I'm about to go crazy from this Cap man!! (Page 3)

Posted by saroph
Ok..I've read all 9 pages on this post and I'm thinking there are so many variables other than astrology involved here..not that I don't believe in astrology to an extent. MP you said (and it is obvious) that you have abandonment and abuse issues..ok..pay attention..THIS IS HUGE. You have also stated that you are frequently blocked/deleted once a relationship ends, Is that normal? why do you think that happens? Answer those questions to yourself. I personally don't know because I don't have experience with blocking or being blocked..you have obviously invested emotionally in this guy and that's why it hurts so bad..my close friend is a fierce Scorpio and I understand..but you also need to know that you are perpetuating this confused angry state by refusing to let go of this man with whom you've had a brief relationship, he hurt you, you hurt him, and people will keep hurting and loving each other so long as we exist. There are many other people with whom you would be compatible and who would treat you fairly. You need to free yourself so you can be happy..I suggest you take a peek at "he's just not that into you", I think it will help.. every individual is different and needs acceptance on an individual level, this is how he is choosing to deal with you, I know it hurts but that is what he is capable of...Think of it this way, he is not capable of dealing with you at your level. He's giving what he can. It's doesn't mean he's better or worse, it just means that's him...

Just sayin'

Saggitarius/Ophiuchus? 😉

this.

And Roaming, you can stop rambling now because NO ONE IS LISTENING TO YOU, least of all me. Trust me, Cap COULDN'T CARE LESS if someone he knows teaches me how to surf. HE DIESNT GIVE A SHIT. Got it??

Posted by MermaidPrincess
You know, I'm sure the regional culture I live in isn't helping matters any either. I live in small-town rural Midwest and here is what I've been taught growing up here. Jealousy & possessiveness are HUGE here, with women AND men. Where I come from, the women sink their claws into any man they can snag for themselves and hold on for dear life!! They cannot bear to be single & alone for a minute, and they live in their men's back pockets and up in their asses. They are jealous, clingy, and possessive, and they believe being in a relationship is EVERYTHING in life. I actually get made fun of and called nasty names by other women just for being single!! Now I'm not using this as a justification for my own behavior, but I DO believe that growing up with this mindset as my only guide in life is NOT helping me. By contrast, I have observed the culture of south FL and the way couples interact with each other down there. The difference is mind-boggling. I cannot believe how relaxed and laid-back everyone is!!! Sure fidelity and trust are still important, but I can clearly see that the men & women aren't up each others' asses all the time. No wonder Cap is so relaxed!! I NEED this change of environment and surrounding attitudes, I think it will help me A LOT. I need to learn how to relax, and that's hard to do when I'm surrounded by people who think single people are "losers & spinsters" and that the only reason for living is to be attached at someone's hip 24/7.

girl... relax. let him go. give time. you're hurting. you are searching for some magic that he is not giving you. it's not even him. it's probably not a good time for you to be with anyone. do things for yourself, about yourself, make things right and balanced in your life. center yourself and forget about searching for something that is not fixing anything in your life. fix things for yourself first and than a good guy will come along.
trust me.
it's always like this.
you are not ready for him. but he is a glimps of someone who can be balanced and good and patient with you.
but not yet. not yet.

trust me.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
Actually, your comment made me think of something I'm really curious about...something that doesn't quite make sense. Maybe I'm just stupid, I don't know. Cap is VERY insecure...he doesn't have a lot of self- esteem. Not a macho stud at all. So wouldn't it be logical to assume that he would be extremely hurt by the insults I said to him? That's the reason why I blew up at him, because I knew my words would cut him to the bone. So wouldn't you think that he would either be VERY furious or VERY hurt instead of just "Eh I don't care" indifferent?? That just doesn't make much sense to me. I'm tempted to believe that behind this quiet, calm exterior is a man who either hates my guts or is in a lot of pain or both. I don't think it's possible to care about someone, have them verbally kick you in the balls and sink your self- esteem even lower, and just be like "Eh whatever, I'm not bothered by this and I don't even think about it ever." No matter what our signs are, EVERYONE feels pain & anger. Do you get what I mean?

You are a bit confused here. He has self-esteem. Probably a ton of it, but what he may lack is self-confidence. There's a difference, so you insulting him about whatever can roll off of his back with ease because. 1). You don't really know him. 2)You ONLY scratched the surface. 3)With the amount of time given, you are easily replaceable.

