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I'm about to go crazy from this Cap man!! (Page 2)
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Posted by Notunemotionaljustlogical8
only thing he's enjoying is pissing you off to no end.
this.
he's probably sitting back and figures it's safer to keep her in the eyes view as opposed to not know where the psycho hides.
meh, Caps don't buy sweet BS easily. It's not enough to say: "you're the best" - you better have something of value to back that up.
Posted by lnana04
Caps will never really understand all the "motions" but once you calm down and explain why you went through it all, they'll get a better understanding. You never know what can happen when you return to Florida. If you go out there with absolutely NO expectations of him, and allow yourself to enjoy your time, then you just never know, but don't look for anything. And If he ever decides to approach you, don't push him away but apologize for your actions and explain yourself and he probably won't be too hard on you. You will have to be 100% honest about everything if you want a friendship or anything else. To understand the emotions we have to understand where they are coming from.
It's funny you mention that lnana, because there was one night when I was having a really bad "moment" and I was crying & venting to him about it. Later on, I was embarrassed for letting him see me in that state, so I apologized. He then sent me a text saying "Don't worry about what I think of your actions, I understand your emotions way more than you think. 😉" So he knew that I had some issues, and I don't think my final outburst was a complete surprise to him...I think he kinda expected something like that happen. But you wanna know something funny? I briefly dated a Pisces 7 years ago and we have had some NASTY fights over the years where I have said things to him that were just as nasty as the insults I hurled at Capricorn. Sometimes Pisces would ignore me and sometimes he would engage me by throwing nasty insults right back at me. We went through months where we didn't speak to each other. But you know what? He always came back around and he & I are still very close friends to this day. We talk to each other about EVERYTHING. He's still got my back! I've asked him many times what made him keep coming back around. He just says "There's something about you I can't resist." So you may be right! Pisces certainly isn't the only man I've fought badly with who eventually got over it and came back around as if nothing had happened.
And roamingfree, let me set you straight about something. Mr. Capricorn still bitches about his ex-girlfriend whenever she is mentioned. He despises her for the years of cheating on him and he continually says he regrets all those years he wasted on her and how she took advantage of his kindness. He gave her more than once chance & says he will never even remotely consider going back to her again. But get this--I was shocked to find out that he HASN'T been talking shit about me to people like I expected he would. His friends had no idea that we had even had a falling out until I told them!! Once I told them what (I thought) was going on, I'm sure they went back to him and questioned him about what was going on. If he then divulged anything about what's been going on between us, whatever he told them about me must not have angered, scared, or bothered them that much because none of them have changed their behavior towards me. They all talk to me and treat me just like they did before this fight happened, nothing has changed. None of them have begun ignoring or shunning me or ganging up on me in his defense. So in answer to your speculations, NO he has NOT been telling any of his friends to "go ahead and f--k me and ditch me". Most of his friends have girlfriends & boyfriends, so they wouldn't want to "fuk me & ditch me" anyway. A few people have even told me that he has not been talking bad about me at all to their knowledge. And honestly I gotta say I'm VERY surprised by this, because most guys WOULD talk trash about me or any other girl they had a bad falling out with. As angry as I am at him lately, I guess I have to give him credit for that.
i think you don't see that he has a lot of control over himself. Caps don't kiss and tell. He's not going to talk about you. You keep expecting high school behavior out of him and he's not giving it to you. As for what he says or not - how would you know? He hasn't said a word to you in a while. His friends behavior reflects his character - he picks stable and self respecting friends not ones who will act like bunch of teenagers. Something you may want to try to see. The behaviors you are expecting are not happening and it pisses the fvk out of you. You are not getting your satisfaction because neither him nor his friend are reactionary to your antics. I think you need to put a major break on this, drop it and hope to act civil if you ever see him. Acting as you have till now is not even not going to bring him back, but you are ditching any chances of saving your face from total disgrace and embarrassment. I have a Scorp Asc, I know how you feel and I understand the rampage you are on, but you need to let go or you will find yourself alone, forgotten, and overlooked not even looked over.
