. But maybe from a scorp it is less meaningful. Not that I wouldn't actually take the bullet for him if it came down to it. No question, I would. I just think some of of us scorps are morbid, and death is not such a biggie and we define the L-word to include that before we say it. I don't think the cap has this same definition. But that is what I want. Unreasonable?, probably. Also, another stereotypical trait that I find has truth in my case 😢

Thanks Gumshoe, but most think its sick/psycho and scary. That is why the sad face. I think it should be normal, then get disappointed when its not. So I guess its not? No, its probably not. And I probably won't ever find it. So I have to keep the 😢 for that reason

Posted by AreTwoFour

When I say it, I will do that.
I have said it to the cap I am seeing. Admittedly, I breakup with him every now and then because he goes aloof on me. But maybe from a scorp it is less meaningful. Not that I wouldn't actually take the bullet for him if it came down to it. No question, I would. I just think some of of us scorps are morbid, and death is not such a biggie and we define the L-word to include that before we say it. I don't think the cap has this same definition. But that is what I want. Unreasonable?, probably. Also, another stereotypical trait that I find has truth in my case 😢

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Believe me when I say this: I will die for what I love, and so will he, we just wont say it or show it...
Now writing it is a different story. Never lose your faith, it creates doubt. There isn't any doubt in TRUE LOVE!

Posted by M

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I was also discussing this on the Aquarius board...

Maybe it's like this

I love you = I choose to love you

I'm in love with you = it chooses me

I consider the difference loving someone (your end) vs being in love *with* them (shared/mutual).

As far as the OP I feel the same as Truecap, about ability to use and when. And given the above it's likely someone can love anyone, but can only be in love via a romantic relationship.

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So you can't be "in love" if it isn't mutual/shared you think? You often hear people say I am so in love with that person and they don't love me back...

Posted by SureShotCap
You can love anyone, but will you die for them?
There is your difference...

When someone is in love, they will do anything, even die for you... = PURE LOVE

Maybe I haven't been properly "in love" then... to die for someone. That's deep.

But my kids, I love them and I would die for them.

Posted by TigerCap
I think I would, but for some reason an image pops up of two friends that say "I don't just love you, I am actually in love with you..."

But honestly the last girl I got serious with, I wasn't able to say more than "I really, really like you".
It's hard you know, most of the time.

Besides, there are countless ways of saying it. Falling for you, can't live without you, etc.

lol, I really really like you? How did that go for you? She probably wanted you to say it!!! and why are you afraid to say it? Romantically, I have a hard time saying it too, it's like crossing over to the other side. You can't ever take it back. No matter what happens, you always get, "but you said you loved me?"

With friends and family, I make a point of saying it. It probably gets annoying for them but I want them to know, to never doubt it. :O)

Posted by StoicGoat

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I was also discussing this on the Aquarius board...

Maybe it's like this

I love you = I choose to love you

I'm in love with you = it chooses me

Hmmm...

Is any love a choice, though?

Even among your friends, have you really made the conscious choice to find those qualities they possess attractive and worthy of your love? Or is what attracts you to them, whether as a friend or lover, innate? Knowing of them what you do, could you choose not to love/be in love with them?

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The conscious choice would come after you found those qualities attractive I suppose. The other point of "in love" is where it is overpowering and you cannot make the choice? Am I making any sense??

Posted by Pidelight

Posted by truecap
"Happily ever after be around the coroner"

hahahahaha!!!! Gotta LOVE typos! That's just funny right there.

That must have been me having a flashback about my own Cap man before he got it together! LOL

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Lol!! I almost spewed my coffee!!

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by TigerCap
I think I would, but for some reason an image pops up of two friends that say "I don't just love you, I am actually in love with you..."

But honestly the last girl I got serious with, I wasn't able to say more than "I really, really like you".
It's hard you know, most of the time.

Besides, there are countless ways of saying it. Falling for you, can't live without you, etc.

lol, I really really like you? How did that go for you? She probably wanted you to say it!!! and why are you afraid to say it? Romantically, I have a hard time saying it too, it's like crossing over to the other side. You can't ever take it back. No matter what happens, you always get, "but you said you loved me?"

With friends and family, I make a point of saying it. It probably gets annoying for them but I want them to know, to never doubt it. :O)

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In this case it worked... the first time. 😛 We were friends, but also attracted to each other though I had the feeling from the beginning it wouldn't work in the long run. She was a Sag by the way.

But for some reason I have absolutely no problem pouring my hart out with my Scorpio best friend and telling her I love her. I guess it really depends on the person and the kind of relationship.

they both mean the same to me.

love is love is love

...is love

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by StoicGoat

Is any love a choice, though?

Even among your friends, have you really made the conscious choice to find those qualities they possess attractive and worthy of your love? Or is what attracts you to them, whether as a friend or lover, innate? Knowing of them what you do, could you choose not to love/be in love with them?

The conscious choice would come after you found those qualities attractive I suppose. The other point of "in love" is where it is overpowering and you cannot make the choice? Am I making any sense??

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I think I understand you 🙂

What attracts you to another, whether as a friend or lover, is innate to you. You can choose not to pursue the friendship/relationship that might develop, but the attraction upon which it is/was predicated remains.

Posted by StoicGoat

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by StoicGoat

Is any love a choice, though?

Even among your friends, have you really made the conscious choice to find those qualities they possess attractive and worthy of your love? Or is what attracts you to them, whether as a friend or lover, innate? Knowing of them what you do, could you choose not to love/be in love with them?

The conscious choice would come after you found those qualities attractive I suppose. The other point of "in love" is where it is overpowering and you cannot make the choice? Am I making any sense??

I think I understand you 🙂

What attracts you to another, whether as a friend or lover, is innate to you. You can choose not to pursue the friendship/relationship that might develop, but the attraction upon which it is/was predicated remains.

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Oh good, someone finally understands me 😛

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by StoicGoat

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by StoicGoat

Is any love a choice, though?

Even among your friends, have you really made the conscious choice to find those qualities they possess attractive and worthy of your love? Or is what attracts you to them, whether as a friend or lover, innate? Knowing of them what you do, could you choose not to love/be in love with them?

The conscious choice would come after you found those qualities attractive I suppose. The other point of "in love" is where it is overpowering and you cannot make the choice? Am I making any sense??

I think I understand you 🙂

What attracts you to another, whether as a friend or lover, is innate to you. You can choose not to pursue the friendship/relationship that might develop, but the attraction upon which it is/was predicated remains.

Oh good, someone finally understands me 😛

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Been waiting for me a long time, have you? 😛

I think

I love you

😛

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I think

I love you

😛

You can't ever take that back! 😛

I'm not worried... 🙂

🙂