It takes a long while to develop real feelings and a lot of work for someone to penetrate below the surface. You don't have anything on your side to why he would care what you said because 6months is not a lot of time invested. He can still care about you as a person by what you told him about your past, but thinking you can hurt his feelings, especially because you think he has low self esteem, is just all wrong. You are misguided there, so the insults were most likely just a waste of time.

ok..did you read your own reply? Read it again, do you want to be "the spinster" who couldn't get over the guy who "doesn't give a butter" about her? We are all perfect creations, and we are exactly the way we're supposed to be, and we deserve to be loved exactly the way we are, and you're no different. I'm sure you cared for him but believe me you can care as much and more for someone else that would suit you better. Not everyone has to be hopelessly in love with you. In fact..even if he were..I bet you would find something else to have a major blowout about and leave him instead and I'm sure you would have liked that better, the fact is you want him to abuse you.. You need to look at patterns in your life.. I am honestly not trying to attack you, I am trying to help you believe it or not...

The reply I meant to quote is this:

"And Roaming, you can stop rambling now because NO ONE IS LISTENING TO YOU, least of all me. Trust me, Cap COULDN'T CARE LESS if someone he knows teaches me how to surf. HE DIESNT GIVE A butter. Got it??"

Posted by ElusiveSoul
As water sign fellow, I know how peaceful it is to live close to the large pool of water.. it always feels like coming home. Enjoy it every minute of it !!

Oh God yes, it IS like coming home!!!! I've had an obsession with the ocean ever since I was VERY young...and I never even saw it in person until I was an adult!! Neither my family nor I have ever understood what this is all about or where the heck it came from. How on earth does an 18-month-old toddler have a fascination with something they've never even seen— Maybe I was a fish in a past life??

Posted by ElusiveSoul
He came into your life for a reason!

This is an extremely good point, and one I would take on board and run with.

The whole situation you're in right now could be a catalyst for a new and positive chapter in your life. If you're prepared to open up and give it another chance with a professional service who are equipped and able to help you work through your past issues (and I mean even deep-rooted childhood stuff that previous help hasn't touched), then this whole situation has created something extremely positive. I'm not accusing you of being "mad" or whatever by suggesting that, BTW. It took a very bad situation many years ago to lead me into a place that changed my life for the better when I didn't think it possibly could, and I'm actually really grateful that something finally prompted that, or else I'd not be where I am now.

Elusive I was already seeking treatment when I met Cap. And you can see how well that has worked. Getting the Hell out of this dead-end Hillbilly Hellhole is the first step that must be taken. Living here with these stupid idiots and bad memories is only perpetuating my problems. Once I'm outta here, then the real work can begin.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
Elusive I was already seeking treatment when I met Cap. And you can see how well that has worked. Getting the Hell out of this dead-end Hillbilly Hellhole is the first step that must be taken. Living here with these stupid idiots and bad memories is only perpetuating my problems. Once I'm outta here, then the real work can begin.

The only problem with that is that no matter where you go, you will take yourself with you. Challenge yourself and let go of this one guy..just this one guy and you will be amazed how strong it will make you feel. Better than any therapy 🙂

I'm gonna call Bubba the Love Sponge in Tampa and ask his army to be on the look out. Cap man needs protection. And I don't just mean on his penis.

Posted by saroph
The only problem with that is that no matter where you go, you will take yourself with you. Challenge yourself and let go of this one guy..just this one guy and you will be amazed how strong it will make you feel. Better than any therapy 🙂

It's not just about letting go of this guy though. It's about much deeper things and this guy is simply being a focus for a lot of emotion. If she let's go, she needs to "replace" the distraction he's currently being with something solid, and therapy can honestly help her do that safely and without building other negative coping mechanisms. Without the therapy, the patterns will repeat in some way or other, but always negatively.

I agree..however what she will learn in therapy is going to help only if it's "behavior" oriented..no amount of talking about bad childhood memories will fix this, actually it will be like opening a can of worms. What this type of problem needs is "behavioral therapy" and I'm suggesting one small step to change the pattern, one glimpse of how she can handle things differently..maybe she will gain insight and like you said F1050fold it will get her on a different path..

Posted by saroph
I agree..however what she will learn in therapy is going to help only if it's "behavior" oriented..no amount of talking about bad childhood memories will fix this, actually it will be like opening a can of worms. What this type of problem needs is "behavioral therapy" and I'm suggesting one small step to change the pattern, one glimpse of how she can handle things differently..maybe she will gain insight and like you said F1050fold it will get her on a different path..

Yeah, that's the therapy I mean. DBT or CBT. They don't discuss past problems directly once they have your history; they change the subject when you try to discuss it, as they're concerned with how you respond to current stimuli now and how they can improve that.