You need to take a deep breath and step back from this, before it consumes you more and your anger will only turn itself against you, because obviously it's not touching him.
I wish you well, because I hate to see women who are unhappy and alone. Even if I practically invented the self sufficient and independent trip myself and can wallow in righteous self importance just as much as anyone else.
You need to take a deep breath and step back from this, before it consumes you more and your anger will only turn itself against you, because obviously it's not touching him.
I wish you well, because I hate to see women who are unhappy and alone. Even if I practically invented the self sufficient and independent trip myself and can wallow in righteous self importance just as much as anyone else.
But but but..roamingfree...you don't UNDERSTAND...he hasn't deleted her from Facebook..which means.....
he still loves her!!!
Right, OP?
he still loves her!!!
Right, OP?
Posted by BigGirlPanties
But but but..roamingfree...you don't UNDERSTAND...he hasn't deleted her from Facebook..which means.....
he still loves her!!!
Right, OP?
You can mock me as much as you like, biatch, but the point I've been trying to make is that EVERY guy I have ever known & fought with has ALWAYS promptly deleted me from their instant messenger, MySpace, Facebook etc. for offenses far less than what I did to Mr. Cap. So when a blowout that big goes down and the guy DOESN'T do what every single other male has ever done, then yes I am going to take notice and wonder what the heck is going on. Sue me!! And roaming, what do you think about Mr. Cap's "self-control and maturity" when he rants about his ex everytime she is mentioned?? I don't know if she ever blew up at him quite as bad as I did, but wouldn't it be logical to assume that he would be talking crap about me too? I'm not trying to use this as a way to justify that he "still loves" me, it's just another aspect of his behavior that is baffling me. Trust me, I know how people generally operate, and when a group of people discover that one of their friends is being treated very badly by someone, they will usually direct some animosity towards that person in order to defend their friend. His friends aren't doing that. They don't want to get involved, but they also said they don't know what's up with him right now and that he doesn't talk about me. I've had other men who talked crap about me every chance they got when they didn't like me anymore. All I'm saying is that it would be nice if he could be like my Pisces friend and get over it one of these days and come back around. Pisces and I fought BAD, but for some reason he never let it keep us from making amends. Anything is possible, I guess. Strange things do happen!
Posted by cowpuncher
Okay... I've had enough... I'm convinced.
Sorry cowpuncher, but I had plans to relocate to Florida LONG before I met Mr. Cap. Nice try though.
Is it me, or does the woman get crazier in her ideas and more dense as we go—
Posted by lildol
Is it me, or does the woman get crazier in her ideas and more dense as we go—
Once again, calling me crazy doesn't insult me when I've already freely admitted that I have several issues. (Yawn)
Posted by BigGirlPanties
But but but..roamingfree...you don't UNDERSTAND...he hasn't deleted her from Facebook..which means.....
he still loves her!!!
Right, OP?
lmao!!
Posted by MermaidPrincessPosted by BigGirlPanties
But but but..roamingfree...you don't UNDERSTAND...he hasn't deleted her from Facebook..which means.....
he still loves her!!!
Right, OP?
what do you think about Mr. Cap's "self-control and maturity" when he rants about his ex everytime she is mentioned??click to expand
he has every right to rant about her - they have something you and him do not: LONGEVITY OF RELATIONSHIP or RELATIONSHIP itself. you and him had NOTHING, but words.
Posted by cowpuncher
Mermaid... if there's one piece of absolutely sure fire, never-wrong Capricorn male advice I can give you... it's this:
Capricorn men are *not* like all the other reindeer. We're different. Often, we are loners, we are so 'different'.
Don't necessarily take your experiences with other men, and expect a Capricorn male to react exactly the same, that's a sure fire path to being wrong. For instance... a little jealousy might spice up a romance with some other guys. It'll make us ice cold, like you just put the relationship in a blast freezer with liquid nitrogen.