I've never had CBT, but DBT was incredible. A slow-burner, but incredible. 🙂

And I stand by my thing about engaging hobbies/sports (involving other people ideally). It helps remove the focus from a human being and channel it into something that's hopefully constructive.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I'm gonna call Bubba the Love Sponge in Tampa and ask his army to be on the look out. Cap man needs protection. And I don't just mean on his penis.

BGP, seriously...just fuck off already. You're acting like a child and contributing nothing of value or insight to this discussion.

As to the others, I have found that being near the ocean helps me be myself and enjoy myself. I love ANYTHING to do with the sea...sailing, snorkeling, surfing, sea shells, etc. I am truly in my own element when I am down there. Everyone close to me has agreed that getting out of this hellhole where I don't belong or fit in and moving myself somewhere else where I can relax and let my guard down is the best thing I could do for myself. I mentioned before that when I first met Cap, I wasn't clinging onto him. And that's because I was more than content to do my own thing and enjoy myself down there than spend every waking moment with him. It was when I returned home that I went back to being angry & stressed out. I HATE living where I do...I stick out like a sore thumb, I don't share the values & attitudes of the people in my area, I don't share the same interests as they do, and many of them are glad to continually let me know that I'm "different" than them and that I'm not welcome there. So good riddance to them!! I'll be more than happy to move where I can do what I enjoy, blend in better with the surrounding people, and be surrounded by others who don't give a rat's ass about what I do in with my life. I. Can't. Wait.

Your life and what you bring to it will not change until you do... regardless of where you're at!

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
I'm gonna call Bubba the Love Sponge in Tampa and ask his army to be on the look out. Cap man needs protection. And I don't just mean on his penis.

BGP, seriously...just fuck off already.

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Oh yeah, Cybil....make me "fuck off" you twisted fruit loop.

Did you go to the Betty Broderick school of bedtime butchery? Good thing cap man done left your sorry self, he saved his life. Whack-a-doodle.

Discussion...this is a discussion? It's more like the monologue of a mass-murderer planning her bizarre beach bongo brutality. She digs the water so much, I think she's gonna drown him upside down, then plant a beach umbrella in his backside. ::shivers::

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Discussion...this is a discussion? It's more like the monologue of a mass-murderer planning her bizarre beach bongo brutality. She digs the water so much, I think she's gonna drown him upside down, then plant a beach umbrella in his backside. ::shivers::

BGP, seriously you sound PATHETIC. You keep repeating over and over how insane I am...project much?? It takes a crazy person to recognize one, ya know. I sincerely hope no one ever confides to you or comes to you for help, because you're quite the hateful judgmental bitch. You don't even know me! Go get laid or take a big crap. Trust me, you'll feel better.

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
I'm gonna call Bubba the Love Sponge in Tampa and ask his army to be on the look out. Cap man needs protection. And I don't just mean on his penis.

BGP, seriously...just fuck off already.

Oh yeah, Cybil....make me "fuck off" you twisted fruit loop.

Did you go to the Betty Broderick school of bedtime butchery? Good thing cap man done left your sorry self, he saved his life. Whack-a-doodle.

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Seriously, you're sticking up for him WAY too much...and you don't even know him. What, do you want to go find him and fuck his brains out or something? I doubt he would even give you a second look. LOL

Is the vein in your forehead bulging yet?

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Is the vein in your forehead bulging yet?

LOL If you think your middle school banter is getting to me, you're pitifully mistaken. I deal with lowlife hillbillies who make death threats to me and steal photos of my family to make fake child pornography web pages about my relatives. What you say to me is nothing. Lol

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Is the vein in your forehead bulging yet?

ROFLAMO!!!! this is hilarious 😄

you know, I came by here this late hoping this thread died down, but it's still going in it's misery... thanks for a weird laugh, but I rather feel sorry for OP and everyone who got involved here - it was a waste of time for all. OP is too miserable for her own company so she seeks others, any others to get any rise out. She will say and throw anything while twisting and flip flopping like a stinking fish.


and all to get ehe "woe is me" and "poor poor me"


meh.

own up to your psycho actions.

Annnnnnd roaming free can also go on Ignore along with BGP's worthless ass. Have a nice life!! 🙂

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Posted by happykitsune
Mer does your school provide it's students with counseling?

I'm not going to waste my time responding to anymore immature posts calling me crazy and other names. I have already openly admitted that I have issues, and yes I have sought help many times. But the damage has long been done and I don't think I'll ever be able to fully heal from it. I have been through crazy shit you don't even want to know about. Shit, I could write a tell-all book about it, but I'm sure my biological family would throw a fit about it and sue me. Pffffft!