You've got a lot of good advice on this thread... we're not trying to belittle you here, but many of us are trying to help you avoid turning a big mistake into an even bigger mistake, and making yourself even more miserable in the bargain. If you post wanting people to tell you what you want to hear, post your question and say "Okay everybody, just tell me what I want to hear". If you post asking for advice and information... then you'd better want advice and information.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
This exactly. especialy about Cap men. I know 3 and all are teh same to each other, but nothing like anyone else.
They're not all different, cowpuncher. I had a Cap before this one who acted exactly like all the other men...actually worse. Two years ago, a Cap who I had been friends with for 10 years confessed to me that he had always wanted a chance to date me. I was flattered, so we did. I figured this was someone I could probably trust since we had already been friends for ten years. Well as soon as we slept together for the first time, he immediately turns around and tells me "Sorry trick, I was never really friends with you, I've just always wanted to fuck you and I was going to pretend to be friends with you for as long as it took and do/say whatever it took to eventually have you. And now that I've fucked you, I want no part of your life anymore. So fuck off." And unlike this current Cap, he quickly blocked me on his cell phone and Facebook so that I couldn't say anything to him in response to his stunt. He also talked shit about me to everyone he met. So I had to find out the hard way that my "friend" of ten years had been putting on a facade for freaking decade just in the hopes of eventually one day getting into my pants. I lost what I thought was an old friend and hated myself for a year. I hated myself for never knowing what was up all those years...it totally blindsided me. He then went on to literally "service" every lonely middle-aged divorce? and unhappily married wife in his town. ??Gross.
OK, I wasn't gonna say anything, but here's my take on the not-removing-from-FB thing.
Personally, I don't remove a person from my contacts when I've decided to cut them out of my life. Once I've decided firmly that I'm through with a bad situation that isn't of my own doing ('cos I'd be trying to apologise and make things right if it were), an invisible but solid wall goes up between us. They can (and do) spam me with messages, but my eyes catch the name and I just go back to what I was doing without reading it. I won't take the time to block them online or bitch about them, nor will I turn my head to look at them when they come up to speak to me in a club or bar. Not saying this is a typical Cap response, but it's how I end things. There's more important people and situations I'd rather spend my energy on when it gets to that point. I don't even have the respect or anger towards them to hit "remove".
Going off what you've described though, I personally wouldn't go to that beach until a serious chunk of time has passed, but that's just me. If it's your preferred beach regardless of him, then go for it... but I'd leave him be and let him make the first move.
I know it fucking hurts when you're crazy about someone and not getting clear answers or seeing any progress, but I think at this point you need to do some major, major damage limitation (to put it mildly).
Personally, I don't remove a person from my contacts when I've decided to cut them out of my life. Once I've decided firmly that I'm through with a bad situation that isn't of my own doing ('cos I'd be trying to apologise and make things right if it were), an invisible but solid wall goes up between us. They can (and do) spam me with messages, but my eyes catch the name and I just go back to what I was doing without reading it. I won't take the time to block them online or bitch about them, nor will I turn my head to look at them when they come up to speak to me in a club or bar. Not saying this is a typical Cap response, but it's how I end things. There's more important people and situations I'd rather spend my energy on when it gets to that point. I don't even have the respect or anger towards them to hit "remove".
Going off what you've described though, I personally wouldn't go to that beach until a serious chunk of time has passed, but that's just me. If it's your preferred beach regardless of him, then go for it... but I'd leave him be and let him make the first move.
I know it fucking hurts when you're crazy about someone and not getting clear answers or seeing any progress, but I think at this point you need to do some major, major damage limitation (to put it mildly).
Posted by MermaidPrincess
Well as soon as we slept together for the first time, he immediately turns around and tells me "Sorry trick, I was never really friends with you, I've just always wanted to fuck you and I was going to pretend to be friends with you for as long as it took and do/say whatever it took to eventually have you. And now that I've fucked you, I want no part of your life anymore. So fuck off." And unlike this current Cap, he quickly blocked me on his cell phone and Facebook so that I couldn't say anything to him in response to his stunt. He also talked shit about me to everyone he met.