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I never called you crazy. I'm generally concerned for your well being. You have admitted you have abandonment issues and the only cure is to see a therapist. It will help you immensely. You're not ready for a relationship. Not saying you're getting into one, but I doubt you wanna remain alone forever.

Please point out to me where I called you crazy. My post was only meant to help you, and yes you can be helped. It will take a lot of time. You can't just have a quick fix. It'll do you some good tho

@Don't just delete the Cap...DELETE YOUR ENTIRE FACEBOOK. And that's just for starters.

++1

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
Discussion...this is a discussion? It's more like the monologue of a mass-murderer planning her bizarre beach bongo brutality. She digs the water so much, I think she's gonna drown him upside down, then plant a beach umbrella in his backside. ::shivers::

BGP, seriously you sound PATHETIC. You keep repeating over and over how insane I am...project much?? It takes a crazy person to recognize one, ya know. I sincerely hope no one ever confides to you or comes to you for help, because you're quite the hateful judgmental bitch. You don't even know me! Go get laid or take a big crap. Trust me, you'll feel better.

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She's treating you how you deserve to be treated because you demand zero respect from anyone with the way you're acting. BGP has been a big help to everyone on the boards. It's you who needs to take a chill pill and realize that just because you can see the problems you're going through doesn't mean a thing. You need to plow through your demons and stop blaming others. Don't JUST take a good look at yourself. Do something about it!

^^^Hiding my post, entering Federal witness protection program.

PS...thanks Kits 😉

Happy, there is no reason for BGP to attack me that way. She can offer critisim if she likes, but I refuse to sit here and listen to her insult me and call me one nasty name after another. How is that helping the situation at all? It's not. All she and roaming are doing is making me feel WORSE about myself, and I don't need that right now.

Posted by MermaidPrincess
Happy, there is no reason for BGP to attack me that way. She can offer critisim if she likes, but I refuse to sit here and listen to her insult me and call me one nasty name after another. How is that helping the situation at all? It's not. All she and roaming are doing is making me feel WORSE about myself, and I don't need that right now.

You are correct. I apologize.

eek - my post cut off.
it's supposed to be:


real talk - to aliennation's last post,

soooo:

REAL TALK.

erase, release and start over.

Most of us are probably on ignore by her now anyway LOL

Posted by ElusiveSoul
I believe this was one of the longest posts, with the greatest amount of people contributing to it,.....WOOOOW !!!

Lol not a chance. Gemfiregirl had the most by far. Either that or that one chick who was wanting to seduce a married man with children

Maybe Mermaid IS Gemfirlgurl...


::shudders::

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Maybe Mermaid IS Gemfirlgurl...


::shudders::

Nah, Gemfire and I were cool. She wouldn't have ignored or gotten defensive with me. That and we would have seen the screen name disappear by now

Actually, I wouldn't apply the "disappearing break-up" method to only Caps...I read in an article recently that more and more men of ALL signs and ages are starting to perfect this irritating tactic. I think it's the culture and times we're living in...people are seeking instant gratification more and more and manners and courtesy towards other people are going out the window. Don't expect people's behavior in general to improve anytime soon. This is actually why I have recently begun to rethink if I ever want to get married. I truly believe our society has become way too messed up for a marriage to work anymore, and my father agrees even though he is married. Look at the divorce rate, hello?? People have just lost patience and the will to work at something, so they'd rather just throw in the towel--or in our cases quietly disappear without a trace--when things get a little tough. Just my 2 cents.

I think I'm ignored, I think I'm ignored.... whoooo hoooo 😄 LOL

That selfish bitch needs to grow up and get a life. She's got probs!!!!! If there is anyone who don't see it, read again! She went from her original post to def "woe is me" not to mention she declared herself to have a mental prob!

Just sayin'...

sure.

I'm not ignoring anyone, I just got tired of posting.

And I'm a bitch, lildol? Wow, there certainly is a lot of immaturity and nasty name calling on this board...which I have seen other people comment on in other threads as well. You don't even know who I am, so why such hostility?? Take a chill pill for Christ's sake...fuck!!

And tnxbutnotnx, I appreciate your post and I get what you are saying it makes a lot of sense. I would have to agree with you that he is definitely not handling this in the best way knowing what he knows about me. So I just have to slowly become the stronger one and mirror his actions.