That guy sounds like a complete and utter twat. And he's not representative of Cap males IME (or any particular sign for that matter). The only thing he's represents is a selfish, insecure, tag-'em-and-shag-'em shitbag.
Posted by Five10Fiftyfold
Going off what you've described though, I personally wouldn't go to that beach until a serious chunk of time has passed, but that's just me. If it's your preferred beach regardless of him, then go for it... but I'd leave him be and let him make the first move..
That's exactly what I'm going to do. It IS my preferred beach and I'm not going to acknowledge him when I'm there. Whatever he does is up to him.
Well Five, that particular Cap was seriously self-destructing at the time that happened. I didn't know the full severity of it until afterwards when I talked to our mutual friends. Heavy drinking, some drug use, violent outbursts, hanging out with BAD people, screwing everything that moved, etc. He ended up losing his job, his home, his marriage, many of his friends, everything. At first I was sad and concerned for him, but after awhile I just cut him out of my life and wrote him off as dead, since the real Brandon I had always known for years pretty much WAS gone & dead.
Posted by MermaidPrincess
That's exactly what I'm going to do. It IS my preferred beach and I'm not going to acknowledge him when I'm there. Whatever he does is up to him.
This is the best way, IMO. You still have a right to go there and I realise that the whole reason you met him was because you were at that beach in the first place, and I know you'd planned to move down there at some point anyway. I'd also recommend setting your stuff up as far from him as possible, just as an extra "I'm here because I like it here, not because I want you to notice me" thing.
Do you have a good social circle down there away from him for when you move?
Yes Five, I was already planning to sit a distance from him. And no I am slowly building a small circle of friends down there, but nothing much yet. It will be very rough at first when I move.
Posted by MermaidPrincess
Well Five, that particular Cap was seriously self-destructing at the time that happened. I didn't know the full severity of it until afterwards when I talked to our mutual friends. Heavy drinking, some drug use, violent outbursts, hanging out with BAD people, screwing everything that moved, etc. He ended up losing his job, his home, his marriage, many of his friends, everything. At first I was sad and concerned for him, but after awhile I just cut him out of my life and wrote him off as dead, since the real Brandon I had always known for years pretty much WAS gone & dead.
It sounds like something pretty major may have happened to trigger him off down a path like that. Regardless though, that isn't his friends responsibility; as friends, you try to help the people you care about as best as you possibly can - and sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. But it's done because you want to, not because you obligated. Sometimes you need to cut people out before they drag your own self-esteem down with them.
His behaviour towards you however was fucking atrocious, and, IMHO, inexcusable.
Posted by MermaidPrincess
Yes Five, I was already planning to sit a distance from him. And no I am slowly building a small circle of friends down there, but nothing much yet. It will be very rough at first when I move.
I've moved to a number of different countries on my own for work, and it is tough at first, definitely (especially when I didn't speak the languages fluently at first!).
Do you have any hobbies or sports you play? That's often a pretty good way to make the transition a lot smoother. I go to shitloads of gigs and clubs, so I find meeting people that way can be pretty good (depends on the gigs and clubs though). And - massive bonus here! - being super-active helps getting over heartache and headfuck situations, too.
Oh Five, the ONLY thing that kept me from outright MURDERING that boy for what he did was my realization that he just clearly was not in his right mind anymore. That was NOT the fun lovable Brandon I had known for ten years. He was pushing away EVERYONE in his life and clinging to bad dangerous people. I have no idea what happened to set him off, but it was very clear that he was on a path to total self-destruction. All the praying in the world didn't make him any better. My most recent Cap was disgusted with his behavior towards me as well, saying that "Only a primal caveman douche would treat a girl like that just because he didn't want anything further than sex." However, I can't help but feel that this Cap is being a little like the former douchebag Cap by suddenly cutting me out of his life & ignoring me after ONE bad fight. :-/
Did anyone notice, although dif IPs, both only posting 'here'... do we have, once again, someone defending their own position as another user— Or a friend there of....
Posted by lildol
Did anyone notice, although dif IPs, both only posting 'here'... do we have, once again, someone defending their own position as another user— Or a friend there of....
Uhh, if you're trying to accuse me of posing as other people, think again. I'm brand new to this board after having read through it for the last two days and learning LOTS of interesting things from it. I finally signed up last night and posted my first thread.
Uhh, I never "threw BS" at my old Cap friend, CapGal. We never fought; he was kinda like a brother to me for ten years...or so I THOUGHT. Caps are quite calculating, and while he was going through his period of self-destruction he obviously set his sights on me as one of his many "targets". I never saw it coming because in all the years I knew him I never had a reason to distrust him. If I had known what was going on with him, I wouldn't have let him get near me!! But living 3 hours away from each other keeps you from knowing everything that's going on in someone's life. I knew he was going through a "rough time", but damn!!
Posted by lildol
Did anyone notice, although dif IPs, both only posting 'here'... do we have, once again, someone defending their own position as another user— Or a friend there of....
you're a such a Cappy 🙂
trying to get to see the bottom of this from your mountain on top lol
who cares who it is - the big pink elephant we are all trying to look at is still the same: girl showed her freak on, boy cooled off his amorous side, girl is freaking, boy is ignoring and found another by now, girl will find other interest eventually, girl will relax and we will all find another thread with another Scorp who if fuming over lack of reaction to their actions.
but I have to admit I love Scorps passion.
just my 2 cents
Posted by MermaidPrincessPosted by lildol
Did anyone notice, although dif IPs, both only posting 'here'... do we have, once again, someone defending their own position as another user— Or a friend there of....
Uhh, if you're trying to accuse me of posing as other people, think again. I'm brand new to this board after having read through it for the last two days and learning LOTS of interesting things from it. I finally signed up last night and posted my first thread.click to expand
And your "friend" JUST signed up tonight and posted their first thread "here"....
Sorry, but why would I bother posting as another person? I could care less if everyone on this board hates me, I don't need any friends here. And you think I'M crazy and delusional??
Posted by lildol
Did anyone notice, although dif IPs, both only posting 'here'... do we have, once again, someone defending their own position as another user— Or a friend there of....
Nope. If you mean me, you're very much mistaken. Aside from the syntax being completely different (which, admittedly, could be faked), I have posted in a few previous threads, but not much as most of my forum time is spent on muso boards (where there are a shitload of sock accounts too, so I get why you're wondering). I mostly check in and read a couple of times a week though, but will only post if I feel I have something to say.
Also, I'm not sure I'd say I was defending her; I'm trying to suggest ways of limiting damage as I've read through the thread and I think this situation could get even more unpleasant if things flare up again once she gets to Florida. That, and I think the situation where the other Cap treated her like shit was horrible.
Posted by CapGal
Nah, don't believe that for a minuite mermaid. I know I'm projecting here, but if he saw you as such a great friend, he would not have treated you so coldly. Nah. Not buying it. Caps are very patient but I guess he reached his limit and just decided to end it all. That's my take and I'm sticking to it! Lol
CapGal, my former friend was hurting EVERYONE in his life, not just me. He was being physically violent to his family members--male AND female--and he was treating all of his longtime friends like shit. Many of us had to cut ties with him because he was just being so awful! One of his old fraternity brothers even disinvited him from his wedding! It took me a long time to accept this, but I know I never did anything wrong to the first Cap; I am not to blame for that. He was an absolute mess and I was only one of his many causualties. It's sad but that shit happens to people.
Lawdy, lawdy, what are we to believe.... better question, what comes next??
(Bets anyone?)
(Bets anyone?)