Posted by lildol
That selfish bitch needs to grow up and get a life. She's got probs!!!!! If there is anyone who don't see it, read again! She went from her original post to def "woe is me" not to mention she declared herself to have a mental prob!

Just sayin'...

So I guess if I get tired of posting and don't respond to every single post, then I'm a selfish bitch who deserves to be insulted and made fun of?? Oooooookay.... I would say that the fact that I have stopped posting much indicates that I HAVE a life outside of this board. Trust me, I have read everyone's posts and I will take time to think about and process everyone's input. So CHILL OUT.

I was just checking LOL

"mirror his emotions"—! WTF?? HE AIN'T GIVIN' YOU SHIT, NEVER MIND ANY EMOTIONS, LOL. GAWD LADY - GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD - he's DOOOOOOONE with you. You're finished. You will never have a chance with him,.
Get over yourself, and GET A LIFE like everyone is telling you in nice and not so nice way.
Are you really this pig headed that you can't see past your own nose?
btw - I've seen you plenty do name calling on this thread, you flip flop like a slippery fish and you try to find any consolation in anyone who will even remotely suggest any form of getting out of this funk you are in, but all you really want is a pity party. Stop worrying about this guy or even next. You will not find a good man that will suit who you are for as long as you are volatile and out of balance. No one will or should put up with your abuse, your moodiness and your whining - why the fuck should they? If a person walks into your life and their mere presence does not make you forget about the world and be better than you are, but only brings out drama in you, than that is not the right person for you.
And to end it - if a man doesn't want you, than you don't need him. This is why women end up in crappy relationships, the put themselves with any guy who is there, but they forget that if a man wants a woman he will make it happen. Regardless of money, distance, work, circumstances. There is no power in the world to stop a man from getting to the woman he wants. He will find a way to talk to her, call her or anything. I have seen this many times, ie. my very best friend is a nurse in a 5Ml pop city, she went to some Firefighter function with her other friends who were nurses. There was this guy, who was hitting on everyone, and my friend was the only one who didn't pay any attention to him. He was like: "wtf? what's the matter with this broad? everyone else bites" So, he walked over, asked for her number, chatted her up and she still never gave him, aside for her first name - which is very, very common. She told him: "I'm not giving you my number, you will have to get it yourself from the burn unit" - in a very funny way, not bitchy. She didn't even give him which hospital she worked at and we have 13 major hospitals. After that her and her friends left the function. Well, guess what? He found her after about 2 weeks. The moral to this story is:
If a man wants a woman he will make it happen.
Again: regardless where she is, where she's from, what's going in her life.

He is done with you. He does not want to have contact with you. You are just another notch on his friends list. You make something like not deleting you a big deal. It isn't. I know plenty of people who break up after real relationships and don't do that.

Concentrate on yourself. If a man does not want you, he is not worth your second thought. Get some self respect and forget about him. and stop whining after some dickhead who merely passed through your life while you were on holidays.

Treat it like a summer crush. You are nothing more to him obviously.


fvk i'm done with this thread.

Wow, that is the craziest shit I have read on here...Some Scorpio women can come off as really being mental...lol

Lol@M...

I totally 100% percent understand your reaction MP.


This guy is a AV I bet. And their favorite thing to do is get people to freak out so they can call you crazy. They call it "crazy making" they get their needs met that way.


If they can get you to behave out of control or a overreaction than it makes them look better and they can cover their tracks of being a complete unfeeling prick cause all the attention falls on you.


They start off with the nice guy act so you think thats who they are so whenever they feel like starting drama ( they do this in the most sutle way ) it doesn't look like they caused it because how could " nice guy " start drama? It's gotta be YOUR FAULT. Ppl like this never take responsibility for anything and kiss a lot of ass to be able to get away with it.



You sound like a beautiful, strong, honest, passionate women to me. You deserve better than this fucked up piece of shit who should fall to the waste side.


I say take it as far as you want. Stalk him, harass him, set his house on fire, whatever makes you feel better. He isn't a human being anyway. ( jk but seriously)


But what might make you feel best is to just forget about it. I totally understand if you don't though.


The truth is people only SEE surface and appearances and do not understand that doesn't say shit about someone. They SEE it but don't LOOK at IT does that make sense?



Best of luck to you dear

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Posted by Sag89
I totally 100% percent understand your reaction MP.


This guy is a AV I bet. And their favorite thing to do is get people to freak out so they can call you crazy. They call it "crazy making" they get their needs met that way.

Sounds like some virgo males...

I bet AVs naturally attract BPs

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All the time and vice versa

it's actually avpd I just did it for short. It's avoident personality disorder