Do any of you think I'm PROUD of the way I went off on my Cap? No, of course I'm not!! From the very beginning I dreaded the day when that might happen and I hoped I would be able to control myself when that day came. Unfortunately I failed. I don't know if Cap will ever be like my Pisces friend who has lived through MANY nasty fights with me yet always gets over it after awhile and meets me halfway. I guess my Pisces friend just understands my issues & where I'm coming from. Honestly, I NEVER expected my Pisces friend to ever forgive me after some of those fights we had. I truly believed we were DONE. But weird & funny things happen in life. Maybe one day Cap will venture back around and offer to make amends. Who knows? After all of the miracles I've seen happen, who's to say it will never happen?? We don't know...but I hope so.
Posted by MermaidPrincess
Do any of you think I'm PROUD of the way I went off on my Cap? No, of course I'm not!! From the very beginning I dreaded the day when that might happen and I hoped I would be able to control myself when that day came. Unfortunately I failed. I don't know if Cap will ever be like my Pisces friend who has lived through MANY nasty fights with me yet always gets over it after awhile and meets me halfway. I guess my Pisces friend just understands my issues & where I'm coming from. Honestly, I NEVER expected my Pisces friend to ever forgive me after some of those fights we had. I truly believed we were DONE. But weird & funny things happen in life. Maybe one day Cap will venture back around and offer to make amends. Who knows? After all of the miracles I've seen happen, who's to say it will never happen?? We don't know...but I hope so.
Wow that was a long read.
One thing I didn't see much emphasis, but this is very important considering your past. You really need to see a therapist so that you can work through the hurt and abandonment that has taken place in your life. I know it sucks and you didn't choose that life, but even so that doesn't mean it justifies you attacking someone with words. Be the better person and just let it go. I know you already fudged up, but I mean for future reference.
You can overcome this! But for now you need to work on you before you bring someone else into your life. Good luck
Everyone should have a *preferred* beach, I always say.
Posted by BigGirlPanties
Everyone should have a *preferred* beach, I always say.
That's exactly right. One with beautiful scenery and an awesome restaurant located on a huge neat-looking pier! I will always love that place!!
Mer does your school provide it's students with counseling?
Posted by happykitsune
Mer does your school provide it's students with counseling?
I'm not going to waste my time responding to anymore immature posts calling me crazy and other names. I have already openly admitted that I have issues, and yes I have sought help many times. But the damage has long been done and I don't think I'll ever be able to fully heal from it. I have been through crazy shit you don't even want to know about. Shit, I could write a tell-all book about it, but I'm sure my biological family would throw a fit about it and sue me. Pffffft!
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I don't understand your FB logic. You're a Scorp. You guys invented, "The opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference.". Cappies perfected it.
Is it possible the friend has set up the lessons as a self defense measure? If friend has your attention, Mr. Cap knows your whereabouts and they aren't going all "psycho hose beast" on him. Wayne's World reference, not personal attack, btw.
You don't get it at all. I took it upon myself to ask one of his friends if he would be willing to teach me to surf. He happily obliged. Whether Cap knows about it, I don't know. But he'll know about it when he sees us practicing in the water from his tower. I doubt he even cares.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Apologies. Just spit balling. Trying to wrap my head around it.
All I'm trying to say is that even though he is probably pissed off as Hell at me, I highly doubt he has concocted any convoluted conspiracies with his friends to "keep me occupied" or hurt me in any way like some people here have theorized. That's not the kind of person he is; that's not his character. They didn't even KNOW we weren't talking anymore until I mentioned it to them. So I guess he has kept much of this quiet to himself. If he's too lazy to click the Unfriend button on Facebook or the block option on his cell, then I'm quite sure he's too lazy to care that I'm learning to surf from one of his friends.
Actually, your comment made me think of something I'm really curious about...something that doesn't quite make sense. Maybe I'm just stupid, I don't know. Cap is VERY insecure...he doesn't have a lot of self- esteem. Not a macho stud at all. So wouldn't it be logical to assume that he would be extremely hurt by the insults I said to him? That's the reason why I blew up at him, because I knew my words would cut him to the bone. So wouldn't you think that he would either be VERY furious or VERY hurt instead of just "Eh I don't care" indifferent?? That just doesn't make much sense to me. I'm tempted to believe that behind this quiet, calm exterior is a man who either hates my guts or is in a lot of pain or both. I don't think it's possible to care about someone, have them verbally kick you in the balls and sink your self- esteem even lower, and just be like "Eh whatever, I'm not bothered by this and I don't even think about it ever." No matter what our signs are, EVERYONE feels pain & anger. Do you get what I mean?
Yes I understand cheeky faerie. And Elusive, I think I read your post about what your Cap man pulled on you and I am so sorry. What the Hell is wrong with these men, have they no couth or respect for others at all?!?!
Ok..I've read all 9 pages on this post and I'm thinking there are so many variables other than astrology involved here..not that I don't believe in astrology to an extent. MP you said (and it is obvious) that you have abandonment and abuse issues..ok..pay attention..THIS IS HUGE. You have also stated that you are frequently blocked/deleted once a relationship ends, Is that normal? why do you think that happens? Answer those questions to yourself. I personally don't know because I don't have experience with blocking or being blocked..you have obviously invested emotionally in this guy and that's why it hurts so bad..my close friend is a fierce Scorpio and I understand..but you also need to know that you are perpetuating this confused angry state by refusing to let go of this man with whom you've had a brief relationship, he hurt you, you hurt him, and people will keep hurting and loving each other so long as we exist. There are many other people with whom you would be compatible and who would treat you fairly. You need to free yourself so you can be happy..I suggest you take a peek at "he's just not that into you", I think it will help.. every individual is different and needs acceptance on an individual level, this is how he is choosing to deal with you, I know it hurts but that is what he is capable of...Think of it this way, he is not capable of dealing with you at your level. He's giving what he can. It's doesn't mean he's better or worse, it just means that's him...
Just sayin'
Saggitarius/Ophiuchus? 😉
Just sayin'
Saggitarius/Ophiuchus? 😉
MermaidPrincess no disrespect but you sound as if you suffer from borderline personality disorder. What the hell are you doing attempting to date? Why not focus on getting better, focus on getting emotionally healthy. You are attempting to stay close the Cap by implanting yourself into his world by proxy through a friend. You know that's crazy behavior right?
The Cap isn't going to respond because he doesn't want to provoke you nor encourage you. You sound sweet and normal but there is something scary lying beneath your normal persona.
The Cap isn't going to respond because he doesn't want to provoke you nor encourage you. You sound sweet and normal but there is something scary lying beneath your normal persona.
Posted by ElusiveSoul
At the OP.... I know things suck for you right now and trying to understand certain actions from others can be quite challenging at times. Yes indeed, after 2 1/2 weeks of not hearing from my cap I was quite hurt, not because he chose to exit the friendship ( which btw was his absolute prerogative) but because I was not dignified with some sense of closure thus feeling quite disrespected. I know for myself personally, I could not and would never do that to anyone, most certainly not to those whom I claim to have cared for, however, the way I see it, again it's his prerogative and actions speak louder then words. His action told me that he never placed any value on our "friendship" and as much as it may suck,one can only try to keep their head up high and rise above! It's hard for water signs to contain their emotions and look at situations from a more logical, detached stand point of view, but it can be done ! I crumbled many times in my past, but one thing I've learned is; "and this shall pass too" !! You learn from it and rise from the ashes stronger then before,...but by no means bitter ! Bitterness will only set you up for further failure,...it's blinding !!
Just my opinion,.. but what do I know 😉
Amen!!
No joke, it's the truth, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Love isn't pain, if someone is causing you pain he doesn't deserve you.
Hi ElusiveSoul! I pop in from time to time, hope your doing well 😄
You know, I'm sure the regional culture I live in isn't helping matters any either. I live in small-town rural Midwest and here is what I've been taught growing up here. Jealousy & possessiveness are HUGE here, with women AND men. Where I come from, the women sink their claws into any man they can snag for themselves and hold on for dear life!! They cannot bear to be single & alone for a minute, and they live in their men's back pockets and up in their asses. They are jealous, clingy, and possessive, and they believe being in a relationship is EVERYTHING in life. I actually get made fun of and called nasty names by other women just for being single!! Now I'm not using this as a justification for my own behavior, but I DO believe that growing up with this mindset as my only guide in life is NOT helping me. By contrast, I have observed the culture of south FL and the way couples interact with each other down there. The difference is mind-boggling. I cannot believe how relaxed and laid-back everyone is!!! Sure fidelity and trust are still important, but I can clearly see that the men & women aren't up each others' asses all the time. No wonder Cap is so relaxed!! I NEED this change of environment and surrounding attitudes, I think it will help me A LOT. I need to learn how to relax, and that's hard to do when I'm surrounded by people who think single people are "losers & spinsters" and that the only reason for living is to be attached at someone's hip 24/7.
Posted by MermaidPrincessPosted by happykitsune
Mer does your school provide it's students with counseling?
I'm not going to waste my time responding to anymore immature posts calling me crazy and other names. I have already openly admitted that I have issues, and yes I have sought help many times. But the damage has long been done and I don't think I'll ever be able to fully heal from it. I have been through crazy shit you don't even want to know about. Shit, I could write a tell-all book about it, but I'm sure my biological family would throw a fit about it and sue me. Pffffft!click to expand
I think you're a drama queen who loves the "woe is me" part very much. There is a lot of people around who went through some very traumatic things here, so stop flattering yourself and blame your atrocious behavior on whatever past you may have. Grow up. Own up to your crazy behavior. Take responsibility for your whacky choices. These are all choices. Every day you made a choice to act like an uncontrollable spoiled brat who throws a fit because some guy, or guys (as you seem to pick a bone with everyone who does not act the way you want, regardless of what it is), did not put up with your shit they way you seem to be want to gratified.
Grow up and stop pointing fingers at everyone - point it at yourself first and you will learn some things from it, maybe even become self aware of your own self destructive notions, and realize that all this shit is on you. Only on you. He, being a Cap, and probably quite observant, as his job will entitle him to do all day - observe people, has seen through you, you may have had some connection, but you surely did everything to sabotage any chances with probably a decent guy.
It's all on you. No one else.
Posted by MermaidPrincessPosted by cheekyfaerie
I don't understand your FB logic. You're a Scorp. You guys invented, "The opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference.". Cappies perfected it.
Is it possible the friend has set up the lessons as a self defense measure? If friend has your attention, Mr. Cap knows your whereabouts and they aren't going all "psycho hose beast" on him. Wayne's World reference, not personal attack, btw.
You don't get it at all. I took it upon myself to ask one of his friends if he would be willing to teach me to surf. He happily obliged. Whether Cap knows about it, I don't know. But he'll know about it when he sees us practicing in the water from his tower. I doubt he even cares.click to expand
I think you did this on purpose to continue to stir the pot.
such a desperate turn off. he will see right through it and will be even more turned off because of one of his friends being involved in this. meh, again stupid move on your part. I would have just frequent the beach to be far enough for space you both need and if he would want to make a move he would know where you are.
you play stupid games with this, but he will see right through it. you just prolong his absence and make him see that he made the right choice to remove himself.
Yes Elusive, I know this. That is why I go to FL so much. It's the only place I ever truly feel at peace....where I feel free to be myself. Nobody down there gives a shit what my relationship status is or what is/isn't going on inside my uterus. When I walk near the ocean, I know I'm HOME. It's as if this huge weight is suddenly lifted from my shoulders!! You know, I've read that Caps usually take their time before falling for someone. Well not this Cap...he fell for me FAST. And I think I know why: He met me when I was at my happiness and at that time he saw only the good & peace within me...which is really something to behold when you can catch a glimpse of it. It's no wonder he immediately fell hard for me and called me a "sweet angel". LOL! I'm just sorry he had to see my normal bad side and how much of a basket case I can be when I'm here at home. I didn't want him to. 😢
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